sept 2014: babies are here (or coming soon!)

[allisgood1]

Even though dc3 is end of August, thought I'd start a sept thread :-)

How are you all doing?

dS1 is 9 dats old. Feeding well and surely sleeping well but it's hard to know as I keep falling asleep at night feeding him!

Emily is the same acorn, she occasionally manages to keep the dummy in for a few minutes but not often. I only try and use the dummy for the 8 minutes it takes for her bottle to warm in the night to try and stop her waking my dh up screaming but it doesn't work very often.

Acorn I used to just hold it in until hr got thr hang of it. Now he's a pro lol hows his reflux

ilove I tried to hold the dummy in but he screamed and gagged . I keep trying it occasionally, maybe one of these times he'll keep it in.

I thought his reflux was getting better but I think we just have good days and bad days. Some nights he'll sleep in his basket for 2 hours without much discomfort but then later on that same night he'll be in pain again

I know four ladies who have conceived five children between them while using the mirena coil (one lady conceived twice). This is what worries me about the coil.

I am definitely done having children. I'm too scared to have anything permanent done like sterilisation or him having the snip, but do not want to accidentally conceive.

With dummies, it is worth trying a few different types. With the MAM dummy she just can't keep it in. The Avent dummy she took to straight away though, which surprised me as it is bigger than the MAM dummy.

DD had her Pavlik harness fitted today. It's heartbreaking, but she's doing really well so far considering.

DS has been a nightmare this evening. He has wanted food every hour today but won't take more than 100mls at a time. After screaming since 6pm on and off, and trying to eat his fist I gave him yet another bottle. It touched his lips and zonk, asleep. So after insisting, that "yes mummy I'm ravenous", he was so hungry he needed a whole drop to settle him. Little turd. Typically its the first night DH has been away. I have a horrible feeling its going to be a loooonnng night.

Red, mine did that last night was fully awake 2-4am and at 4 needed 10ml to go to sleep. Sympathies.

Jessica does this too. It's particularly annoying when it's with DH using a bottle of my expressed milk, as he ends up having to throw the rest of the (warmed) milk away. xxx

I should add in explanation that it takes me ages to express a whole bottle of milk, so it's so infuriating when most the bottle ends up down the sink. :(

Likewise KitKat. Especially when I have to express for an hour in the middle of the night as it is (in part because its so uncomfortable if I don't). Its like liquid gold going down the sink.

DS seems to be ok after all that in the end. He's slept 6 and a half hours straight which is his longest yet (if only he could choose the hours that suit his parents it would be fantastic). I woke before him tonight, which is bliss as it means I've had an uninterrupted sleep cycle which makes me feel a lot better. I can cope with night feeds as long as I get in a full cycle. (Strangely I knew that humans naturally used to have two sleeps until the advent of artificial lighting. There are historical records that talk of 1st sleep and 2nd sleep, with people getting up for an hour or two in the early hours. They think that humans did this as this was the most dangerous part of the night, but of course it actually fits in perfectly with babies too, which never clicked with me before.)

Very interesting Red about the sleep cycles. Probably explains why I always feel so much better for waking under my own steam.
Today is going to be interesting. I am meeting a old friend for lunch (she lives away now so we don't get to meet often) and for various reasons (she's not a baby person, we're not going to a very family orientated place, I want DH to get used to looking after Jessica on his own etc) I'm going baby-free and leaving DH to have Jessica for the afternoon, so this will be my first baby free time since she has been born. I feel like a very crap mum saying this but I'm really looking forward to the break (and being able to eat a meal without a baby on my boob simultaneously)! Anyone else left theid babies yet? Or am I the only one craving some baby-free time? Jessica is 6 weeks old now for reference. xxxx

I just thought Id come back to say hello as I have been staying away from mumsnet (had a few anxieties and decided it was better not to know how well everyone else seemed to be doing). DS is 4 weeks old now and was 10 days overdue so he seems to be younger than most of the babies here. I tried really hard to breast feed but we are now on formula. We have had to change to.comfort formula which is a pain to get through teats, we are using infacol and yesterday bought 2 Dr Browns bottles to try. He sleeps for 3 hours at a time at night but when he wakes it is wind that waked him.

Excuse typos....

I am convinced he would sleep a little longer if it wasn't for the wind.

Polka we have the same issue, have got bigger teats for bottles (6 months +) which helps. This morning as well as wind it's the snuffles, been sitting in bathroom with shower on for steam which helps for a short while. Any1 found any other remedies?

marie we bought a humidifier for the room and used saline drops. I also use a snot sucker but the nuk one he hated so we use the snuffle babe one. It works fine.

polka we use the dr browns and a mux if comfort and normal milk as well as infacol. Geez we have spent so much on the little guy!

I've not left DS and gone out, but DH has taken him out for an evening. It's a bit of a gamble as he won't always drink from a bottle so can't be too far away!

He's back to feeding every 2 hours for last 24hrs, and 1 dirty nappy a day which is pretty much just liquid. Apparently it's normal .

Interesting about th dummy, I was persevering with the mam ones as they're smaller. Will try the other types I have.

Kitkat I have left Emily for 3 hours in the evening 3 nights a week pretty much since she was born so I can go and look after and ride my horse. My dh always looks very flustered by the time I get back, just reminds him I'm not sitting on my butt all day watching Jeremy Kyle!

Polka my dd is 4 weeks too as I wasn't due till the end of September. The Dr Browns bottles are great, they made a big difference to Emily.

Had a bad mummy moment this morning. DS woke up earlier than normal so I rocked him back to sleep. He didn't last long so DH took DS downstairs to discover his nappy had leaked all over him. Oops!! I didn't even look.
I find 4 hrs sleep is the magic number for me. As long as I get one stretch like that I'm fine. I've struggled the last couple of nights as DD has woken up in between DS waking for feeds.
Yesterday we spent about 3 hrs at soft play so DD was exhausted and slept through for the first time in about a week.
We use a dummy for DS but he just doesn't really like it unless I hold it in for him but thankfully he goes to sleep without it. His sister was totally dependant on it and in some ways made some things easier. I might try another make to see if it makes any difference as there are times when all he wants is comfort and I run out of options.
Have a good Saturday all

I haven't left ds yet but as he's the third I don't feel like I can/should. I will though as I'm having xmas meal soon with work.

After two days of non stop feeding and fussiness I finally seen to have my baby back. He's more happy and settled and slept 8 hours last night
I do think that's because we were at a play place yesterday for 4 hours and he only slept about 30min of that olus the journey there and back. So he was exhausted. I feel like a new person though

DS was 9 days old when we first left him with the MIL to go out for a couple of hours, she insisted and it felt a little odd, but was nice to get some time alone with DH. We have left him a couple of times now with my parents. And in two weeks we will be leaving him overnight with my parents to go to a wedding. Looking forward to a full nights sleep and a lie in! But I will miss him.

DD was 3 days old when I left her as I had to have the test that made me radioactive. I left her with a friend who's a retired midwife so she was in good hands. Hated it though! I haven't left her since, prob should do at some point!

Also is anyone still having pain down below? It hurts when I go to the loo or try to dtd

Thank you all. coolcat I had an episiotomy and the scar is uncomfortable, worse as the day goes on or if I wear jeans. No pain down there but everything feels 'low'. We havent attempted anything yet as my stitches came loose in one place and have been waiting to heal (plus Im too scared & terrified of getting pregnant again!).