February '15 babies - appearing thick and fast!

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Our first thread on the 'other side'. And may all our soon to be mummies join us in this adventure through the early days of parenthood as we continue to share exciting times.

I'm planning on doing DDP Yoga, I did it last year and the difference in my overall tone was amazing. Google it, the guy is amazing.

I'm hoping I can at least do some walking this week. Also just realised that Monday was the first day since LO was born that I haven't cried. Progress with PND.

Frenetic that's good that you are getting more mobile! It really helps me to go for a walk every day.

Memphis you managed to clean the windows! That's good going I'm still cleaning a room a day that's all I seem to have time for!

I looked at my scar etc (after an episiotomy) not pretty! I'm sure you will all think I'm mad even thinking about this at the moment but when do you think things return with OH in the bedroom? I'm not quite ready but do seem to be thinking of it more lately!

Frenetic I will do, heard good things on here about the davina 7 minutes but I cannot watch that gurning face for even 7 mins I don't think. i love the 30 day shred dvd but think its too hardcore after a year of no exercise (I stopped after our wedding to give myself a break and fell pg on honeymoon)
Thats great about the day of no crying the first of many! Going for a walk will clear your head, just take it slow And enjoy it, i love my walk from school now, walked to get my gradads pension yesterday with LO in sling much prefer to push a pushchair though.

LO has only had 15 oz in 24 hours thats less than 50% of daily feeds so back to gp tomorrow his belly is rolling but he is choking every few sips

Frenetic that's great you're heading in the right direction with the pnd. Getting mobile will really help with that too.

Little I've just started thinking about resuming things in the bedroom too but with all of us down with colds here it's going to have to wait a bit longer

Little miss, LO is 7 weeks and I am thinking about dtd, last time zi was still in pain and didn't want to think about it again for ages. Im worrying as I know my luck all contraception will fail or something

My body is a mess this time round. I know it's not important but it makes me sad, being fit is part of my identity. Have been jogging 20 mins a day since 6 week check but it's so hard and probably not doing my scar any good as it is looking worse not better.

On a more positive the twins are both 9lbs now so little Annie has caught up!

Glad to hear you are making progress frenetic.

I can't wait to exercise again although won't be able to go back to Saturday bootcamp as won't have anyone to look after lo as oh works most weekends so it looks like I'm joining the gym.
As for DTD I was petrified as last time I had a third degree tear and they stitched me up too tight. Had to go back and have it redone. So didn't DTD for about 9 months.
This time round tho everything is so much different and we did it at 5 weeks with no issues.

Morning all
Im desparate to go for a run, but very dutifully will wait for the six week check (what happens at that, btw?).

As for DTD, i feel like I want to (five weeks later now) but I'm quite scared of the godawful mess that might have been left after all the stitching up!

Oh my gosh Donkir. What a drama to have to go through. Ouchy. Hope things are easier this time round. Littlemiss, I also have bern thinking about it. Feel odd about DS being present though! I don't want to create his first memory around this!

DS is being a proper menace last night. When he wakes for a feed during the night...he's usually awake for well over 2 hours. Last night he was 3 hours on the go till I got really frustrated and made DH go downstairs with him to settle him. Even though he has a full belly, squeaky clean bum and wind up..he still cries and fights the sleep. No chance of him getting into his crib when he's like that. If he's asleep and I transfer him..he'll wake in a few minutes...very frustrating. Any advice/suggestions?

Blank no advice really but Lo does the same at 4.30 to the point now I am up for the day at4.30 most days, I wrap him in a blanket and have him on me chest and just let his thrash it out, he wears himself out fighting the blanket and drops off.

Donkir, did you have stitches this time? i have over 30 last time and forceps it was 2 years before anything felt remotely normal down there but feels better this time (20 odd stitches but no forceps)

Memphis I had a second degree tear this time which was stitched but I'm not sure how many stitches I had.

Donkir thanks it makes me feel more positive that you had to have stitches and have been ok this time. Im now wondering if I should go on the depo injection until dh's had the thumbs up for snip.

The one morning I planned on mowing my front lawn whil LO slept and by the time he dropped off it was raining

DH just brought DS out to his parent's house for a visit. First time we've been apart. I'm racked with nerves. At one stage my two nipples started flowing...I wonder was DS crying for a feed at the time! Must start expressing soon!

Glad to hear some are thinking or have DTD! I just have to see if OH feels the same after what he saw oops!

Blank I feel the same when OH takes him out without me, this Saturday my MIL is holding a charity quiz and OH is trying to convince me to leave him with my mum for a couple of hours so we can go ... Just not sure!! It's only round the corner so may be a good first time to leave him

I dtd two weeks after my C section and it was fine.
Need to sort contraception out though as no more babies! (Sorry DH)

I've been thinking about dtd too...but have been too wussy so far to check out my stitches in the mirror. Should really do that first! I am extremely paranoid about pregnancy even though I'm bf - will be definitely doubling up on contraception.
Dh is gonna get the snip so must prod him into booking the doctor's appointment. Someone else's hubby on here was getting it...was it you Memphis? Is there a big wait for the procedure do you know?

Not actually DTD but wanted to 1 week after c section - only reasons I've held off are, a) I'd heard it can increase chances of uterine infection b) I'm very worried about relying on condoms (have fallen pregnant using them before), so kind of thinking it would be better to wait until DH gets all clear from snip (sample to be sent off end of month) and c) I got a uterine infection 2.5weeks after csection and stupid hospital told me I was being silly, so went untreated for a further week until community midwife came to discharge us (discharge was late because lo took so long to get back to birth weight), and called gp for me to tell them they needed to see me immediately. Gp gave me antibiotics. Still got half a week left of them.

But 6week check is on friday and i really want to dtd now so maybe I will do it before DH's all clear.

Purple you may find you have to pay to actually get DH snipped in your area. By me they have spent months and months considering if they are even going to allow the service to continue and have put it on hold whilst they decide! After 2 months of still not being allowed to book an appointment we paid and got DH done in a couple of weeks (that was at start of Jan). Also be aware these days you can't get the all clear for at least 12weeks after the op, some places its at least 16weeks before they'll give the all clear.

Haven't been on much because of my uterine infection wiping me out.

I'm still barely able to be mobile, although now they are saying they think the pain and trouble moving is more down to the sheer number of back problems I already had and the toll the pregnany and PGP had on me - the pain in the front joint of pelvis/pubic bone bit (having a baby brain moment and can't remember name for it) has disappeared last week (4weeks in) but the rest of pain stayed exactly the same/got worse after having the baby. This means I'm on far more pain meds than I want to be, especially as im bf.

We tried to change lo over to formula but she definitely appears to have an intolerance or allergy to formula! She also hates bottles and was extremely reluctant to take them and struggled to hell with them. So she ended up back on breast and now I'm back to worrying about how much I'm drugging my baby, with my pain relief filled bm.

Sorry that ended up such a long post.

Oh and for those who have had stitches down below, I'd say it might be worth warning your dp that sex might not actually happen the first time you try.

With DS I had a 2nd degree tear and problems with it healing. When it finally felt OK at 8weeks we tried to DTD and omg it was bloody painful. DH was really good about it but i felt seriously guilty that id said it'd "be fine now" and it wasn't - think I'd have felt better if I'd felt I'd warned him before hand instead. After that we did other things and tried again ocassionally without success until 14weeks. After that it was fine.

WhyO hope you are feeling better now after the infection, yes I remember it being painful last time but I always had a second of pain at start, they reckoned they pinched a nerve when they stirched me but said I could be recut and restitched or wait until next baby and labour should stretch scar and that should sort it.

Purpe yes dh is booked in he went on Monday for appointment and he is booked into a clinic for 14th May, the doc said they may do proceedure then but may put it off a bit as they don't like doing it so soon after having a baby, hoping my medical history sways them into doing it. That said, every area is different, Peterborough they do it within weeks usually but my friend in Birmingham had a 8 month wait....she actually fell pg in the wait time

my friend in Birmingham had a 8 month wait....she actually fell pg in the wait time

See this is what got me about the area I live messing around not even allowing appointments whilst they decided whether to even allow the service to continue - surely it costs the nhs far far less to have a man in fast, give him, what is ultimately a very quick and cheap proceedure, rather than deal with either an unwanted pregnancy or pay for antenatal & postnatal care on a pregnancy that otherwise wouldn't have happened.

WhyO exactly, dh isn't even going to a hospital it is a clinic about an hour away, providing they are happy with his answers they should do it on the day. I wasn't going to go with him and make him get on a bus but its in the middle of knowhere

Memphis the clinic DH went to wouldn't do it unless there was someone else to drive him home. As I was so disabled at that point and couldn't drive my mother had to drop him off and pick him up! She also lent us the money so we could have him done quicker. We all said it could be a good story in one of those daft magazines with the ridiculous "true" stories - headline of "My mil had me neutered like a dog" with how she paid, then drove him there and waited outside to make sure he'd had it done.

An 8 month wait?! That's crazy - as you say, it's far cheaper for the NHS to just do the op promptly rather than risk accidental pregnancy and associated costs. If it's a huge wait then we'll just have to go private...

WhyO - I hope your back pain eases soon; it must be a lot to contend with on top of dealing with a new baby.

Purple thanks, I'm fortunate that DD is a much easier baby than DS was. Its hard though because even something tiny and simple like making a sandwich for me and DS is seriously difficult, it should be easy peasy. Despite really wanting more sleep I have to get up earlier than my toddler or my baby because I need DH to a) help me down stairs and b) carry baby DD downstairs to put in Moses basket in lounge before he leaves for work (DS has been taught to come down to me when his sunshine comes on his clock). Poor DH has to fit in all housework around working full time and cook dinner for following day because I literally can't do it. Hoping to manage to drive soon so at least I can take DS to soft play.

I just hope it gets better before DD gets mobile or I really don't know how I'll cope

WhyO -sounds really tough for you at the moment. Hope the pain is better soon.
I am very impressed with people's exercise regimens and plans to DTD. I am too knackered for either!
Day 2 of being at home alone with the 2 kids. So far been doing ok. Have got out & about both days. DH made it home in time to put DD to bed tonight which was nice. He was out the house 7:30-8 yesterday (not unusual but more noticeable now!).