sept 2014: babies are here (or coming soon!)

[allisgood1]

Even though dc3 is end of August, thought I'd start a sept thread :-)

How are you all doing?

dS1 is 9 dats old. Feeding well and surely sleeping well but it's hard to know as I keep falling asleep at night feeding him!

Ohhh ok didnt think of that cookie. Glad hes ok. I didnt want to worry you either but as you know better safe than sorry

TeamEponine, DNiece had issues with her hips at birth and had to wear a brace. My ILs were very positive about it and said whilst they didn't like seeing her in the brace it really was fine. I remember me and DH were very concerned when we heard that she had to have one but they are both doctors and were completely unfazed saying it was pretty common. She is now 4 and completely 100% fine. You wouldn't have a clue now. I believe she walked a little late but that's the only issue she had. I think she was in a funny breech position and born by ELCS (if memory serves me correctly that's similar to you isn't it?). My impression is very much that it sounds and looks worse than it actually is in relative terms. No you really don't want to have it, but if you do, its ok.

Team we had the hip scan last week. Very quick and straightforward although DS has come back "borderline" so we have a re-scan in a couple weeks. I had hip dysplasia and wore casts when I was under 1. I am totally fine and you would never know I had any sort of hip problem.

Hi everyone!
I was on the anti-natal thread ages ago and have now had the chance to have a scan through this thread and read about all the lovely babies.
I had my little boy on the 14th September. He arrived after a 27 hour labour, was back to back and came out at a massive 9lb 6ozs and was 56cm long. I'm only 5' 2" so everyone asks how he had space in there...I do not know is the answer!!
He is now 5 weeks and going strong coming in at an impressive 12lb 5ozs a week ago.
Hope everyone is having a good day.

Hi all,

Thanks for the positive and supportive comments. As I suspected she will need to wear a Pavlik harness for six weeks. It is being fitted on Friday.

Red - yup, good memory! She was extended breech and ELCS as a result.

I'm feeling a little tearful over it, but I think that is also due to two nights with very little sleep. I know that it will be fine, and it is definitely better to do it as early as possible, but the thought of her being uncomfortable breaks my heart. Also, she really loves her baths, so I'm a little sad she will have to miss out on that for six weeks.

Oh well, just got to plug on with it I suppose!

team My niece had the harness as well but for almost 3 months as her hips were really bad. Prepare yourself for a tough start and crying baby. But they will get used to it pretty quickly and you'll get over it as well. After first week orvtwo she didnt even realize she had it. What helped my niece was being carried in wrap sling or Manduca carrier as baby has hips in the right 'M' position. Manduca is quite expensive but saved my niece from having a surgery and very painful treatment.

Ups, didnt mean to scare you! As I said, my niece had quite serious problem so she needed little bit more help with it. But now at age 8 months all is well and you wouldnt know she had a problem.

Good luck!

Thanks velvet. You didn't scare me, it's good to hear about real experiences. I have a Hana wrap sling thing. Is that the kind you mean? It holds her legs in the right kind of way, but not sure about the logistics of getting her in it once she's in the harness!

Ella this is number 1 so hopefully another eventually - when I have forgotten the anxiety and tiredness.

In other news tonight B has slept 8-12.15 so went 5 hrs between feeds. I got 3 hours sleep. Thank you every god going

I'd like a second eventually, ideally with a 2-3 year age gap inbetween. Although the thought of having to look after a baby and toddler at the same time is a bit frightening! xxx

Gah... Triple nappy poonami followed by fussy baby triggering my letdown but not taking it and milk everywhere and new outfits all round. Anyone else have major leakage issues? I have to sleep on a towel and express as soon as I wake up in the morning.

Ella - this is number 1 for us too, so we'd like another, hopefully in a couple years time!

Em is our first too, and we would like another but childcare costs make that impossible until she starts school unless I get a promotion in the meantime.
I tried using her sleeping bag last night now she is big enough, but she was far too warm in the 2.5 tog one so I will order her a thinner one. Our house is so warm even though we haven't put our heating on yet. Hopefully will be a cheap winter if we can keep stealing the neighbours heat (mid terrace )

We are done now! We have a 3.5 yr gap between DD and DS and although I love both very much, not sure I could cope with a third and it took a while to persuade DH to have a second. He's wanting to have the snip which I'm more than happy for him to do. We've heard he has to wait a year, does anyone know if that's true?!
DS went from 10:15 to 4:30 last night and DH had done the dream feed so I got over 6 hours, lovely ??

Oh my word, I got 8 hours (broken) sleep last night. I am anew woman. I could climb Everest. I could run a marathon. I could....oh no, I will stick with attempting to get us both up and dressed before 11!

Baby is now sleeping from 10pm til 7am which is pretty nice. Well most nights anyway

we have had a chat about more dc and we both want more. But not yet lol. I think in anotjer 2/3 years time will probably have coil taken out to start ttc.

We've had sex a fair amount lately so thatsworried me aabout pregnancy as ive started to wake in the night to pee. Hopefully its just my kidneys playing up (have kidney problems and can happen)

Wow I'm jealous at these babies sleeping. We had a bad night last night, DS did not want to settle after his feeds which is very unusual. Are these sleeping little ones ff or bf? As much as I love bf and am very grateful I've managed to do it, the nights are taking their toll. When dh is snoring next to me at 3am I have to try very hard not to smack him disturb him.

DS is baby number one for us so we do intend on having another. Literally no clue how anyone manages with two though, the thought literally petrifies me!

monsters all that see, I'm jealous of that to! We tried once but it was sore and tender, but I had quite a big episiotomy. So I guess I need to wait a little longer before its comfortable again. Can't wait to get back to normal!

• all that sex...!

Anyone else have major leakage issues?

Gosh yes. I'm sure with my previous children the disposable breast pads used to last 12 hours - I'd just change then morning and night. Currently my pads are soaked through and need to be changed every 3-4 hours. Mornings are worse 'cos she sleeps most. I often wake her because I need her to feed (rather than her needing a feed).

I'm usually OK nights though. I am sleeping in a bra (with breast pads) at the moment. When baby is bigger and can start to find her own way to the breast, then I'll start sleeping naked waist up and letting her get on with it. Then I'll start the sleeping on a towel trick.

the nights are taking their toll. When dh is snoring next to me at 3am...

You are doing so great breastfeeding though Honey. Just get DH to 'pay back' in a different way. For example my husband is doing most of the housework right now and cooking meals. Indeed, he's so grateful not to be disturbed at night that he'll do pretty much anything I ask of him!

My DH does the settling during the evening screaming hour that we have most nights. That's his 'job' so he takes it quite seriously and is fully engaged with calming the crying. It's great for me to not have to deal with the crying too. I usually get to bed early while he settles baby

Could your husband help with settling baby when you are not feeding?

Also, difficulty settling after a feed wouldn't necessarily be solved by the type of feeding (bf or ff), so you are not really losing out on sleep because of bf. Baby will learn to settle back to sleep in time, don't worry.

Eli is our first, I hope we have at least one more but will have to talk dh around I would imagine. I got three hours in total last night ds just would not settle. :( I blame the injections.

Eli is 10 weeks today, 4 weeks if you adjust to his due date :) I learnt this morning he can self settle and sleeps better if you put him on his tummy! He is able to lift his head and turn it to both sides but I am unsure if I should let him sleep like that, what do you think?

No period for me, waiting for it to come so I can go on the implant!

Oh, and this is baby number 4 for us and the last one. We always planned for four children.

It feels very different for me this time around, knowing this will be my last time with a newborn baby.

I am cherishing every last moment of these newborn baby cuddles.

Incidentally, there are 14 months between my eldest two. I had actually planned 13 months but it took a month longer to conceive than I planned. So I was trying to conceive again when my PFB was 12 weeks and I was exclusively breastfeeding. I conceived when she was 16 weeks old.

Cookie I have the same sleep dilemma, Erin self settles on her front and sleeps so much better with no grumbles. She is 5 weeks and can also turn her head and pushes up on her arms. I don't put her this way at night, just in the day when I can keep checking her. The best sleep she gets is between 9am and 2pm. I would rather she had this sleep at night and am looking forward to her being abit bigger so she can settle on her tum when she prefers.

For those who's LOs want to settle on their tummies, have you tried putting them on their side? We did this with DD by putting a blanket pulled tight across her under her arms and it worked a dream. The midwives were happy with this too. It may be a good compromise if you're not happy leaving them on their tummies.
My DS is definitely a back sleeper which has made things a little easier.

Honey my DS is now ff but his sleeping hasn't changed much from when he was bf so it certainly isn't a guarantee that they sleep better when ff. I think there are many factors like weight, personality and how comfortable they are after feeds.
I remember with DD that everything felt like it was going to go on forever but now I'm on our second my perspective is different and know that whatever is happening it does come to an end. I remember the first 8 weeks feeling like an eternity of horrible sleepless nights and then it became easier and easier until she was sleeping through.

September dh just works such long hours that he's not here much really to help me. I think we need to work on the balance of who does what because at the moment it's not working for me and I'm getting a bit resentful. I'm sure the tiredness doesn't help. I know I should try and talk to him.
I was wondering if bf/ff made a difference to the length of sleeps really, a couple of friends of mine who ff tell me their baby sleeps six hours already. We are still in bed now, I think I need to try and get as much sleep during the day as possible!

Think I'm just feeling a bit blue today and hoping for a magic moment where everything will get easier. Surprising what a lack of sleep can do.