We've no time for JSing. We're battling green nappies, sleepless nights, x-box playing men and trying to hide our sling addictions. Fuck it, let's do a runner on a golf cart.

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A lovely thread for all the JS Grad Grads to chat feeding, sleep and post-birth STUFF.

Just Shagging 43

Just Shagging Grads 25

Roll call please ladies and perhaps add the number of slings and buggies you have acquired at the time of posting... wink

Don't worry Furry, mine isn't crawling, sitting or rolling. She is drooling a LOT though.

What's wrong with miniJuni? And MrJuni come to that?

zyla think you just do whatever works for you with regard to weaning. Our dietician did advise starting with vegetable purees but moving on quite quickly with texture - but plenty of people go down the purely BLW route. MiniWil loved her grub and it easily replaced milk as main source of nutrition well before 1. But I don't think Micro will be so keen. She doesn't seem bothered so far. I found purees easier because I freaked out at all the choking - but I assume not all babies choke on their food. A lot of people here stop bf at 6 months too - not really sure why? I plan to try for the year though. For the first month I just fed as normal and offered little bits of food and then I did proper mealtimes with a boob feed afterwards.

Advice at my bf group about bottles is thus:
Try early - definitely before 6 weeks.
Give regularly - every two to three days until established.
Try a couple of different bottles but don't waste all your cash - heard good things about Dr Browns, MAM and another I can't remember.
Hold baby in a different position to breastfeeding or in a bouncer etc.
Get someone else to give the bottle and leave the house if you need to as less chance of them taking it when you're there.
If they get upset stop and try again later.
Try to distract them with something at the same time as feeding.

Don't know if any of it will work - I've had no luck, although didn't try that hard.

Hello, mrJ just thinks I am the best person to soothe her so doesn't try at all. Drives me mad. She has a horrible cold and the sensation of snot running out of her nose makes her screeeeeam. Much happier today and to be fair he did have her this morning song could catch a bit more sleep.

It's weird on the bf front as its super bf friendly here and loads of people in our local fb support group bf for years. I think a lot of people want to stop to Ttc again mind.

This one won't do anything but sit and try to stand. If give anything for her to be happy just to sit and snuggle. She's trying desperately to crawl but is too lazy to go for something she wants so she opts for the nearer toy.

I did hide and seek with MiniWil's toys to get her to crawl. Glad she's a bit better Juni. Both my girls are snotty. Wondering if it's hayfever.

Thanks wil. I think I'll go out and get DH to try. We both tried the other day but think i was too close by in hindsight.We have 2 different brands of teats so may swap if no luck with the first type.

furry we just propped E up with pillows and then left pillows around him when he was toppling frequently! We have been given the 10 month questionnaire for E to be assessed and on that it asks if they can sit without support for a few minutes, E can do that no problem but its good that It isn't assumed that all babies can do that!

juni I found the time between introducing first foods and eating three meals a day the most difficult with E as I couldn't always fit it in, now we have a great routine! Eating can be hit or miss, usually he is a really good eater but since he gained teeth and a stubborn personality he can be reluctant to eat! Sweet potato was always a favourite when we first starting feeding we mixed it with loads of different things and he ate it so well!

E has a bad cough but fx is still sleeping through!

thanks cookie good to know their all expected to develop at different ages. I'm not worried yet, miniscoobs so bloody nosey there's no way she's gonna sit still when there's a cat/chair/brush/bin to explore.

Can't believe how fast times gone after seeing all the bump catch up photos, doesn't seem like 5 minutes since we were on the Jsing threads POAS & eating Jaffa cakes in a pity pool! What happened to zing & red? We've lost a few people along the way.

Hey all
Zyla - I'm still BFing at 7 months and I don't plan on stopping I don't think. Just going with the flow! It's easy & convenient these days, so makes sense to carry on until I go back to work.
I'm loathing weaning I have to say. It's so hard to know what to do! I'm awful at eating well myself and I hate being responsible for teaching my baby to like a massive range of nutritionally fabulous foods
We started out with solely BLW, but last week on hols I took some punches of purée I case there wasn't anything suitable for him, and he properly wolfed down half a pouch the first time I tried it, after onlyever swallowing a few morsels when feeding himself. So I had a big existential crisis that I was starving him, and have started giving him purées regularly now, which he properly loves! Though now I worry that he'll go backward at feeding him self so I'm trying to do both, and it's just all HARD.

Guys don't worry about the weaning, honestly. You really can't go too far wrong other than giving too much salt, which I once heard a horror story about. MiniWil was a dream to wean and now is fussy as hell so am sure it can work the other way too.

Zing still posts a lot on MN. Haven't heard about Red but hope all went well for her. I wonder about Mich/Snow too.

Haven't heard horror stories about salt wil but was planning on cooking without it anyway :)

Thanks a lot for all the answers by the way, you guys are ace!

There was a pretty high profile horror story when DS was born. A baby had been fed foods like mash and gravy and Weetabix when he was just a few weeks old. He died from the effects of the salt. He cried all the time (desperate for a drink) which was taken as a cue to give more food. Poor little mite I used to have to practically wrestle the salt cellar out of my stepdad's hands when we used to go for tea. He just couldn't comprehend that babies and young children can taste food without salt because they're not accustomed to salted foods!

We have thrush well B isn't showing any signs but has to be treated in case.... GP took one look at my nipple mange and said she didn't need to examine me further.

It was actually 2 years before DS came along but was still being used as a warning. here

Oh Pis that sounds nasty, hope it clears up soon.

Can I just take a second to complain about what hard work my toddler is. I love her to bits but just sometimes wish she was easier to handle. Am I a terrible person? I know it's not her fault bless her.

pis hope it clears up soon!

wil you're not a bad person at all, I think you're amazing having 2!! And I've heard they're full on when toddlers, you're allowed to be frustrated hugs

Baby went to sleep, I'll be sober when she next needs feeding unless she wakes up early, but that's what frozen milk is for! I had wiiiiiiiine!

Hahaha enjoy zyla! Thanks for reassurance.

Just tried to sleep without a bra on for the first time. Big mistake. When the hell does the leaking end?!

I've been going bra free for about a month now, but if he changes his feeding patten again I have to be ready to whip the pads ASAP! I've been getting really sore under-boob in this hot weather, I can't wait to get back to some lovely supportive under wires bras once he stops BFing!

Yay for wine!!!

Can I join the awake at stupid o clock club? I have a snotty baby who has decided to stay up allllllll night. Wwwwwhhhhhhaaaaaaa I want my bed, the bloody suns coming up.

Oh no Furry! Hope she (and you) are ok.

She just slept for 6 hours! Obviously I've been awake since 5.30, but still.

I think R had just done a 7 hour stretch! We're at inlaws so her normal bedtime didn't happen as responsible parents we naturally went to the pub so she may have gone down around 9:30 or so...
Why can't she do that at home?
Still up with the sun however.. Grrr
We've another cling free night as we are off to a shepherds hut for the night.
In laws said 'sundays are great, we don't get up til 10:30`... Oh how we laughed!

Great news on the sleeping babies wil and min! E has only gotten up twice since 10pm too, and she's back to sleep again now. So it must be something in the air
Annoyingly I've been up doing the invoicing and timetabling for the business since 4am though. Oh well, at least I've got loads done!

Sorry to hear about all the snotty babies though - hope they recover soon.

pis that salt story is horrifying. Poor little mite . Sorry about the thrush, hope it clears up for you both soon.

I'm having some issues over here at the moment. I'm still really struggling physically after the c-section (I can now pick E up, walk about, do nappy changes and feed, but can't quite cope on my own with her for more than a 6-hour stretch at a time). So we're having to draft in help from dm and mil. Dm is fantastic, but she lives 300 miles away so we have to plan visits and she stays for about a week at a time (she's done this twice now). The rest of the time mil is here. I love her and she can be really helpful, but I'm just totally fed up with her coming round every day for between 3 - 6 hours a day (sometimes longer). It's gotten to the point where every bloody thing she does annoys the crap out of me (even down to her fucking consistently putting the knives in the sodding spoon section of the cutlery drawer! ) She baby-talks to E constantly in a really annoying high-pitched LOUD voice, wakes E up when she's sleeping "because I want her to see me", all but force-feeds E when she's trying to sleep, argues with me about the way I want things done, pretends not to hear me when I tell her stuff (claims she's deaf )...Oh my God, the list goes on and on! But the thing is, we need her here because I can't cope on my own. I've tried to get dh to talk to her, and he does, but she changes for a day or so then reverts back to her old self. I've asked dh if we can draft in a nanny/doula but he doesn't want a stranger in the house. I've asked him to take some time out from the business to help me but he won't. I'm screwed aren't I?

sorry for the mil-bashing rant

You're not bashing, it's really frustrating. I have the nicest mother in law ever but it would wind me up if she was here all the time. Especially waking E up and feeding her when it's not necessary. Surely a benefit of bottle feeding is that you can kind of have a schedule. How many hours does your DH work? I kind of think it's not up to him about the stranger in the house because it's not impacting on him. If he doesn't want that then it's really up to him to come up with a better solution. He can't just say no to all your suggestions without making any himself. I suppose on a good note, at least it won't be forever. Would you be better able to cope if you weren't up doing accounts at 4.30am? Is there anyone else who could help with that?

thanks wil. Unfortunately, dh's suggestion for solving the issue is having mil here! Makes for frustrating conversations
Myself and dh used to work 6 days a week on the business, but obviously that's now drastically reduced. He works pretty much every day, but some days are 12 hours and others are just an hour.
Accounts at 4am really don't help. I will talk to dh about getting someone in to do them for us I think. We could do with some sort of admin assistant for a few hours a week.
You're right that it's not forever though - I'm holding on to that!