September 2014 - 6 months already?!

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new thread!

I think when it comes to the climbing out of cot, I would lower the base totally. at the moment b is on yhe middle setting for his base. the tummy rub, leg stroke and dummy helps.

we have had first hair cut today.......

Awww holls, first haircut is a milestone. Have you saved a lock of hair? Your DSs hair is absolutely fantastic, I am so jealous!

yes - he got a train with a carriage for a curl for his christening so that's filled now. it was getting in his eyes so needed the chop. looks like such a little boy now.

ApplesTheHare Wed 06-May-15 12:34:03
Red you might have already tried this but does he have a comforter?

He has a comforter. and a spare one as I always loose stuff

Is he interested in it? Is he fuck.

Grr. We are working on the 'you can't have it, therefore it becomes more interesting' tactic.

We are pretty much set for long term co-sleeping but it would be nice if DS could do it in his cot attached to the bed and he sleeps enough so DH can come back in with us. On a practical level it makes more sense as our second bedroom is on another floor and I really don't like the idea of stairs in the dark for either him or us.

As for parenting. Its a case of teaching both DS and DH its not funny when DS does X, Y or Z... sigh

I don't think I would want a staircase separating me and the children Red, so understand you co-sleeping given that.

I have an obscenely rich friend who's 3 year old has his own 'wing' in their house: bedroom, playroom and his own bathroom, all on a separate level to the master suite where the parents are. Lovely idea, but as yet he's never slept there!

Hopefully your DS will start taking to the co-sleeper in the end Red and maybe you can eventually get the side on the cot and shift it to the corner of your room. Either that or you learn the art of the Sunday Morning Stealth Shag next to a sleeping baby

I'm glad to hear I don't have the only head bumper. Blood sounds so scary though!

I've been trying to use the cot (still with the side off and attached to my bed) but he just doesn't seem to stay still in it. He's rolling about, sitting up, backing himself into the corner or into my bed - all while still asleep or at least with his eyes closed. If he sleeps in my bed, in my pillows then he stays still and just sleeps. I'm getting really tempted to just buy a bigger bed and have him sleep there until he wants to leave. But I'm worried it won't work if I have another anytime in the next few years. He's still feeding at least 5 times a night which is ridiculous. And yet he's not putting in that much weight so must need it. These babies are tricky creatures.

He sleeps on my pillow of course, not on it hate the lack of edit

Acorn - I put the side back on (but lowered, it is a drop side cot) when DD started rolling. It's just a low barrier that stops her rolling into me, but still allows for easy reaching over for me.

Or just buy a super kingsize bed - one of the best investments we made!

My best friend co-slept with her DD until she was 7 years old (not by choice, my friend worked long and hard to get her into her own room but it didn't happen). She had her DS with an 18 month age gap. DS was in a co-sleeper cot while DD was co-sleeping the other side of her.

She was so much stricter with regards to her DSs sleeping habits. He was in the cot and self settling independently with a dummy from birth. In his own room from 6 months with no hassle at all and has always slept well.

They finally got DD out of the parental bed when she was 7 years old and her brother 5 1/2 years old. He had just started questioning why his sister gets to sleep with Mummy and he can't. So that triggered forcing the change.

I also know an Uber-Attachment-Mum from the school gate with six children. She had two or three children co-sleeping (plus DH, who never left the family bed) for many years. Three cots in their room (one co-sleeper each side and one at the end of the family bed) for the odd occasions when babies didn't want to sleep in the big bed.

Co-sleeping doesn't have to stop when a sibling comes along.

holls Your little man is gorgeous, he looks so grown up already ! He looks like a little model ! I love his hair - J's is coming through thick and fast too - but nowhere near as much as your son's !

For all of you with mobility/sleep problems...sorry to be of no assistance, but I really can't remember what I did with the twins. My eldest son climbed over the cot side at a year old and smashed his head on the laminate - but he continued to go back in his cot for another year and never did it again. My memory is absolutely terrible regarding the twin's baby years - I think I just muddled through, hoping for the best. I never really expected to have any more children so perhaps I didn't need to save the memories of the hard slog it was and I remember the more cute things .

Jay - Does it ever bother you that you can't remember the baby years with your twins?

I can't remember anything about the time DC2 (now 9) was a baby. DC1 is only a year older so DC2s baby years went in a blur of little baby + big baby sleep deprivation haze. I imagine the first year with twins is harder still. I remember only the significant milestones but none of the everyday stuff. I sometimes feel sad about that.

Nazly, glad your little one is ok. Try not to feel bad about it. These things happen and I'm sure every single one of us here will have at least one trip to A&E over the next few months and years. Always best to get them checked out.

FATE, I'm so pleased you said what you did about discipline. Over the past week I've started to discipline DD for the awful squeal/shout she's developed. I give her a short, sharp and firm "NO", then give her the stare for a few seconds, holding her gaze. I then turn away from her, turn back a second or two later and carry on like usual. It does seem to work, but I was worrying that I was being an awful mummy for telling off a seven month old.

I did quite a lot of child care in the past, and I do have a great "stop what you are doing right now and do not dare to question or defy me" stare I've been known to stop children totally in their tracks with it, but they don't seem to hate me for it. I do really believe that children need clear boundaries and discipline, I just didn't think I'd have to start at seven months!

Night times are certainly better. She's really getting the hang of falling asleep in her cot and there are very few tears at bedtime, usually just a bit of whinging. Through the night she wakes twice to feed, but doesn't stir other than that. She is only having one 5oz bottle across the two feeds, and they are sometimes quite close together, so I'm hoping we can combine them into one feed soon, but I want to give her a little more time to get used to the new sleep regime. Last night she had about 2oz at 11, and then the rest of her bottle at 1. It usually is a smaller feed followed by a bigger feed, so I was wondering about trying water for the first time she wakes, see if we can get her to drop that one and just have one bigger feed. Does that sound feasible, or is there a better way?

Had an hour at work yesterday and DD was totally fine being looked after by my best friend. In trying to get her used to other people looking after her and doing things for her in preparation for nursery!

fate Yes, it does - and now I have J, it seems to highlight exactly how much I have forgotten. I feel quite guilty about it too.
I did find the twins baby years a whirlwind - and not particularly enjoyable - although I never would have admitted it at the time ! I found them much more rewarding when they were about 2, and from then it just got better and better.
I often wish I could have those baby years back so I could just soak it all up and enjoy it - rather than wishing the phases would end.
You seem to have an amazing memory for your children's milestones and seem like a real common sense, organised mum ! I often wish I was more like you when I read your posts .

Oh, I kept meaning to tell you all, but kept forgetting. A couple of weeks ago I posted about DD having rashes on her tummy, legs and arms. But it would come and go quite randomly. We've finally worked out what it is! It's from DH's trendy lazy stubble when he plays with her when changing her nappies, blowing raspberries on her tummy and that kind of thing!

ella I can identify with your post, when you say about triggers for remembering things. My mum has an amazing memory and will often come out with little anecdotes and then I think "oh yeah". I do have a lot of photos (and film - but nothing to play them on) - but I can't remember so much and I don't remember ever having the same relaxed feeling that I do with J. Sometimes he does things that really make me laugh and I honestly think the twins were about 2 before I ever got that.
Stuff like weaning has completely slipped from memory - I just remember it not being enjoyable and that I gave them jars for ages. Teething must have been ok as I don't remember anything except eldest son got his fangs first !

Team Great news on the sleeping ! Glad it's going ok.

Team Re: The rash ! J had the same thing on his face just before Xmas and I even rang up the NHS in a panic, then whilst I was on the phone during the callback it disappeared and I thought it was heat bumps. It happened a few more times before we realised it was DP's stubble !

Hello. Just checking in as not been here for a few days. Jessica is a bit out of routine and teething at the moment which is a bit of a nightmare. She also keeps getting herself into odd positions in her cot at night and then getting stuck, and will then cry until we come and 'rescue' her. Feeling very tired subsequently! Weaning is still a pain. She's very fussy and hates any food with lumps in. Any tips? x

right I need you all to give me a virtual slap. when b had ear infection,the week before he started pooing less and doing weird grunting noises. he has just started it again yesterday so I popped to doc to get ears checked - fine. then he woke up from nap and has a lump on neck.i rang hv who said v often at the end of a bug,babies get little cysts which will be reabsorbed.

tell me to stop worrying. I am well travelled but travelling with a baby has given me the jitters plus I can't talk to dh about it aa he ks that we are going as he is going to miss the boy.

I know that if his temp spikes we go to dr and get antibiotics. I know I'm going to have my mum and stepdad ad brother and sister on hand. so WHY AM I BEING SO STUPID????

My hv told me to get on plane and sit in sun with a big glass of wine

slaps holls

Is that any better? Just imagine drinking this in the sunshine! B will be fine and it sounds like you will have lots of lovely support on hand to help you out. You'll feel so much better for a relaxing holiday too.

We're flying from Manchester on Saturday morning and poor old DH is very anxious about taking DD on a plane. I think he's scared of the idea that she might cry in public... I've told him that it will certainly happen at some point!

I'm mighty jealous of those of you flying off into the sunshine. Definitely don't beat yourself up about anything Holls. Apples, hope you have a great time too.

Holls and Apples, hope you both have a lovely time away , not at all jealous of the sun! I went for a walk earlier and got rained on!

Sleep training is going well. It was only 10 minutes last night. He is still very clingy through the day though, I am struggling to do housework as he wants attention/to play all the time! Ah well, who needs a clean house anyway

Cumbrian That's great news. I have the same day problem. J isn't really that clingy, but he doesn't have very long day naps so I find that I have to entertain him a lot throughout the day. His favourite thing is rolling about the floor so he can't be left anymore.

Holls and Apples Have a great time on your travels !

Yay Cumbrian! So pleased you kept going with it and are now seeing the benefits. It's tough, but worthwhile.

I've been up since 4.30, but it's my own fault as I woke, checked on the election results, then got hooked and couldn't get back to sleep! DD is doing better at nights still.

Holls and Apples, hope things go well on your journeys. X