October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

[fedupofrainydays]

Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

Badger bloody hell, I've heard of cluster feeding but that's mental! Good luck for tonight. I hope you kept poking Babybadger awake today and popping them on the boob!

Badger - same here last night. With screaming in between it was pretty special! Sent boyfriend in next door so at least I'd be able to get some hours off today. Slept from 9-11am in the end. I've already had 4 hours sleep tonight, so even if it all goes wrong now I WIN! small victories

On the subject of boyfriend - today he made the absolutely serious suggestion that I ride my bike to the pub if I felt too achey to walk. Ha yes, riding a bike is exactly what I thought I'd be doing 5 days after giving birth.

goats you have me chuckling away at 3 am!! Bike?! Hilarious! And hope you can see Pip for all the boob flesh. They do calm down - my boobs are less cartoon like already and R is 4.5 weeks.
It's all quite calm tonight - I just woke up to some little snuffles and someone was wide awake. No screaming. I hope he's feeling alright!! Had quite a lot of obvious stomach pain and stinky puke of that curdled milk variety.... Not the nicest!

Another one here feeding all night. She hasn't stopped and keeps getting angry and screaming. My other two kids will be up in 3 hours time. I don't sleep in the day either as she feeds all day too plus have the kids so only getting 2-3 hour sleep a day no wonder I'm feeling so crap mentally and physically.

No appetite here either.
Badger oh my that's a hungry baby you have there! Hope you managed to get some sleep.
Ds2 is t too bad at night, tends to feed around 12,4,6 then 8ish.
I have noticed the difference in doing nights feeds this time round compared to having a June baby last time. It's not very pleasant waking up at 4 and 6am when it's cold and dark.

Last night was an up all night feeding frenzy, tonight we've had a 4 hour gap. No bloody idea how I'll cope when oh has work and I have to get up with ds!

Yawn 1,3,5 and 7 thank god she appears to know its the weekend and her dad can get up with the toddler. Feeds are lasting 15-20 mins but then I have to hold her upright for 20 minutes cos of the reflux

Buggerlugs I'm tempted but know I'll regret it. Also grudge spending the extra tenner a week on formula!

We had feeds at 11, 2, 6 and 8.30, taking about an hour to feed, change and settle each time, although typically now I'm not trying to sleep, the 8.30 feed took less than 10 mins and he's now fast asleep on my lap.

We've got a photographer coming this afternoon to do a newborn photoshoot, we got a free one for dd, so now feel I have to do one for DS too! I'm looking forward to the photos but dreading trying to get both children calm and looking presentable at the same time!

R keeps puking up lots - more curdled in texture. Anyone else got this?

buggerlugs I'm right on the edge of giving up bf the way things are going here.
I cannot be stuck on sofa all day and only getting 3 hours sleep a day. Baby has been feeding all day and won't settle in carrycot so even when she isn't feeding I'm holding her. She's also been screaming and going on and off the breast this can last hours. I'm supposed to be resting as much as poosible and not getting stressed as I'm on max dose of Bp medication so unless things change soon I will be switching to formula I need to be well I have 3 kids to look after.

Hefner we have ours booked for Friday. How we are going to be dressed and ready for 9.30 I have no idea!!!
Fed up yes, ds2 is a much sickier baby than ds1. Even if I keep him upright after a feed. Sometimes just a little but sometimes it drenches both of us. Sometimes just watery sometimes quite curdled. Was going to mention to HV tomorrow. He always wants to feed after it though.

Hi Me,

Your post reminded me of my friend who was on meds for high blood pressure after giving birth. She wasn't told until her 6 week appt with a consultant that the meds inhibit milk production. She switched to formula very quickly and baby was far happier. Awful that she didn't know for the first 6 weeks though as it was a bit of a nightmare apparently.

Do you think it could be the same thing with your meds?

me I'm on Nifedipine for my blood pressure after birth. We had a couple of unsettled days of cluster feeding but my milk is well and truly in. We found swaddling him settled him a lot better and he is sleeping better now and therefore eating better. I also had a c section too so the odds really were against us succeeding with breastfeeding.

Me I wonder if its your meds making baby fussy?

There are lots of wee growth spurts between birth and that big bastard six week growth spurt - usually bad nights here are linked to feedathons and then we have a good night the night after. Anyone where baby is comfort feeding all night - try cutting out foods like dairy, caffeine, soy which irritate baby's tummy? I'd rather have sleep!

Fed up curdled milk contents then comfort feeding after would be something I'd keep an eye on - its old stomach contents coming up if curdled so not just baby spitting up / overfeeding - any pattern with what you are eating?

I'm not going to lose the 3 stone I did last time BF / going dairy free as this time I'm a dairy free baking fiend. Today I'm making THOSE cookies, raisin and cinnamon cookies, crystallised ginger cookies, pecan pies and a chocolate cake - all dairy free. Its not just for me - the ILs are up this week and PIL has a habit of troughing my dairy free goodies so I'm making plenty so I don't rip his head off.

Maybe it is the meds. I'm on max dose if labetalol and amlodopine. Baby is very tired this morning she finally slept at 3:40 till 8 (she was up as awake from 9pm till 3:40!) then she went back to sleep at 10 and is still asleep. Wish I was too but OH has gone to pick up his mum so I'm looking after the kids.
OH will be going away tonight to pick up a car son won't be back until tomorrow pm. So 2 school runs to do tomorrow I'm worried! Also need to see go about my medication as will have run out by tomorrow.
mrs how is your Bp now? I just want mine to settle and come off the meds, my dad has vascular dementia cause by high Bp (mini strokes) I'm constantly worrying something similar will happen to me.

I really hope mil is going to be useful and not just sit on sofa all day doing nothing. (I've made sure there's lots if food in the house too for those that remember my moaning about her always wanting my veggie food when it's all I have)

Not sure if any patterns with what am eating but yes he does want to feed after the curdled puke. There was a fair bit this morn and last night I ate steak and chips.
I really cannot survive without caffeine but don't have any more than I did in pregnancy.
He doesn't seem that bothered by the sick though - he gets more upset with sore tummy. Might be related though.

Bugger and me how are you doing in the cold light of day? Hope you're feeling more positive.

Snoozing bub in bassinet, toddler napping - I'm off to bake.

me my BP is fine when on the meds, it went up slightly when I was due to take them or late. I'm going in for a review next week. Really hasn't effected his feeding though.

Can I ask how people are feeling physically? I mean, being tired is a given, but in terms of general recovery. I still feel massively achey - really as if I ran a marathon. I laid in bed this morning tensing each muscle and slmost evrry one ached. Each day it feels ss in there is a new ache too. Going out for a shot walk really is the limit. Hats off to those of you running after toddlers too.

Oh, and I do walk, I get an increase in bleeding, is that alright? It's not loads, just turns from brown to red for an hour or do.

There was something to be said for a period of confinement I think!

Goats bleeding should increase after exercise and BF so don't worry about that. As for achiness despite a long latent labour (9 days!), Lil's turning breech as my waters went meant I missed out on the tough bit - I'm a bit achy (don't know if its tiredness or a hormone change?) but nothing compared to post natural birth. Rest up. You'll be out walking before you know it but yes a period of confinement to heal birth injuries, regain strength, stop bleeding, establish BF and bonding is very wise - our cultural pressure for women to get back to normal asap is much more oppressive and misogynistic than the notion of confinement!

Just a thought for those whose LOs are feeding all night - are they unlatching / are you unlatching them before they get to that very still / tongue flick phase of feeding? It almost looks as though they've nodded off on the job but is actually them shaking down the fattiest milk - if they don't get this they will want to feed again very quickly.

I ached for ages after my first labour. Literally felt like I had run 3 marathons. This one I was probably achy for about 5 days!!but I was stuck in hospital so kind of like a confinement really.

DH and I are trying to move furniture out of 3 rooms up and down stairs because the carpets are being replaced in the rooms the builders ruined. Quite difficult with screaming baby and 3 yr old who wants to play / get involved. Once that's done though and the other carpets cleaned we are def getting there with finishing the house! Two big car loads to charity shop today too. Really want it all to be finished so we can actually enjoy being a family in our house!