December 2011 "Mummymummymummymummy.... it's MINE!"

[NorthernChinchilla]

Combining our catchphrases...sigh...

I didn't change bedtime Northern. Just went through grumpy cranky stage! Can't remember how long it lasted tbh.

DS is halfway through dropping the last nap. If he doesn't nap he takes himself to sleep somewhere (usually our bed or- yep- the coffee table!) about 6-6.30. If he does nap he's still up and playing at 8.30-9 (sigh).
And he's grumpy in the late afternoon if not napping. Or if he has too long a nap. Meh. Toddlers. Shrug.

Sorry to hear mrOi is in need of a swordfish.

Gosh I don't know how long it's been since ds napped unless in the car got to be at least a year .....I don't remember what we did when that happened (well apart from cry ) but he's always had a 7-7.30 bedtime.

DS is currently napping every 3rd day. No change to bedtime. And the grumpy hyper thing seems to bear no relation to sleep/no sleep!!

Ah, solidarity in the toddler years, needed and appreciated !
I've said to DP figster we're bloody lucky DS has napped this long. And it's the throwing that gets on my nerves too, that and when it takes two of us to restrain him and get him into a nappy. And the bites. And the complete ignorance of any parental guidance.

Not all at the same time though ! Total sweetie tonight in fact, had to get him from nursery, home on the train and off to bed no bother.

Glad the coffee table is still in good use aethel

Been up since 4 ds convinced there was a wolf in his room then the skunk escaped then ds woke again then the skunk escaped again and it went on like that seemingly endlessly

Dh has decided his life is a living hell I'm sick of him tbh

What a morning

Oh dear figgy. Remember, this too shall pass ...

Oh figgy, isn't it great when the boys are melodramatic...

Am rather annoyed that I am still having a cold. I know full well how long they last, but I've got tons of work on this week so really could do with shaking it off more quickly cos I am a superhuman, clearly
Anyone got a miracle cure handy?

Dunno aethel, but if you find one bung it here. My sub-cold (feeling shitty, sore throat, tired, bit snotty, etc) has been hanging around for two weeks

Is there any reason your DH has a grump on figgy? I know his health and the job were an issue but thought all that had sorted. Can totally empathise with frustration at toddler antics though....

( just dropping in to say hello. Am lurking. Just hiding in the shadows. No reason. All is well. Had a nice birthday. - DH got me rubbish presents, aside! - but now I really must go and sleep. Adieu!)

Northern I've had that endless never really coming to anything cold I've had it weeks it's so annoying.

Dh is just a highly anxious person seemingly and it's getting worse with age it's all the same stuff doesn't like new job, doesn't want another dc, doesn't feel well, always tired (both are likely down to being 18st with a terrible diet) the skunk is peeing endlessly on the floor (going to vet tonight to be neutered which apparently helps with males) and it's trying to escape from the kitchen at night etc etc etc everything is an unnecessarily big deal IMO used to just ignore it but it's starting to wind me up.

He's away this weekend so I'm commencing potty training any tips? He can be in house all day naked waist down no accidents uses potty himself or asks for toilet but previously put pants on and he wees well think I'm just going to let him all day Friday then hope for best Saturday. Had lots of things planned but this more important so staying close to home instead.

Oi how are things with DH did you have the talk when you got back from your travels?

My main potty training tip is bribe them! DS loves stickers so he gets 1 sticker for a wee and 1 sticker for a poo!

DS is still having poo accidents at nursery which is starting to annoy me tbh (them not him) as I have got the washing machine on every single evening at the moment after nursery at the moment. At home DS practically shouts "I NEED A POO MUMMY!" So he knows when he needs to go, I think he possibly needs a bit more confidence or encouragement at nursery? It's in their interests to get it sorted as well as it can't be much fun for them having to scoop poo out of his pants and get him changed!

DS will be starting pre-school in January (same nursery), I've decided to do the afternoon sessions as all the playgroups around here are in the mornings. I thought playgroup in the morning, home for a cooked lunch and then nursery for the afternoon. We will just use the 15 free hours and then I will save up my childcare vouchers for when I return to work. DS will have a new key worker in January, so I'm hoping that may help with the poo accidents! The staff in the pre-school section seem to be older and more confident.

At some point I need to have a big spring clean, but I've finally managed to tidy and organise everything as much as I can before the baby arrives! I just need DH to reassemble the pram and stack the birthday & Christmas presents on top of our wardrobe.

Next pay day I will buy DS's party bag fillers and a couple of Christmas presents left (vouchers and amazon stuff), so all can be done even if the baby arrives before pay day as it's all online shopping

Ugh Chip, not even started Christmas or birthday shopping . Better get organised soon. 36 weeks today. Still have another week of work and huge research fellowship application to write though so they'll have to take precedence. Chances of writing anything coherent after baby arrives are zero!

Thank goodness only one week of work left ... Commute is killing me!

Colds ... us too. Whole house down. If I had a cure aethel, I'd be pretty happy! Minimopsy 3 days off nursery so far this week. Mr. Mopsy also suffering.

I know I'll be a sleepless mess in December so I thought I'd get it all done early this year! I'm 37 weeks tomorrow and I must admit it's an effort to just do the washing up at the moment! Glad you start maternity leave soon Mopsy!

Colds are horrible, I know they're not 'serious' illnesses but they make you feel sooo awful

I'm lurking too. Things not great recently, DD1 is being really hard work, she's turned into such a stroppy madam. I started taking anti-depressants yesterday due to PND :(

oi yes did you have the talk?

mopsy wow 36 weeks already! Do the Christmas shopping online when you start maternity leave.

Hope everyone else is ok

Mopsy and chip how are you bothso close to having newborns again? It's gone quickly i was cooing over 5mo twin boys yesterday very sweet but no thanks!!

Ds is going to preschool in jan just 1 day a week until September then 2 days we obviously have to keep up his place with the cm those weeks so she has him on holidays too so will mean paying her and the pre school on days he goes .....safe to say the 15hrs are going to help out here very little.

Chip I'm going extra lazy for party bags this year £1 selection box from Poundland happening this year making 20+ bags of reindeer dust last year broke me!!

Tried to get to the Tower of London poppies today at lunchtime it was so busy pretty much as soon as I got out the tube station I'd turned back round again is a shame would have loved to see them.

Mopsy and chip how are you bothso close to having newborns again? It's gone quickly i was cooing over 5mo twin boys yesterday very sweet but no thanks!!

Ds is going to preschool in jan just 1 day a week until September then 2 days we obviously have to keep up his place with the cm those weeks so she has him on holidays too so will mean paying her and the pre school on days he goes .....safe to say the 15hrs are going to help out here very little.

Chip I'm going extra lazy for party bags this year £1 selection box from Poundland happening this year making 20+ bags of reindeer dust last year broke me!!

Tried to get to the Tower of London poppies today at lunchtime it was so busy pretty much as soon as I got out the tube station I'd turned back round again is a shame would have loved to see them.

Oh that's a good idea with the party bags Figgy! I might be borrowing that People seem to go a bit mad here, DS got a foam aeroplane glider, motorbike rubber, colouring pencils, Spider-Man notepad, water gun, maze and parachute man in his last party bag! I will be bringing things back to normal - two toys a balloon and some sweets/chocolates are more than enough IMO!

Party bags are the new competitive parenting battle ground imo, cant be arsed with it quite a few round here do sweet cones instead.

Ahh I like the idea of sweet cones instead even better! I will see what DH thinks as he may well end up doing them I can't be bothered with any competitiveness but I do want everyone to enjoy themselves.

Just read thread back and seen your post Seven, hope that the AD's kick in soon and do the trick for you. It's good that you're getting some help for it. Are there any mums support groups near you? I wonder if those would be helpful?

DS should be worn out as he has been super busy at playgroup with painting and playing on the slide and ball pit and generally running around! Just had lunch and done some puzzles, now I've flopped onto the settee and it's cbeebies time! I need a rest!

Yes seven sorry to hear your not feeling too well is this your first pnd? Its ok to not be superwoman

Sorry to hear about pnd seven. Hope you're getting the support you need.

(((((Hugs))))) for seven, well done for getting help/meds: things WILL get better for you. Post here if it helps, we're all here xx

Thanks all. I was feeling festive btw :)

Morning all,
Seven sorry to hear things have taken a downward turn, hope the meds and support will soon have you back on the up. Chin up, chuck, it will get better. Those kids are conspiring against us again aren't they?
They only reason I have kept any semblance of sanity is by working (ie letting someone else do the majority of the Childcare.) Hope you can get some respite, a bit if time out to yourself is essential. It may be hard to organise, but do try. And don't feel guilty about it. It's really, really fine.

Mr Oi and I had the chat on my birthday. He was reticent, holding back, if that's the right word, not at all sure about trying to work things out. He has resigned himself to us being apart. He's very black or white.
He's been hurt. No wish to be hurt again.
However, in the end, he thinks it's the right thing to do, to do what we can for us, but most importantly for Boi.
So, slowly slowly, we will start dating again.
Before the talk, it was absolutely what I wanted, ...after ...I'm not so sure!!
He is brilliant with Boi, though.
Ah well, we'll see what happens.
He's going to be with us for all of Christmas Day.
This week, I am having my new aluminium bifolds fitted. Nightmare.
It'll be wonderful, when done, but just a nightmare to organise.