Just Mumming Along (Viroids 3)

[cookielove]

There doesn't seem to be any links to the old threads on the old thread

So here is thread 2 which I accidentally filled up whoops!

the current grad thread number 19

And just shagging 36

Goes to show how much time we mums have on our hands!

Ok quick roll call too!

Name: cookielove
Age: 32
Just shagging Dc: Ds1 Elijah, born on 13th August 2014. 5lb 4 oz. He is almost 21 weeks.

Wow, sorry.

I used to get v pissed off with MrWil not pulling his weight. He does everything about half an hour after he's asked which used to wind me right up. I fully intend to hide his phone this time!

One thing I wish I'd done is take more time for myself. I was a bit of a martyr I think. It's fine him having an hour long bath Popz but then maybe you go for one afterwards. Not to be passive aggressive but just to help you not feel bitter towards him and to have a bit of sanity. I also think if you do everything for the men then they don't see or appreciate what needs to be done. I think I was a bit of a control freak last time because I knew he had no experience with babies so hopefully this time I can relax about everything a bit more.

Fuck I'm really back to writing essays aren't I?

I felt the same min like I'd lost me & just turned into a milk machine. It got a lot better when she started smiling but I still feel trapped. DP has carried on as normal, he's down the pub now coz his footy teams on the telly but he is helping a lot more when he's at home after I had a rant at him last week.

Awww my little munchkin has a cold. Poor were thing. Sounds like a proper snot party up in her nostril!
That suction aspirator Works a treat tho.

Thanks for your honest answers. It's helpful to know there's other people who feel the way sometimes too.
There are classes we can go to but they don't start till Feb now.
So for the time being, it's boxset and baby snuggles I reckon.

Hey all
Totally know what you mean Min. There's a point when you just feel like an automaton going through the motions because you don't have a choice, and it can get pretty draining Once the real smiles start coming in it makes all the difference because you can see that they love you back The first time I poked my head into J's crib in the morning and he gave me this big goofy grin, I was sold!
But before that I mainly worried that motherhood wasn't what I thought, that I was doing everything wrong and that he was going to to die

I was definitely a martyr in the early days too Wil I felt like I needed permission to do everything, like I needed convincing. DH would be like 'I'm off for a shower', and go. I'd be like 'I need a shower, is it ok if I go? Are you sure? He's just eaten so he should be ok... I won't be long' etc
I'd feed guilty just doing something for me. It's all bloody hormones though isn't it??

This damn dummy is a blessing and a curse! J is now obsessed with sucking his hands, but he's crap at it from a soothing point of view, he either pokes himself in the eye or chokes And once I've got him snoozy, if his hands flail near his mouth it's game over coz he tries to suck, it all goes wrong and he gets pissed off! So we use the dummy which is better, he falls asleep, but then I'm waiting up until the damn thing falls out, because 50% of the time when it does, the hand strays near the mouth again and boom! he's awake! So I have to be ready with gentle hand restraint

Bit late but I felt like DD didn't know me, I could be anyone feeding her. Particularly as she was in NICU for four hours two hours after she was born. That has really affected me.

It gets so much better. Smiles! And stopping crying simply by entering a room and speaking.

Breastfeeding lady got me to do a feeding diary. This kid feeds a lot at night!

Hello all :)

Elijah is very similar with the hands, he prefers his hand to the dummy but when he is shattered the dummy gets him off. His hand keeps him awake. Although he is getting better now and it soothes more than disturb.

Can't believe how cute he is :)

We have my favourite class today, bumps and babies :) went to a new class in a church hall yesterday thinking it would be just be a group but it had religious undertones. They were really nice but eek I felt uncomfortable not sure I will be heading back.

My first experience of a clingy baby..
Eeek, how do some women do it? I'm a wreck by the time the husband comes home. She's currently upright on me, which took a lot of persuading on my part, so I've barricaded us around with pillows , blanket, snot sucker, dummy and remote.
Although how she's sleeping through the racket she's making, is beyond me!

Did you say you'd tried a sling Min?

Not yet, I'm waiting till the section scar stops hurting, hut I'm definitely going to give it a whirl I hope.
Which are best?
I have a bad back so need to think about that too..

Ah didn't think about your scar. I've never used one but a friend has lent me a wrap one for the first few months this time. Think they would be better than ring slings if you have a bad back. Then when baby is 3 months or so, probably a carrier is better. I haven't tried any out yet but Juni seems quite clued up.

hey minion. A stretchy wrap was fine on the scar for me really early on. If you can borrow one might be worth a try. But sitting under the baby is good for healing too!

Ring slings are a bit of a dark art so recommend a wrap for the first three or so months. Mei Tai's are also good.

Just been out for lunch and a walk around town. Knackered now but DD slept very well in the pram. Bloody hell, she's just done the fourth poonami of the day. What is going on?!

Has anyone's wee one had nursing blisters? DS has got one on his chin and a couple above his top lip. I thought they were a pretty standard thing but the mw was all "OMG" so now we have a GP app... Don't really want a load of antibiotics "just in case" ...

Is there a sling library near you min? You can go try a few and see what suits.

MiniWil had one on the bottom of her top lip. Noone seemed in the least bit bothered about it. As long as they aren't weeping or yellow I would assume they were ok?

Not heard of a nursing blister popz sounds sore.

After 4 days of endless feeding weve now had 2 days of screaming & puking after feeds. Health visitor came today & thinks Skyla has reflux so we're off to the doctors tomorrow. Poor little monsters belly buttons started sticking out too which HV thinks is an umbilical hernia.

Oh no Scoob! That sounds like badness all round

J has suddenly become a noisy, hand sucking nightmare at night! He used to feed to sleep beautifully, now it's 40min battle to get him to sleep with dummy whilst stopping him knocking it out with his hand. I'm sooo tired.

Oh Scoob the poor wee thing. What do they do about a hernia? That couldn't be causing the feeding issues? If it is reflux, hopefully it settles down with a bit of gaviscon. I lost count of the number of projectile voms down my cleavage in the middle of the night .

Oh no, sounds like he's turned into a little monster ness!

Hernia has to be checked at doctors 8 week review but should fix itself in time as her stomach muscles develop but every nappy change I have to press it to make sure it's soft & deflates. If at any time it's hard I have to dial 999 & get her to hospital ASAP coz it means her bowl has twisted & come through the hole.
The worrying really never stops does it!

Awww scoob, the poor little love.
Eeek Ness, hes testing the boundaries hey.
Mw just signed me off to the hvs with a final weigh in, she's put on another pound in 7 days!
Jeepers.
All ok though apparently. She's following the 50th centile, but still. .. Wowsers.

Hey, I've been stalking popping in to get some ideas about how things work when the little ones are here for a while :). I just wanted to ask cookie how many weeks was Eli when he was born? (Am looking for positive stories and I know he's adorable!). Thanks

zyla he was 34+1, he weighed 5lb 4oz (just got him weighed at exactly 5 months and he is 16 lb 5oz) stayed in an incubator for 1 night and then into a hot cot for 9 more while we sorted out his feeding and he was treated for jaundice! He is a superstar :)

Thanks cookie

Go Eli Gosh, he did so well didn't he!
I'm up with the nightmare child Aw, it's not his fault, but he's driving me spare. He's sucking on his hand 90% asleep, so I dream feed him. He's out for the count. I wait 5 mins for slow breathing, then put him back down in Bednest (in grobag). As I put him down, he stretches, and his hand touches his face. He starts opening his mouth for it, hand goes toward mouth before I can stop it. Game over! Wide awake! So then it's dummy in, and me gently restraining both hands til he finally drops off properly 20mins later! Now he's asleep and I've just heard him poo!! It's not woken him up... Am I a bad mother if I leave it??

Definitely not! If he's sleeping, I say never wake a sleeping baby. He will rouse himself when necessary.
Have you tried the swaddle?
It's the only thing which keeps Ro from sticking fingers everywhere. And it stops that mental startle reflex which wakes her up.
This one here has developed a new talent, namely keeping herself awake for 2 hours after feeds. Which is not making for a happy household, especially since she's quite partial to doing it after the 2am bottle.
Grrr.
I've taken over from the husband as he's working so were on the coach watching netflix. Typically she fell asleep as soon as she was in my arms... Just after he made her a fresh bottle too.. Oops

I'm getting scared with all your sleeping chat. I don't think I ever really 'got up' with MiniWil in the night. Just fed her and then went back to bed. I am starting to realise just how bloody lucky I was. Either that or I have a really selective memory.