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October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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fedupofrainydays · 27/09/2014 15:36

Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

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Lulu298 · 24/10/2014 07:54

Just popping over to say "hi" from the due date thread. Hope everyone's doing well.

Had a question for you new mummies (and daddy). Did anyone take arnica tablets? If so, how many when, from when etc? Got some from the chemist yesterday, am due on Monday and wondering when to take them...

Thanks!

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fedupofrainydays · 24/10/2014 08:15

Hi lulu
Yes I have with both my births and think they helped. I started taking in labour both times.
Looking forward to hearing about baby's arrival! Hope you are ok

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fedupofrainydays · 24/10/2014 08:17

So tired I feel sick today. Envy

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Missus2ndwife · 24/10/2014 09:11

I want what Goats is having with her boyf! Lots of mummy and daddy time sulks

Guess I won't be getting our time after all... SD has invited friend tonight 'it's easier if she has a friend over' and I've agreed to have his family for tea tomorrow (he had invited them already, I'm just not making him cancel them although I secretly wish I had the strength too). Will I ever get what I want in this house?? grumbles

Lulu - I took arnica. As advised by Helios, 200 4g tabs at start of labour for every hour and then post birth too (still a bit achy 6days later but I did have 2 minor stitches)
I also rubbed clary sage and oil on my belly once labour started. The MWs at hospital were very encouraging of using both. In fact one even gave me arnica as I was birthing :)

magichandles · 24/10/2014 09:20

That's so annoying Missus - I hope you manage a bit of our time even with this.

Just waiting for DH to get back from the school run then we are off out to have brunch on our last day of paternity leave just the 3 of us while DD1 and DS are at school and preschool.

Good night here, had to wake DD2 for a feed at 10:30 and 2:30, she was awake about an hour both times then settled really well. She is a super sleepy baby at the moment (today is her due date) so I'm just enjoying it as it will definitely change!

fatpony · 24/10/2014 09:21

Me too Fedup, got about one hours unbroken sleep last night, on top of a stinking cold! Not feeling much enjoyment over the past couple of days compared to last week which was amazing.

ohthegoats · 24/10/2014 09:58

I took arnica from being in labour to now. I also used clary sage in labour - 30 seconds sniffing hanky with clary sage, small cup of water, jelly baby, bouncing in kneeling position in pool while waiting for contraction, hands and knees for that, then back to clary sage sniffing. Repeat for 3 hours, dilate from 4cm to 10cm.

YellowWellies · 24/10/2014 10:46

Has anyone DTD yet? My and DH's libido has returned, despite sleep deprivation, and I know you don't need to wait the 6 weeks if you had a CS - I just don't really want to ring the HV and ask that question alone Blush Grin . My lochia has pretty much stopped, CS wound is healing well, and Lil is 29 days old, we're good to go aren't we?

Me23 · 24/10/2014 10:54

yellow it's fine to dtd, just remember contraception as technically possible to get preg again 21 days after birth. With Ds we dtd at 3 weeks (vaginal birth. No stitches). I'm too knakered to consider it at the moment though physically feel able to at 2 weeks post birth (no stitches or grazes this time either luckily).

Grannyapple · 24/10/2014 11:08

Hi folks! Just a quick I from me...

Adam James Smith born at 1am this morning in pool at home. 8lb 10oz which I was in shock at...the other 2 were 6lb 14oz & 6lb 13oz...so was expecting another clone of that size, shape & form

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fedupofrainydays · 24/10/2014 11:15

Dtd? God no! I still feel like my Pelvic floor is going to fall out!

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fedupofrainydays · 24/10/2014 11:16

Congrats granny!!

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puppythedog · 24/10/2014 11:50

Congratulations Granny Grin welcome to the other side :-)

magichandles · 24/10/2014 11:52

Congratulations granny, bet that was a shock - glad you had your pool birth at home though.

Sorehead · 24/10/2014 12:05

Congratulations granny Smile

fedup- I hope you manage to get some sleep today and start to feel a bit better!

We seem to alternate between having a good night then bad night in terms of sleeping. Getting through it by doing shifts with DH- not looking forward to him going back to work! Still got a week of his paternity leave to go though so hopefully the good nights will become more frequent.

Does anyone else look at their new baby and just feel overwhelmed with love? I'm not normally this soppy, I promise- I blame hormones HmmGrin

mrsb87 · 24/10/2014 12:30

Dh has decided he is going to start sleeping in the spare room now he's back at work. This has really upset me as last night wasn't the easiest, Dylan just wouldn't let himself drift off to sleep after his feed and had a few sicky moments too. Dh was asleep for the majority of it and I only asked him to change his nappy and hold him while I went to the loo.
Am I being selfish? I just feel a bit deserted, he wanted a family as much as I did and I just feel I'm left to do the hard parts on my own Sad

Pregnantagain7 · 24/10/2014 12:33

yellow and anyone else thinking of dtd be very carful!! Unless you want a positive pregnant test when your baby was 14 weeks old like me! Grin Blush

Me and dp very up for dtd but it's not happening yet I thing the idea would be better than the reality as r only ten days!

All going well here had a very good night last night after a spectacular poonami and a big vomit.

Pregnantagain7 · 24/10/2014 12:35

Congratulations again granny (posted on antenatal too) Flowers

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fedupofrainydays · 24/10/2014 13:52

Well I've been to homebase. What's the betting I manage zero painting as R won't sleep?! Am currently sleeping in the spare room surrounded by other boxes, bags and furniture from our room and need to paint the wall before we can go back in. We now have new carpet to replace the one the builders ruined. Just need a nice wall now to match!

mrsb I actually want DH to sleep in the other room (sofa at the mo as I'm in the spare room!) because I don't want him to be totally wrecked at work / when he gets home to us. However he does give R and expressed bottle somewhere between 10 and 12 so I can't get some sleep in. Decided that works best for a month or so until R wakes up a bit less. I find when we are both absolutely broken there's no hope and we argue. This way I manage the night and he does the evening.

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FlipFantasia · 24/10/2014 14:31

Mrsb dh will also decamp to the spare room once he's back at work next week. No point in both of us being knackered (he'll be knackered anyway as he's out the door before 6am and back by 7pm through the week!). I'll get a lie in on weekends and he'll take dd2 during the evening (I'm not expressing but I tend to go to bed around 9pm, right after feeding dd2 to sleep, and then he gives me dd2 when she wakes up around 11-11.30).

Have had a great paternity leave and I'll miss him when he's back at work. The reality of having 3 under 5 will hit me properly next week! Roll on next Friday as he's taking that day off (Halloween!).

ohthegoats · 24/10/2014 16:32

Yep, boyfriend is in next door at night too. I prefer it this way tbh. First night she was shouty it annoyed me that he snored through it in the spare bed, but since then I've worked things out with Pip so it works for us, and as she changes we'll do more working out - it's quite nice really from a bonding point of view.

Would definitely be up for a shag if it weren't for stitches - we'll wait until they've gone. Already been some light fooling around, it was nice to feel normal.

Lulu298 · 24/10/2014 16:38

Thanks guys for the arnica advice. I hadn't heard about clary sage so will look that up xx

magichandles · 24/10/2014 17:06

We're FF so we've been splitting the night between us and sleeping separately as well - so one of us will go to bed while the other does the 10:30 feed and settles with her in the spare room, then the other one will get up for any night feeds. We then swap the next night.

This worked well for us with previous DC. It does mean we barely see each other though!

Captainmcgraw · 24/10/2014 17:11

Congratulations Granny! Great news.

I'm having a tearful day. I bf DD until 14 months and mainly really enjoyed it. A month in with DS though and I'm close to giving up Hmm. DS just feeds constantly - basically the entire time he's awake. I always felt full of milk last time but DS feeds until I'm empty and then instead of stimulating me for more just gets increasingly angry and won't latch. He sometimes falls asleep on boob but wakes the second I move and wants to start again.

I never felt pain last time but this time I feel battered from having no break and because he's quite an aggressive feeder - yanking nipples etc. I don't know whether he's hungry or just comfort feeding (could the reflux be a factor?) I also find I can't manage to feed constantly and look after DD properly. He screams blue murder in sling...

I don't think it's a growth spurt as has been like this for four weeks. Assumed naively it would be easy this time. Is he just a really hungry baby do you think? Agh cant believe I'm hating it this much after loving it last time. Give me some rational advice please ladies / should I persevere?