March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Hope babax settled worse. Good days to all, my lovelies. (OFFriday).

The good news is I have a referral for surgical treatment for the diastasis. The bad, the gp warned me that it is very hard to 'fix' and in some cases surgery can make it worse . The random aside news, Babax is back on the bottle as I am back on the drugs. Lungs are getting worse not better.

Would someone up there please just give me a f**king break.

WIBU to be getting more than a little pi55ed off with life at the moment? I know there are real problems in the world, but I've had 3 hours sleep, so my small problems are getting to me. And I miss the toddle. She won't be home until tomorrow.

On the plus side, the top of Babax's head smells lovely

Worse that's such a shame and a shame you can't have something more breastfeeding friendly. Did they go through the feeding with you? How are you feeling? Are they going to re-xray you?

Worse lots of antibiotics are fine in BF, was there a reason given why you had to have one that isn't? Hope you're ok, thinking of you

Thanks Betty. Sorry for the pity party, I'm feeling pretty rough to be honest. It's the cough that getting me down, it's exhausting, as is the wheezing. Honestly, I feel like a chain smoking 90 year old! Feeding wise the gp gave me the option of switching onto something a bit gentler, but I opted not to, as I figure Babax and the Toddle need me 100% sooner rather than later, and formula isn't the worst thing in the world. Ok so he's a chubster and farty with it, but at least he isn't hungry or being poisoned!

X-ray is booked for two weeks. Fingers crossed I pass!

PS the top of Babax's head still smells lovely

Right, positive happy news everyone. I've wet blanket-ed the thread.

Speaking of wet blanket does anyone remember the Marsh Wiggle from the Chronicles of Narnia? DH just doesn't get it when I call him a Marsh Wiggle when he's being a misery. Uneducated man

Shattered (x-post) yes, when I was in hospital I was in all honesty about to die at one point so they put me on what they thought was the best antibiotic for the situation. I could switch now, but my priority is getting better sooner so I've opted not to.

Ah sorry, my phone took ages to post. Here's to you getting better ASAP

Oh Worse you have been completely shat on lately haven't you?

What formula are you using for Babax? Despite being told they're much of a muchness, we found that some suited ds better than others (Hipp good, SMA v v bad). And infacol before most feeds for awhile.

But I agree with you, your priority now is getting your health back on track so you have the energy for your two. I bet you can't wait to give the Worselet an enormous hug later.

worse sorry your health is bad again. I think you have made the best decision. As you say your health is important so they can have you back in good health. Good news worselet should be back today.

plonky I totally forgot about infacol. We used gripe water too. See people do really forget the newborn days.

worse I know I maybe saying something completely obvious so ignore my post if I am. Have you been winding babax mid way feeding and after feeding? It reduces trapped wind and him bring up some of the milk.

Oh gosh all this newborn talk has reminded me of the nights of trying to wind ds and desperately trying to not wake him when he fell asleep during his feed.

Oh dear, reading back I've been a right old misery. Just disappointed I guess. I was warned recovery would take 6 weeks, so why I thought I'd be over it in 3 I really don't know. Guess I'm not superhuman after all. Damn !

Babax is on aptimil, ready mixed because I'm lazy. He's adjusted pretty well to be honest, although he does still get a crampy tummy. We're ok on winding. Belching is definitely his forte. At least it is when he's on the bottle. On the boob it's a bit trickier as he doesn't swallow enough air to make for an easy exit.

Worselet is back. Yay! Boy is she hard work though... I'd forgotten. DH is a broken man after a week of her, although to be fair she was unsettled and overexcited from being away from home. Having got in after midnight, and having done the 4am feed I figured he needed a lie in, so so far this morning I have done everything for both children and the dogs, including bathing one very grubby worselet. Rest and recuperation is the sole preserve of the childless!

Worse I don't think you've been a misery at all. You've coped admirably in the circumstances. I'm sure a good sniff of Babax's wee head strengthened your resolve when you felt low. you conjure a lovely image of DH and dd arriving home safe but completely knackered and slightly disheveled. Glad to hear t'otel's coming along nicely.

Boring Saturday here. Work and housework and it's blinking freezing. I am crossing everything that the Cambridges aren't going to use any of the names off our girl's list. I don't think we'd be representing ourselves very well if we ended up with a family of royally named children.

Speaking of I think I'd best jostle sir into his buggy in a vain attempt to get him to nap. Anyone else having more nap fails than successes atm?

A quick peruse of t'internet and I see poor Kate was wheeled out to wave to the public a mere 10 hours after giving birth. Now to me that seems a bit unfair. OK, so I'm fairly sure she wasn't left on the delivery ward under a freezing cold aircon vent with a very cold non-sleeping baby on her chest like me, and has probably had lots of rest, a warm shower, and the best pain relief money can buy... but still, unfair. 10 hours after and let's face it it's kind of a challenge not to walk funny.

Worselet/Toddle/small child who has grown up so much in the past week she looks like she could be starting school is asleep. DH is professing to know more about babies than me, and is trying to give him and extra 50ml milk which he'll just sick up, and I am going to bed. Sleep . I dream about sleep!

Stormy you've been a bit quiet recently. Are you ok? I know you are waiting for test results, and I've been thinking about you x

Come on Worse! No apologies necessary. It royally sucks your end so you must vent. Six weeks is six weeks for a reason I guess. Ecotod went out with dh this morning whilst I worked. When the car drew up I was out there like lightening to grab her and fuss her and hear her news. I reunion after a week must taste so sweet! Now dh is back with you and babax is having formula for a while could you use this as an excuse to head to the coach house and do some proper sleep? Your body would thank you.

Plonky did you get that nap out of ds? Are you out of that pregnant phase where you're worn out? If not pushing that buggy around must be tiring. It's been a very dull day here too if that makes you feel any better about the lack of rock and roll in your life. Work, food planning and shopping, baking and delivering election leaflets around half the village. Ecotod sure loves reaching for the post boxes and standing on people's pansies

Shattered.....every day you don't post I get excited! I hope you're eating lots of bacon sandwiches and enjoying some time with your boy now work is gone.

Wotta do you guys have nice plans this bank holiday weekend? A slightly bigger break than normal from work will be welcome I suspect.

Betty are any of your colleagues those in attendance to Catherine? Any educated guesses about what made her labour so different to ours? Different because she's pristine and mobile and smiling and not gushing blood ten hours after opening wide for a princess?

Yummy you're on the home straight now. Will stopping work mean you are up for ttc again? You can ignore that question if you wish.

Stormy yes do come and let us know how you are. I've been thinking of you too. How's getting farty to say castle without an R going?

Something it must be time for wedding update for Betty and I. Remind me of the date again please. Glad there's been no obvious belly blitzing!

We're ok. First weekend here with no guests or one or both of us being away since early February I think. It's nice and normal to be here. I made a huge choc cake during nap to celebrate. Ecotod is loving pre school and never wants to leave which must make it look like her home life is terrible! She's into putting clothes on dolls, feeding dolls, pretending to be called something different, trying to dress herself, singing, dancing and cars at the moment. We had one of those moronic questionnaires from the health visitor ahead of her two year check. There's one question that is a drawing of a person with one arm and one leg and you have to ask your child what it is. They should say something about a person. Ecotod insists it's a smoke detector. Ha ha. Fail!

eco I think we got a different questionnaire to you. We had a question where I had to draw a straight line and to see if ds would copy trying to draw a straight line but it was a big fat squiggle. In my eyes he is a clever little boy.

I am only taking a couple of weeks break from work then I will be going back full time. Eeek. There won't be any ttc until we buy a home. It will be selfish of us not to think about our stability before we try for another. I think I would stay at home longer when I have baby 2 so we need to make sure we plan for that. I am scared going back full time but I know it is my short term plan when I look at the bigger picture. Believe it or not working part time is hard work. It's a full time job squeezed into 18hrs.

plonky I was ready to say ds is back to his normal happy self and was napping ok but he had a short nap today. Ds is speaking in sentences a lot more so I think we had a developmental leap maybe? I hope he napped ok in the end.

stormy hope you are ok?

Eco we've had stupid ass questionnaire #2, as Toddlesaurus has been summoned by the old hv and the new one. It sounds like we have the same as Yummy, plenty of head + wall banging opportunities.
so lovely to hear you've managed to schedule some family time in. We manage to busy weekends on the bounce before we crave family time and turn down invitations, how on earth do you manage 10 weeks?!
I'm feeling very well these days. The scan was a real weight off my mind and I'm able to stay awake (albeit in bed reading) until 10 pm. Itchy boob strikes about once a week. So nice now to feel I can just enjoy the next few months. I strive to be very serene enjoying my summer pregnancy, floating around in a mumu being not at all hormonal and grumpy

Yummy oh I thought you were gunning for a career break. Fair enough, I understand certain jobs really don't work out on a pt basis. Didn't you fancy retraining? All these grown up decisions we have to make!

Worse I had the same thought. Poor old Kate. She could barely get down those steps! Nude heels, brave lady. But then I suppose when one gets to pop orf to one's palace and sit in one's jimjams for the next two months with cooks and maids and nannies, three mins of paps is a fair trade. Stops motorbikes following the car. Baby was lovely to see though.

Ds napped for 40 mins. There seems to be a real sweet spot between tantrums at bedtime (no nap) and laying awake laughing and talking to the animals in his poster (1 hour nap). Ds hasn't revealed a particularly maternal streak yet but does steal carrots from the vegbox for Bunny

Fartypants and I are both doing fine, I just don't seem to have much to say at the moment. Her speech is coming along brilliantly, nursery got her eating salmon fishcakes and vegetable lasagne this week, and she is also majorly resisting naps but struggling to go a whole day without one. As little as forty five minutes' sleep at nursery and she'll take up to two hours to go down at bedtime. Light levels seem to have something to do with it too. Her bedroom catches the evening sunshine, which is a bugger. Hoping for marvellous things from the gro-clock I ordered on Friday.

Five days until Mum's results. Prozac is helping.

Stormy I know we can't do anything practical, but we're here for moral support if you need it.

I love that farty pants eats different foods at nursery. Isn't toddler peer pressure an amazing thing?! The Toddle is the same. At nursery she'll eat two bowls of chicken curry. At home she'll cry and ask for bread... although there is of course that possibility that nursery packet sauce curry is delicious, whereas my home made version sucks.

Eco feeding dolls is so cute. Ever since Babax went of the bottle the Toddle has taken to feeding her evening milk to a toy baby. All well and good until you consider the effect of half a beaker of milk down its front in a warm room. It's not washable either! I fear said toy may be disappeared fairly shortly.

Lovely sunny day today, so I am making the most of Babax's nap. Isn't it funny how different children have different personalities. The Toddle would only ever nap in her pram. Babax will only nap in the house. Put him in his pram when he is tired and he wails. Speaking of naps the Toddle has completely dropped hers now. The NHS monthly email advises the cues for being ready to drop a nap are : Resisting sleep at nap time, or taking a long time to fall asleep; not being overly fractious on non-nap days, and taking a long time to go to sleep in the evening on nap days. It's fairly common to drop naps gradually, so falling into a pattern of napping one day in three etc

I'm ok today. Less down, more resigned to a long recovery. It's all about expectations. Expect too much - be disappointed. Expect little - be pleasantly surprised.

Hi ladies
Glad you've got worselet back worse. You must have missed her. Are you starting to feel better? Are you still going to express for a bit?
plonk what's your plan on names? The betting seems to be on Alice / Charlotte/ Alexandra - is that your sort of thing? You've got plenty of time....and you got there first with DS, right?! glad scan went well. How about DSis? How is she doing?
Ah..naps. We haven't had nap fails at home yet. But...he doesn't always nap at nursery , I always have to wake him from his nap and he is Super Grumpy when I do so . He had been taking 30 minutes to go to sleep at night but the last few nights it's been 45/50 or so. Not fussing, just not sleeping. I am about giving up naps now. That would be Seriously Bad Timing. What do you think ladies? Cut the nap right down daily (eg 45 minutes) or have a longer nap every other day? I could've done with another few months of 2+ hour naps really!!
eco you sound chirpy. Glad you're having a weekend 'off'. Hope you enjoy some family time. No signs of DC2 yet but he/she has dropped a bit in the last few days. Of course that doesn't mean anything necessarily!! Still 10d ish til term...,I can hope for an early appearance but not really holding out much hope. I'll keep you posted . I can also feel my divarication getting bigger too.... I am feeling guilty about perhaps not enjoying DS as much as I would like. He is, of course, lovely but the tantrums are just unbearable. I have no patience with them.
yummy are you back to the same job then? I hadn't realised that was the plan. Hope it goes well.
Happy bank holiday ladies. wotta hope you enjoy a long weekend for once.!

Shattered if it were me I'd cut the nap now so that he is settled in the new routine before the baby arrives. There is enough of an adjustment without adding that to the mix. Plus speaking from experience it is much easier to manage a toddler that is awake all day but goes to bed easily, than one that is fighting sleep twice a day. That's just wearing.

On the not enjoying ds front, that's because you are 9 months pregnant! I was the same. The tantrums, the pulling me down to sit on the floor, the kicking and wriggling when I was trying to lift her... all things that normally are manageable just became too much. I actually began to resent the pregnancy as I felt it was spoiling my bond with the Toddle.

Once the baby arrives it becomes easy again. If I wasn't so bloody unwell I'd be enjoying this stage a lot. It is lovely

Hi Shattered. Worse makes a good point about getting things settled for your new arrival. I will just mention though that both stormy and I had a period of chatting and singing at bedtime and then our toddles returned to 7.30 to 7 (more in stormy's case I think) and a two ish hour day time nap. I guess it's different for all these toddles! I can see why the timing is dodgy for giving up the naps.

Also, tantrums are bloody hard to deal with. Don't feel bad about finding them hard. They suck.

7 till 7.30 last night, actually. But with a lot of coughing and whining in the night. She's caught her first nursery plague. I meanwhile have been snotty since the start of April. Experimenting with antihistamines leads me to think that after three decades of easy Spring, I have developed hayfever.

I was talking to my dad about the terrible twos the other day. He confessed that none of us three were particularly troublesome at two. I had to point out that it was the eighties, smacking your kids was allowed; it was a very effective method of toddler training.

shattered I think it'd be easier and less stressful for you if you gave in to dropping the nap. DS would still go down for a nap now but it makes for later nights or middle of the night wakings, so I just don't offer naps anymore and he sleeps 7pm-8/9am now. As plonk once told me, naps are useful, bedtime sleep is critical! 10 days must seem like forever is no time at all!! How very exciting.

eco a wedding update you say? Errrrm, we're making the Save the Dates over the next couple of weeks (and they're amazing, I will put a video on fb!) and our rings should be delivered soon. Very excited about that. We've also changed the colour scheme from plum to red. Think red would look very striking at the end of January, with the light dusting of snow that I've requested. Your family weekend sounds so lovely. Our weekends always seem so booked up so family time sounds ideal.

worse the way you talk about the worselet and babax is adorable. She seems like a perfect big sister.

yummy how do you feel about going back full time? My work seem to be offering me more and more hours and more and more new responsibilities (and a potential new job title), and I'm in two minds about it. On the one hand, more money and a better job would be great, but on the other, I love part time. Hopefully it'll be easier for you to spread your work load.

DS looks so much like a little boy these days. Where has my little thing gone? He's very cuddly too. I love this time with him.

And I got a bit of pampering the other day. Got me eyebrows done and it was nice to have some down time. Also get to go to a spa hen do in 2 weeks. Wibu to demand time to myself for weekly spa treatments, just because?

*crucial. Not critical!