Sept 05 - Argh quick baby proof the house they are well and truly on the move.

[mummyhill]

New thread for a new month. Yeah I know I have done it a day early but never mind.

Hello!

Oh Mummyhill - I think all customer facing jobs will be taken by robots soon - no sick, no absence, no humanity - I believe Debenhams have already done this!

Sorry your missing ds wabbitt and mama - I imagine its very difficult to trust your most precious boy to the care of a man you've lost your trust in.

I'm alone in the house!!!!! I'm going to have a long bath and eat chocolate.

Simplyred, chocolate & a bath in a quiet house sounds wonderful. I'm very

Before seeing the film on Wednesday I have no idea when I last went to the cinema .

We saw the Devil wears Prada which was definitely a girly film .

My uni friends have just wandered off into the mist to their respective homes...

I'm afraid this post's turned into a rant - so all wishing to skip a Wabbit grumble (justified though it is) don't continue!

SR - and Mamama - yes, it's the loss of trust, and the disrespect for feelings that really hunts down your most vulnerable core and plays on your mind. Our boys (and girls) are so precious to us - I empathise wholly with your fears Mamama.

exP was just a little late bringing C home and I needed to pick Noop up from school - I texted 'how long will you be' but didn't get a reply so rang... had to leave a message and explained that I'd promised to bring N home from school... No reply... but he did arrive with C just a couple of minuites later. He was furious with me, swore blind that he'd told me a later time and that he wasn't late, told me to 'sort' myself out??? and proceeded to inform me that taking Conrad out for a day at a time wasn't working... he'd be expecting to have him for weekends (yes we're here again) To which I said 'well THAT'S not going to happen, he's too young to be away from mummy overnight' an argument for which I was told to 'GROW-UP'

Where is this man coming from - I hate him, I reealllllly HATE him.

Have since texted a note to say I was sorry the afternoon had turned so sour - but he's ignored this...

Please, Please, Please tell me I'm not wrong in what I've said or done. I'm not insane, or unhinged or overreacting... he's just so very, very unfair.

So I expect it'll be back to the drawing board and I can wait for the solicitors letter in the post requesting shared custody.

Apologies - I'm just so disappointed it's turned out like this so soon after our last falling out - exP is so impatient, seems to really resent having to adhere to someone elses terms and hate not being in 'control'. It'd been going very well. I'd begun to think he understood that, though he was having to swallow his pride, his visiting Conrad at home and amongst his familiar surroundings was in C's best interests. God I'm a fool.

Oh Wabbit, I'm so sorry it all ended up like that. I feel the same way you do - I think our boys are far too little to be away from their mummies overnight - the 4 hours ds will be away from me tomorrow is too long for me anyway (but that's about my own control issues - I'm sure ds will be fine without me). I don't know if you're still up - I'm 6 hrs behind you so I'll be around for a while.

{Hugs}

Just e-mailed you Mamama

Thankyou so much for your concern - I'm just waiting for a very late wash to finish so i can put it in the drier as DD want's to wear some of it's contents tomorrow - I should have put it on ages ago whilst my friends were still about but we were very engrossed in conversation!

My computer's updating so will switch off in a few moments but I'll be here for another 20 mins or so - can't sleep anyway

To occupy myself I've uploaded a pic of C babywabbit

Oh, what a lovely picture of babywabbit

Sorry I missed you Wabbit. At least, I hope I missed you - it's 5:25am in the UK so I'm hoping you are fast asleep...

Morning

Hope you got some sleep Wabbitt - There is nothing at all wrong with your feelings and reasonings. Sadly this is how some people like to push for their own way - by trying to undermine and belittle (sp?) I'm quiet sure he came back late deliberatly (subconciously or not) so he could weasle the weekends on you - with the threat of trouble if you don't agree. He's a nasty bully. Thinking of you xx

Lovely picture Wabbitt - what a darling x

Alice says hello .

Wabbit - so sorry that your ex-p is being such an idiot. Of course it's in C's best interests to be in familiar surroundings. I def think he's too young to be staying overnight with him.
Mummyhill - hope the disciplinary went as well as could be expected. Think it's absurd to suggest that you are only allowed to be sick for x amount of time - if you're ill, you're ill. I wonder how many people in management get this treatment if they have a bad year for sickness. And let's face it - parents will tend to pick up every bug that's going because our children do when they're developing their immune systems.
We've had, in the last 3 weeks, diarrhoea, colds, fluey thing, and Tom had an appalling post-viral breakout of hives ALL over his body (his poor willy ), Getting better but sure the next illness is just around the corner - it's that time of year after all.
Best wishes to everyone else. Time to get on with breakfast.

Morning all

Wabbitt - Rant justified hun. C is deffo to young to be away at night. exp should wait till he can at least talk a bit and tell you if he is happy or not before getting access for a whole weekend. Even then he should respect C's wishes. You need to be sure that if C wants to come home he will bring him home not tough it out iyswim.

mamma - Wishing you strenth to deal with the 4 hrs your little one will be away.

Pooka - Sorry to hear ds has been poorly.

at those going to cinema etc.

Re disciplinary. They are requesting my med notes to see if there is anything else that can be done to treat my migraines to try and support me and help me meet my contractual requirements. As they do not feel it is right to give me a warning or take any further formal action but do think that they need to do something. I need to get an appointment with the gp before he writes the report and ask to see a copy before it goes of the company though. I don't think they are going to get the information they are expecting as I do not run to gp everytime I have a migraine as I don't feel it is necessary to waste his time.

Thankyou for your words of support - and MH i'll make a note of your suggestion. Still no contact from exP

I hope your company doesn't kick up a stink after all MH

Pooka - sympathise with the constant merry-go-round of minor illnesses {hug} to Tom

Hello to everyone else

I'm off to my sisters for a night, she's very calming and able to put things into perspective. I love my family

see you all xxx

Mamama I'll mail you from sisters tonight x

Morning everyone (afternoon for you)

Sounds like lots of bugs are going round - ds has a horrible cold and was up half the night coughing. The hives sound awful, Pooka, hope everything is getting better.

Glad to hear that no further action is being taken, MH. Hope the records they get are satisfactory for them and that they leave you alone to get on with your job in peace.

Wabbit - hope you got some sleep

Hello!

Hope your sister is helping you chill out wabbitt.

Also hope your day was ok Mama.

Think I shall get ready for bed - been out all day and yesterday evening - and I'm exhusted!

Hello all

SHould mention that while the hives were hideous, Tom seemed absolutely fine, and 2 days of piriton and they disappeared one by one, in the order they appeared. Am amazed that somethng so awful looking can be so easily got rid of, with no discomfort!

Anyway - weekend so have been catching up on stuff, buying paint for the extension, choosing light fittings and so on. Just never seem to have the time during the week because so busy (and have 2 kids in tow!). Boring stuff really.

Time for bed!

Morning!

Glad Tom's hives are all gone Pooka.

See you later - off to Peterborough! dh is running in the half marathon....

Enrolled ds at a saturday morning school yesterday - Kip Mcgrath. They accessed him as definately not dyslexic - has the exact right readind age - but is a couple of months behind in his reading in writting - so hes going to have a littel extra support in the lead up to the stats they sit in May for 7 year olds.... But I was pleased - he is a lovely boy

Rachel says hello - she is demanding breccy so must go!

Ohhh I'm a sleep still - hes a little behind in his spelling and writting!

Hello hello echo echo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OOooooh it's spooky in here when it's so quiet!!!

Had a lovely over night stay with dear Sister - off to hunt down a specialist family Lawyer tomorrow...

SR - glad it went well with ds's assessments I'm sure his writing will come on in leaps and bounds in the next few years... it's not in his understanding or in how he's able to compute the written word... just the execution lots of crafty and creative play will really help.

Poor little spotty Tom - that he's so much better now

Night night all x

Morning!

Colds! More colds here! urrrrrrrrr!

Morning .

Afternoon now! Hellooo

Sorry to hear about the colds SR

Hello Wabbitt hello Idris - I've got loads to do - so what I'm I doing I'm MN-ing!!!!

I am too SR - Conrad's asleep on my lap and has my left hand clamped to the keyboard so I can't stop now!!!