March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Awesome fundraising there, Plonk. Is it horribly tactless or am I allowed to say it's nice to see some good coming from something so dreadful?

The man managed to have a migraine on Tuesday, and stayed at home in bed. Rather annoying, as I think I ovulated on Tuesday. Someone remind me how long eggs live for.

Not much to report here except ever-increasing language skills. Requests come with an unprompted please, and she's worked out you pluralise by adding an s. And we've just had an epic and very lengthy tantrum because the library's closed.

Yummy how many nights until DH comes home? I'm glad to hear you sounding a bit more chipper.

Stormy that's not an inappropriate comment in the slightest - it's the whole reason they did it, actually.
You have pluralisation! Wow! DS has learnt MINE. And keeps telling me his green car is white. Though he understands that snow is white. Hmm.
Just to be on the safe side I suggest you dtd later. I've just realised how crap I am at tracking my cycle, and may well have been ovulating at the weekend. But who knows? I don't even know when my last period ended. Back to school for me I think.

Speaking of snow, guess what just started falling? Fartypants is missing it, she's having a crack at the longest nap ever award. Three hours and counting...

Ooh we did 4 yesterday stormy

We've had 0 today. I'm so pleased he was at nursery.

I think I must be a bad mother as I wake her after 2. If I don't she stays up partying to the wee small hours, and I really do mean wee small hours. I want a child that likes sleep. Appreciates it even. Babax... are you listening???

Talking is so funny. Today the toddle went into DH's office, looked around, looked at him, looked around again, and announced..... 'Mess'. Laugh? I nearly cried

Big news for the day (no, not a baby), we have exchanged! Yay! I am wavering between a and with a side order of dread. It is such a big job to turn something like this around, but, DH is on a mssion, and it has to be said he rarely fails to get what he wants. Always a first time though!

Pluralisation?! Oh, we have that too! Does that mean she catching up. We also have counting. V bad counting. One, two, tree, door, scive, six, nine, leven.... . Not sure what poor old seven eight and ten have done to offend her, but they are way out of favour.

As for all the fun you ladies are having... remember me... of the ridiculous bump, split stomach muscles and bad temper!!! Nothing comes without a price

Oh apparently it was 40mins today plonk . Glad I'm only just leaving work!

Worse and feet up again. What with one thing and another it will be a while before you get the chance much again! Congrats on the baby hotel though .

We had 20 mins of napping in the car. We didn't get back home until 9.30pm and refused to sleep on the way back home. It is a blessing really as it would've been hard to get him back to sleep after a snooze in the car.

Congrats on the hotel worse.

stormy are you sure dd isn't matilda? She is so forward with her language skills.

plonky dh comes back on Sunday. He will have a lovely cooked meal waiting for him at home. I can't wait.

Ds tried to say orange today but could only ayinge. We also had 'let go', 'uncle' ( in our home language) and lemme see aka let me see. Dbro tells him to say random words and ds keeps repeating it like a parrot. I am thinking we must've had a mental leap a couple if weeks back when most of us were struggling at that time.

Worse we wake DS after two hours as well. Otherwise it's bedtime histrionics. As a double whammy of bad parenting, we don't eat dinner with DS, so his bed time is our dinner time, and therefore sacred.

Well done on the exchange. At least that's done! Has a date for completion been set?

As for Babax, well I think you'd be pretty unlucky to get two very wilful unsleepers in a row. Although if that does happen at least you know you can cope with it, and in a couple of years they can get on with it together while you doze within safe distance. And of course you can get mega revenge when they're teenagers and "just want to go to sleep urrrgh mother are you mental" etc.

Yummy your ds sounds so cute and lovely. How's his eating coming along? Only two more nights til DH is back!

DS has just eaten two and a half imitation weetabix. When we got up he drank about 9 flozzes of warm milk too, and then had another 7 on his breakfast. And the PJs that were two inches too long back in October are now skimming his ankles. His cheeks are still chubby, and his belly is at the end of the day, but where has my baby gone? We're braving the snow today to do a spot of lunch with my mum, so I'm going to buy him some new PJs in age TWO TO THREE. FFS.

And the big news of the day is .. London had snow yesterday BUT it melted.

Ds has zero appetite but considering he is a very bad eater he has been in 2-3yrs clothes for a while. He just gets taller and taller. I used to have to roll up his trousers but not any more.

Enjoy you lunch plonky.

My plan of action is to give ds skimmed milk so he is actually wanting food and not filling up on milk. I am also thinking maybe its teeth related, he is missing daddy or he is constipated again and feels bloated. Probably all 3. Who knows.

Skimmed milk is looking likely to be best avoided at any age, yummy. Would advise a spot of research before switching. Too sleepy to remember any details though. Full fat milk's only 4% fat though, I wouldn't have thought switching to 0% fat would make a vast difference to his appetite.

We've had "owizh" for orange for ages, but yesterday I noticed an N has crept in there. So proud!

Eco you're a great mum don't ever feel otherwise.
plonk great news on the fundraising. Still feel sad when I think of your DSis and Dbil.

worse no babax yet??!! I am also in a bad pregnancy mood and I have way longer to go than you sadly....also the next person who makes a 'helpful' comment in the size of my bump may get a rude retort!! What is the deal with pregnancy insomnia anyway??!!

yummy yy avoid skimmed milk. You can switch to semi at 2 though if you want. Could you try offering him a little bit less at each bottle?

What else...wotta how are you doing? Hope everyone ok.

I caved in and gave him full fat anyway. Like all the other troubles we have gone through I am sure this is just a phase. I will not let this phase stress me out

Grandma just picking poorly d's from nursery about now. Temp and snot and not himself. Feel awful am not there but grandma will prob work magic (she usually does!)

Aww wotta poor ds. As you say grandmas are great too. You can give ds when you get back home. Please don't feel guilty I am sure ds is in good hands.

wotta poor DS. I wish someone would come and pick me up; I have the snot too Grandma's have a magic touch so I'm sure he will feel perkier as the day goes on. Don't feel awful, it's lovely that he has grandma when he can't have mum! Yesterday, I went to pick DS up from my mum and dad's, and he burst into tears when he saw that I was coming to take him away. They have magic powers, these grandparents!

yummy phases do nothing but stress me out, so well done for staying calm. DS and I are children of routine, and if something messes up the routine, there's hell to pay. Phases mess up routines! But thankfully, they pass. As this one will for you Not like til DH comes back, yey!!

plonk I love your boy's appetite! And it's the best getting to buy awesome new big boy clothes! My boy had a bacon sandwich, cereal, an orange and a breadstick before being carted off to CM, so I think we'll be buying new clothes soon too!

worse hooray for exchanging! What an exciting and scary time. And...any Babax yet? Come on!! SIL is due around the same time as you so I'm very excited for both of you!

As for naps, DS has gone from 10am-2pm before, and we even had to wake him up due to unnecessary worrying. But now, if I'm ever lucky to experience a napping boy, we always wake him up after 2 hours for bedtime's sake.

No exciting wedding planning at the moment, I'm in a bit of no man's land with it being a while off but...it's a year today. To this very hour, in fact!

But right now, I'm at work fending off a cold with a pot noodle, I hope it's a bit different next year. There'll be chicken on the menu instead.

An exact year Something. That's worth celebrating! A little secret planning might not be forbidden either.

Sorry no babax, he's being a contrary little bugger and playing on being very late now. At least that's the way it's looking. With DH up in Essex all day I have had to arrange a friend to be on call as potential substitute birthing partner, and nanny to take the toddle just in case. Not so much as a twinge though. That'll teach me. What I should have done is left everything up in the air, arranged nothing, and then you can guarantee I would at this very moment be mopping up waters, with the help of a not very helpful toddle, whilst on the phone to an increasingly panicked DH.

Still in 2 yo clothes here, so perhaps madam isn't going to be a giantess after all, plus general snot related malaises have taken the edge off her appetite so no bacon butties either. I wouldn't mind one though. Bacon is something I never think to buy, but once mentioned.... I wonder if nanny's on call do shopping

Hope all sick toddles feel better soon.

How are the sick toddlers this morning? Hopefully you all had a peaceful night.

plonky how was your shopping trip for ds? I found primark clothes for 2+ were printed with superheroes and other patterns whereas I prefer plain clothes. I love Next clothes and H&M too. Supermarkets clothes are great too.

I mean this afternoon of course. I have only just sat down to rest so it only feels like morning to me.

Afternoon all! How is everyone faring?

Madam and I have decamped to the glorious East Midlands to escape DH while he's in revision mode! My parents are spoiling DD rotten while I sit and piss about on t'internet so not a terrible day really.

Plonky I've just put in a big online H&M order because we've had a huge growth spurt too. I've always had loads of stuff from Gap but they come up tiny so as of today Madam is in 3-4yrs from there ! She's been in 2yrs for a while from everywhere else and I've got a load of H&M stuff coming in 2-4yrs.

Has anyone done anything more constructive today than us and our Nick Jr. Marathon with choc bics and new toys from Granny? In an ideal world we'd have had an outside stomp somewhere but it's freezing and I'm feeling a bit crappy and knackered so we'll try again tomorrow!

I've now forgotten anything I wanted to say to anyone because I'm on the phone so hope you're all ok!

Yummy I don't tend to go in Primark really, as I'm incredibly lazy and if I can't find it in the shopping centre I get it online . H&M is my go-to shop, so yep we're in 2-4 for lots of their stuff now, and I got him some nice PJs from Next yesterday. Skint now.

Betty I had no idea DD was such a big un! Wow, obviously tall like her mummy.

I've had a reasonably productive day, doing portrait photos for my guinea pigs the Somethings. They're really quite good models. This meant leaving DH and DS alone together for three hours on a Saturday. I think DH struggled a bit (at least, he was grumpy when I got home) and DS lost his Bunny. We have the PILs coming over for a late carvery lunch tomorrow though, and I'm looking forward to that.

Anyone else finding that they're constantly chasing their tail these days? Normal stuff, like eating lunch and having a wee, are just pushed back and forgotten until I implode with hunger or explode. With wee? That sentence got away from me somewhat, but my point is, does anyone else find this working parent/interested relationship partner malarky quite relentless? As I tap away here I can hear DH playing on the PS4 and DS playing nicely though, so I suspect it's just me.

Just a thought, Plonk - did you file a tax return? Am assuming HMRC know about your self-employment.

No comment on relationships with partners interested or otherwise from me. I'll just be sitting in a cloud of gloom in the corner. In case anyone is wondering what prompted the gloom... The man says he won't contemplate another child unless we're all living together. Will he put even the slightest effort into achieving that goal? Will he bollocks. Not sure how long he expects me to sit around in a sexless and intimacy-free sham of a relationship while he does sweet fuck all to address any of his issues. For the rest of my life, probably. Well sod that.

Stormy , I can understand his point, but not his apathy. It's a shame he has his head in the sand about life's responsibilities. Time to cut your losses maybe? I know it's not that easy, especially with dd, but seriously don't have another one with him unless he is committed to supporting you all. There comes a point in life where everyone just has to grow up. I'm not convinced he realises he has reached it.

Plonky tail chasing? I know it well. I don't know whether I'm coming or going half the time, and I'm not really achieving anything anyway. Combination of being tired and uncomfortable, and the toddle being a lively little monkey. So much fun... but just too so active!

Tax returns....no need if you've only just set up as it's y/e 5/4/14 that's due. I got mine in with minutes to spare. May (ahem) have forgotten. That's what happens when you are an accountant....

Betty enjoy the break. I think you have more than earned it.

40 week antenatal appointment on Tuesday, and I plan to go in and demand an induction. I know the risks of it not working, and increased chances of emcs or intervention, but I've had enough. Every single time I step outside into the cold, or need a wee, or get stressed, or tired, or anything really I get (non-productive) contractions. Not a problem in itself, but the constant tightenings mean I never can tell if babax is moving, so can't monitor change in movements. The first consultant I saw supported induction (and wrote this in my notes), but the second (more junior) one over turned it, insisting I had to go to 42 weeks. I really can't do another 2 weeks of this. I'm prepared to cry and everything

Quick toddle question. DD has conjunctivitis (thanks soft play). Doctor has given her fusidic acid ointment. It really does't work and her eyes are still glued shut every morning. Previously she's had liquid drops, not sure what, but they cleared it up very very quickly. Should I go back and ask for those instead or will they just tell me to pi55 right off and finish the course? I hate seeing her so uncomfortable, and surely they shouldn't be oozing horribly after 3 days of treatment?

God, breakup conversations are excruciating.

worse just a quick one- chloramphenicol drops- you can buy OTC if you don't want to wait til Monday (say they are for Your over 2 yet old ideally!) and have you tried cleaning them too with cooled water?
Here if you are over 40 (I think you are??) you can have induction at 40 weeks. Demand away. Wish I could!!

to everyone else, eco are you ok?