September 2006 babies

[Lysettes]

Start of our september 2006 post natal thread!

Marls - hope the tornado doesn't come your way. Will have to have a look at the Yahoo page. Still haven't worked out how to post piccies there
Pol26 - poor you... sounds like you're dp needs a bit of a reality check, and I agree that it does sound a bit odd his brother's fascination with nappies... maybe you should say 'oh if you're coming you may as well change him to give me a rest' and maybe that will put him off
Finally last day of inlaws being here today - they mean well and aren't even staying with us but all the fuss wears me (and ds!) out. I've snet them all into town with dd so that I could give ds his lunch in piece and get him down for his nap. It was really nice just being the 2 of us again, like old times, not that I don't love dd but I do miss the one to one time i used to have with ds.

marls - good luck with the tornado!

pol - 35 mins!!!! sounds great and good you are feeling normal down there.

Is anyone else thinking about sex again or doing it or scared???? We have once since birth and it was really quite painful so I've been putting it off - sorry totally tmi I know but just wondering what everyone else is doing / thinking?

Sex??!!! Ok, it's only been a week since birth but from what I can recall last time it was at least 8 weeks ish before we took the plunge..in a case of if we don't get back on track we never will sort of thing

How's everyone's day been? My BIL popped up from London to meet nephew & DD decided she wasn't going to sleep at all so we're all totally shattered! Jack has slept pretty much all day so just wondering how the night is going to be. Right boob really sore & hate it when he feeds from that side...the left is fine!!! DH is irritating me & not sure why...think it's just hormones. Hung washing out & emptied the rubbish bin & am now feeling the scar..tut tut..but I kept on asking DH but it always falls on deaf ears!!! Felt a bit better generally, not so teary! Compo, know what you mean about missing time with the first. I miss DD a lot...even though she's here. Have tried to have a bit more time with her today as she's been a bit Mummy Mummy every two minutes.....it's hard isn't it?

Hope you're clear of the tornado, Marls.

Cori, we waited 8wks last time too even though I didn't tear. I can't imagine it will be any sooner this time. TBH, I didn't enjoy it until I stopped BF at 6mths as I hated the milk leaking out, it really put me off. Funnily enough, during sex was the only time I ever leaked so the 200 breast pads I bought went to waste.

Compo, it made me cry reading what you wrote about missing your DS. I've been crying about that most of today. I keep feeling like I've let him down by having another baby. He's been very clingy and won't even let DH do anything for him. He is so dificult to get to bed and all wk I've had to stay with him until he falls asleep. He also keeps saying no,no,no whenever he sees me start to BF and asking if he's my favourite boy still. I just don't know what to do. People kept warning me that I'd be frustrated with my toddler and want to spend allmy time with my newborn but I'm ashamed to say it's a little of the opposite.

So nice to know it's not just me having toddler problems. Ds is being lovely with Freddie, but he is so up and down emotionally at the moment, I think because DH is at home at the moment it is actually making things harder for him to adjust. He goes from being really clingy with me to wanting nothing to do with me which is upsetting me, but he just wants daddy all the time and can't even let him go upstairs without shouting 'dada' and bursting in to tears.
Thought I had come down with mastitis last night, I had such a pain in my left side which got worse and worse and I ended up having to go to bed, I went freezing cold and was shaking, it was horrible. But I expressed 4oz and took some paracetomol and felt ok and been fine today other than a bit of tenderness. It is not hot to the touch or hard, so I think it was just engorged and I needed to relieve the pressure, but it was a really unpleasant experience.
Well done to those of you who've managed to get your babies in to routines already! I guess freddie is on;y a week old, so early days, but his feeding and sleeping times seem to change on a daily basis and unlike with DS, I have no inclination to try and get him into a routine, I just don't feel like I can organise myself enough. Although I guess if I want to get mine and DS's routines back on track then I will have to try and do something in the next couple of weeks.

Marls, about the tornado... Yikes, I'm glad we don't have anything like that here.

Pol, I reckon getting your BIL needs to change the smelliest, dirtiest nappy in the world - try and get DS to do one right up his back so that he has to change all his clothes as well...!!

Lysettes, sex?? wow at your once already!!! Not something I'm thinking about at all...!! Homemama, I found the same thing as you last time. I think breastfeeding reduces libido...

Homemama and Cori, I think it's normal what you're feeling about your older ones. It's such a massive change for them and they can't help but feel left out I guess. We are trying to be more patient than normal with DS1, who is pushing it a bit at times....

Oooh Mabel, that sounds sore. Poor you. The midwife told me I could take ibuprofen as well, if that works better. I keep being really really itchy and wanting desperately to scratch myself to bits.. Ouch!

well jacob is 10 weeks old now so it's not like it's straight away with the sex thing - am really feeling quite apprehensive though!

and as for a routine - we are lucky if anything really lasts longer than a couple of days to be honest - had a really bad night last night and DH kept saying he'd get up and never quite making it! Jacob is in his cotbed now and doing a sheets change at 4am after having approx 45 mins sleep all night wasn't top of my list of must do's last night!

Another one here not contemplating sex until at least after the 6 week check!!
Today went completely to pot. Dd decided to be awake last night from 1am-2am and then slept til something like 6.30am but I was wide awake, God knows why. Then she decided to be awake most of today until in desperation we took her out in the car. So boobs starting to feel a bit sore. I think midwife did say there might be a 10 day growth spurt but it will reminded me why I hate this newborn stage Ds being really good but still feel bad when he's on my knee having a story and then dd cries and i have to go get her. I guess it's something he'll have to get used to when dh goes back to work Thursday but still makes me feel

Hi all -- definitely getting my threads mixed up

Posted on prenatal thread that tornado did miss us by 48 km - yay! Luckily, hail not nearly big enough to keep in freezer to show unbelieving grandparents (unlike March?s storm).

Lysettes - Not surprised that it hurt! You're definitely brave . If anyone else has looked ... after 3 weeks, still very different "down there." Stitched areas seem healed, but everything else is so swollen and out of proportion ... have been told "no sex" by Dr. until after 6-week checkup.
(Had also been told "no exercise", but girls, I couldn't wait. Became a runner again today. Well, a fast-walker with occasional sprints.)

Homemama, I'm so sorry. You're not the only one; friend of mine just had DD & felt the same way; it hurt her to feel she was ?neglecting? firstborn DS. My sister, as well: Everyone offered to take older DS off her hands while all she craved was time with DS away from baby.

Cori ?DS1 has been both clingy and misbehaving recently, both only towards me. He always seems to be underfoot.

Compo ? Definitely hate the newborn stage as well, for the constant feeding!

I hate the newborn stage too! I'd forgotten that all they do is eat, sleep, poo & be sick. All quite a bore & a chore until you get that first smile at 6 weeks! Jack fed at 11pm, 1.30am, 3am, 5am & now just at 8.30am......I am so tired but I think I've gone into overdrive. DH keeps telling me to sleep but I can't sleep "on demand"...if you see what I mean? My boobs are sore too...incredibly heavy etc...& I forgot this morning which side it was so think I've used the same boob twice in a row if not three times.....

I am convinced that this honeymoon period with Freddie can't last, I fed him at 10.30pm last night and he went til 4.30am this morning and is generally feeding every 3 hours. He is so undemanding. I am sure there will be a growth spurt soon to throw a spanner in the works.
We tried a bottle again last night, he took 4 oz of ebm from DH, but was still hungry, so I warmed a couple more ounces up, but he wouldn't take it, so I ended up feeding him myself. He didn't get any wind this time though so that's good.
Just wondering how often your babies have been weighed since coming out of hospital? Freddie is now 10 days old and hasn't been weighed yet, he is clearly quite healthy, but that's not the point. I saw a different midwife to my usual (crap) one on friday and she also told me I should be doing 100 pelvic floor excercises a day and gentle sit ups! God knows when I'm supposed to fit that in!!
Marls - glad to hear the tornado missed you!!!

100 pelvic floors a day?! I'm lucky to manage 20... trying to do it while I feed, but I only remember half way through normally!!

I don't mind this newborn stage tbh, and am finding that while DS2 sleeps in the day, I can find a bit of time for DS1 (although going on here doesn't help... [shame]). Mabel, I think I am lucky too - Fraser slept last night from his 10.30/11 feed until 3, and then 6.30 - then I put him on my chest to try and get a few more mins sleep out of him - got about 10! Every one counts... I definitely noticed a growth spurt in week 3 though... he was waking twice all last week, around 1 and 4.

going to try and get to a singing thing for DS1 today at 10 am. Better go start packing the car with all the paraphanalia we need... sigh.

Oh re. weighing, F has been weighed 4 times I think, but that's it now. If I want him weighed again I have to go to the baby clinic, and not sure I'm ever going to make that really!! so next weigh-in will be at my 6 week check I expect, if they do it then. I'm not sure.

ooh what are gentle sit ups? I only know the hard work ones?!! I definitely need to do something to tone up my flabby tummy. I'm still in maternity trousers on day 11 and it's depressing me already!!
Definitely not doing 100 pelvic floors either
Managed to let dh lie in this morning as he was up in the night with dd and was getting grumpy through tiredness yesterday. Ds was being a bit of a handful though, dd was asleep in the bouncy chair and he was being as loud as possible right near her. I guess i'll have to get used to that happening a lot!!
We've got the midwife coming today - 3rd visit and apparently the last. Hopefully she'll weigh dd so I can see if all the feeding is doing any good!!

hey everyone

jacob has been weighed every week since birth, and we are off to baby clinic again today for this week's weigh in!

he is having real problems farting now and then pooing as well so we are trying coleif drops as the symptoms are exactly when i had IBS (sorry if tmi!!), and I'm also stopping dairy to see if that helps him.

also his BCG lump has finally come up so at least we know it's working but it's big red and horrid - anyone remember what theirs looked like at school???

got a book for DH from the library on "the first year for dads" and he read month 2 last night when Jake wouldn't settle and has suddenly become much more understanding about sex!!! Hurrah!!!!

if anyone wants to see photos (there are a lot!) go to www.snapfish.co.uk (sorry can't figure how to get a direct link in! and put in the following password etc [email protected] and password is nemesis1

lol

just a quicky - we are going to register the birth on wed, does anyone know what I need to take with me - ID or anything , I can't remember?
(Would phone the registry office, but they keep you on hold for ages!)

Hey ladies...

Just spent twenty mins searching for this thread... but looking for 'September 07 babies' no wonder I couldn't find it any where, it must be the sleep deprivation!!!
we had a time of it yesterday, firstly it was Emily's (DD) party and so had the food to do- just brought the tesco's frozen bits for grown ups and chicken goujons, salad bits, cheese and pineapples etc... for kids... So by four pm I was done-in!

At 5:50pm started feeding Ben and he had gone three hours... Fed him practically four ounces of SMA white, the gold doesn't even make him last an hour and didn't DD so we swapped after just under a week. Any how, fed him and then left him in DP's arms as he was wide awake and a bit fretful and took DD to bed, gave her stories, milk etc... came down at seven ish to find DP giving him another bottle of which Ben was guzzling down, and so I finished him off as he does settle better with me after a feed- mainly because DP feeds him once in a blue moon. So finshed another four ounces and wrapped him up to put him down. Five minutes later he's screaming and ferreting around for more milk! He drank another four ounces and so I fed him from 5:50pm until 8:50pm... !

Then he slept til about ten and woke for more, which I changed him, and put him in a clean sleepsuit etc and took him up to bed... I fed him again and he drank probably two- three ounces. He then woke every hour! still ferreting around but was pacified by me rocking him in my arms and he'd nod of again and i'd put him down. BUT still wanted that another hour!

I don't want to leave him to cry, he's too little and he already has windy problems ao the crying will make it worse, but then feeding him so often will too as the night progressed he was snacking on the bottle rather than drinking and only having less than two ounces each feed- which I know is just a 'top-up' for him rather than a feed.

DD had a dummy when she was like this and as DP worked away he, although didn't like it, he had to accept it really. Even though I don't particularly like dummies, DD was a sucky baby and it instantly settled her and she went straight to sleep and then fed every four hours, taking on more and the wind was less and she was more settled. DP said he thinks that DD will be jealous and snatch the dummy from him etc... She hasn't been like that once with naything else! And he doesn't like dummires anyway. He said all babies must be like this and everyone else get through it. May I also add that he didn't wake at all throught the night and has never done a night feed in his whole life. Maybe a week or two of constant feeding day and night will change his mind ... He left for work this morning and I said don't be surprised if he has a dummy in when you come home so we can have some rest and DD canhave some attention rather than mummy doing things with a baby on her knee and feeding him. He demanded I didn't and 'I' needed to start coping and he'd get through it.

What do I do, he has been slightly better from the last feed at noon but I know come six o'clock we'll be back to the fun and games again... My sister has said just try the dummy and see how you go but know DP will just be furious and then i'll be nagged at and shouted at so think maybe it's not worth it.

What do you all think?????????

Compo, I've only just got my ordinary trousers out, and I'm 3 weeks and 3 days in, so don't worry just yet!!

Oh pol, I think you need to do whatever makes you and DS happy. DH needs to listen to you, as you are the one doing the 24 hour hard work here, let's face it. If that means a dummy, then so be it. What does DH have against them?

Hi just catching up with you all or there'll be too much to read by the time LO does (eventually) arrive! You all sound like you're doing so well, it's good to know I'll have experienced people to come and talk to when I'm finally blessed with my new son!

Pol - not that I'm there yet but I'd go with the dummy - he sounds sucky and he needs to get larger feeds than 2oz at a time if he's going to get any length of sleep in. At the risk of sounding like an 'I know best', I think you do - DP was away last time and doesn't know what your DD was like at that age but you do! - trust your instincts

very quick one - pol - give him a dummy for goodness sake - it's YOU that's having to cope, not your DH - it might just save your sanity!

agree with everyone else Pol - the dummy is a life saver for us. I got myself into an awful mess with ds by him using me as a human dummy, that I eneded up giving up b/feeding after 5 weeks. This time dd has been on the dummy since day 1 I think!! It just helps her get to sleep in the day mostly and keeps me sane!
Clairemow - that is very reassuring re. maternity trousers - I'm desperate to throw mine out but everything I own is just too tight at the moment!! Just need to lose about half a stone to fit into everything again but the b/feeding makes me so hungry!!

Mabel - see this about registering the birth. Dh went on his own and just needed to know my details - where I was born, I think. Once the birth is registered you can then send off for child benefit so worth doing early!!

All this talk of getting into normal clothes....I still need to lose more than a stone & half before I'm back where I was in Jan pre BFP!!!...sigh......

Pol..DUMMY!!! You are the 24/7 carer..Mother knows best & all that... Mandaz, lovely pics of Georgia..she suits her name! Mabel, DH registered the birth last week & didn't need anything....other than to remember where both he & I were born!!!!

I'm off to bed...it's only 8pm but I can't take anymore today!! BTW, anyboby know if eating nuts can given them wind & make them cripey? J has been really bad since 4 but settled now & the only thing I can point at are brazil nuts...???

Gosh i've only not had chance to get on the computer for a couple of days and there are so many posts to catch up. How exciting that so many of us have popped now.

Sounds like i'm not the only one with a clingy toddler - somehow it helps to know there are other people im the same boat. Think DH could be a bit more understanding when I try and explain how difficult it is with the two of them. Notice that he hasn't been brave enough to have them both at the same time although he did take DS3 out for a few hours at the weekend to give me a break.

I have been getting Keziah wirghed fairly frequently because she was prem. Will have her weighed tomorrow. She was 7lb 7oz last week and I'm keen to know what she is now as in the last ten days or so I have managed to get her latching to the breast for every feed. After 6 weeks of expressing and then giving EBM via bottle. So much easier, especially at night. For the last few nights she has been having a bath with DS3 at 6.30 and then a feed and put to bed in the dark. Generally waking for a feed about 1am and then again between 4 and 5am. Just need to persuade DH to let me put her in her own room. Aren't babies noisy at night. I'm a really light sleeper and I really find it disturbing with her in the room.

DD1 has survived a week away from home at uni. Has e-mailed once to say she is alive and well.

marls - sorry about the headaches and that you're feeling so emotinoal...lovely that you're a godmother...glad you escaped the tornado!

Compo - our ds (age 3)is similar to yours - he tends to wake around 6.30am, but is in a light sleep from about 5.30am so if dd wakes around that time I dread him being disturbed...I'm also wearing feeding bras 24/7 at the moment. I'm wearing the ones I had from ds and they're grotty, but boobs still feeling v full so want to wait a few weeks for supply to settle down before buying new ones.

Cori - is your dh better? are you still feeling blue? Don't do too much, you want to watch that scar if you can.

claire - sounds like Fraser's doing great.

homemama - hope your ds1 is more settled and that he goes down a bit better at nights this week.

mabel - glad it asn't mastitus...sounds sore. Hope compo's link answered your questions re registering birth. We're doing it tomorrow. We have an appt for 9.30am so that'll be a challenge! We have to take a letter from the hospital and our marriage certificate (but we're in Scotland and I think it could be a different process...)

pol - Happy Birthday to your dd. Party sounds lovely (though exhausting!). What did you decide about the dummy? can't you give it a try and see? all that feeding sounds exhausting...

We had a busy day yesterday and I definately overdid it. Felt v tired and emotional by the evening. Done v little today and feel a lot better. I was discharged from the midwife today, will hopefully see the Health Visitor in the next couple of days. Dd hasn't been weighed since she was born and I'm desperate to have her weighed as ds lost a lot of weight and took ages to regain his birth weight and I'm slightly anxious about that...

I've lost 3 of the 4 stone that I gained (not bad for 11 days!). I have virtually no clothes that fit...