October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

Argh Munday I hate that generations view that cuddling a newborn can somehow spoil them! I mean you've only got to look at our wee scraps of humanity to see how manipulative and cunning they are .

Glad I'm not alone. Baby asleep, head flung back. Still not put her down, or got out of my house. Trying to hint by pretending to nap on the sofa. Not working. Might go out for a walk in the rain tomorrow.
Probably see you all on here later in the small hours

My little girl has us wrapped around her little fingers. She feeds when she wants, is cuddled when she wants, get's changed as soon as I hear THAT SOUND. She'll be completely ruined as a human being I am sure.

Glad you had a nice day though Goats hope you get the boyfriend back at some point

Goats my in-laws are up next week for Jonas' 2nd birthday and I'm dreading it. Lilla will be nearly 4 weeks old so hopefully we'll be into a bit of a groove (more by luck than judgement the visit was planned assuming I was going to be induced on the 11th). I hope they focus their attention on J rather than the oblivious newborn who can't even focus her eyes yet. I am dreading that they might go OTT on the baby and hurt his feelings. However they're suitably chauvinist ( ) so hopefully because L is a granddaughter they might not be so nuts. Good luck for the rest of their visit! We've already had to buy a second TV so FIL can sit and watch war films in the spare bedroom .

Puppy that's it - with all that unconditional love you've wrecked her for sure. What will become of her? Serial killer? Traffic warden? Oh the humanity!

How do you tell the difference between cluster feeding and comfort feeding?
Murdo is feeding in evenings into early hrs literally every 45 mins or less. MW on visit today said to watch he is not using the nipple as a comforter but didn't suggest what to do if he is... He does suck all of the time he is on the boob though so is active I guess not just latching on and holding it in his mouth...

Fatpony I suspected ds1 was using me for comfort a lot of the time. I offered a dummy and figured if he spat it out he was hungry, if he kept it in it's just comfort. Worked for us. We never forced if on him but it gave my nipples some respite. I'm querying the same with ds2 now so might introduce a dummy soon.

Goats and Munday, I'm with you too. PIL have been here since Sunday - a day and a half after we got home from hospital - and while they're lovely people I'm now officially DONE with visitors and ready to have some time just me, DP and the little missus!!

Good idea Sweet-we offered a dummy last night but he spat it out.

Hello, can I join in? Our son was born on 11th October, 15 days late following a 65 hour induced labour culminating in a forceps delivery... Fortunately I've been remarkably fine afterwards so just loving/hating the newborn days! We had our first experience of being weed on during a nappy change today and I'm still getting to grips with breastfeeding - milk is just starting to come in and he was on the boob from 8pm to 9:30pm on and off!

I just take it for granted my boobs will be used for comfort as much as food in the first month on the outside. Hearing our heartbeat and smelling us goes a long way in settling them and nipple stimulation is an important part of upping milk supply. It gets on your tits a bit (boom tisch) but it helped me to remember it doesn't last long and it didn't create a rod for my own back first time.

Why a poonami 20 minutes after I shut my eyes for the night! Then deciding she needs a wee snack, necessitating holding her upright for 30 minutes after. Fecking reflux .

Little miss just peed all over her clothes so went from all sleepy after a big feed to screaming in about 30 seconds... Let's have another feed then shall we!!

We have finally beig discharged from hospital by drs I'm on a high dose of various Bp medications to try to keep my Bp stable as well as daily visits to Check me over and a Bp machine to monitor and advice to rest as much as possible. It's our first night at home and violet has been awake all night. I don't know how much more my mind/body can take. It's been a week now with total amount of sleep in single fingues.

Anyone using Bottke for Ebm/formula? Which bottle? I need to introduce one soon so OH can help I can't carry on like this. Especially with all my Bp problems lack of sleep is not helping. Also wish we had never bought a crib there's no space to tuck blanket in so she kicks cover off constantly And is too little for sleeping bag yet.

Aww me you must be totally exhusted i was in for 3 nights and it totally done me in, im ff so dont know which bottle would be best for both?

Is their any way that your oh or family members take the kids out for the day (all day) and let you sleep for a good few hours? You sound like you need to catch up on some sleep asap, espcially with your bp! You cant do it all your own so i Hope you find a way for oh to help as it does make a diffrence sharing the responsibilty even a couple of nights a week!

Thinking of you hunny, sleep deprivation is a form of torture but even harder if you have health issues thrown into the mix.

me23 have you tried swaddling? Keeps them warm and cosy. Re bottles, we found Tommy tippee the best.

me sorry you're having such crappy nights. We used Dr Brown bottles for formula top ups for the first few days when I was mad. No trouble at all with latching after or going back to EBF (if that's what you wanted). Since then the pump has saved my sanity. Swaddling helped with the blankets too. She looked like a burrito for the first 2 weeks.

Feeling sympathy for those of you with in laws around or looming. I'm still in the doghouse for sending mine packing on day 2. Waking up to them watching me sleep, boobs hanging out was too much.

Nuk bottles with latex teats are what was recommended to us when we introduced a bottle of EBM to Jonas - latex is warm and soft like a real nipple so they adjust easier than to a silicon teat.

Wahoo at 3 weeks old the little miss did a 3 hr chunk followed by 4 hours!!!! I hope this is the end of that bastard 5\6am feed!

As for baby peeing over themselves and waking up wanting another feed - my trick is to swaddle Lilla, hold her on my chest and tuck the duvet around us both. Five minutes of that warmth and the magic trick that is stroking the bridge of her nose (try it it makes them shut their eyes!) or gently tapping a heartbeat on her bum and she's out for the count.

I second patting a heart beat on their bottom, stops R crying almost always!

What's wrong with me..? I have one ok night (2 x 3.5 hr feeding gaps) and I am thinking I want another child. Wtf!!! I think it's cos DH said only two so I'm going mad about wanting 3. It's ridiculous. Stop me now.

Anyway - me you must get someone to take the baby out for a walk for a couple of hours between feeds so you can get some more sleep. We use tommee tippee bottles (introduced DH doing a feed at about 10pm so I can go to sleep at 9 for a few hours) as did we ds1. r still getting used to the bottles and teats but getting better each time. Def not affected his latch or want to bf.

crumble how are you?

nolatch how are you today? I agree with what all the other ladies on here said - your well being is so important and if bf causes so much worry and stress perhaps it's not for you, and that's ok. But if you went to do it still, there is lots of support out there and bf specialists and support groups like la leche league.

3 hrs sleep last night, none till 4am and then in little bursts. Baby is just feeding constantly like half an hour after last feed wants more, if put down then cries. We planned a nice day today-reg the baby and lunch out as day 6 post csection and now feel like blabbing under the duvet all day :(

Pony that sounds like a growth spurt get a brew, put your feet up and remember that after the eating day /s of a growth spurt they usually have a sleepy day. Maybe rain check lunch til tomorrow?

Ah the beautiful natural ease and wonder of breastfeeding...

Yeah, that's pretty much all I've got to say about that.

Thanks yellow-it just feels like my milk isn't enough for him if he needs to feed so much (which is not true I know) ...even mentioned to DH about getting emergency bottle of formula for him. I've opened the curtains and it's nice and sunny so think we will try and get out a bit.