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JuniDD · 04/03/2015 19:39

A lovely thread for all the JS Grad Grads to chat feeding, sleep and post-birth STUFF.

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Roll call please ladies and perhaps add the number of slings and buggies you have acquired at the time of posting... Wink

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willywallace · 14/03/2015 11:46

Bless her Lauren, she'll adapt quickly.

Hope you got back to sleep Min.

We've had lots of screams since yesterday lunch. Wondering if it's something I ate.

Minion · 14/03/2015 14:36

Oh we did. Just curled up under my arm and the lazy Madam didn't stir till 9:30!

It may be a way of working out whats causing the reflux wil, work out what you had yesterday.
Common triggers are citrus, onions, dairy and chocolate.

ZylaB · 14/03/2015 16:19

Yay for expressing, I must have had 4 or 5 hours in a row last night!! Did the 4 hour cluster feed until about 10.30, then passed her to DH who had her until 3ish cos I'd managed to express enough for a big feed and a little feed. Not sure if I feel ace or if it's made me remember what I'm missing hehe :)

laurenamium · 14/03/2015 18:00

Aw amazing newszyla! I bet you feel like a new person after some sleep!

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JuniDD · 14/03/2015 18:18

Ah, sleep...my old friend.

Can I have a Confused. Briefly saw a friend today who said that DD looks like me but "covered in talcum powder".

UNCOOL.

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ZylaB · 14/03/2015 18:28

Wtf juni??! Hmm

ZylaB · 14/03/2015 18:29

I do lauren I do. Am planning similar for. Tonight mwahaha!

laurenamium · 14/03/2015 18:32

Talcum powder?! That's such a weird comparison Confused

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JuniDD · 14/03/2015 19:42

It is weird, isn't it?!
I mean, yes, she is a lot fairer than me if you have to comment on her skin colour at all but WTF indeed!

Anyway, she's in bed, MrJ's in bed Hmm so I'm watching telly and eating chocolate with a cup of tea. Sometimes a lazy-arse partner is a good thing. Time to myself!

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willywallace · 14/03/2015 19:51

Oh my actual God Juni, she did not?!!!! Did she at least realise that she'd said something mildly racist stupid?

Yeah I'm wondering if there was dairy in the soup I had yesterday although that would involve her reacting almost instantly to it which I don't know if that's likely or not?

How are you feeling Lauren?

Good news about sleep Zyla. I never manage to express, you're doing so well.

My baby wants to sleep all day long. She wakes up, feeds and then cries because she's not asleep. Then goes to sleep. And repeat.

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JuniDD · 14/03/2015 19:57

She did.
The best bit is, she's one of my lefty-political-activist friends so yeah....WTF?!!!!

On the dairy in breastmilk thing, no one knows how long it takes for the food to reach your milk so anything is possible.
I'm in a brilliant bf FB group - Bristol Breastfeeding Mummies, if anyone would find it useful.

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Minion · 14/03/2015 20:48

Talcum powder?
What a fruit loop...

wil... Mine too! She must have spent a grand total of 4 hrs awake today. Half of that crying to go back to sleep.
She s coming on so much, doing load of new things this week so at least we're getting something out of the whinging.

RPopz · 14/03/2015 20:56

WTAF juni??

That is epic zy! Bet you felt amazing after that sleep. I really need to persevere with expressing/ the bottle! And get DH off his fat lazy arse to do a night feed He actually laid in bed with the duvet over his head the other night pretending to be asleep while DS was screaming cos I had to change his nappy Angry

Minipopz's new thing is dribbling and sucking his fists and chewing his sleeves... If this is teething I'm moving out!!

willywallace · 14/03/2015 21:08

The worst thing is they have teething issues ages before the teeth even come through. Time to fish out the bibs Popz. And next time dump the dirty nappy on your DH's head, cheeky arse. To warn you though - MiniWil would take a bottle at any time of the day. But never at night Envy . Hopefully MiniPopz won't be so fickle.

ZylaB · 14/03/2015 22:40

I've got 100ml expressed in the fridge....DH is taking second shift tonight, so I've got her until 3am ish, depending on feeds, and I'll feed her then pass her over so I can sleep while he does the next feed. It's got to last me until next fri night so I'm making the most of it! (She's wide awake cluster feeding atm, so I'm not expecting any rest before 3!!)

ZylaB · 15/03/2015 00:09

So it turns out I'm the most useless mum ever. I just can't stop her crying. The ONLY thing I do which calms her is stick my boob in her mouth. There's no way she can be hungry, but cuddles, nappy changes, rocking, being upright, lying down, rocking don't work and she screams. So she's had my boob in her mouth for hours, and my nipples are sore! I can't calm my baby, and thinking about it she's always like this for me. Has been for weeks.

DH has just had to come in, instead of him sleeping now and taking turns, and has settled her in about 5 mins. Admittedly he might not be able to put her down for 20 mins or so, but she's quiet. So he told me to go to sleep and he's trying to be lovely cos I'm in floods of tears again, cos I'm shit and can't calm my baby.

So if the only thing I can do is boob and milk, I pretty sure there's no point me being her mum and they'd be better off without me. I don't think I can do ths.

And I'm aware I'm now bloody moaning at you all again, I'm so sorry, know you've more than enough on your own plates.

willywallace · 15/03/2015 04:14

zyla you need to try to stop this spiral of thoughts. H crying does not make you a bad mum. If you were a bad mum you wouldn't care. MiniWil used to be like that. The only way she'd settle with me was to be fed. It probably has become a bit of a habit to her. Can you try a dummy yet? Probably the only way to break the habit is by enduring a bit of screaming whilst you try other methods - but probably best attempted in the daytime when you don't feel so bad. Your nipples sound like they need a break - don't feel bad about your DP helping out lots until she gets a bit better, after all you did all the pregnancy stuff - it's just his time to step up now.

My bundle of joy won't settle either. Went to bed at 11, up at 1. MiniWil up at 3. MicroWil up again at 3.30. I am also having to use boob as dummy as actual dummy is downstairs and I'm not risking waking the toddler again. She has thrown up all over both of us and is now screaming the house down. And MrWil is ill so I am dealing with everything. Happy frigging Mother's Day. Hmm

Minion · 15/03/2015 07:13

wil is right, zyla.
A shyte mother wouldn't care that her baby was using her for milk, you are upset because you care so much, and that makes the very best possible mother for your little one. You are giving lo the best possible things right now, love, breast milk and a safe warm feeling.
I'll admit I went through the same 'oh god what did I do ' stage. Still do, somedays.
Before they can smile and interact with us, it's quite frankly, crapish.
But one day that lovely grin will poke through and the days get gradually better.

We were also up multiple times last night. Dummy in, dummy out, need a cuddle , world trumping championship... She's now in bed with me, full belly but still bloody fidgety Whilst the husband sleeps

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JuniDD · 15/03/2015 08:06

zyla, mummy is for milk!! When u was in hospital with her I used to shove her at any old member of staff to stop the crying. The smell of you unsettles her in a way no one else does.

In a few short weeks she'll soon only want you. (best feeling ever!!)

Happy mummy Xmas everyone. xxx

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JuniDD · 15/03/2015 08:16

zyla, mummy is for milk!! When I was in hospital with her I used to shove her at any old member of staff to stop the crying. The smell of you unsettles her in a way no one else does.

In a few short weeks she'll soon only want you. (best feeling ever!!)

Happy mummy Xmas everyone. xxx

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laurenamium · 15/03/2015 10:08

zyla you are not a bad mum! I second (or third) the dummy suggestion. It sounds like she's sucking for comfort and a dummy could just give your nipples a break for a bit!

I'm feeling good, miniL is coming on leaps and bounds and we've been told he could possibly be home in 36/48 hours depending on if he keeps up the progress! GrinGrinGrin

willywallace · 15/03/2015 10:21

That's fantastic news Lauren!

My baby is so screamy today and looks sore. No clue what's wrong.

ZylaB · 15/03/2015 10:34

Sorry for night time histrionics, always feels much worse then. She won't keep a dummy in, we've tried! :) I wonder if she's a bit refluxy after all the nighttime milk, she sounds gurgly when laid down. Have tried tilting the bedside cot, holding her upright etc, she just won't settle well though. Think I'm going to have to get my head around daytime naps for me!

DH arrived with a card this morning, saying "H asked me to give you this.." Bless

lauren that's sounding great, really positive :)

FurryScoob · 15/03/2015 11:42

Definatly get those daytime naps in zyla they make so much difference & listen to the wise viroids above, it really does get better when they start smiling at you.

Great news on minilauren coming home soon!

It must be really hard wil when there's not a lot you can do to make her more comfy.

DP got me a card for Mother's Day & some story books to read to DD, so far she's just tried to eat them! Grin ERTD decided today would be a good day to make an unwelcome returnAngry first time it's started in 2 years & I haven't cried coz I'm not pregnant!

ZylaB · 15/03/2015 14:19

So we've been trying to think logically about when H is most screamy, and realised that even after hours of cluster feeding, she won't settle after feeds, even worse after big ones, so we think she's got tummy ache after feeding. She won't settle after any feed, we get legs pulled up or back arched, don't think its wind as she really won't burp no matter what we try, so going to take her to docs tomorrow to see if they can give us something to stop post feeding tummy ache...sound like a possibility?