October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

Ps. I know you were struggling if watching loose women! Utterly detest that programme!

Hi everyone, just popping head round the door but will catch up properly later. DD2 was born 5 days ago and we should be able to bring her home today from SCBU. I'm doing mostly fine, small tear but no suturing required, still a bit stiff and sore and sobbed my heart out this morning over the necklace DH bought me!

Morning all! Kerist what a night!!! Rocco awake very 45 mins between 12 and 4 wow I'd forgotten about this first few days how sore and buggered you feel.
On a plus side it's my first morning with just me and the baby other kids out with my mum til 12 dp back at work (:() and cleaner coming to sort out house.
Think I may brave the outside world for half and hour as need to get something easy for kids tea and they've requested a pizza

Hope everyone had an ok night and is still alive this morning :)

Eyes propped open by matchsticks here. Murdo had almost constant feeds till 3am, when put in bednest after feeds he thrashed around/escaped his swaddle/rooted for more milk. Finally at 3am reswaddled and in desp' put him in his bouncy chair where he slept till 8am with one break fr a feed at 6... ZONKED!

Sorry to hear about all the shite nights you've all had. L has been doing this too! Last night was the first night where she's slept at all before 3am. We had at least two 3 hour stints which ha made me very happy indeed. Day 10 so maybe she's finally getting her act together!

Hope you have all managed at least some sleep.
I have started setting timers when feeding since we are both inclined to fall asleep.
my little one has definitely got better at having a quick feed then snoozing (only 2 weeks today so sure this will change). Unfortunately she was doing marathon feeds before so I'm sitting here leaking with the wee one and can't really move. Expressing starts today...

Hi am a lurker dd arrived 10/10 v sudden after going a week over.

I have run out of home leaving her with dh to avoid midwife visit and feel like shit for effectively giving up on my last opportunity to keep feeding.

Tried breast feeding with DS some years back but couldn't get latch right then horrific mastitis so only did 3 weeks.

Determined to succeed this time. One night in hosp and first day at home with the colostrum - latch okay ish but was really helped by a great local midwife Monday and yesterday. Spent ages showing me how to do it better.

Am ok when she first goes but then my fear comes back and I'm petrified and it hurts. Beating myself up at this. Dh is being supportive although am telling him he is not . Scared of the gummy toothless mouth making my nipples bleed. I really have let this get out of proportion again and so annoyed / jangled. Dd in meantime has had mainly ok some v decent feeds. Now had 3 of the emergency ready made formula bottles in a row. My boobs are killing me .

I know I should go home (am in car park close by, ctying), but feel such a loon and no matter how positive I can be for midwife snd if I get a near decent latch I'm then petrified when her legs and arms flail and her mioutj snaps at my nipple or slips off.

Help!!

Sooo re admitted to hospital yesterday as collapsed with sepsis. Having every test , antibiotics, pain relief under the sun. Sebastien is with me and keeping me smiling with lovely snuggles and BF. DH amazing despite scaring him - just very tearful. As am I....
I kept my 2nd degree tear very clean and looks like it's not that but uterine.

Oh Nolatch that sounds horrible, sorry to welcome you to the thread on such a downer! I'm really not surprised you're scared after having such a difficult experience last time. Please try not to beat yourself up about this - happy mummy will be happier baby in my opinion and breastfeeding isn't the be all and end all. If you have the strength then go back home and see midwife and explain honestly just how awful you're feeling, or perhaps if you can't manage it now then go to some local breastfeeding support groups where you could get more regular support? However if you can't bring yourself to then just don't - plenty of people bottle feed for plenty of different reasons and there is nothing wrong with it at all, especially when you're not enjoying breastfeeding. My Aunt is a midwife/health worker in Oz and says she sees so many women who are desperate to carry on feeding despite constant bleeding nips/mastitis etc. and often the best thing for them is to give up.

We're here for you on this thread, you've come to the right place. Good luck!

Oh no crumble that sounds awful. Hope the tests are quickly conclusive and meds kick in soon and you can be back at home feeling better before too long.

crumble I'm so sorry this has come along, infections really are down to chance, I hope you get well looked after and are on the mend asap

nolatch I'm also having a wobbly day today, DD is 6 days old and I fear the blues have struck and I'm being a loon too. I have mw due later and am bricking it - for absolutely no reason at all. My fear and anxiety of being responsible for this little person has gone through the roof today to the point where I feel totally overwhelmed. She did a poonami this morning and it went all up her tummy and near her cord stump. We bathed her and cleaned and dried everything as thoroughly as possible but the whole palaver made me panic and I'm still not feeling very level now.

Bf is also a concern of mine, I ff DS because of medical reasons (and he is utterly fine and the healthiest and most boisterous tyke now) so bf for the first time this week. Yesterday was gala melons and nipple daggers galore!!! Things seem to have eased up today but nipples still sore and I think I must have a painful let down because the first few sucks are agony, even with a supposedly good latch. I'm just trying to persevere despite the weirdness of it all. It's just so hard to trust that it's progressing normally when I have no idea what 'normal' is or what to expect next.

DH has just taken DS to the park so I'm going in the shower to hopefully pull myself together (unlikely today, i fear) is it too early for ?

Nolatch and MrsWeasel, really feeling for you both. If you can, do talk to your midwife about how you're feeling - they won't judge you or criticise you for being scared or overwhelmed, or for deciding to FF if that's what happens. They will have seen loads of new mums go through this and if nothing else will be able to reassure you that you're doing just fine at looking after your baby however you decide to feed.

Ladies, it's totally normal to be feeling this way. The let down is painful to start with but does ease up. As for the delatching, this is also really normal as they're learning too. It does mean you get more of the painful let down latching bit but as they get more confident this happens less.

That said, happy mummy equals happy baby. If ff is something you ant to do, feel no guilt. If you want to persevere, get support. Bf clinics/groups and lll/nct helplines, other bfing mothers.

Crumble, hope you start to feel better soon. How frightening for you and dh!

Nolatch so sorry to read your post - please see the midwife if you can. She'll be more concerned about missing you I'd guess than how you feed. Think of all the lovely colostrum your babies have both had. How you feed has nothing to do with how you love them. Hope you can reach a decision that makes you feel better soon (my DD2 was also born 10/10 - it is still such early days for us with these new babies).

Madam hope you feel better soon.

Crumble so sorry you've been readmitted but you're in the best place. Sepsis is scary. I collapsed and was readmitted when DD1 was 3 days old. It was scary - DH thought I was going to die! Scans showed no retained products and my episiotomy was fine. But I spent several nights in a room off the post natal ward on horse antibiotics and going slowly stir crazy (wasn't allowed to leave the room due to being potentially infectious to the other mums). Take the time to snuggle your wee bub and rest up (it was like a little baby moon for me in the end).

Nolatch the MW will be much more worried about your absence and how upset you are than how you feed . If you do want to keep BF remember that let down pains go after the first months and that baby doesn't want to bite you - they want milk not blood! But they are only learning. Lilla is 19 days and a pro at painlessly latching on all by herself. If you want to persevere contact your local BF support or the la leche league. If you don't think you can BF happily and without anxiety - then please stop torturing yourself and FF. Its a perfectly good way of feeding babies and doesn't make you a bad Mum

Oh and Crumble oh no! poor you too! get well soon x

Hi all,
Nolatch sorry to hear it's so tough. We've been unlucky enough to have to stay in hospital and therefore lucky enough to have help. Maybe if you wanted to persist with BF a local group or NCT type thing you could get some support over multiple feeds like we have. It's really made the difference. Going from the mw establishing the latching to me and mrsthedog to now just mrsthedog sorting the latch. If not go for FF and love that your partner can share doing this with you. I would love to be able to feed Matilda

Oh Crumble good luck. Thinking of you.

We Dogs can still not go back to the kennel. Now it is because Matildathedog needs her Gentomycin level checking before it's okay to go. Hopefully tomorrow morning. We had gotten our hopes up for today

Feeling for everyone not feeling 100%, being poorly and having BF issues my nipples feel like they might fall off hope you all feel better tomorrow.
We've got the in-laws here. About to punch someone. MIL told DH not to spoil our child by picking her up when she cried. She's 3 days old and was hungry, and she's MY baby
Sorry rant over, off to hide upstairs for another mammoth cluster feed. Hurry up milk

Nolatch sorry you've had a rough start. I' second the La Leche League help (or BF counsellor) if that's an option. I was despairing and a mess at the beginning and having someone come and show me exactly what to do with no pressure was fantastic.

crumble, poor you! Hope you recover well and start feeling better.

Sorry dogs that you're in the pound for another night. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

We had another night sleeping aftet 4am. Off to the doctor now for the weighing and jaundice check. If she hasn't put weight on I might have a public meltdown given the amount she's drinking.

I took the kids to the beach today, Jonas in the buggy and Lillemor in the sling. I'm officially the woman that strangers come up to to say "you've got your hands full" .

Yellow I have been told I have my hands full 3 times today!! And today wasn't the first day either, all the mws in hosp said it too.

Ok I might actually kill someone MIL after telling us not to pick baby up- she went and PICKED THE BABY UP WHEN SHE CRIED!!!
Sorry very hormonal tonight
Hope thedogs get to go home soon, glad to hear you've had positive BF help whilst you're there

My in laws were in the living room when we got home from hospital. Then they were in the living room when I got up this morning too - the first day of my babymoon. Boyfriend had taken baby downstairs earlier, and there was the MIL taking loads of photos of her with baby dressed up in clothes and shawls she'd brought with her. I was wearing a colostrum covered nightie and was trying to sort out MW visits.

Tried to be zen.... internally FURIOUS. Luckily MW turned up and I had to manhandle Pip off MIL to get appointment sorted. After that I hid in bed all day with my baby... I'd have preferred boyfriend had been with us, instead of occupying them, but never mind. We've fed, napped, watched telly, worked out logistics of changing.. lovely day. I expect it'll all go to shit at 3am now. Haha.