Just Mumming Along (Viroids 3)

[cookielove]

There doesn't seem to be any links to the old threads on the old thread

So here is thread 2 which I accidentally filled up whoops!

the current grad thread number 19

And just shagging 36

Goes to show how much time we mums have on our hands!

Ok quick roll call too!

Name: cookielove
Age: 32
Just shagging Dc: Ds1 Elijah, born on 13th August 2014. 5lb 4 oz. He is almost 21 weeks.

Good grief, definitely let her sleep! Surely if you always go by the four hour rule she'll never sleep through? I know nothing about FF by the way but I feed J on demand, so if he's asleep I don't wake him to feed - he'll wake as soon as his tummy tells him to.

Posted too soon!!
I'd tell your DH gently to man up. Being as you're not BFing you have no special powers of soothing, and you have a full time job too! He won't get any good at it if he gives up and hands her to you every time.
Tell him it's for his own good, with a head tilt. Then lock the bedroom door

Lol, sorry, I sound right on my high horse this morning!

No, I know your absolutely right! I just feel so bad that he has to go driving etc that I offer.
Yeah apparently every 4 hrs for ff.
Fuck knows, you know?

I'm utterly clueless about it all.

juni, just me I'm afraid. No one near by sadly. It's making me feel very lonely in all honesty.
We live 2 hrs away from family which, usually is a blessing, but at the moment, sucks.
Everyone else in the families get untold help, free childcare etc, rests, not us...

You can totally ff on demand Min, don't have to go every 4 hours at all. Never wait for menfolk to offer as they won't. I did all that last time and ended up doing almost everything myself. Try and make it fairer from the start if you can.

So I had a girl this morning! Totally nameless and came v quickly but I have survived to tell the tale. Will post details another time!

Wil I can't believe it!! Hope all went well If you'd crossed your legs another day we'd be birthday twins x Congratulations again!

I'm gonna join in with the dissing the menfolk. After the initial novelty wore off DH has spent a fair chunk of his pat leave watching sport/ x boxing/ pissing about with his gaming stuff, despite me reminding him he's meant to be helping me/ bonding with his son... He does everything about an hour after I originally ask him to. I know its dull for him when DS is on the boob 90% of them time but AIBU to ask him to pack it the Fuck in!?! He's so unbelievably bad at prioritising...

Same here Min - our fam are miles away so not much scope for helping when DH is back at work. I worry about the loneliness too. I wouldn't wake her to feed either, now she's not so tiny! Her tummy will wake her up.

wil!! Amazing news! Welcome to the world so far unamed babywil2!
Can't wait to hear about her.

So I've had a bad day, I'm sat here in floods of tears. Nothing I do can stop her from crying after a feed.
She can't find a comfy position. Won't nap. Won't sit. Won't lie down.
I don't know what to do. And I'm all alone and feel like I just want to go to bed and leave her crying. I won't.
I just feel so very very shit that I can't help her.

Many many congrats wil on her due date and everything!

minion today us a bad day
Tomorrow will be better. Van you shove her in a pram and yomp round the block? Or go have a quick hot shower to revive yourself a bit. You're not shit. It's bloody hard and sometimes they just cry. xx

I had that day on Friday min Hugs xx

Bloody hell wil you sneaked that birth in quick, congratulations!

rpopz YANBU make him do more, DP avoids Skyla as soon as she crys, he's not getting away with it anymore I need help. He expects simpathy for sleep deprivation because he's stayed up watching telly to long!

min ill join you on the crying, everything's so much harder when your knackered. I've shed bucket loads this weekend if Robyn's unsettled all the time talk to your HV, what you describe is how Skyla was in the early days of the reflux starting. Sometimes different formula is all it takes to help them settle.

GPs just upped Skyla's dose of gaviscon as the doc last week never weighed her & didn't prescribe enough keeping fingers crossed it works.

Hell yeah to that! You stayed up til 1am watching telly and now you're tired?? Well boo fucking hoo
They're just a bit shit at realising life is gonna change. But for those FFing, there's no reason why they shouldn't be working as hard as you.
Min, dare I ask, have you tried a dummy? I was dead against, but it's been a godsend when J has been inconsolable, I'd have gone mad without. We caved at about 4 weeks after a couple of nights of screaming unless I let him feed constantly. If I hadn't, then my nipples would have fallen off or we would have gone deaf!

Wil!! Congrats!!! Lovely news, can't wait to hear all about it! Xx

WTF is it with these men staying up late watching telly then booing about being tired?! Fuckwits!! MrJ does exactly this, then lies in, gets up when me and DD are leaving the house and acts surprised I managed without him. Well duh.

Ha! Mr P did the tv thing for first week... and then I'd be dragging him out of bed the next morning We tried going to bed early together for a bit... Last couple of nights he's slept on the sofa and me and the baby have coslept.... Really need to perservere with the bed nest!!

Hope things improve now Furry!

Oh I'm all over the dummy, I too Didn't want that crutch but she's a hard sucker so stuck one in one day and it shut her up for a bit.
I cracked.
Got her in her snowsuit and frogmarched to the hv.
She wasn't in. Though typically Madam feel asleep as soon as she saw the pram!
She was due a feed at half 5, she's still sparko!
I ain't waking no sleeping monster.
The husband has her. I'm in the bath with my lush bath bomb and the door firmly shut.
I've been thinking reflux funnily enough. The hv thought colic but she coughs after feeds and hiccups a lot. I will book a Gp appointment tomorrow.
Poor kid.

Off to a&e.
I'm petrified

Shit Min what's wrong??? Hope you & R are alright xxx

Oh Min Hope alls ok xx

We're waiting in children's ward for doc. Explained symptoms etc to ooh doc and he's referred us to paediatrics.

Nurse thinks reflux and not colic, typically Madam is asleep.

Hope your all ok min

I think it really sounds like reflux too Min, hope they give you something useful.

And so it begins, the crazy sleep deprivation. Mostly due to hospital and not the baby though. I think her latch must be crap as it's quite sore to feed.

TBH Wil, I think even if the latch is good, nipples take a little while to get used to getting sucked on At least she's on, and hopefully your nips aren't too bad... Time to crack out the lansinoh! Must be nice to know what you're doing having been there before - I think BFing has been the single most confusing part of having a baby

Min - here's hoping you're all at home in bed by now! Do you have any solutions??

Hope you & R are ok min.

And hope that first night got better wil.

So, MrJ moves back into our room after a week on call in the spare room. I explain that DD and I will be getting up "early" and I want to be able to draw the curtains, put the radio on etc. Sure sure, he says.

Apparently she grumbled "so loud" this morning from 5am til 6am so he's still in bed and we're downstairs. Sometimes his work's flexi time is a curse. He thinks he's so hard done by but most people are up and out for work by now!

Ahhh sleep.
Id almost forgotten what pure joy it was!
She's been given infant gaviscon, so so hoping this sorts her out.
They were concerned as she has a rash all round her neck and to her nips. Thankfully is just late onset of infant acne.
She's been fed twice and hasn't kicked off yet, so fingers crossed that this works.
Poor bean x

juni, I wonder sometimes what menzfolkz would be like if they had to give birth etc

Good news Min I found the gaviscon quite good. Remember that dose needs changed as they get heavier. Glad you got some sleep.

I maybe thought the nipples wouldn't hurt this time round Ness, clearly wishful thinking. Not sure my first ever had a good latch tbh so certainly no expert.

She seems such a chilled out wee thing (so far, you can laugh at me in a week).