December 2011 "Mummymummymummymummy.... it's MINE!"

[NorthernChinchilla]

Combining our catchphrases...sigh...

Thanks all.
Woke at half one this morning and that was it, and haven't eaten do far but am going for lunch with DP. Staff at EPU lovely, op booked Monday; bit of a blow that there were no spaces tomorrow and it doesn't operate over the weekend. Will also be staying in hotel on my own near the hospital on Sunday night as there's no other way to manage getting DS to nursery and me to the hospital so early.

But I do feel a bit calmer now it's all arranged. Monday will be grim, but will soon be over.

So sorry for your loss Northern.
I've not had a mmc ('just' mc's) but the mc forum here are lovely.

Hope you manage to somehow enjoy rhe weekend. And will be thinking of you on Monday.

Health Visitor decided she wants to visit next week so hopefully all is good, wonder what she'll think of the crumbling plaster & missing floorboards.

Oh northern I'm so sorry to read this. (((hug)))

Thanks Gladys (aka...? sorry) and let's face it, there's no good mc. Have posted on that board now. Am just in a state of terror that I will mc before the op, and don't think I would cope.

Give the HV a good coffee and get them to help you choose soft furnishings, they won't worry about floorboards

Will try to keep myself occupied....

Do you have Netflix? It has Parks and a Recreation. If you don't watch it is great but apparently first series (which I missed) isn't great. But it is great after that. And wine. And cake. Not going to make a shit situation better but will hopefully make the weekend pass. Poor you facing to wait. Is horrible keep thinking about you and wondering how you are.

Parks and recreation
Having to wait

I have Time Team and Big Bang onto series record, the entire library of Terry Pratchetts, and enough booze for gentle anesthetising. Even having the odd roll-up.
We'll keep busy with DS; there are ducks to be fed, waterfalls to have tree bark thrown in (don't ask) and cartoons to be watched. We'll need to get some shopping in at some point too.

Roll on Monday afternoon.

Hope all you lovely women have a good weekend too.

I'm really sorry to hear your news Northern, sending you a huge hug and will be thinking of you for Monday.

I'm glad to hear you're feeling a bit better Seven. What a lovely lady to give DS that gift - restores my faith in humanity!

How is the childcare situation going Figgy?

I've just been doing the sums if I go back to work 3 full days a week I'll be minus £39 a month after childcare costs I'm thinking of asking to go back 2 full days a month so I take home a teeny tiny amount, keep my job and when DS starts school in Sept 17 I will start earning an actual wage again. DH said we will talk it through again nearer the time...

Oh Northern, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Many many hugs, and pst here or PM if you want at any point. I had a 7 week MC between the DDs and it completed by itself but was still awful. Many many hugs. A metaphorical kick up the a**e for the delay in booking form (our local joint is electronic which makes it simpler but every area is different).
Black Books is very good to watch if no brain energy required, or Father Ted...
I'm back in a few weeks properly because Easter is on the 5th of April. Yes, I did go no-social-media 2 years ago - I had completely forgtten how isolating it felt because tech socialising/web surfing is very much my norm. I think last time I excluded the mumsnet thread from it because DS was so little and we'd just moved house so I didn't know anyone IRL.
I'm not doing it again!

Hell's teeth chips that really sucks.... We were in a not disimilar situation when DS first started nursery; albeit we have a joint account, I think DP cleared about £80 per month after childcare.

Hope your nursery is working out too figster, let us know.

Good to see you aethel, I remember you saying about your mc between the DDs, think you phrased it that it becomes part of your story of pregnancy and having children; not to be forgotten or ignored, just eventually a part of it....

Yep, it's the way I managed to cope with it. (And think I have duplicated that phrase in my PM, sorry!)
A friend I knew who had a baby with severe congenital abnormalities incompatible with life and had to have a medical stillbirth told me the "this is part of my story" phrase and it just resonated. I'll be thinking of you all through tomorrow and beyond.

I sympathise chips, I've got relatively good hourly rate and basically make very very little in the holidays even with a good value holiday club for the DDs plus DS's nursery. A nanny would be cheaper in the holidays for me, but then more expensive to keep the nanny for one child in the term time.

Years back When I had both the DDs in nursery I knew it was a stopgap situation.... I then had three months of "proper pay" when they were both in school, which was amaaaazing... And then along came DS and more nursery fees! Fantabulous timing, Non?
Anyway, just wanted you yo know you're not alone with the childcare woe, it's just a question of doing what's least bad for the family finances....

I think if it was for a shorter time it might be worthwhile but I'm not sure if earning about £20 a month working two days a week for 21 months is worth it I would like to keep my job as I enjoy it for the most part, and they're fairly flexible with hours and if DS is ever ill. Also it will save me from trying to find a part time job when I do want to return to work...I'm erring towards asking them if I can do two days a week and then increasing my hours in sept 17 when DS goes to school.

Thinking of you today northern. Hope it all goes ok x

Thinking of you today northern

chips won't DS be going to school sept 2016 rather than 2017?

Good luck today Northern!!

Good luck Northern

Faffin I double checked with the school and nursery and he could start 'school nursery' in sept 16 but it's only 3 hours a day, 5 days a week which is what he's already doing at nursery with the 15 free funded hours, but he starts reception class at school in Sept 17 which is when he will be doing 9-3 and I can start taking home a wage...

I'm really on the fence and could be persuaded either way! DH said we'll talk about it nearer the time

Hope it went okay Northern, been thinking about you all day.

for northern and hope you can get some rest tonight.

That's odd chips. They should start reception in the sept after they turn 4, which by my reckoning is sept 16 not sept 17

Ds also starting reception Sep 16.

Actually, yes, you're right! dS starts in Sept 16 too.... Unless you're in another country, wasn't there someone on-thread in Oz?....

Nope in the UK, I phoned the school and have them DS's d.o.b. and they checked for me. He could go to what they called 'nursery' in Sept 16 but it's only 3 hours a day, so I'm just going to keep him at his current nursery and Sept 17 is when he legally has to go to school. I'm hoping they've told me the right info

er - isn't your DS born Dec 2011, chip? (My DS was one of the latest thread arrivals along with Octoboy, so hung on til Jan 2012) in which case full time school for him would be at 4 and 3/4 years ie the september before he turns 5, also known as a "rising five". the point is that each child enters nursery at 3 and abit, then school at 4 and then becomes five during the reception year.
My DD2 is an August baby and was at full time school at four and three weeks... sniff....

Mine born Dec 2011 Chip and starts school September 2016.

Think they must have got it a year out with the info they gave you chip, otherwise he would be nearly 6 starting reception so nearly 2 years older than August babies in the same class.

Hope everything went ok yesterday Northern, thinking of you.