March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Stormy it does indeed suck ass and knowing that your plans for the immediate future have been upended due to someone else's inability to grow up is shit but would have been twice as shit if you'd been pregnant and realised then. I'm sorry it's cack. If it helps I think you're incredibly strong and have no doubt you'll be fine.

Worse chloramphenicol is indeed what you want! Send DH to the chemist but for Gods sake tell him to say they're for you and not to mention you're pregnant. If they know it's for a child they'll make you see the GP again.

As for the induction, you know the risk and any concerns about movement should be taken very seriously. I always offer induction for over 40s. If you have any difficulties maybe take a copy of this with you.

Betty, Shattered thank you. I just love the fact that whatever my worry there is always someone on here who can solve it!

Stormy I'm so sorry. I wish there was an easy OTC prescription to fix all relationship worries, but unfortunately life isn't that simple. You'll do the right thing for you and dd though, I know that. You have a lot more guts than I had at your age.

Stormy, it's pants. But as others have said better pants now than with another baby together but all the same problems.

Worse, good luck with dh acting skills at the pharmacy and your chat about induction. I can't recall how your labour went last time but as this is no 2 it will likely be totally different anyway. I never got close to 40wks last time (just made it over term at 37) but was desperate for it to be over so can't imagine how you're feeling!

Stormy I hope your conversation goes ok. I'm really sorry that is not worked out the way you'd hoped. Everyone else has said it though, better you find out now than after getting pregnant. Worse is right though, you are a very strong woman and I have no doubt you can weather this. You know where we all are.

Worse I'm sorry you're having such a shit time. Having contractions that seem to do morning sounds exhausting. late pregnancy is really hard. I hope the tears work.

And yes eco young lady, don't think we've forgotten about you! Hope you're well and just busy busy.

stormy I am sorry about the relationship stuff. I think deep down you know he may never change. If there were a possibility he would change his ways you would be living together and talking about baby no2.

worse just have a wobbly and they will agree to the induction. If you do have the induction have you thought about pain relief too? I heard the drip is quite intense.

A mediterranean method of getting conjunctivitis is wiping the eye with luke warm tea. It works every time whenever we used that method.

betty enjoy the break. It is great when they are spoilt by family members but dealing with the aftermath is hard work. lol.

Hello hello! Am away in East Midlands too. Hello Betty, plonk and something :-) Flying visit to babysit nieces and grandpa whilst my sister is away. It's been pretty busy! Ecotod is having some almighty sleep regression thing so we've been tied up with that and dealing with rubbish sleep deprivation (worse it's bad enough when not 40 weeks up duffed so you have my sympathies). I'll write more about the sleep thing another time.

Stormy your day sounds sucky love. He has had a generous length of time to prove himself and grow up. You've been fair on that. And you've been coping really well on your own (I know he takes his turn with farty but that won't change) so that bodes well. How are you feeling now and how has he taken the news? What does your brother think? Hope you've had time to chat it through with him.

Worse thank heavens for Betty and shattered eh? Hoping your 40 week check goes well. Could they do a sweep whilst you all discuss it so that at least has happened. I'm clueless about these over 40 ways of working but guess if I have another I'll be dealing with that all myself. Is dh now around for next few weeks without trips to lakes or London?

I can't remember owt else so hello Wotta, shattered, something, Plonky and yummy. I'll try and swing back tomorrow. Right now I should sleep ahead of my five night wakes. Joy! got more chuffin sleep than this with a newborn

Thanks all for the kind words. I'll be fine, it's just accepting the loss of a dream makes for some sadness. But thank god for MN, because if it weren't for all the lurking on the relationships board I'd have sucked it up and been miserable for years. And that's what would happen if we stayed together, because it's not like I can turn off a biological urge, and trying to ignore it in order to stay with him would turn me into a horribly bitter and twisted and resentful person. But we had fun at times, and we got DD out of it, so it's all good.

In other news, Fartypants (or Jamface, as I've taken to calling her of late) now has seventeen teeth. The first of the second molars put in a bloody appearance this morning. And naps are for wimps again, unfortunately.

Stormy you sound very secure in your decision, which is wonderful. Thank goodness for the relationships board! I've always found it a bit of a mixed bag myself, but if you ignore the hectoring and projecting that goes on, you can find some really helpful supportive posters.

Seventeen teeth sounds like an excellent tally. I'm not entirely sure how many the toddle has. How do you count? If I'm feeling particularly brave I run a finger over her back gums to assess possible teething pain, but you have to be quick, or she nips

Eco all things over 40 appear to be exactly the same as under 40, as far as I can tell, with the exception of inductions. Same midwife appointments, same scans, no extra monitoring, no different advice. I've had extra antenatal appointments but they've been thyroid not age related. Yes to a sweep next week, and yes to DH being around until babax puts in an appearance.

Speaking of whom, he's reappeared with a not very tired toddle. If anyone knows the secret of getting small people to go to bed I'd love to hear it.

stormy you are so strong. Mn is great and full of supportive people who have sense. Glad you were able to find support from mnetters.

eco hope you had a better night last night and managed to sneak in a nap or two today. Maybe it is molar related or a mental leap.

worse if you find out the secret let me know please. Ds is still awake.

Dh is back. Yay! It was so cute to see ds run to him and give him a big cuddle. He has been happy all night since dh is back. The bond they have is so great to watch.

Bleugh! We've had a horrid few days. Not pox but DS really poorly and very interrupted nights. Yawn. Not quite sure what to do for the best today. I think he's through the worst with his sold now and it's just the teeth we need to worry about but he hardly ate yesterday poor mite and I don't know what else to do. He's full of calpol, he was refusing to put anything except fingers (his not anyone else's) in his mouth and was obviously in pain. We only have 12 teeth, all four top and bottom front ones and the first molars. Think these are the canines which prob at least partly explains it but doesn't tell me what to do!

Argh! Now late for work having dropped and smashed bottle if calpol on nursery front path! Stickiest stuff on planet full of broken glass. Me running to chemist for more. And beautiful leather and cashmere gloves prob ruined

What to do, Wotta? Deep breaths, cup of tea, remind yourself this too shall pass, and until it does there's always gin?

Ahh wotta what a rubbish few days. Is it a case of work being a break for you at the moment? It won't be long until those teeth are through and the rain washes away the sticky Calpol trail, and it may only be Monday but it'll soon be the weekend and there will soon be wine.

stormy sorry you're going through a tough time but it sounds like the best decision for you all. I'm glad you're finding strength in yourself and the relationship boards.

How were your East Midlands visits eco and betty? And that eco finally got some sleep!

worse did the worselet finally sleep? I convinced myself that I needed an early night last night, then dozed off around midnight. Must have been something in the air.

yummy I love seeing DP and DS together too. They've got such a lovely, playful bond.

I'm finding myself getting very stressed recently, and I can't explain why. I think it's because routines are out the window at the moment with DP still being off work. Childminder timings and dog walks and cleaning the house and naps - all the things I do with no troubles on my own, seem to not happen and I've realised that I don't handle that well. It's my own issue but it's turning me into a grump!

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wotta, maybe try brufen, Ashton's teething powder, lots of cold things- yogurt, Ice cream (!) , teething rings? And for you, obviously.

Wotta sounds like you have been having a hellish few days. Fingers crossed today is a turning point, and from here on everything improves.

Something you are so right. It's impossible to keep on top of anything with someone else in the house. DH being at home is wonderful in many ways, but an utter nightmare in others. I'm much more stressed out, which is crazy given how much help he is with the toddle. I can see why though after I had someone from the nursery helping me for a day last week. When she did craft stuff, she cleared up. When she changed a nappy, she tidied up. When she fed the toddle, she wiped up. Sensing a theme here?! I think the concept is commonly known as not being able to do one job without creating another, and it's definitely a man thing.

Speaking of people in the house, PIL are arriving tomorrow, for as long as it takes for babax to arrive. It's lovely of them to drop everything, and a huge help for us, as it will mean I won't have to go through labour alone as DH won't have to stay at home with the toddle..... but living with the ILs ? That's going to be v weird.

Completed on the purchase today so it's all systems go now. DH is busy building a new website, so I'll soon be in a position to share it.

Stormy for all your tough woman exterior I know you're the same inside as the rest of us, so , thinking of you.

Thinking of you today Worse! Hope appt goes well and you don't actually have to cry!

Worse how's life with the PILs? I guess as long as they give you space to do what you need to do they could be a real godsend, otherwise...well you'll be able to drink again soon And is the appointment today? FX for you. Has DD's infection cleared up yet?

Wotta what a rotten time you've been having! I just want to give you a big hug and whisk you off for a relaxing cuppa, but I guess will have to do instead.

Yummy how lovely to have DH home! it seems like he's been away for ages. Hope you're feeling happier now.

eco Good to see you. Hope the sleep regression's over and done with soon, it's such a killer.

Stormy how are you today love? It sounds like a huge mental adjustment to have to make. Hope you're keeping ok.

As for me, I'm POASing like mad, driving myself crazy over imaginary lines and wondering if I am. Oh and a morning full of dire rear. That struck mid-way round Sainsburys after dropping DS at nursery today. Thankfully I remembered to buy some chocolate to ease my sorrows (both real and imaginary). And I'm sick of this bloody cold weather and want to move to somewhere hot and remote. I'm thinking Fiji.

Well, I'm all set. Induction is booked for Friday, and I had a sweep as well today, so who knows. Apparently she could have broken my waters (but obviously didn't) which I assume means things are kicking off anyway. It certainly wasn't as uncomfortable as the sweep I had last time which was frankly traumatising

Here's the odd thing. Turned up at the appointment ready to fight, only to find today's consultant already primed to convince me I should be induced, asap, like yesterday even. Funny isn't it how they all have different opinions. This one was citing the research paper Betty linked to as support for her argument. Always nice when the professionals agree with you

PIL are here, and being their usual kind selves. It is such a relief to know that the only thing I have to worry about now is what snacks to take in my hospital bag (suggestions welcome, last time I took flapjacks. Such a bad idea, they made me sick). I think underneath it all DH and I have both been ridiculously stressed about how to manage getting me to hospital, with a small toddle in tow, as the atmosphere is much calmer now they are here i.e. no one has bitten anyone's head off, and much less caffeine has been consumed.

Plonky good luck with ttc. I look forward to handing over the up-duffed baton in the very near future.

Everyone else, ,wave.

That's excellent news worse! it sounds like you're on the runway so to speak and night evade induction anyway!

Snacks wise I've no good advice. I brought everything up during early labour and didn't eat for another 24 hours. I attempted a few jelly babies but they all got spat out during contractions. Sweets + gas and air = cooking hazard.

Gosh I'm so excited for you! But can I have that bloody baton now please?!

Good god autocorrect is the bane of my MN life.

Glad you got the induction worse. If you are talking about snacks after birth you may want peanut butter I was able to eat everything I had gone off straight after the birth.

plonky please don't drive yourself mad and spend all your dollars on sticks. One morning you will wake up knowing you are pregnant, you will feel different.

You know for all I care dh can go back. He is annoying me and we are struggling to communicate effectively. Grrrr.

Yummy that's the oddest thing about having a DH that travels. When they are away you miss them, but the second they get back they mess up your routine, create a load of stress and mess and generally drive you up the wall. I found that. Everyone I know with a similar set up finds it. It'll settle after a day or two, I promise.

I was after snacks during labour really, as after the birth I was happy to eat anything. During though everything made me sick, even glucose tablets. So far I've got apple juice, lucozade and caramac chocolate. No logic other than I like them, they contain sugar, and they don't really require eating as such.

Plonky agree, hold off on the sticks until you are at least 5 days late. You'll go mad otherwise!

I probably ought to go to bed, so night all.

Dunno about snacks during labour. I had my curry in very early labour, plenty of tea the next day while labour slowly progressed, was in too much pain by the time I reached the hospital to eat anything, demolished a packet of fig rolls after the pethidine wore off.

Plonk you can get pregnancy tests on amazon, £2.60 or so for fifteen, they do the job but don't have the plastic case round the strip. I've got twenty eight of them in a drawer in the bathroom. Could send you them if you like because it doesn't look like I'm going to need them.

Stormy, I wondered how you were doing. Just wanted to say that while I know it's all a bit shit now, and that's fair enough, someone as bright, erudite and funny as you will be able to find someone else. And if you more kids then I am sure you'll find someone who wants that too. You have loads of time still.
And go Aorse!

Worse obv. Stupid app can't cope with latest iPhone upgradeso can't review last line of text! Stoopid!