June mummies '05 thread 12 - the one where they aren't babies anymore!

[katzg]

new thread!

Enjoy!

Congrats Jonah

Jonah - wishing you all luck for the scan tomorrow. Cannot believe you have to wait til then, bloody ridiculous.

Bubb - yay and double yay that there's only one!

sfx - hope you're feeling better

Katz - I don't know how you do it. You should open your own chain of teashops in a Bettys stylee! They could be called Katz's and we of course would get free cakes whenever we visited

thanks for the praise on the cake, it was great fun and actually this one was very easy.

Jonah - hope the scan goes ok

Bub - glad your scan did go well.

Jonah sweetie fingers and toes crossed for today

Katz - fab cake - hope barbies got her legs back!

hello all

Jonah best of luck

katz - fab cake v.impressed

2happy - hope LO feeling better

tea - my dd has no dolls but has a remote control car or whatever you call themshe ignores it

dd settling better, i think 2wks of teething followed by a week with nightmares did dome damage to her routine. i am back on the Pantley book for toddlers, trying to sort out nap and general settling, it worked well when i followed the baby book.

tonight i have my first tutorial so dh is on bed duties for the first timebut it has to happen sometime although this is probably bad timing
so should mr sfx pop along in a panic be kind
oh yes so due to lack of sleep and interrupted evenings i have done zero study [major panic emoticon]

see you later

Really upset - my babysitter has been attacked by one of her flatmates (a girl). She's okay, but this girl had her pinned up against the wall with both hands round her throat

She's really upset, and I've had to call her mum (my mum's best friend) to tell her.

This girl's clearly mad as a hatter, does anyone have any idea how I can try and get her some help? She's a uni student, so I'm going to phone the nightline when it opens at 8.

Omg Trib that's awful! Is it college accommodation, or a private flat with students in? I don't really know what to suggest, would she go to the police?

It's a privately-rented house, there's definitely going to be an issue about getting her out of the contract as clearly she can't live there with the mad woman any more.

Her parents think she shouldn't go to the police, personally I think that's her choice and I'm happy to go with her if that's what she wants. It's so awful. She's talking about leaving uni because she can't cope with it.

Oh noooo, that's terrible, she shouldn't have to even think about leaving uni. Did she know this person before moving in with her? Does she share any classes with her, then I can understand her feeling proper intimidated. If there might be legal issues for getting out of the lease, it's better to have things officially documented, even if she's not thinking of pressing charges. If she has any marks she should go to A&E/docs/police and get them documented so that if an official report is needed in future, the info is on record. Is there any cheap uni-owned accommodation she might be able to move into until it gets sorted? Poor girl

Yes - she was good friends with her last year. All of babysitter's flatmates sound like nightmares one way or another, this girl has a lot to deal with, including her mother basically abandoning her, but even so. I don't think they have any classes together, which is good.

I'm sure the house situation can be resolved one way or another. I got her boyfriend to take some photos of her neck just in case, although there's nothing particularly visible.

Poor girl, it's her birthday on Monday and she's having a house party on Saturday! Fortunately mad woman had already said she wouldn't attend, but my babysitter is so NOT in a party mood.

Great, abandoned by her mother, stuck in a house with nutters, and at an age where self esteem and social confidence is about sock level at the best of times . I hope the student helpline gives some good advice. It stinks. (not the helpline, I mean)

hi all ,

trib- thats awful , i think personally that she should go to the police especially if she has to try and get out of a contract it may help.

katzg - thats a fantastic cake. will put my orders in for next year

sfx- hope your tutorial goes ok xx

jonah- hope everything went ok today (not really sure , havent read post-natal thread but will in a mo . As for little fingers up noses, omg it hurts. dd3 has the sharpest nails and has given me and daddy a few nose bleeds, she also does it to herself too . kind of cute as she walks around with her finger up her nose

2MHHH- hope ds id feeling better. dd3 had this for the last few weeks. i didnt think that it could be teething just a bug. she had the running oos and bad nappy rash , runny nose and very groggy. thank god she is better now though.

bubbs. regarding your ds pushing dolls; dd3 isnt really interested she would prefer to play with cars at the mo she is fasinated and her fav toy by far at the mo . loves them so it just goes to show

last sunday i got a text from dd1 nan. she asked how dd1 was. it happened to be on her dad's bday !! my phone was off all day so i got it on monday. i texted back to say she was fine and that she could come and see for herself if she wanted.
havent heard anything since !!!

been in the garden all eve. put a slide and swing up that we brought nearly 2 months ago. i have been thinking and i could drive i would sack dp . bloody useless i tell ya . i have totally and utterly quit asking him to do things. i am 100% getting on with things without him. waste of time better to get on with it myself.

dd2 and dd1 harvest festival tmw and im really looking forward to it .
oh , i took dd3 to a toddler group for the first time. we went a few times when she was 6-12 months, before she was aware of things around her and walking and talking. she loved it , we made MR Grass head (well i did but i tell everyone it was her )

dd1 is getting stroppier by the day , she is 9 next month and i think its hormones. i just wish there was something i could do . she dropped a pencil today and started going on one about how she was useless and couldnt do anything right. i reassured her as much as i could but its the whole senario that i think she likes , all the attention . it driving me mad, and everyone seems to play into her hand which makes her do it all the more.

anyway , why do i always have such long posts?

love to all xxx

Ooh, just to stress, it's the mad woman who's been abandoned by her mother, not my babysitter. Her mum is planning to come to Leeds this evening and park her camper van in my driveway! (Have pointed out that what with being a 45 degree slope it is not ideal for camping out).

Oh good, mind you I feel sorry for her mum - ds is 16m old and I already keep myself awake at night worrying about how when he gets bigger I won't be able to protect him from nasty people and bullies and school break misery etc etc Not that I'm a worrier, oooh no.
muma, men are pretty hopeless aren't they? dh randomly did the shopping and the ironing yesterday, leaves me wondering what on earth is wrong with him!

Jonah, hope you got good news at the scan today.x

Trib, sorry to hear about your babysitter. I have no words of advice but if her mum needs somewhere slightly less hilly to park her camper van just point her in the direction of my street.

Bubb, so pleased you got good news at your scan. You must be amazed at how quick this has been after waiting so long for your DS.

Tea, Trib is right. DS1 isn't off to school this year, he starts next September - he'll be very nearly 5 when he goes.

So much chatting on here I haven't a hope of catching up with everyone but it's so nice to see some old 'faces' back again.

All is well in the Wednesday household. We survived our holiday in France, in fact we had a surprisingly relaxed time all things being considered. If I'm honest though it was a relief that we all got home in one piece. DS2 has no sense of danger (or sense at all - can't help feeling guilty for this after throwing him down the stairs when he was a baby ), so we couldn't take our eyes off him for a second when we were anywhere near water (or roads, or stairs or dog poo or... etc etc).

DS2 still isn't saying any recognisable words, other than a general 'Dat?' whilst waving his finger about. He has been spotted climbing out of his cot though so gross motor skills are coming along...

Katz, that cake is fantastic! Obviously a bit too pink for this house - can you do Buzz Lightyear? Is your DD1 4? DS1 had his fourth birthday whilst we were on holiday and had to make do with a French cake (mind you it was a glorious strawberry ice cream cake that mummy ate more of than the birthday boy ).

I'm wittering (blame the red wine) so I'll go. Sorry for a rubbish catch-up.x

Hi everyone.
Sorry for disappearing again - I have now arrived back in the States and we are happily settled in out new house! It is soo lovely having everything so nice and new and clean. Been out and about with some of the other English girls out here a few times but I must admit I am missing my friends from home - and family of course!It is quite hard to meet new people as the obvious way at home is picking up and dropping off at school. However all the kids get the bus! Never mind I am sure it will get easier.
Guess what - I have some more news! I just found out I am expecting again! Number 3! OMIGOD! DH is absolutely over the moon as he has no biological children of his own but he treats mine as his own. It will be another Junie!
Have had a quick scan of the thread but am going to catch up properly now! - Trib that sounds awful about your babysitter. I remember when I was at uni the Student Union were really helpful in matters like this. They came down like a ton of bricks on any trouble makers. lets hope that your babysitter also recieves good support.

Congratulations Meglo! That's brilliant news.

hello all quick read before flopping in front of telly with cup of tea.

congratulations meglo that is great news

trib re babysitter every area should have an early intervention mental health team to deal with this, sometimes it goes via police or hospital or you can access direct. not sure how it works in your area. they do an assessment and assign a social worker andthen moves on from there. it is useful to have official documentation such as witness statements etc.

sorry about your babysitter, poor girl.

sorry proper catch up later
dh and dd did well at bedtime, my tuturial was fine must get new stationary to feel more like a proper student

OMG,I have a rare night out and when I come back there's loads to catch up on.Can't believe I've just been to a christmas card party.

Trib-That is absolutely awful.I bet your poor babysitter was petrified-that woman sounds like a nutter.Also ne words of advice but I hope she does something about it and carries on at uni.

Meglo-Congrats on your news.

MrsW-Glad you enjoyed your hols.It sounds lovely.Ds also isn't saying anything apart from mum and dad and doesn't even point yet and he hasn't tried getting out of his cot yet either.In a way I wish he would start trying to get out as I need his cot for the baby,who was definately a big shock...but a lovely one at that.

Muma-Dh is also useless at putting things together but he's excellent at housework,so can't complain there.

Hope everyone else is well.x

Meglo, congratulations!!!!! How lovely for your DH!!

Trib, can?t offer any support whatsoever, but poor girl! Being intimidated in your own home is just terrible.

Mrs Wed ? hi (sending big wave). Glad you and your lovely boys are fine and well. DS1 isn?t talking yet, just the odd word. He isn?t climbing out of his cot, but does start crying when I put his grobag on him at night ? it must hamper is climbing ambitions. Luckily he soon forgets about the indignity and goes straight to sleep.

I can?t criticise my DH at all at the moment. He is doing everything while I sit my fat a*se on the sofa and feel tired and nauseous. He?s doing all the cooking and washing up and generally being a star. Don?t tell him I said that though, don?t want him to get blase .

Well good news yesterday. I had a scan and everything was okay. I now have a photo of a tiny, fuzzy blob with the tiniest little heartbeat. Poor scan woman. I burst into floods of tears on her.I guess they?re used to it in their profession. The only slight gutter is that I?m 5 days out in timing, so I?m 8 weeks today, not 8/5. Five days extra of the horrid first trimester. Thanks for all the good wishes everyone, it really does help?

Jonah - so pleased! And meglo, another little Junie, that is fantastic!

MrsW - welcome back, lua and I managed to do nothing about arranging our lunch whilst you were gone, will get right on that!

I'm meeting my babysitter for 'lunch' at 5 (bloody students), I think she convinced her mum not to charge up the M1 in the camper van for now!

muma good to hear from you!

MrsW - She was 4 yep, not sure on the buzz lightyear front.

Trib - thats awful about your babysitter, like others have said the SU should be able to advise her.

Meglo - congratualtions on the baby front.

Jonah - glad it was good news on the baby front.

We must have a northern meet-up again soon, i will happily volunteer my house if people fancy it, and i can bake some yummy cake, although i won't promise to decorate it!

Jonah-I'm SO pleased for you.Glad it all went well.I've been checking both your threads,waiting for some news[stalker emoticon].x

jonahb thats great news, so pleased, so now you can get on with enjoying the sickness and the tiredness even more

mrsW - that sounds like a fab holiday, well done on keeping family safe, my dd has 2 scratches on her face and assorted bruises all over arms and legs

muma that sounds like hard work make sure you get help, its so easy to get run down just 'coping' and 'getting on' with it. not that you need me to tell you that.

i must say dh is very helpful he takes seriously this doing his fair share thing, then again it was part of the husband material test ability and willingness to do housework/ cooking and a dislike of football were essential
still there is the possibility of disgraceful midlife crisis...

so while i was dossing on MN dd called her dad on my mobile, presumably to complain that i was not paying her enough attention

Nice to hear it's not just my Dh who doesn't like football.

Have just registered DS with a pre-school.He starts Jan 2008.Seems ages away,but I bet it will fly.