November 2014 - the one where we all get a good night's sleep

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Here's hoping, anyway...

Oh dear Ark. Tricky. I don't suppose you can expect a lot of him at the mo but got to keep yourself (and your car) going somehow! Good news re arrangements for the funeral anyway. Any chance of getting or paying someone else to do the car in the circumstances or is that a silly question?!

It would be a good £500 worth of work and it will just upset him. It's okay I've had my tantrum and now I'm fine lol! Going for dinner with the girls tomorrow anyway we've just changed to somewhere quieter and were bringing dd along. They all fight over cuddling her so I will get a bit of a rest at least. I sent DP a message after he said ' oh i suppose you're pissed off now' I just said that he will owe me big time when it's all settled down and he's less stressed haha.

Glad the funeral is over Ark Must be a relief.

Not good news here - its a brain tumour. Huge shock. We're in limbo for the rest of the week until the brain surgeons consult each other. DH has been minding the baby almost all day yesterday and today as I've been by Dads side in hospital getting scans etc. and I feel irrationally guilty even though he keeps reminding me its his child too.

Anyhoo, just trying to distract myself by MNing. Went to bed at 6.30 with the baby but haven't even the concentration to read!

Oh anna. Terrible news, heart goes out to you. Let Dh help, it'll be good for them to have time together. hugs.

So very sorry anna. Your DH is right about DS being his baby just like yours, so good that you have a man like him by your side in this situation. It's hard to find the right words, tight and strong hug to you.

Oh anna I'm so sorry. This years been a bit of a shitter so far!!

Oh Anna. How horrible for you all. My heart goes out to you. Try not to feel guilty, your DH is right, and as ladydolly says it'll be nice for them to spend time together. Look after yourself, try to get some sleep tonight if you can, and remember to eat tomorrow even if you don't feel like it. You need to look after yourself in order to look after your dad.

Hugs and love to you all. Xxxxxx

So so sorry Anna. Remember to mind yourself too x

to you Annarose

Remember not to spread yourself too thin.

So sorry anna. Thinking of you x

Thanks a lot guys.

DS picked last night to hurtle into his next growth spurt (on the exact day according to the WW app, hows that for precision) and didn't sleep more than 1 hr at a time till I gave in at 5.30am & came downstairs to the armchair (its one of those leather ones that rock) and rocked him in that and he slept till 7.45 then. I didn't though! If I stopped rocking at all he stirred.

Myself & DH are like zombies and there was some real gallows humour this morning as he had to go to work and I had an appt with the HV at 9am. I mean, of all the times to go into a fucking growth spurt, really!!!

Oh and since DS is 13 wks but 15 wks adjusted, I suspect its the beginning of the infamous 4 month sleep regression. Not that he ever slept more than 3 hrs anyway, mind you!

I ended up pouring out all my troubles to the HV who was sympathetic but no practical use as she's not in my parents area. But still, she was nice. DS is on the 50th centile for every single thing - thats my boy! Wonderfully average! Its actually a glorious relief that he's so average with all the stress elsewhere! Thank God he's still asleep in the pram with a shawl draped over to darken it and I'm tiptoing around.

Will be going to bed at 6.30pm tonight, needless to say.

Strawberry - you're right of course. Baby perfectly content just hanging out!

Anna - so sorry to hear about your Dad. I hope you get some info about treatment soon. Then at least you'll know where you are. At least ds doing his job and keeping you busy :/ Sending sleep dust!

I know never to wake a sleeping baby but what about if there is a swimming class you really want to go to?

Maybe you could accidently do something noisy that might wake them up

I've got the same problem cat. He's been really screamy all morning. Finally conked out mid shout on my lap 20 mins ago but we're supposed to be meeting a friend for a walk at 1.30 and I wanted to feed him before we left. Have cancelled this meeting once already, and postponed from 10.30 this am as her little boy was awake ALL night until 5 and she needed a nap.

I selfishly want to get out because I'm feeling quite isolated and need to have a natter. Did anyone else see This Morning's item on mums this morning? I'm glad I'm not the only one!

I'm going to load the dishwasher I think. That always works

I ended up not waking him up exactly but taking advantage of his stirring. As soon as he had a bit of a wriggle I turned all the lights on and said "good morning sunshine" all bright and breezy like. We then had the lazy song by Bruno Mars on while getting ready for swimming. Worked pretty well. He looked a little surprised to be in the water 30 mins later but was great in the pool. One of my my favourite things to do now, taking him swimming.

thisis did you get to see your friend?

thisis in our household caughing works as an alarm for DD, slightest caugh and she is eyes wide open.
Did not see This Morning, what was there? Admittedly I stay in bed till about 10 am when DD has her first nap and I get showered and dressed. Till then DH brings me breakfast before 8am and I watch Goodwife while feeding and messing around with DD. Don't know how I will manage to go from this to 6am wake up for work and commute next year...

Cat - we will invested in a baby wetsuit so we could take dd2 swimming. She only lasted a little while before her teeth were chattering - it was so cold. 29degrees and HV said not to go swimming less than 33degrees. Is the pool you go to warm??

Weeonion good luck finding a 33 pool even the hydro pools used here for private baby swimming are 31!!

We use local pool which is bout 29 n have a reusable swim nappy n a baby wrap n stay in for 15mins.

Hi Cat, yes, he woke up shortly after I'd posted so we got to meet her

We had two days of him sleeping ALL day on Tuesday and Wednesday. Yesterday the only naps he managed were before and during the walk and last night was the worst night in a long time. He barely slept and fed constantly. I wonder if we are starting the 11.5 week transition. I am like a zombie today.

Strawberry coughing works a treat here too! This Morning had an article on how first time mums (and all mums as it turned out) can feel isolated and lonely. They had a very brave lady on who spoke about how she felt and were then flooded with responses from people who identified with her. Interestingly also some calls from stay at home Daddies who felt that they were ignored by Mums when they took their children to playgroup and that there was nothing for them to do with the children during the day as it was all aimed at women. .

I/we try to get out as much as I/we can but I do feel these days when I'm out in company with DP like I'm 'DS's Mum' rather than Thisis. It's hard to be part of a conversation when you're the one minding the baby all the time. And isn't it funny how you go invisible to men when you're breastfeeding. Nobody wants to talk to you then! I use an apron when out so its not like they're out on show either It's a double edged sword really because there's a part of me that is proud to be DS's mum.....I guess I just want to have my cake and eat it, and I'm just struggling to adjust to my new role in life and make it work for me.

anna any news? Xxx

We must get out swimming. Will have a look for a pool today.

No idea what temperature the pool is. It doesnt feel cold when i get in. We are in there for about 20 mins I guess. The changing rooms are on the side of the pool and that has helped a lot because you don't have to go put into cold changing rooms which is the bit DS objected to.

thisis completely get what you mean. A couple of friends actually seem to have disappeared completely since DS was born. Think they now see me as "just a mum".

Hi thisis I'm going over to meet with the Consultant today but it sounds like they're not going to bother biopsying but go straight to radiation. Not sure why, will find out.

The main practical worry is that he's going to be discharged soon and he's very wobbly so I may have to move in with him, DH & baby and all, till it shrinks and hopefully can live independantly.

Despite being a nurse I know nothing about the practicalities/realities of radiation treatment. Anyone any experience?

Thank god the baby gave me an easier night last night - feed at 11, then only a feed at 3.30. Then he was up for the day at 6am which was frightful but DH got up with him so I had a lie in. Since Monday he's been up every hour so it was great.

We're going to buy No. 2 size teats today as he's starting to get bored with feeds halfway through as they take at 20 mins on average. So sometimes he stops after only 2oz. Then we have to try again half an hour later. We want to get as much as poss into him as he's 6.35 kilos now and needs it.

Hopefully if he gets a big volume in quicker he'll go longer in between.

Oh I got Freddie the Firefly yesterday - big success!

[Anna] I'm sorry, I have no experience of radiation treatment. My dad had cancer when I was 12 but that was a long time ago and treatment has come a long way since then. Sending you all love and warm hugs. Your Dad is lucky to have such a great family to look after him.