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October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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fedupofrainydays · 27/09/2014 15:36

Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

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YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 10:02

BF in the first 4-6 weeks is hard - but trust the process - it gets so easy (like Goats sarcastic description Wink ) its just really shitty that you have to do the hard bit straight after birth before it gets easy though. Second time round is easier still. I can do washing, load the dishwasher, cook tea, play with a toddler all while BF - I couldn't do that in the first month last time! Trust your body xxx

BadgerInBury · 16/10/2014 10:03

TMI time!! Just wondering if anyone else is healing from an episiotomy? Mine was totally fine - barely even hurt - but suddenly 7 days in it feels tender at the wound site and a bit weird on one side of my fanjo. Kind of like the swollen you get when you're turned on, except I'm not! Think this might just be the healing process or the start of an infection?

puppythedog · 16/10/2014 10:10

I've been tapping Matilda's bottom without realising why it was soothing.

Matilda is feeding for 15 ish minutes each side, small break go again and then sleeping for a good while particularly on mummy or daddy Grin

Me, I hope you get some rest today.

Nolatch, I hope you found some peace of mind.
The last Gentomycin level test haemalised so another was done this morning. Waiting now to hear what's going on :-)
Bought Steak, Brie pate and a couple of bits for treat meals if we get home Grin

MundayCakes85 · 16/10/2014 11:27

Milk is in- nappy usage up by 100%! Feeding every 1 1/2- 2 hours. Knackered.
Me hope you get a chance to relax and as much help as you need.
Puppy fingers crossed you all get to go home today and eat yummy food Smile

YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 11:45

Badger sounds like healing - the stitches tighten at this point and it feels Confused

madamweasel · 16/10/2014 12:14

badger I'm feeling the same with stitches. it's not pain, per se, more an uncomfortable tight feeling.

Tmi: I was wondering about whether some of the discomfort was related to my piles. I'm on day 7 and most stitches are internal. Anyone got any idea when it might be safe/ok to start using pile cream? Or am i going to need GP to look and give me the ok? Don't want to start introducing foreign creams if it's too early.

fedupofrainydays · 16/10/2014 12:46

I would ask someone madam as I needed to use Caneston for thrush but pharmacist said was ok with stitches and it was. I would have thought pile cream is ok too as piles often bleed so must be ok to put on broken skin.

I had a feeding marathon on Monday / Tuesday pony and totally scuppered plans to get out and about on Tuesday. But the ladies are right, it calmer down yesterday and today - he was just having a growth spurt / getting my supply up. He fed constantly and felt like there was nothing in my boobs but we got through it and out the other side just fine. I remember the same with my first, and stressing in the middle of the night that I didn't have enough milk but as yellow says - trust your body as it responds and baby is just telling it what to do!

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Me23 · 16/10/2014 13:29

Thanks everyone, I know we are all going through the same really.
Violet was weighed yesterday and only lost 1% so she is obviously getting enough. It's just myself I'm worried about. I promised myself I wouldn't be a martyr to bf this time and especially not now with my health issues. OH is going to buy some bottles today. Me came to visit earlier I thought my Bp would come down more at home but it's still same as before :-( I'm hoping it will settle soon.

bumpbangbump · 16/10/2014 13:46

You need to do whatever it takes to be a happy mummy! We've just come out the other side of some serious cluster feeding. Felt like I may never sleep again. Past two nights have been lots better. Going at least 2.5 hours between feeds, sometimes more.

Oh took ds to the pils this morning and I slept on and off until 11am. I'd like to say I feel better but it takes a bit of time to feel the benefits.

Recovery question. I have a really tender belly button. Sometimes quite painful! Hurts when I stand up and hurts to touch. Anyone else experiencing this or should I get it checked out?

Also having a really heavy drawing pain when on the loo. If I think I may need a poo but then don't it really aches/hurts around the vagina. Strangely it doesn't hurt if I poo or wee but only if nothings happening! Normal or the beginning of a prolapse? Help!!!

ohthegoats · 16/10/2014 15:30

I got dressed and went to mothercare. Exhausting! Back in bed with iplayer and nightshirt within 5 min of being through the door. So much better.

My general undercarriage area aches far more than it did yesterday, walking around mothercare very gingerly.

porcito · 16/10/2014 15:38

I got told off yesterday for leaving the house before my 40 day 'quarantine' with my head uncovered. Grin I'm using it as an excuse to stay in bed for the next month. I'm actually dressed before 10am today but worried how little she's feeding. She's gone from giant feeds for hours to about 15 minutes... Anyone know if that's normal?
(My new favourite phrase...)

bump I get that feeling too, and when I need to pee. Can't remember if you had CS but my dr said it was normal after one as all the organs have been moved around Confused

porcito · 16/10/2014 15:39

Not sure how that affects the vagina but then I am in a country where new mums have to be covered up so who knows where the medical advice came from Grin

YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 16:22

Argh me, J and poor wee L have a cold / throat infection. Poor snotty baby - the joys of having a toddler big brother Sad .

ohthegoats · 16/10/2014 16:49

Porcito - I have no idea what is normal! It feels to me that Pip doesn't eat anywhere nesr enough - she's awake more than I expected too. Seems that all other newborns are sparked out or attached to a boob, whereas mine is sat there wide eyed, looking at us suspiciously, silently planning world domination or something. While farting, obviously.

YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 16:58

Goats that's probably because you went overdue - the later they arrive the more awake they tend to be. Prems are notoriously sleepy in comparison. Great to hear she's an efficient feeder Smile

YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 17:00

Porcito sounds like she was growth spurting and upping your milk supply and is now benefitting from her hard work by feeding efficiently. Every time the wee buggers set a pattern - they blimmin change it! Envy Smile

fedupofrainydays · 16/10/2014 17:20

bump does it feel like something's trying to come out?

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fedupofrainydays · 16/10/2014 17:23

Took ds1 to farm and soft play today with ds2 in the ergo. We survived!!

Does anyone have random and painful let down? Mine happens randomly and hurts! Thinking of getting something to catch the milk as it feels such a waste being absorbed into a lansinoh pad!

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bumpbangbump · 16/10/2014 17:24

A bit, like there's something there when sitting but nothing when I stand back up. Pain disappears when I stand up too...

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fatpony · 16/10/2014 18:15

Oh the farting cracks me up. He did one in the registrar's office this morning-had a very satisfied look on his face.
Today turned out ok-he slept whole out from 10.45-2pm and we managed to get him registered and have a lovely lunch. He's had two feeds since home and allowed us about two hrs kip. We'lll see what tonight brings....

puppythedog · 16/10/2014 18:58

Quick post. We're home Grin

Errrr2012 · 16/10/2014 19:03

Hi everyone, just checking in. My DD was born on Monday night following a very quick labour, (having waited around for well over 24hrs after induction process started where nothing happened at all, consultant told us to expect to need waters broken and the dreaded drip to get things going. I gave birth 4hrs later, not really believing that I was properly in labour until 30mins before she came out! Paracetamol, TENS and gas n air were all there was time for!). She weighed 5lb12oz so a bit small but a perfect little dot! I already have a DS who was born at 31 weeks by EMCS, he spent over a month in hospital and I was really ill too, so I've had a much more positive experience this time round. We're home already and, while I'm sore, I don't feel nearly as terrible as I did after a section. Looking forward to swapping notes with you all as the crazy newborn days kick in!

YellowWellies · 16/10/2014 19:04

Puppy stick the kettle on Smile

ohthegoats · 16/10/2014 19:19

The best fart recently belongs to me though... actually it relates to my birth story, so I'll just add the last two hours in here - won't put it in ante-natal just yet!

OK, so labour started really slowly last Friday, then did not a lot until Saturday night apart from keep me awake. On Sunday morning, after a night in the bath, I called my doula since it was clear things were happening. Went into delivery at 4cm on Sunday at 10am. Over 24 hours of regular 5 minute contractions and only 4cm, how depressing... anyway. The pool was available, so I ditched the TENs, which had been GREAT up to then, and got into the water. Couldn't get on with gas and air at all, it made me really sick - didn't even want to try it once I got in the pool, the water felt like it did enough. Things progressed pretty slowly, but consistently, with sniffing clary sage oil, bouncing in the pool etc. At around 5.30pm I had a VE and was told I was 10cm dilated and good to push. So, I pushed for an hour and a half - yet nothing happened. Tried lots of different positions in the water/half out the water/out of the water, none of which seemed to move things on. 7pm the midwife calls a Dr to check out what's going on - she finds I'm NOT 10cm, I'm 8cm, and now have a swollen cervix because I've been pushing 'pretty efficiently' for so long. Baby's head is getting swollen too, although she's not in any distress. At this point I'm pushing on every contraction without my having to do anything - my body is doing that expelling 'puke' thing and I'm just riding it out.

Consultant then told me that he wanted to give me synto for an hour to get that dilation sorted out - said it probably wouldn't take that long, but I'd have to resist the pushing urge until I was 10cm. Considering my body had no concept of 'resist', this suggestion was received how should I say it... 'negatively' by me. Doula and boyfriend tried to help me with breathing through them, but by now I was getting distressed by the thought of not being in the water (they wouldn't let me back in even while I made decisions), and probably needing an epidural etc etc. Then my mind is going on with 'then I'll need forceps', and I got shouty - boyfriend did a lot of crying, and all this time there is a shift change of midwives going on around us. I'm refusing to leave the pool room, or have a cannula put in, I'm also not managing the 'resisting' contractions very well, so still essentially pushing on a swollen baby and swollen cervix.

Finally at half 8/9 my new midwife (who turns out to be the consultant midwife), manages to get through to me that I should agree to the synto, that I should have a low epidural, should sleep for an hour or so, then we'd carry on. I get into a wheelchair and end up in another room - nowhere near the nice atmosphere as the pool room, so things start to slow down - this is bad AND good, since I am contracting so often in this alleged 'resistance' state that I can't think at all. Boyfriend has told me that I didn't speak at all - was just in mute shock or something because it hurt so much.

Didn't have a proper epidural thing, had a 90 minute spinal block that stopped me feeling contractions (and therefore having to resist them). Having the spinal done was fucking miserable to be honest - poor boyfriend having to hang on to me getting me to breath, me literally writhing around on the bed. He's crying, trying not to cry, I'm mute and FURIOUS. Nice. Anyway, the minute the spinal was in... all fine and dandy. We waited 90 minute for me to dilate, during which I slept for half an hour and regained my sense of humour. Then waited an hour for the baby to descend - during which I got most of the feeling back, although the edge still taken off the pain. Then I chose my favourite pushing positions from earlier in the evening, and ended up taking only 35 minutes or so to get her out. Minor tear that midwife sutured because I still had a bit of numbness there and 'I think it's nicer for ladies to know it's going to heal', but otherwise would have left alone.

Massively long winded, sorry - but I needed to write it down somewhere. I started off furious that it had gone so wrong on the advice of ONE midwife who mistakenly said I was ready to push, but I managed to deal with the spinal (which I'd been SO terrified of in advance), and actually the birth bit was calm and lovely.

Midwife had her day off on Monday, but came back in to see me to apologise. I'd made my peace with it by then.