February '15 babies - appearing thick and fast!

[GeekyHybrid]

Our first thread on the 'other side'. And may all our soon to be mummies join us in this adventure through the early days of parenthood as we continue to share exciting times.

Although I don't wish it on you it's good to know I'm not the only one struggling. Was feeling relieved vid DS was sleeping for 4 hour stretches the past two nights then last night he seemed to wake me up every hour to feed then fell asleep on me. I'm shattered today and only gave decaf coffee left in from pregnancy.

LO woke up at 2am and is sleeping in one hour blocks since.

Ouch.

Same here frenetic. Ouch indeed.

LO woke at 11.45 last night and wouldn't go back to sleep, apart from naps on me, until 3.20. Then I managed a total of 2 hours sleep before I woke for the next feed. Have tried to sleep since then, but he has only just let me put him back in his basket. His next feed is due in approximately 20 mins . Perhaps I should try co-sleeping, but I honestly don't think I would be able to sleep myself through fear of hurting him.

Welcome bigcat. I hope everyone struggling is at least finding some comfort here. frenetic and blank hang in there, one day.. bang we also refer to poonami's, constipation not a worry here

Infacol is my new best friend, the demon has been exorcised! No late evening 2 houe screaming fit and he's generally just settling better after feeds We're still feeding at 2-3 hour intervals all night but with the reduced fussing it's survivable. And feeding hurts a lot less now that I've fully cleared the nipple bleb, it took a lot of hot baths and feeding discipline but we got there. For those struggling with bf I can't recommend finding your local support group strongly enough. GP was clueless in comparison, I didn't bother taking the antibiotics prescribed as it wasn't an infection! Putting down the phone now for cuddle time with LO, I guess there are nice bits to this parenting malarkey

Welcome BigCat!

Geeky I'm with you infacol is my new best friend! I can manage waking for feeds it's when he is screaming with trapped wind and not wanting to be put down that is hard so touchwood it's working at the mo! Glad bleb is gone.

Hope everyone is ok so hard to function when you've had a crappy night - cue a day doing nothing and trying to nap!

I've had a milk explosion in the night pjs pads soaked!! Don't know why!

Wow the thread was busy in the night, I was reading. LO slept all day really yesterday, as he was fussy gave him bath at 7 not 9 meaning he was in too deep a sleep to feed and I went bed at 10 he woke at 10.45, 1.20, 3.40 then up for day at 5.30. The worst night of wake ups apart from the night he didnt actually sleep at all. The worst one to get up with him for was 10.45 I must have gone into a deep sleep quickly it about killed me off!

I have been eating crumpets, a snickers and a twix this morning with lots of tea...l.and now I have dared put hair dye on ai reckon he is stirring to wake up....bugger

I was so organised yesterday I even cooked a chilli for our tea tonight which is good as sil is now coming over after school and im visiting my best friend in his new home tonight

Well, I'm 3.5 wks into being a FTM and I've finally found a moment to post on this thread! It's been such a hard few weeks but I feel I might be starting to forge my way now.

bang what you described about your BF experience sounds so familiar.

I went through that and ultimately have decided that I can't cope with BF at the moment. It's just too hard and its bringing me down mentally, I was slipping into PND and beginning to resent my baby's need for constant feeding :( Last Friday I decided to just express milk and feed formula instead of BF and I feel so much better for it. A huge weight has been lifted. I still feel guilty but as long as Conway is getting is getting some breast milk its better than none and I feel happier which means he is happier. Everyone is different and we shouldn't feel pressured to BF as its bloody hard work and not suitable for everyone.

Time for another feed now, wow, they come around quick. Feed, burp, sleep, repeat... Just Conway thinks the sleep bit is optional...hmm.

I second what tonight said in regards to this being such a short phase of parenting. I'm not really a baby person. I never missed the newborn stage after DS grew out of it and I have enjoyed him more each year so far ( he is now 3.5 years). I'm trying to enjoy this phase with dd just because she is my last but it really is quite boring And not particularly fulfilling.

Also just wanted to say that I am also mixed feeding and really enjoying it. Ds was a bottle refuser and I'm really trying to prevent that happening again and it's already giving me a bit more freedom. I think the benefits of mixed feeding are understated!

Really sorry so many are finding this so hard. It is a massive adjustment especially if your baby is hard to settle. Soon they'll be smiling and interacting (and sleeping!) and this will all be a distant memory

Things I was the samewith ds1 didn't enjoy the newborn stage I think half of it was pnd related but I was expecting to wish the newborn stage away this time but weirdly I am mostly enjoying it and cried last night as I realised he was born in Jan and its now March. I would genuinly have another baby just for this phase again.....but I won't as it would mean being poor forever i wonder if I am enjoying it more as I know this is my last?

LO has scratched his face and it actual bled

Infacol is also my best friend. I hadn't realised how much until I stopped it for a few days - back on it now! I agree littlesunshine that I'm fine waking for feeds but trapped wind is tiresome to get her back over.

Tick tick I completely agree that no one should feel pressurised to bf. We have to do what feels best for us and LO. I'm glad you're feeling much better now.

I'm just catching up on one born every minute from last night. Getting all emotional!

Just to say am feeling everyone's pain, even tho on my 2nd this bit is tough! (But a lot easier this time and with a lot of thanks to this thread, it really helps to read about you lovely lot and feel a bit less isolated).

This week James has been quite cry-y but now he's asleep am amused. On Monday it was my DD's parents night which I attend with my ex (joy!). Despite doing what I thought was good prep, we arrived in need of a nappy change and then had to bf in the middle of it. Awkward. Then today we were applauded by the security guard in H&M when we left because James was squawking so loudly and M&S made a point of telling me I was welcome to feed in the changing room if I needed too. Realised was way too early to try on clothes!

Bit at wits end this eve. LO has been straining and grunting all day, it's been getting worse the past week or so. GP says it's trapped wind, HV says it's reflux and my Mum thinks it's colic. He seems so so uncomfortable, I don't know what to do.

We've been trying Infacol recently to no avail, Gaviscon didn't work, just made him very constipated. Trying gripe water as of this eve. It's hurting my heart to see him look so uncomfortable. :(

Frenetic my LO has been exactly the same the past week and after a hell of a night last night where he screamed constantly I took him to doctors this morning. Doctor said it was constipation and colic. He's on 1.5ml twice a day of lactolouse and I've got some coleif for the colic. Fingers crossed it works. We did have a better evening with a lot less screaming.

Evening all

I agree with not really liking newborn stage although I feel guilty wishing away her life am looking forward to six months old when she's a bit more interesting

Been out at my craft night tonight, Phoebe has spent two hours yelling at dh. He was very glad to see me and equally p'd off that she calmed down straight away when I gave her a cuddle

I'm still finding aches and pains six weeks on, my hip really hurts if I walk too far which is a problem, I was looking forward to getting back to the gym, will have to go to the swimming pool instead for a while I guess

Frenetic have you tried a sling during the day, it might help to get him napping which will help with sleeping at night.

Funny thing these babies if they sleep during the day they sleep better at night. Still possibly early days at the moment but might work?

Other thought, I saw aptimel formula for colicky babies in boots, there was also sma and cow and gate there, might be worth changing formula if you are using it?

DH has him in the sling when possible, I'm still finding it sore on my scar.

We feed him expressed breast milk during the day and Cow and Gate Comfort formula for overnight feeds. He seems to feed OK, but it's how he is after. The fact he hiccups a lot and will go rigid when straining makes me suspect silent reflux based on what I've read, but Gaviscon did not help. Might see if there's something else they can try him on - we are having issues sleeping even when LO is down as he is so noisy with grunts and strains in his sleep :/

frenetic my friend's baby has silent reflux and the gaviscon just gave him constipation. She went back and was prescribed ranitidine which has really helped. He is like a different baby. Hope things improve for ur little guy soon

Oh well this is going to be the usual nighttime for us then. DS woke for a feed at 11pm and hasn't settled since. The only difference is that DH has retreated to the spare room to try and get some sleep and I am sat cross legged on our double bed with LO grizzling in my lap.

Have just ordered Ewan the Dream Sheep on click and collect from toy r us. Hoping DH can pick it up after work tomorrow. I can't cope with this anymore. Spent the afternoon crying. Whoever says sleep when your baby does should be lined up and shot. It's a lovely concept that doesn't apply if your baby will only go to sleep on someone (doesn't have to be me, but DH has to sleep and I'm generally the only one around in the day). When I can put him down I need to eat, sterilise, wash his soiled clothes/bedding, cook, or one of the other small things that need to be done to get through the day, but which all add up.

Well the lactolouse definitely worked. Projectile poo all over me, him and bed!!

Grinning - you're not alone. This bit is just shitty to go through. I find it nigh on impossible to sleep when LO is, mainly because he's so noisy in his sleep but also I feel constantly alert.

We have Ewan and LO likes him, even though I'm unsure it helps him sleep, I definitely think it helps him settle. We also got a white noise app for my ipad and the hairdryer sound seems to work more often than not in turning a big tantrum into something more manageable.

big hugs

frenetic have you tried infacol if ues try ranitadine from docs also consider Dr Browns bottle my friend swears by them. we are getting on ok on gaviscon with some boiled water in morn to help him poo and infacol in afternoon when he becomes fussy so hard when they cannot tell you whats wrong.

frenetic sounds like reflux due to him being a noisy sleeper LO was until we got his sorted

Phoning the GP this morning to see if they'll prescribe ranitidine. Another rough night here!