October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

[fedupofrainydays]

Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

fatpony I sometimes put him down then he decides actually he wants the other! Or I get his legs out his babygro / tickle his feet.

Hmmm goats I know what you mean. Weird spotty / stripy things. I think dress code may actually be cocktail dresses so not sure a splatty / kaleidoscope tunic bits the bill . I think I need to find a semi glam wrap dress if such exists.

frau I would just reply with sometime like "it was ok, pretty typical for a 10 day old" and leave it at that! My FIL is the same... With ds1 - always asking when he will be doing the next development thing. Ie when he started crawling... "Oh when will he be walking" when he started eating "oh when can be eat by himself". Totally does my nut. And for what it's worth, a two year old not sleeping through is not normal!

yellow happy birthday to Jonas!

Re projectile vomming - we have that too. Just got it all down chest and collecting in my bra and DH got it last night. I think it's ok really if getting enough wet and dirty nappies and putting on weight as the sick is just the excess.unless they are really uncomfy with it

mrsb87 one of the other pieces if advise I had about fast flow was to express just a little first so the initial let down was done, then let baby latch on? Might be worth a try!

Ugh. Could it be true - could I really be having my period???? Not had bleeding for about two weeks and now blood when wipe. Really?? Hoping just some residual bleeding.

frau my parents and MIL have consistently asked how DS has been sleeping in every single conversation for the last 2 years! When I can't be bothered to face the disappointed/disapproving faces that are a response to the truth (he still sleeps in our bed with us) I just lie. They seem happier with fiction than fact.

Probably not what you want to hear but DS was a "happy chucker" from about 5 weeks old to 5 months. He was EBF and I tried all the tricks of burping after 5 mins (just annoyed him), burping between sides, feeding lying down (which is great) etc but he just kept doing it. He was stacking on weight (after an initial failure to thrive scare) so I just put up with it. We did see a children's chiropractor when he was 4/5 months old and maybe that helped (he was born via cs and the theory was that having an adjustment might help) but he suddenly stopped at 5.5 months old, right before a 24 hour flight from Australia to the UK (on my own!)

Early on (during the failure to thrive drama) we also ruled out pyloric stenosis while in hospital. I don't want to mention it to scare anybody and it is rare but might be worth looking at just in case

Thanks ladies for being so reassuring. Also have keeping interested/awake problems too after about 5-7 mins. Am keeping to one boob per feed as then the hind milk is drunk too. Easier than constant swapping I found!

Fatpony only the same way. And a nappy change between boobs is the only way I can keep little one awake!

Fedup, could you please tell my ds that it's not normal to be waking in the night please. He clearly didn't get that memo!

We do the mid feed nappy change too. certainly wakes his up! He hates it!

On the both boob thing - strip her off, tickle her, mid feed nappy change. Usual tricks. Mostly she wants both.

waves hello, sits down and starts expressing

So pleased everyone is talking feeding here. I've had no colostrum and today for the first time have managed to get a tablespoon (I think) of milk so far.

For sleepy babies like mine, I too am now undressing and changing nappy mid feed. Seems to be working here.

Re MIL issues Frau, I too am unfortunately not blessed with a lovely tactful mil & we have issues. I have refused to see her for months now. Baby is born, comes over and says: he looks just like you when you're cross. Wtf does that mean?

So my problem is that I said I wanted 2weeks alone time with my hubby and baby. So far his kids, his family and now his friends want to come round. I don't begrudge his kids, we want us to be a family and I know hubby wants to show bubba off. However I am getting upset that I just want some us time and am not getting it/ hubby is doing what suits him regardless of my wishes.
How would you handle this?

xx

I can sympathize miss, paternity leave here whizzed by and I felt we had very little time just the 3 of us. It's worse now DP is back at work cos he accepts anyone's request to come visit, meaning they come over half hour later than promised, drink tea for an hour, quiz me about feeding while offering pearls of wisdom, then leave once baby starts howling meaning it's a good hour before my hands are free to eat.

I know I sound like an ungrateful cow but it's too much. Added to which his kids are staying Fri and Sat this weekend which means retreating to bedroom to cry and trying extra hard not to snap at kids.due to sleep deprivation.

Needed to rant, no advice other than to put foot down about visitors. I've said tonight is just the 3 of us and I need a cuddle as part of that.

Last night I had to break out the nipple shields as the latching on pain was awful and making me dread feeding. They've offered some relief - hooray

Sorry bump! My neighbours 3 year old is worse than her 7 month old. So there is not a rule book. But I guess they shouldn't really be waking for food in the night at 2 which is what I meant!

But happy to have a word with them about their 'abnormal' behaviour!!

Right, so, I may well disappear for a while because we just exchanged contracts and are set to move house next week - boom! It was supposed to happen two months ago but has finally worked out. So, I'll be packing and probably won't have internet for a while!

Good luck madam hope it all goes smoothly ?

Had final visit fro mw today and violet had surpassed her birthweight which isn't surprising as she is constantly on my boob.
We registered her birth aswell today.

Well, apart from the shaky start with the ILs in the living room when we got home from hospital, it's been a really lovely 2 weeks with boyfriend off on paternity leave. We've stayed in bed in the mornings until really late, just doing cuddles and stuff... giving each of us time to have a soak in the bath, then either one of us cooking a lovely brunch, or we've been out for lunch a few times, been to the pub etc. Sat around the rest of the day watching telly while 'small' basically cluster feeds all afternoon, then I've gone to bed at 9 without the baby - he brings her in at 10.30 or 11 for a feed then she and I get into our groove for the night. Boyfriend's been sleeping in the spare room, which has been totally fine - he gets some sleep, baby and I like I say, getting into a groove with support if I yell for it, and then he comes in for cuddles at 7.30 or whenever she wakes up and first shouts. We've not really seen many people at all until yesterday.

Problem is that we've barely put her down during the day - meaning that next week I'm going to have to start training her to be in a bouncy chair or sleep in the Sleephead downstairs, which she hasn't had to do yet. Done small 10 minute bits, but erk... I'm not going to get much done next week. We just went and bought loads of ready meals from M&S that I can have in the freezer, and eat with one hand. Just until I get things a little more sorted. I've used the sling where possible to get her used to that too.

Baby is a loud breather, wondering whether it's trapped wind or mucus. Then today we had a "shit she's gone quiet on your shoulder, is she breathing?" moment. Scared the shit out of us, will keep an eye on her when burping from now on!!
On the plus side she seemed to enjoy her bath today and the last bit of stump fell off

goats that sounds like the perfect paternity leave, one I've not managed to have with either birth! First one things kept going wrong that DH had to fix including car and leaks in rental flat. This time it was all about special care and builders! You will be fine next week - just have no expectations and you will be fine. Sounds like you are prepare so it's all good.

Goats sounds great well done on enjoying it and not seeing too many other folks..you'll be fine next week. Easy meals and not doing much is the best way to go!

We had a lovely (if mad) day chasing the 2 year old birthday boy around Glasgow transport museum. I love my ergo! Also, 28 days in, for the first time its felt like we've always had two kids. A very lovely birthday

We've had a really good day as well, DH says that he has really enjoyed his paternity leave this time and spending so much time with us just going about our daily routine. We went for a walk in the park this afternoon before collecting DD1 from school, and I felt for the first time that we have absolutely 100% made the right decision to have 3 children.

And despite the HV being so desperate to weigh DD2 yesterday, no one called or contacted us today.

Pip hasn't regained her birth weight at 10 days, and I think the midwife was trying to chastise me about it. Considering she was 50g down I'm not realty bothered. Bad mother.

Fourth night in a row trying to get Baby Badger to settle in the Moses basket and my lord but she is not having it. No way. So now I'm sat watching telly with her snoring while tucked down the front of my dressing gown and I'm drinking my first caffeinated cuppa in 12 years so I don't fall asleep. I am oddly nervous about this!

goats sounds lovely paternity leave times. We've had a gorgeous time too; after our spat about sleep the other day DP has been bloody lovely, really thoughtful and loving. I don't want him to go back!