October 2014 (including some september early arrivals) the wonderful and crazy newborn days

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Thread to share the newborn news and support each other through the 'eeek what do I do?' When the baby gets home and you stare at it in the car seat and think - help!!

I'm broken. Tops 4 hours broken sleep last night and now it's ds1 birthday today!

My belly jiggles as I walk at the mo so in that respect I miss my bump as it was hard and toned!

Fed up high five! 4 hours here too. Assumed stupidly after L cluster feeding ALL day yesterday that she might sleep better! Am desperately hoping its a growth spurt not CMPI comfort feeding . Still at least I've only one more day herding them both alone this week .

I feel like I'm on another Planet. So spaced out! I worry my ds is just comfort feeding too. Ds1 flung my breast pump on the floor this morning and broke it - cue everyone crying! Got HV coming round at 2. I just want to sleep though

DS was a bit unsettled again last night but he did manage a 3 hour stretch and a couple of 45 mins/ 1 hour sleeps, so it sounds like I was lucky compared to yellow and fedup! I'm quite tired but dd is at preschool and DH is at home so I've got an easy day. Happy birthday to your ds1 fedup.

I don't miss my bump at all, but I remember really missing it last time. Maybe it's a sign that I'm done with having babies now!

Had a midwife appt today and DS is only 100g off birth weight on day 6. I'm so happy he's putting weight on. We're going to get his tongue tie snipped on Thurs so hopefully feeding will get less sore after that.

Hey, first postnatal question. Ok, so Pip is only a day old really, but is it normal for newborns to be basically massively full of wind and general gripey feelings? She wasn't very interested in feeding much on her first day. Was hungry - eating hand, baby bird impressions etc. Then 3 or 4 drops of colostrum later sparking out asleep with no amount of waking possible. She then threw up those precious drops. Last night three massive shits (marmite explosion), 2 hours of screaming and suddenly starving, feeds for 3 hours and then kips for another 3. Normal stuff? Or a future of gripey guts?

Oh and she hates being on her back - side all the way. Makes me think of when I have dodgy guts, side lying helps. Midwives don't like it.

I can breastfeed whilst building the HS2 and serving lunch, yellow?
Show off :-)

Goats sounds totally normal. The pooing is great, getting the last mec through the system so it turns into proper nice breastfed poo is perfect. DD2 is now 4 days old and is already different. Pippa will be changing each day!

I've been in mastitis hell. I was chuffed that I could feel my milk coming in on Sunday afternoon (day 2) but by the time the older kids were in bed I was hot and in pain (right hand boob) and dd2 was as fussy as possible. Cue hellish night. By yesterday I was in the pit (malaise is the rather lovely way of describing the symptom of feeling like you're dying of the flu!). Got an emergency visit with my doctor and am now on 10 days of antibiotics (and dosing myself up with ibuprofen). Dd2 did me a favour with lots of great nursing through the night so it's still red and sore but looking a lot better this morning (on doctor's orders I'm taking photos of it to monitor progress and see if I need a follow up appointment on wed - selfies of angry red boobs, a new high point in my 'stuff you never thought you'd have to do' list of motherhood!).

My child is STILL feeding. Breaking me. I wanted to have a sleep but no chance. HV coming and really don't want her to in this tip of a house. Annoyed with DH as brought all out stuff back in and no where to put it yet as need to wait for carpets next week. Why couldn't he just leave it, FFS

Goats - does sound normal. It's early days and stomach adjusting. My son puked for first two days too.

Flip ouch! Get well soon love. Sorry to hear about the bust bust!

Goats hope you're recovering well; sounds normal to me too. Newborns inability to process wind is such a blimmin design flaw but once they're sitting its much easier as they burp themselves. If I'm struggling to wind Lilla I pop her in the sling, walking around with her brings her wind up. As for side sleeping it scares MW as it elevates the SIDS risk in theory but there are ways of managing it - I can't wait until she can roll over so I can put her on her tummy.

Puppy I don't want to be BF building trainsets but 2 year olds are hard task masters! Seriously it won't be long and Mrsthedog will be BF multitasking too. How's she feeling today?

Another windy baby here who seems to want to feed constantly to get rid of it (im ff btw) she was up from 12 till 7am and just couldnt sleep as she was so uncomfy .. Im really worried silent reflux is on the way as she is making the same throaty noises as dd1 and hiccups when put flat in moses basket after me keeping her upright 1/2 hour after each feed !! Cant wait till she can use the miriacle that is gripe water, can you use infacol for 5 day old baby ?

Stigz don't use infacol if baby has reflux otherwise you just bring up great big bubbles of stomach acid which burns their throats. DD has definitely got reflux - the paed spotted her doing it (making those noises you described) reflux from weak tummy sphincters is noticeable from birth (L was prem hence hers is weak but it should strengthen in a month or so) reflux from CMPI is also known as delayed milk allergy and tends to kick in 1-2 weeks post birth (or post due date if prem). I'm guessing Lilla's CMPI (if she follows the family genetics) will kick in a week after her due date - around my birthday.

yellow how do they diagnose cmpi ? Thanks for the heads up on infacol i just hate seeing my wee cherub in pain

Guys what are the signs of wind please? Our LO is sometimes a bit fussy after a feed and occasionally we get a burp out of him
if we put him on our lap and rub his back. Bit hit and miss. How long do you keep the back rubbing/patting goin on for before assuming there is no wind?

Also he likes to lie on his side on the bed with me but i've only done it when I am awake and watching. Can they be propped/wedged onto side for night time sleeps or is it a big no no?

Thanks so much

Stigz they're shit at diagnosing it. Lots of old bloke GPs will patronise you - we got told that J was colicky and coughing up blood because he needed a routine! Clearly I'd not thought of a routine and was taking him to death metal clubs at night

We're 'lucky' in that all 9 other kids of L's generation in our family have had it (2 have been hospitalised with it) so the doc is assuming L will have it. As its an intolerance rather than a true allergy you can only test by excluding dairy from baby's diet.

Pony wind can persist for aaaaaaages after a feed - I bloody hate the wind issues of the first few months! If wind is a problem during the day - pop baby in the sling, being upright sorts it out.

Hello everyone, I just discovered this thread! Abigail is almost four weeks old now so probably ahead of most of you. She is a good baby, loves her routine and sleeps a lot - we have to wake her for feeds usually.

Wind is big issue here as well, we been using infacol since week 2 but seems to be getting worse. Abigail strains constantly, even when she doesn't need a poo it's so loud it keeps me awake all night long. She looks so uncomfortable and it wakes her at night as well. Last night she screamed from 8pm-1am and during that time did a very watery poo, she farts a lot as well but strains with them. I've googled the straining thing and it seems to be normal but I hate it, she screws her face up and goes bright red and cries...anyone else having this or had it with previous babies? I worry she is hurting herself.

Wow it seems like wind is the issue of the day! It is such a pain in the ass and a design flaw as Yellow said. We had a relatively good day yesterday but today back to terrible screaming, back arching, puking constantly over the only two pairs of leggings that fit me, painful hiccups and comfort feeding. Thank God for the dummy that is giving both of us occasional respite.

These days do pass though and we must all remember that. Unfortunately it can be a bit like pregnancy - bloody awful at times - but bit by bit it gets easier and once they start giving something back e.g. smiles and giggles it becomes so much more rewarding. It's so useful to have each other as I find that in real life there's much more 'everything's just fine' talk, especially at baby groups. This time I have plenty more RL friends who have children and who I can be open with but last time I found it quite tough at times as it felt that everyone else had 'easy' babies or was coping better than I was.

Afternoon all, really glad I've got my DH- he took Etta downstairs at 5 and let me sleep for 5 hours with only 1 feed in the middle
Attempting to wind after feed but she doesn't seem to bring much up so hopefully not too windy unlike me!
So has anyone else got paddles for feet and tree trunks for legs? Only noticed this morning (day 2) how huge they've got and forgot to mention to the midwife!
Hope everyone's doing ok today xxx

Yesterday we fed pretty much constantly and today she's so fast asleep I can barely wake her to feed. Is that normal?! We were up til 3am feeding and then I woke up at 5 with her still in my arms - so scary that I just zonked out without moving her. Now I'm paranoid that I hurt her in my sleep and that's why she's so quiet today.

My DH has been a star too getting the toddler dressed and breakfasted every morn before work so I've less to do and he took Lilla from 6 til 8 so I got a couple of hours, but with 2 kids and work its much harder for him to split the nights compared to last time .

Phew. Glad I'm not alone with the feeding and windy woes. porcito that's very normal - as she's having a growth spurt - feeds lots then sleeps lots, general pattern. I hope i am in for a sleep too soon as he's been feeding all day too - been asleep since 4 though which is the longest he's done since yesterday. Health visitor came today and weighed him - now 7lb 10 so doing well!

Anyone else's let down a bit painful? Mine has been today.

My DH goes to work at 6.30 and gets back at 6.50 (that's early) so it's a long day on my own.
Today we are being treated to a 6.20 home time as it's ds1 bday!

yellow no idea how you bf with an ergo?! They are too high up!

Fed up I lower the shoulder straps so she's at boob height

Hi all,

Day 5 here and also broken by lack of sleep. J has fed practically all night every night since day 2. I've been averaging 1.5 hours sleep a night, and maybe 2 during the day... :( I'm hoping tonight will be better as milk seems to have finally properly come in now so hoping he will go longer between feeds.

I had a midwife visit today, and after reading some of the advice/discussion about tongue tie on here asked for them to check J. The excruciating pain I described when feeding him didn't seem to bother her, and she commented that he only lost 5% of his birth weight so feeding is ok... Umm yes he has been feeding nonstop for days.. Falling asleep on the boob regularly, then waking up soon after for another feed as he is still hungry!

Anyway I insisted and yes, he has a 'mild' tongue tie.. She has referred me for the nhs service, but funnily enough there is a delay at the mo, and I should contact them if I haven't heard anything in a week .

I've tried googling for private tongue tie cutting but no joy. Can anyone advise me how to find someone privately to cut the tt. I am in south staffordshire, near Birmingham if that helps. Sorry if this has been described before.

Fingers crossed for more sleep for all of us tonight.xxx

Hi all - can I join you? My little boy was born 10 days ago. He's my first and I've found myself overwhelmed with love, responsibility, worry ... you name it. I've been very tearful, not least cos of sore nipples. Presumably this is baby blues. DP has been great, very supportive - I'm dreading him going back to work next week. I think I may have to force myself to go to some baby groups just to feel less isolated - although I don't know if that's advisable pre-immunisation? Even tho this is my first post on the thread it's already been a massive help in reassuring me during the first ten days