October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

[fedupofrainydays]

Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

Welcome Err! Great that your dd is here and you're home already! I remember the feeling of exhilaration after my first vbac - up and around immediately after birth, it felt like having a super power!

Puppy great news! Enjoy it!

Fatpony love the farting at the registrars! Was it the one in Islington? Mad jealous if so, so many great lunch spots around there (memories of Bobby Gillespie holding the door for me after we registered DD's birth and then popped into ottolenghi's...).

Bump if one nipple is really painful then check and recheck latch. Some soreness is normal but proper pain isn't. To delatch, just pop your little finger into the baby's mouth to break the seal so to speak. That's what the pain I had first time around taught me - never worry about relatching, as worth it in the long run!

Goats what a story. I bet you were really glad to have had a doula and avoid a c section. The push thing is mad (I spent the half hour car ride to the hospital resisting pushing - it was harder than just going with the flow and pushing her out once I was in the delivery room - she was born 15 mins after we pulled up and I was just glad to not have had her by the highway!).

Flip-yes! The beautiful Islington town hall, never been inside before. We then toddled down to Carluccios for lunch and the little munchkin slept throughout so no anxiety about having to get boobs out in public for first time (had forgotten scarf at home). How is the little one?

goats - I also had to resist the urge to push in my first labour.
I swear it was the worst worst part of my labour, it was impossible! Mine was as I was 9.5 cm dilated or Somethjng and worried it would swell and baby wouldn't come out. So I sympathise and empathise, it was bloody awful!!

I got the urge to push in both labours before I was fully dilated. With ds1 I was pushing for over an hour at 8cm. With ds2 not quite as long and I insisted mw examine me again. Funnily enough as soon as she said I was fully dilated and I could push the urge disappeared!

I'd been resisting for awhile before I was given the false good to go thing. It's the mental side of 'we're going to give you the drip to speed it up, you 'just' need to resist against it'.. what the fuck? I believe I told them to kiss my arse. Loudly. I think the issue for me was all mental - I needed to be in the right head space, and that had been ruined - I couldn't get it back. There was a woman at the same stage as me next door when I was actually pushing for the end, and compared to how she sounded I just felt so chilled. The spinal and sleep were whst I needed for a calm ending with me in the right frame ofmind to remember and enjoy it.

hello all, have lurked on the antenatal thread for months.
I had my little man on monday morning following a precipitous labour (the whole thing lasting under an hour) and a rally like drive to the birth centre by my husband. DS arrived 3 minutes later in a pool to the shock of my husband :$.

congratulations everyone and enjoy your new babies

A question for experienced breast feeders: how do you get them to stop putting their hands in their mouths/on the nipple/pushing the breast away when they're madly rooting and desperate to latch on?

I have the same question for the breastfeeding support worker tomorrow! It's nuts. For now I hold the lower one back via the shoulder as part of my holding them to the breast, the top one I scrunch between me and her - it poos out but you might have them on by then.

My milk has come in tonight... bed is swilling with the stuff, pippa going nutswith overfeed eexcitement. I predict not much sleep tonight.

Wrap baby in a muslin pinning their hands down if they're so frenzied eating their own hands they miss the boob!

Goats good luck with the feeding frenzy xx

Mine has come in too, but baby isn't draining the boob at each feed so I'm uncomfortably full and she's not long fed. Tried expressing some earlier but they're still pretty solid in places. Am I better to leave them til she next feeds? Don't want to overstimulate and make the problem worse.

err this will be shortlived. Mine did the same and was uncomfy for a couple of days. If after he fed I was still uncomfortable I did express a bit off a couple of times. So if it helps you get more comfy then I would - just not loads as will obviously make boobs produce more. Expressing a little bit It didn't have a neg effect for me and settled down on about two days. Boobs were so so sore though I couldn't lie with anything touching them! And boobs look a bit porn star too!

Poor Lil's got bright green nose snot and breathing out of her nose is a real struggle , her bednest head is tilted anyway due to reflux, is there anything else I should do? I wouldn't take a kid to the docs for a cold / upper respiratory tract infection normally but given she's only

Phone up doctors or 111 and say you just want to check because she's so small. How about putting her in bathroom when you have shower - steam is supposed to help. And Olbas oil on a muzzy nearby? We all have coughs, colds and sore throats too. Ds1 is the worst. He's got a funny voice from his sore throat. R not too bad though, just sneezes a lot and snuffly.

yellow I would err on side on caution too as fedup suggests. Hope baby better soon.

Another day/night of minimal sleep. Violet was feeding all day only stopped for x2 2 hour breaks rest of time on and off. During the night she was getting so frustrated and fussy in the breast. She wa up for 2 hours at a time and she always wakes as soon as I out her into cot any suggestions? Someone suggested swaddling anyone doing this? I've never done this before as too scared of them overheating (only done it for babies just born but never in a home situation) I bought a gro swaddle it says to wear just a vest and then the swaddle but doesn't mention about blankets on top etc... I'm so tired I can't think straight about anything right now.

Thanks all. Me23 I swear by swaddling and a little sheepskin in her crib - it makes it soft and cosy and has, for both kids, meant I've not had to worry about them waking on transfer. As for overheating - given most homes are 10-15c colder than maternity wards - I'd worry more about them swaddled at work. Lil has a swaddle, long sleeved vest and cellular blanket tucked over the top.

Hi everyone! I've managed to catch up with this thread now and am plonking my still sore bits down for some support. Congrats to anyone not on fb who's given birth this week!

Baby Ben is 5 days old, was feeding pretty well, but since last night he has been ridiculously fussy at the beginning of feeds. He went all evening without feeding, fussed at 9:30, but wouldn't feed, then slept until midnight when I finally got him to latch and feed deeply. He drained the second side an hour or so later, then slept until 6am, but since then he's been fussing, then latching for a few sucks, then coming off, sleeping a bit more, then doing it all again. Anyone else had this/have any advice?

Few tricks to try - try hot water bottle in cot / Moses basket so it's warm when you put them down rather than going from warm and cuddly mummy to cold mattress. (Obvs take out bottle when put them down). Put the mattress sheet down your top for a few days / or a muslin that goes under their head so it smells of you. Makes it all more comforting. Put the cot on a tilt as lots of babies don't like lying flat / flat doesn't help with the old wind and digestion issues.

We also swaddle but with arms out. R is wearing vest and babygro underneath a mothercare cotton swaddle thing. He's def not too hot as feel his chest and it's fine.
My home also way colder than maternity ward where he wore the same.

Oooh yes - I forgot about the sheepskin. We have one of those, must dig it out!

I found sudocrem made it worse - R also had a sore botty after his antibiotics. I used a combo of Burt's bees diaper cream and fullers earth cream. Done the trick! Put a good layer on after every change, making sure it's dry before.
I would also leave her nappyless for a bit it you can. Put her on a towel to get some air to it.

bump metanium is the miracle working bum cream. You need some of that.
Congratulations on all the babies. My baby Alex arrived by planned c section 8 days ago.she is also a nocturnal incessant night feeder but I've decided to embrace co sleeping as getting up and down to crib about 50 times a night was just too painful after c section. Last night i lay kind of on my side feeding her all night and we both slept and were both much happier! Any other c sectioners still hurting getting out of bed 9 days on?

Metanium is good but very very strong so if you use then stop once it's healed and revert to a protective barrier type cream.

bump our paed recommended drying dd's bum with a hairdryer on low cool setting at nappy changes when she got very sore.

We have also embraced co-sleeping. I honestly can't see a difference between on-our-mattress-not-touching-mummy and in-the-sidecar-a-similar-distance-from-mummy, but it's all better than with dd who wanted to sleep with her nose pressed against my skin...

Another vote for metanium! Never used it on such a new baby but it's the only thing that actually sorts nappy rash quickly. Don't need much of it either and it doesn't get absorbed by the nappy between changes.