September 2014 - 6 months already?!

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new thread!

better day hydration wise - gave him extra fruit purees too and added some sugar free ribena to his water which got more down him. wet and dirty nappies normal today! he had some time in paddling pool and then after nap he wanted straight back in there and had loads of fun splashing around. nappy and t shirt or romper here.

Welcome back Cookie
I also wondered why there was no post from you

Holls and Apple I am really jealous ! I need a holiday and preferably a beach holiday ...

I have started being more strict about co sleeping in the past week and try to stay awake and put him back in his cot after a feed. Next thing would be to try to cyt the feeds, but I think I'll try that Sept 2015

ds is also very bubbly and charming these days...

Last week incident was v difficult for me though. It is not the incident on its own, also a few other things that made me feel terrible and really bad also for working... A friend of mine used to say you need 2 years off with a baby and at the time I didn't understand, but now I do... I feel guilty and I envy all sahm at the moment...

Byw Kikat I wAs going to say the same thing as Fate, i would not worry about not having lumps if she doesn't like it yet... It will pass... I would just keep trying slightly lumpier food every now and again but would give her puree if she prefers

Try not to feel bad about working Nazly. Everyone has to work out a solution that works for their own family, and I think it is very unfair for someone else to judge and comment on your decisions. For me, I'd be horrified at two years at home. I'm back at work soon (half time), and I'm really looking forward to it. The only opinions that matter are yours and your DP's.

Dare I ask how your LO is getting on at nursery now?

Welcome back Cookie. I can't imagine life without the internet, even for a short period of time!

Nazly I am dreading returning to work for the very reasons you state, the guilty feeling of not being at home with A, but as Team says, we need to do what is best for our families.

A has finally figured out how to roll, so he is now doing this to move around to reach what he wants. I feel it may be time to get baby proofing! He seems to have made a massive developmental jump over the last week or so, its amazing, but scary at the same time.

I've just put in my request to go part time at work, fingers crossed they accept! I'm not going back if they don't - full time nursery just doesn't make it cost effective to work. I've set a return date for beginning of Sep. hopefully he'll be sleeping better by then and not needing to feed to sleep for naps or else I'm screwed . And of course weaned from daytime bfing. I do enjoy my work but I'm dreading leaving him and would rather be at home but I feel like I should give it a go. We'll be more secure with 2 wages coming in.

Why is it that the babies automatically try and get everything that they can't have. A whole floor full of toys but he'd rather take glasses case, envelopes or whatever else he can grab from the coffee table. I hate changing nappies now, I must turn him back onto his back at least 10 times every change. And he's started this delightful habit of quickly flipping onto his front, onto his knees and backing up into my legs which is really not appreciated when I've literally just removed a dirty nappy and haven't wiped him

The Dr prescribed piriton for his cough which I am secretly hoping helps him sleep better

I am heading to bed in a min as I am shattered (snooze)

I managed to get compressed hours so will be doing 8-6 four days a week, E will be in nursery for 2 1/2 days which will cost us £587.50 a month which is crazy!

E can roll but doesn't for nappy changes whether that's because he is too lazy (most likely) or he knows I am a nursery nurse and don't accept that kind of shit, who knows

Move went well although still loads at my parents house lol

Hi again all!

Sorry I've been away for a couple of days - we had a major burst water main in town and was without water for nearly two days which kept us busy!

Sorry Nazly you are struggling with work. Is there any way you can cut hours back or work from home more? Are things still hard with nursery?

Also sorry to hear about the bad sleep Acorn. If it makes you feel any better Jessica is being a pain too. She keeps rolling onto her tummy at night and then wakes us up crying to be 'rescued'... oh and she still wants a feed or two a night (on top of her dreamfeed)... oh and she's started getting up for the day at 5/6am again. Mumsnet should definitely have a yawn emoticon!

In better news I lost 4lb this week!! I have now lost 9lb which is half of the 18lb I want to lose so feeling positive at the moment.

Oh and glad the move went well cookie! x

Great news on the weight loss kitkat!

cookie did it help him sleep?

I have a question which has come from a group I went to this morning. Another child came and took a toy from DS while I wasn't looking. I normally keep a close eye and I know the other child so usually just gently say 'no that's his, here have this' and offer another toy immediately to distract. As she actually got the toy out of his hand he obviously cried and my instinct was to try and get it back from her to return it to him, and mum did actually notice straight away and took it away from her and gave it back. But it felt mean that I was then trying to prise this toy out of her hand and give it back to my own child. What's the protocol here? Let her keep it and leave my son crying? Take it away and return it? I'm so confused as to what is polite and correct!

Lilly - I generally do the same and try and offer the other child a different toy if they are trying to take what DD is playing with, and generally other mums seem quite good at stopping their child taking toys from other babies, but if it does happen I just try and offer DD another toy rather than taking it from the other baby. The initial annoyance at losing the toy doesn't last long!

I just give him another toy if his gets taken, he's gets over it immediately anyway. Though if I see mine doing it then I give the toy back and give him another. I guess it depends on if the other parent is paying attention. I'd feel a bit prising the toy from someone else's child.

I generally give dd another toy if one she's playing with gets taken. I hadn't though it through until now but I guess it's not because I don't want to take the toy back from somebody else's baby, but because I'd like her to be ok with letting stuff that doesn't really matter go. Whether or not that's what she takes from it is another matter!

Thanks ladies. Of all the things I thought I would worry about parenting I didn't think toy snatching would be high on my list lol.

Thanks ladies, work is difficult and nursery is difficult, but work is super flexible with location/hours, it is just the volume of things I need to deliver.
My mum has been helping with childcare and ds loves her, A LOT! So much so that I think maybe I should be the one spending all that time with ds not my mum... It is not jealousy or anything like that, just feeling really rubbish that I am not getting the chance to spend as much time as possible with ds as his mum. I even thought of resignation, after getting a promotion...

And I am the same person who last year thought 6 weeks to 3 months maternity leave is enough !!!!! How very naive I was... I am the sort of person who regards having a career and financial independence very highly indeed, but I just learnt becoming a mum changes everything. I'll do anything for his happiness. Literally. Life is so confusing right now.

More straight forward questions ladies:

Anybody has a playpen? If so where did you get them from?

Any baby is in the big bath yet? What do I do to ensure he will not slip if I want to move him to the big bath?

And final most important one: anybody can recommend a good parenting book?

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You don't need a book Nazly, just trust your instincts.. They will be spot on and perfect.

We've used the main big bath from birth. But last month we changed from a reclining bath chair to the 6 months+ bath seat for babies who are sitting unaided. DD has taken to it well.

I've never used a play pen. We just create barriers to keep her in specific areas. In fact many of the barriers we use DD can climb over, but at least they slow her down to give me enough time to notice her 'escaping' and return her to where she should be. More often though now, we are just widening DDs scope for places she can go as she is much more mobile. She's now able to crawl into the kitchen (unless the safety gate is closed when cooking) and can go into the dining room and hallway. She made it outside onto the decking at the weekend.

I just use a bath mat in the bottom of the bath to stop DS slipping. He's been in the big bath since birth to.

We don't have a playpen but DS isn't crawling yet. I think he will in the next month or so. We have ensured that the lounge is escape proof, it is relatively baby proof but I feel like I won't really know until he's on the move and then I guess I'll really understand baby proofing lol. I don't really have the space for a play pen so I think I will need to hone my baby proofing skills and just do the whole house to be safe!

lilly yes the piriton is helping instead of the usual three wake up's, E is only waking up once which is so nice I am hoping to kick start sleeping through then stop the medicine and he'll carry in sleeping better. He was prescribed it for his cough that wouldn't shift and it seems to have helped that too.

E can sit up independently but he has a bath with Dh every night so all we have is a none slip bath mat!

Best place for a play pen would be kiddicare, they often have them on sale and they do next day delivery!

Oooh my sil had her baby today!

Congrats to your SIL cookie!

What all your babies sleeping in at the moment ladies now the weather is getting warmer, and do you have plans to change it soon? I've taken one layer of DD tonight so she's sleepsuit + 2.5 tog sleeping bag but minus a vest which she usually wears too. I'm more paranoid about her overheating now she's in her own room rolling around in her cot! I use the gro egg now too and it keeps taunting me! Tried cooling her room a bit before bed but it was still about 21c at bedtime!

Ella that's incredible...
I am having a sugar free week to see the impact on weight loss. (Not only no sweet pudding, but also no sweet fruit, no sweet food, no processed food with sugar, zero sugar if I can) Still breast feeding so don't want to diet just yet.

We don't really have big space for playpen either but I am struggling for ideas to block a space out as he loves to climb barriers so then I don't know if a barrier helps or is a risk. I read in nhs website that accidents are responsible for majority of injuries and deaths in the uk and most of them happen in home.

Ds does not fit in any bath seat and has grown out of one of those seats you shared Fate more than 2 months ago. Very badly designed for bigger babies... So he has been in the big bath for a while in seat, but then in the duck bath for a while, which is lovely but too small now, so have to use anti slips and move him to the big bath... Don't like mats because I am not sure how secure it is for a baby like mine; and not sure about sticky ones either... Are they not going to get mouldy?

Oh and parenting books... fate, weren't you talking about modern parenting style? And how does that match the instinctive parenting then?

Personally, I completely disagree with just relying on instinct for things as important as is; because I do think that the scientific body of work done by generations in an area is actually valuable and can be of value to me; i.e I think if psychologists have worked ages to learn about kids and how parents behaviour will shape their personality, then I rather learn about it - to some extent for my own use - rather than just relying on my instinct. I also believe making bad parenting decisions can be disastrous in some circumstances.

Do I remember right that you used to be a teacher? In that case I guess part of your education covers these sort of things...

Anyhow, I will definitely study about parenting. But then I am a sort of person who does rely on researching and learning about things I do, heavily; for most of my important decisions.,,,

Sorry! Just remembered something else. i can't believe your babies are wearing that much; where do you live ladies and how cold is where you are? We are in SE, ds is only in a vest and shorts with a thin layer of sheet over him in the middle of the night... Our heating has been off for AGES and it is still warm here...

Yay Ella. Well done!

DD is now in a baby grow and a one tog sleeping bag at night. Our house is usually quite warm though. DD also hates being too warm, so we may need to move to just a short sleeved vest soon. We are also in the SE.

She is in a recliner seat in the bath still, but probably won't fit in it much longer. Not sure what we will do next.

I officially get the worst mummy ever badge! We were out and about loads yesterday, but I didn't realise how powerful the sun was. I had tried to keep her out of the sun and covered any exposed skin whilst she was sleeping, but I hadn't put cream on her as the sun really didn't seem that powerful. In the afternoon I noticed that she had quite rosy cheeks. She'd caught the sun a bit. I feel so awful. I put loads of cream on her, and there is no more redness this morning, but I just feel horrific. Worst mummy ever letting that happen I barely slept last night worrying about it, but she seems fine this morning.