I really do appreciate all the sympathy and advice! Thank you all. Especially frazzled, peas of wisdom should be a thing! Especially with toddlers.
Well yesterday he didn't nap... Last night he went to sleep pretty much when his head hit the pillow at about 18:30 ish (early bed time needed!) he woke and came into our bed at about 2 and picked his nose fidgeted for about half an hour then he wanted DH to take him back to bed. He had he taken back a second time and then he slept.
He got up this morning at almost 7am. It was amazing! I would have slept better if I hadn't had too much nap myself and then watched Dr who just before bed
Hmmmmm lets see how today goes!