October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

Been feeding and failing to sleep since 12 now. As soon as I put him down he cries.
DH hates me sleeping with him next to me but now I feel like saying fuck off and you do it rather than going to sleep all night and leaving me to it

We're having problems too, screaming on and off from 12-3am I think wind maybe? Can I do anything with the Moses basket to help with this?

Yellow I bet you're right there - we had Cajun spiced sausages for lunch. Rookie mistake. I drank three pints of water and switched her from boob to boob at the first sign of fussing. Seemed to work - she eventually conked out on the job and has just woken up from a four and a half hour sleep. She's very chilled out this morning so hopefully she's feeling better now, wee mite! Hope everyone else had good nights.

badger Dylan didn't appreciate me having curry last week, it made him a very unhappy bean. It took me having it twice to realise that's what was making him so uncomfortable. I felt really awful!
Had a bit of a scare last night. I was drying my wound after a shower with some loo paper and there was blood on the paper. Nononononooo! Rang nhs 111 and luckily because it wasn't oozing or pouring she didn't seem worried. I had visions of late night shropdoc visits

Morning all,

A slightly better night here last night as the crying and not being able to settle was at least earlier on than other nights.

Interesting what you ladies are saying about them being able to taste what we've eaten in our milk...ive drunk tonic water each night she has been unsettled, won't have any tonight and see if that helps.

Hope everyone else had better nights!

I'm wondering if my ILs idea of coming to stay for a week "to help" works along the lines of making it seem piss easy just looking after the 4 of us once they've gone home. I've cooked for everyone pretty much every blimmin meal since they arrived, whilst DH has done the childcare and they've sat and watched pensioner crap (Homes under the hammer) on TV and read the Daily Mail. FIL demolished the obscenely huge pile of dairy free cookies I'd made by Saturday. That's over 2kg of sugar in 3.5 days - I asked him to save some for J's party as 2 of the kids have CMPI and the venue couldn't cater for it, he suggested I bake another batch! COUNTING DOWN THE DAYS...

happy- our midwife recommended putting a cushion under the Moses basket mattress at the top end to tilt it slightly. It seems to have helped a bit for us.

yellow- you sound like superwoman, and have the patience of a saint. How long do you have before you can get rid of them?

They go on Wednesday! And my toddler is with the childminder that day so I can chill - well I would but there's a new boiler being installed. Arse!!!

Which jelonet should I get? The parafin gauze dressing? My crack just won't go away so am hoping this will help!

Ugh more blood spots this morning from my wound. dh wants me to make an appointment with the nurse but I'm not keen. Got to the point where I'm fed up of being poked and prodded around. I'm already on antibiotics, not sure what else they can do!

Yep Fedup the gauze dressing so you can cut it to size.
Gun it'll take a good couple of weeks at least I think for my crack to heal up but it felt gradually better and not toe curlingly painful from a couple of days use.

I found jelonet helped when I used it with my first. But Gun (and anyone else with persistent cracks) has your doctor ruled out thrush? Or a staph infection? Both are common (with the infection often following the thrush) with cracks that won't heal. Especially if you have pain in the breast too (could be thrush in your milk ducts).

Goats it sounds like you had excellent care - best of all worlds to have the relief of the spinal yet then feeling the desire (and having the strength!) to push.

Fed it is really annoying when the baby won't settle after a feed. I had to google the bed nest but I have a similar thing (a baby bay) and have been known to contort so that I'm feeding the baby lying down while the baby is in the bedside cot. Not comfy but can be useful as no moving them after they fall asleep. Also in terms of co-sleeping, a father's deep sleep isn't reflective of a breastfeeding mother's ability to respond to their baby (if your dh's concern is that you'd sleep too soundly to have your son next to you). It's why you keep the baby next to the mother rather than between the parents. Dr Sears has some good stuff on safe co sleeping. And now I'll stop banging on about co sleeping! I find I get pretty decent sleep with it though which is why I recommend it.

Right, in the middle of my first solo day with all three and dd2 is asleep on me. Time to get the older two up for breakfast and preschool (and the baby will inevitably cry to be put down!).

yellow you have the patience of a saint! I'm glad we asked mil to leave after one day, I was in a bad place and she was making it worse.

flip it's also my 1st day with 3 kids on my own and it's half term here! Also had a gp appt bad we managed to get there and back in one piece! I also managed to make lunch and put laundry on before v woke up. Had 3 hours sleep last night yawn! Good news at gp my blood pressure is v good so I'm weaning off the tablets fingers crossed I'll be off them by next week.

yellow I totally feel for you. My ILs are here and are doing my head in. They seem to be creating more mess than help. Dd is going mental and reacting badly with the situation. DH is trying to pretend that his parents are being super helpful especially when he gets an amazing meal in the evening and I'm stuck cluster feeding for 3 hours in the bedroom. The house is too small for that many people and I'm trying so hard not to have a go at my husband after he was so amazing with my hospitalisation last week. However he is being torn in all directions and looks ready to spontaneously combust. ILs not going until next Monday. Gaaaaaaah. Sorry - rant over

happy we put a block of wood under one end of the crib after she wouldn't settle and kept being sick, she's now sleeping like a dream in it (but not expecting it to last!)

Yellow I honestly would kick them out. My parents were mainly helpful when here, the few times they weren't I basically told my mum so but couldn't have done it to my in laws!

Yellow & MrsBad I am feeling your frustration too!! What is it with unhelpful family members?? They sit around drinking tea, eating cake, watching tv whilst we're cooking their lunches and dinners (well I am). No one offers to help let alone empty a dishwasher.

We have had his family here EVERY DAY!! And like you MrsB my hubby is stuck in the middle - trying to please them and dealing with an emotional me.

Now it turns out we're going to have his daughter for most of this week because his ex wife has suddenly and very conveniently gone away with her boyf leaving us to babysit his daughter who doesn't want to stay on her own (she is 18).

I don't mean to sound ungrateful - Im just finding this very hard having just had my first baby and constantly surrounded by his family regardless of what I want.

Hi almost out of space so new thread is here!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2220229-October-2014-thread-2-keeping-each-other-company-through-the-night-feeds