June 2006: Part the second

[alibobble]

Hey guys. Hope you find this thread. Blobsmummy suggested starting a new thread to save trawling the first which was rather monster. Sorry re title. Had no idea what to cll it! DD had 3rd injections yesterday. Were much better than last lot. Nurse seemed to know what she was doing much better than last tiem. What a relief.

vbab78: dd has days when her routine goes out the window. sometimes just has shorter nap: I find there's usually an underlying cause. last time it was teeth (and this did only affect day time sleep for some reason) then a cold which appeared and did the same tho she woke in the night too with that one. I find that any disturbance affects day sleep more than night sleep as dd sleeps so well in the evening. It just drives you mad tho doesn't it? All that screaming and the fact you don't get a moment's peace? ARG!

Anyone else having difficulty with breakfast? dd wakes up and has started pretty much refusing breakfast. I don't understand. she used totake 6 oz milk and then cereals with the rest of 8oz bottle. Now, she doesn't seem to want her bottle at all (bearing in mind she's not eaten all night) and usually takes 4oz ish in a very lazy fashion but then after a few spoons of cereal clamps her mouth shut and won't have any more. She does eat loads for tea but has always been hungry in the evenings. even as a tiny baby. do I cut down further on milk and give the milk with the cereal? have tried weetabix, oatibix and readybreak in rotation (prefers oatibix) non of which disappear too rapidly. am confused because a few weeks ago she was wolfing more than you can imagine. that and lunch time she eats loads less now. I don't understand. this lunch I was just about to give up when she suddenly ate most of her lunch and polished off pudding (fruit).

Any ideas?

Routine, what routine?! I think the same thing happened with DS - you just think that you've got a handle on their needs and wants, and then they change their minds! DD, after months of me worrying about going back to work and her not taking a bottle then decided she would take a bottle. Up until the chicken pox, she was wolfing down 7oz bottles through the day in between meals. She had a couple of spots in her mouth, which I think made it sore for her to eat/drink and stopped taking bottles in the day - now she's better but she doesn't seem to want her daytime bottles. She's still up twice a night gulping down the lot though [grrrr]. Also, she's now getting picky about food, and seems to much prefer jars etc to home made, which is a pain. I've come to conclusion just go with the flow - my HV always says as long as they're getting offered the right stuff, they'll take what they need - no child this age in our society ever voluntarily starves to death!!! I keep reminding myself of that - especially since DS is exceedingly picky too (and he had home cooked meals from the start).

I agree with foxy about going back to work - the thought of it is much worse than the reality.Sorry for monster post...now that I'm back at work, I've got less time for posting. Finally, don't know if chicken pox is doing the rounds everywhere or just here, but if anyone else's LO gets it, go IMMEDIATELY and get some Medised - it's got an anti-histamine that's OK to give to under 1s. We had a really bad 2 nights until I got to a chemist.
Better go for now!

ALIBOBBLE my DS started refusing breakfast so I split the bottle and cereal into 2 meals bottle when he wakes and cereal at 930am
I also find that he can refuse to eat as much somedays I just let him have what he wants and then give him extra later on if he needs it

DS still wolfs his first 8oz bottle down every day. Used to give him cereal @ 1 hour later but he hardly took any so now give him his cereal (weetabix or readybrek) after his morning nap but even then he still only takes @ 4-5 spoonfuls. Think I need to start cutting back on his milk.

We have (fingers crossed) successfully cut out the lunchtime milk so his milk is 6.30am, 2.30pm and 7pm with food at @ 9am, 11.30am and 5pm.

Ds is also still waking at 5.30am... One of the Mum's at playgroup was saying her ds is like a teenager (he is 9 months) and HATES getting up in the morning! He sleeps 'til 9.45am and even then she has to wake him and he tries to hide under the covers!!

Anyone else get the Vtec baby walker for xmas with the song "hello puppy calling do you want to play with me, we'll have fun together while we learn our abc..."? its been going round my head for weeks - aargh!

btw is my dd the only one obsessively blowing raspberries ALL the time? she's learned to do it and now won't stop!

THANK YOU everyone for your support about DS and his daytime naps and going back to work.

On a good note today he was back to his usual good self regarding naps. Hopefully tomorrow will be the same.

foxymagoo - We bought DS the walker for x-mas. For the moment he just loves playing with the toy bit. The worst noise we have had is out of his baby walker which is a UFO with laser type noises and songs!

alibobble - My DS is blowing raspberries too. Isn't it funny.

Morning all

Haven't posted on this thread for a few days - have had horrible 'morning' (actually all day) sickness for weeks now. Doesn't seem that long ago I was feeling that way with DD. Found out DP and I are expecting baby #2 on the 2nd September.

DD is doing brilliantly. She's just turned 7 months and is a real handful! She's sleeping an average of ten hours throughout the night and has a really healthy appetite, even though she does love to blow raspberries the minute food is in her mouth! 3 teeth now but no crawling yet, just rolling over and over! Does anyone else's baby like to scream at the top of their voice at every opportunity or is it just mine?!

Good morning all. Trinity
Would echo the sentiment that the thought of going to work is actually worse than the reality. I've done 2 weeks now and DD is thriving on spending time with other people.

DD also raspberry blower!

DD eats a very small amount in the morning, always has done, so I wouldn't be too worried. She seems to get prograssively hungrier as the day goes on. This is our routine:

7:45am wake up
8:15am breakfast - 4oz bottle followed by about 3-4 tbsp of readybrek
9:30-10am nap
11:45am lunch - main dish, pureed fruit, yoghurt (the whole pot!), couple of grapes, bread and cheese, rice cake - yes, she is a little pig, but is still under 50th centile in weight!
12:30pm-2:30pm - nap
2:45pm 6oz bottle
5:15pm tea - main dish, fruit and 1 chocolate button if it's all eaten nicely!
6:00pm bath
6:30pm 8.5oz bottle
7pm bed

So we're 3 meals, and 3 bottle a day. Going to transfer morning milk into sippy cup next week as she's got the hang of it now when she has water with lunch.

She's started trying to walk along holding the sofa now.

trinity1 - Sorry to hear you have had bad sickness.

DS loves to shout too and when I turn round and say "what are you doing" he just laughs then shouts again. He must think its a game.

The other day he practically ran in his walker across our living room with both his arms out stretched shouting. It was cute and funny at the same time.

blobsmummy - Your DD's routine is the same as DS apart from the wake up time. My DS wakes up 6.30am onwards but we try to leave him until 7am in his cot. This morning though he woke at 6am and did not want to stay in the cot. Completely out of character.

DS has a cup of water when he has meals where he doesn't have milk. But to be honest I don't know how much he gets out of it and I think he just likes to chew the teat bit. He also likes to hold it with one hand! Maybe I should get him a mug.

Hi all. It's been a while so I have loads of news.
2littlemonkeys - the wedding was fantastic, in fact we just had our 1st anniversary on 07/01. We had a short break in Budapest in February 1/2 term, was teaching at the time.

DD is now having 2 meals a day. She's so good (apart from the odd raspberry where I end up pebbledashed in whatever we're eating at the time), opens her mouth every time so far and (touch wood) has never refused to eat.

We have our appointment with the s[pecialist about the heart murmur on Weds next week. Am not too worried, she's a v healthy baby...and everyone I've mentioned the murmur to has reassured me it's something that babies grow out of.

We've sold our house and are in the process of buying a major project of a house. It's quite old and in need of a lot of work. Probably not the best time to take it on, with DD abbout to start crawling but there's never a good time to be living with your parents (with a small child) while the builders are fixing your house OR to be living in a construction site with no kitchen / bathroom / water. Thats the choice.

Rachelpross - My DS had tests for a heart murmur. They are nothing to worry about. They came to the conclusion that he has a very minor heart murmur but not one to worry about, especially as he is very healthy, active and putting on weight. They said that a lot of people can have them without realising.

Hi all

It's good to hear you're getting on so well.
DD is now eating 3 times a day, but is a bit stroppy and doesn't like meat unless it is served to her in a giant chunk for her to gnaw on. This is fine, except that nursery can't cope with it. Not sure what I am going to do about meals when she goes full time. She'll have breakfast, lunch and tea (soup and bread or something) at nursey. Hopefully she won't be too tired when we get home to eat again if she hasn't eaten much at nursery. She often refuses everything except for fruit! It is hard to get her to eat enough protein (since I am not giving dairy yet) and I won't have time to cook for her each night. I just hope she adapts and starts to eat properly in the day...

She has this one-armed commando crawl which is hilarious. She crawls about holding a wooden spatula from the kitchen in front of her like a lance and singing "la la la". It's really cute and every day her father and I think how lucky we are to have such a sparky daughter. We're starting to think about the next one (I have names picked out already!!!), but I need to get back to work first!

I'm going back on 1st Feb and am very excited about the prospect of adult conversation and having time to read on the tube. I will miss DD an awful lot. She goes to nursery one day a week now and I find myself running to pick her up in the evening.

RachelPross - re the heart murmur. My brother (aged 28) still has one. He's had it his whole life and has been very sporty. It hasn't affected him in any way, so fingers crossed for your DD.

Waswondering - my DD behaves like she is teething sometimes too, but no teeth here either. Apparently they shift about in their gums for ages, and that can be quite uncomfortable, so maybe that's what it is.

I almost wish I had a job to go back to, it's not making things terribly easy on the money front since DD arrived. I was a supply teacher, but thats now totally impractical as they call at 8am and expect me to drop everything and go into school. Not possible with DD in tow. So I've signed on and am despreately searching for something part time and stable. The supply teahing was sometimes 5 days a week and then other weeks I'd have no work at all. I need a regular job now, but in the interim it's v depressing...don't like to admit that I'm unemployed so I'm still on matrenity leave when anyone asks. (How bad is it that?! )

On a very private note, feel embarrassed asking has anyone else suffered from a lack of sex drive since having baby or is it just me?

My feelings towards DH haven't changed, I feel a little conscious about my body but not bad, I want to sometimes but it just doesn't seem to happen. My DH is very understanding but I feel like a big part of us as a couple is missing and it?s my fault. I feel like we give our all to our beautiful son and with have nothing left for ourselves. We just take care of him.

Sorry for the rant.

not a rant at all vbab. Feel like a wet dishrag at the moment so not much nookie in our house neither! I was always a sat morning (or whenever morning) type person as I'm knackered at night. Now mornings are a franetic rush to get dd her breakfast etc. No lazy lie in and snuggle

vbab - nothing to feel embarrassed about at all. We were also the sat morning type of people, but of course all mornings are now the same with no lie-ins!

DH has been good, but more up for it than ever at the mo - don't know what he's been eating! - which can make it quite awkward. My epsiotomy only just starting not to hurt which has put contraints on things up til now. Tummy is obviously not how it used to be, so that sometimes makes me a feel a bit self-conscious.

I figure that there's more of us new mums who don't feel like it all the time, then there are those who act like bunnies! It's normal (I hope...)!

apparently I missed the talk on family planning last week at our HV run baby group. all the ladies were like... talk to the men! We aren't up for it at all! Am glad I'm not alone in this. deosn't help that DH has loads of home work for his new job so I see him before work for like 1/2hr and then for tea when he gets home then he's beavering away upstairs all evening till I go to bed then comes to bed later. Not really aiding things. I tried to make an effort the other day and splashed out in the la senza sale but have not felt a) like wearing them b) like he's making any effort either!

Meant ot say: rachelpross Ur not alone in not having a job to go back to. I was doing GTP when pg with dd but was too ill to finish (GCSE/ALevel bio). Am now not qualified for anything (apart from my degree) and am officially a SAHM. I feel jealous of the worries people have of going back to work cos I'd like to get out and about a bit but I made the decision to be SAHM before dd was born and I know it's the right decision for both of us but I do have moments of . I have got to keep reminding myself... I have a job and it's very important. Never mind the value society places on it. [rant]

In one of my (dozens!) of books I have, one of them was was about going back to work and the author reminded the reader that of course you already have a 24/7 365 days of the year on-call job and the most rewarding and difficult one you'll ever have...

re: sex drive - mine is practically zilch... There seems to be a lot of Sat morning long lie reminicing! - it used to be our time too as I'm deffy a morning sex person. Now DH treats me to a long lie (he gets up with ds and leaves me 'til after ds's first nap @ 9.30am)

We have booked night away in April for our anniversary so he may be on a promise that night!

hi everybody, on the back to work, i started back at work on monday i only do 2 days so not to bad but iam at university the rest of the week so i feel like i have 3 jobs lol! sorry i meant 4 i forgot about dh!!

dd2 is doing well sleeping 6.45-8.00ish, but is getting very fustrated that she gets on her tummy and just spins round or gos backwards and runs out of room, so she whinges untill you sit her back up and then does the same thing all over again!

RE SEX DRIVE; a bed is for sleeping in lol

It;s not just my dd that does that then. Oh good. Drives me bonkers. Am going to crack out the travel cot and start using it as a play pen before she gets truly mobile so she's used to being in it so I have somewhere safe to put her when she really gets moving.

Btw anyone else hating this awful weather? Everything in the house is rattling!

We're under 2 feet of snow - that's Scotland for you!