October 2014.. Thread 7.. Teeth, tantrums & tickles

[STIGZ]

Hope this works ?

Green thanks for asking about dd1 - she is all recovered thank goodness (now just dealing with the bills from the doctor/ambulance/hospital - stupid, complicated US healthcare system. And we have good insurance. I miss the NHS).

Dummies - my first never took one (and I would have loved it, as the first 12 weeks involved painful feeding due to thrush and strep). So I never bothered with the other two. I don't mind her feeding/suckling through the night (similar set up to you Sazzle except she's next to me). Though dd2 is a finger sucker so she does use that to self settle a bit.
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Hope the lack of activity here means everyone's getting lovely sleep.
I'm trying to figure out how my dd can be so inconsistent. 5:45am she woke for feed test & 1;45 today! Think she must know I'm not 100%
No dummy here - keep trying as she's a hand sucker but no joy. Dd1 had one til nearly 3.
Anyone else had their babies practice practice practice something new do it & then stopped almost with a nonchalant I've ticked that box - next? She's been rolling back to front getting her arm stuck for days. Did it properly last week & hasn't done it all weekend - weird....
Fingers crossed for a good night all round

Went up for an early night then DD whined until after midnight. Now awake again. I hate this. Inconsistent like you twisted yesterday was only 1am wake up. Hope you're back in bed by now.

Hi, another newbie to the thread here. Would love to join you. I have DD2 born right at the end of oct.
Have been reading the thread with wonder at how well your babies sleep at night. Until last week I couldn't get ds2 to sleep more than 45 mins unless sleeping on bed next to me. By some miracle she now sleeps in her cot with a huge fight first but only for 1.5-2.5 hours.

Dutch- your settling in the day - how did you start getting her to do that? Was there a lot of fuss involved at first? The settling routine I've put below explains the question - we do not have a good sleeper!

We are still sort of swaddling. I have one of those sleeping bags you can zip arms into. The plan (ha!) is to release her left arm as it looks like it's the non dominant one or she moves it after the right when playing. Then once she's used to that to try the right. I read this somewhere - didn't have this issue with ds1 so no idea if it will work.

Our settling routine is
630 - bath and stories with big brother
7- into her room and feed in dark. Probably falls asleep. Wind then get screamed at either when cuddled or in cot for about 30-40 mins
8ish or later finally sleeps until about 11 (only one of the night but yippee) then up every 1.5-2 until 730. Gets fed each time which is clearly the problem but it's way too noisy otherwise.

Anyway, really looking forward to hearing your progress (and anything that might work!)

Ps mundy, Dutch - on the sore hands, one of my friends uses lansinoh - the stuff you put on your boobs when breastfeeding if you get cracks. They can eat it then so presumably would be ok now? Might be worth checking with the HV

Crap night here, in bed at 8.15, then up at 11.45 and 1.15 then slept on me for 2 hours and we're up again!! And it seems she's turned into a crier which is very unusual. I'm guessing it's the start of teething cause even on a crappy sleep schedule she's usually happy with it. Will be cracking open the calpol soon then! I feel a bit broken by this now, nearly 4 months in I need to start getting some more sleep please miss. Now sat wondering how early I can wake DH to take her off my hands!

I've got a cold now. Any tips on how to survive?

abadoo that's a good idea about lansinoh. I've used it to clear up her cradle call but for some reason didn't think about her hands- I've got loads of it ( someone gave me three tubes ).

Crap night here too, dd1 up half the night as she is loaded with the cold and thinks its the end of the world as her nose is blocked & crying because she has an ulcer in her mouth, god love her but she is so sensitive she cant tolerate any sort of pain or discomfort at all, no wonder she cried all the time as a baby! Every wee niggle must have infuriated her

Every time i shut my eyes i could see the state of my poor brothers face . I am so angry that a human being could do that to another, he was meant to be starting a new job today but that wont happning as the state of his face is disturbing plus the bastard broke his hand as he was trying to protect his face, his writing hand aswell.

Household full of cold here too tatty - planning a lazy day here. I'm sure lying on the sofa with a variety of blankets & duvets during the day must be good sensory play!

Think we might be teething here if the minging nappies & hand chewing & dribbling are anything to go by. She's not too grumpy so far - fingers crossed - but she is a very placid baby so hopefully that will make it easier. Might have to head out for anbesol & Ashton & parsons

STIGZ hope your brother gets well soon & his new employers are understanding

Jeezoh Stigz that's horrific Did he know the guy? How frustrating about the job too, I hope they'll keep it for him.

Welcome to the newbies and de-lurkers, I've not been the best at keeping up with all that goes on FB either so I've a lot to catch up on since the weekend! H is having her first nap of the day and I would dearly love to join her in sleepytown but the house really needs seeing to. If only if only I could drag myself off the settee. H slept 7pm-4.30am, then 5-8am which is of course fab but I was up quite a bit more due to my nightly back pain, relaxin has become a bad word for me
Could murder a cuppa but we're out of milk and DH is due home from work at lunchtime so I'm being terribly lazy and waiting for him to bring it in rather than the freezy 20 minute walk to the shop with H

E had a nap 9.30-10.30 so I did too Feel more human now after only a few hours sleep last night.
Now off to see a friend then hopefully get my hair coloured while Mum entertains the troops.
Hope everyone has a better day today

Luckily so far the baby is really sleepy, so she's snoozing on me while I read Georgette Heyer novels on the sofa. She's less poorly than she was yesterday but I think it's left her exhausted, poor mite. Thanking the heavens that dp works from home- I can intermittently demand that he make me a cup of tea.

Doing nothing makes me feel really guilty, though. Even though I know she's not been well and the best thing for her is cuddles and rest, I still feel like I'm failing her in some way.

Tatty glad your girl is on the mend. Reading Georgette Heyer sounds lovely (I have never read her...so many authors on my to-read list!). A good book about mothering young babies is What Mothers Do (Even When it Looks Like Nothing). As in, cuddling your small, sick baby as she sleeps is definitely not 'doing nothing'!

Hi all.

I have been introduced to Hay Day on the iPhone. Absolutely never download this. I appear to be addicted to maintaining my farm already and I have had the app less than 24 hours

Anyway, must go collect eggs and harvest by corn....

abadoo Glad to hear you managed to get baby in to the cot! We never did any co sleeping as it just isn't for me. I like my space haha
Settling in the day has been a lot easier in the last 4 weeks, my baby was born on the 7th so maybe it will get better for you as your bubba get a bit older.
He used to take naps in his pram in the living room. We would swaddle and put him in with white noise. Then I would swoosh the pram forward and back for like 20 min until he fell asleep. It worked really well for about two months and he would do 1.5h naps. But I think the bigger they get the easier they wake up from noise, so I started putting him in his cot. The curtains closed but they let through lots of light so he knows its a daytime nap. First we used the white noise but now I can just put him down, tuck him in and walk away. He will squeek for a bit but then goes to sleep.
I think the key is to put them down at the very first sign of tiredness. And the white noise app on my phone is seriously the best thing I have bought for my baby.

FATE why would you say that, I am sooo tempted now haha

I joined the FB group but I had to leave again as it was a bit intense :) I like it here much better!

Fate lol . Thanks for the warning!

Where has my happy go lucky baby went she is turned into a demanding diva the past week or so! Don't know if its because of her jags or teething or the wonder weeks leap ??? Who bloody knows eh?

Kirstie i know its blooming disgusting behaviour, hope they throw the book at the vile cretin but my brothers new employers are giving him a new start date which is so good of them he was at his friends party and it was someone at the party he had just met that night

Aw that's a relief Stigz!

Baby is currently napping. To yoga or not to yoga....

Lol fate you don't have enough to do with 4 kids you now have a farm to maintain!

Thanks munday sorry your oh was a div
Of a drunk. They can be sooooo unhelpful sometimes.
unfortunately another shocker of a night. I went to bed at half 8, his first wake was 9, then half 11, then 1,2 half 3 and then 4, half 5 and half 6. Killer. So anyway can't get any worse but I'm going to bed early again tonight incase he decides to give a longer first stretch, you never know your luck! Me and dh have decided that although having the evenings is nice it's not worth it verses sleep at the minute.
N was 4 months the other day so perhaps he's hit the regression. I mean it was pretty bad anyway but he appears to have regressed further!!

so sorry for you Stigz - what a terrible thing to happen. Glad his employers are being ok about it though.

Think I mentioned about DS having dilated kidneys and then a hospital stay with an infection? He's got another infection . Started with the same symptoms as last time this morning so took him straight to A&E this afternoon. He decided to make me look like a total moron by smiling/cooing/flirting with all the nurses and at one point I was getting a distinct "time waster" vibe from one of the doctors...she stopped looking so smug when the results came back and he's got a UTI. Don't get me wrong I'm gutted for him and am worried sick about what this means long term especially being on so many antibiotics but I get sick of some medical professionals treating everyone like a neurotic idiot. Humph! Mothers instinct and all that...

God knows what that means for tonight and sleep - a lot of us seems to be experiencing the inconsistent wake ups and I know it's crap for the rest of you but I'm glad I'm not on my own! Think I would deal with the sleeplessness better if there was a pattern to it - then I could plan around it. at the moment I go to bed ridiculously early just in case and end up lying there thinking will I be asleep 20minutes or 2 hours before having to get up...it's like a form of torture .

For the ladies asking about self soothing it took months to get my DD to self soothe - going in and resettling constantly, pick up put down, over and over, having a nap time routine as well as a bedtime one...ie) close curtains, change bum, time for sleepies whispered to her - you get the gist. It was hard work and I spent many an afternoon in despair crying on the landing but I had time to invest in it and persevere as I only had her then - this time I'm finding it harder. Cannot be having a mexican stand off with DS in his room when DD is downstairs getting up to god knows what and needing attention herself...so lots of rocking and feeding to sleep etc going on here...sure il be paying for that in a few months!!!

Poor baby Sherbet I hope the antibiotics do their magic. And hope your night isn't too bad.
DH gave DD a 6oz bottle and then I had to go give her a boob as well!! Greedy guys! Hope this means I get a slightly easier night... Won't hold my breath though!
Fate how was the farm this afternoon? Got to keep you busy

Dutch thanks. I hope you are right that a couple more weeks will continue to improve things. I've certainly noticed that timing is key for naps (I'm generally out and about with ds1 in tow so no for naps really).

In the meantime I am currently restyling dd2 who isn't really hungry but refuses to go to sleep any other way. She is occasionally laughing which is nice but perhaps not at 9pm when I want to be relaxing!!

I think I saw in every half hour last night. That's all I have to say...

My goodness sazzle can anyone have your baby today so you can sleep?

Night before last involved her sleeping 9 - midnight, midnight - 2 then through to 5.30. I however was awake from midnight to 4am for no reason at all. So effing annoying.

Yesterday I walked 8 miles to make sure I was tired, can't have insomnia when baby is sleeping - that's mental!

Sort of worked. Came to bed at 11, fed the small... she woke at 3 for 10 minutes and around that we both slept 2 x 4 hours. Such a relief.

However the actual routine works, she's getting loads better at the self settling. Both at 11 and 3 last night she was awake when I put her in the sleepyhead - she flaps for a bit, finds her snuggle thing and sucks her fingers until she goes to sleep. Both times I was prepared to deal with her again but obviously fell asleep before I had to.