September 2006 babies

[Lysettes]

Start of our september 2006 post natal thread!

Hey all!

1b1b- SEX!!! you are brave, although feeling 'normal' down there I don't particularly want to have sex and besides that i'm too tired! However DP seems to be like a dog on heat (sorry if tmi) he has no chance though!

Thinking too of getting out the gro bags mainly because I try not to change him in the night, unless he poo's and also he finds the blankets round his face annoying. Bit scared though as don't want to do it and unsettle him even more!

Last night was hell... ! He cried from 5:30pm until nine thirty when I fed him and put him down. I think he may have colic as he has always been windy and it seems to be getting worse even though we are using a two squirt of infacol before each feed. Didn't help that DP fed him his seven thirty feed and i'm never sure whether he got all the wind up or not and so feel cross and inclined to blame him which wouldn't be fair really but thats how I feel. So he cried for ages, well was pacified by the dummy and me swinging him about and swaying except was still groaning and squealing every few minutes and then farting. Not sure what else to do because we're on the doctor browns bottles and infacol! Think that we're just going to have to sit it out. But no one wants to see their baby so uncomfortable and in pain.

Also DP has a prospective parents evening tonight and so won't be home! I'm having to put both of them to bed on my own not sure what time DD will get to bed as it's DS's bad time and she takes a good half an hour to do stories, teeth and milk etc... God help me!!! Still may put her to bed earlier than the usual seven o'clock depending on how settled DS is...!

hello everyone! will catch up with all your details later but for now just wanted to ask - my midwife said it was 'normal' to get blisters on your nipples - is she right? how long do they take to settle down? - I'm on day 3 and milk's come in, latch checked and is fine - baby suckling for 1hr at a time in 10-15 min spurts every 2-3 hours.

thanks!

(2b0b - Brave woman! or mad.... )

Yeha liquid- you have your bubba!!! Not sure about the blistered nipples thing but I brough lanosil (or similar spelling) from boots which really eased my sore nipples.

Compo, they're yours..! You're on the yahoo group aren't you? I'll contact you there with details etc & get them sent ASAP...

thanks What's your name on there and i can send you a message with my details if that's easier. I can't see where to add my details

aha - figured out who you are and have hopefully sent you a message

LC - that is a lovely picture. I've finally managed to add a couple of pictures too

Hi Compo,

Can't see any messages yet.. assume you posted to yahoo? Maybe it just takes a while! Lovely pics of DD...but I love the one of your DS when he meets DD!!!

Liquid, lovely pic too..

Hi, yes it was on Yahoo - I think I clicked on send a message to - not sure if it comes up on the yahoo page or as an email to your yahoo account... technology very confusing to me
Dd been very sleepy this afternoon, had to wake her up to feed her and she's gone back to sleep... hope we're not in for a bad night

Hi compo...got email! Jack has decided that after being asleep most of the day isn't going dowm now...as he has been for past 3 nights!! Just when you think you may have some sort of little routine established....

I am adding on yahoo!!! And think it's working! Yeah, since i'm making sense of all this the sleep deprivation must be lifting

For anyone not on yahoo: Alexander James

Got some lansinoh stuff for boobs - still hurts but going to keep at it for now. Thanks anyway!

I'm using lanisoh too LC - it's brilliant stuff but very expensive!!
Dd slept from 8.30pm til 1.30am last night but then I couldn't get her to go down Fed her on both sides until 2.30am and then was awake with her for another hour putting dummy in and swaddling until eventually she fell asleep. Ds got up at 6.15am so exhausted today. Woke her up at 8am as realised she hadn't fed for nearly 6 hours.

had a similar night compo - F awake at 2.20, fed for about 10 mins (!), then was awake and crying every time I put him down until 4 am... Didn't want any more food though - kept offering...! So a bit knackered today... and teary in the night as my eyes were so sore from exhaustion! Another day started though now.

must be something in the air as i have has 3 awful nights. after being really dood with EBM in a bottle, now K is BF she just wants to snack on and off all night and will be really unsettled unless she is in bed with us which i don't lke but am doing as the only way of getting any sleep at all. Considering FF as really can't cope with lack of sleep.

How do I get onto Yahoo. Would love to see all the pics everyone has posted of the little ones.

Thought I would come and say hello to you all now I have given birth I have copied and pasted from due sept thread realised I typed 26mins instead of 36 though:

Congratulations to those that have had their lo's

As for me ... Its a girl!!!, Elizabeth Jane was born at 23.42 on 27th after a speedy labour weighing 8lb 1oz.

Excuse grammer punctuation,

Prostin gel was given at 7pm I started to have pains immediatley but with no rhythm or length. At 9pm they started to become stronger and more regular dh was sent home as they said it was just pains caused by the gel and not contractions. It all then happened so quickly that I have no idea of times, I decided I needed the toilet and waited till a pain had gone, got up, got into toilet had another pain, went to toilet got up and had another then managed to get back to the bed where another contraction got me. Buzzed midwife had pethedine, put me into a side room and checked me to see if I was dilating - she thought it was still the prostin gel causing the pain prior. 4cm dilated contractions coming every 2 mins now, midwife rang DH to meet us at labour ward. Got into delivery room where I requested a epidural and anthesist came immediately (dh had just turned up at this point too) I had the sudden urge to push so midwife checked me and it was too late for epidural next thing I knew Elizabeth had arrived.

According to to my notes 1st stage labour was 36mins, 2nd 6 mins and final was 7 mins.

1st degree tear but no stitches. Elizabeth has a head full of dark hair and is so settled.

Will try to keep up with the thread. I have popped a pic of elizabeth on yahoo

We are in for a fun night here... in more ways than one...
Yesterday DP was at parents evening until 10pm although he did come home from 4-5:30pm to supposedly 'help-out' although he drank a can of red bull and then fell asleep in the chair, needless to say that red bull doesn't give you wings. And was majorly miffed as he hasn't even done one night feed to warrant feeling that tired! So he was already in my bad books for being so lazy.
So he came in at ten and I had managed to put DD to bed and feed DS - some how they always want me at exactly the same time, you know how it is So I had rushed putting DD to bed as quickly as I could without unsettling her and then sorted out DS. I was just putting him down when DP came in.
All I asked was for him to put the milk powder in the bottles once they had cooled and put them in the fridge, as he said he was staying up for half an hour or so. I went to sleep... DS woke at two twenty ish for a bottle and I go down to find them still on the side, lids off and no powder in... I was furious and of course had to re-sterlilize and do it all over again at two thirty!!! GRRRRRR
Is it really too much to ask when he leaves the house at 7:45am, does no night feeds, and practically no feeds altogether... he doesn't settle him or hold him, change him hardly ever and is it too much to ask him to fill three bottles with five scoops in each???!!!
Am I expecting too much? Then tonight he has moaned because the lucnh time washing up hadn't been done- two plates and one plastic bowl!
I am furious because DS has been unsettled since ten to four this evening and DP didn't come in until twenty past six and it was only a teacher training day. Find out too that for lunch yesterday and today he had gone to the chip shop and had a fish lunch wish I had the time to eat!!! Tend to wolf down a roll of slice of toast as quickly as possible before someone starts moaning for me!

Tassis ? think our posts crossed ? we have Mom & MIL to thank for that schedule, I think ? plus we're cheating, stuffing him full of formula ...

LexyB - LOL at boring; I totally understand ? bet your household?s anything but, though! I am being super-proactive as not even my fattest fat jeans fit & don?t want to blow cash on anything I?d only wear for weeks (well, wishful thinking; could be months).
Hope K. gets better ?

Cori & Norms, I?m so sorry ? Have had the most ?up? last few days, but hormones are the worst. Don't think anything has ever made me feel more lost. I am hoping all gets better for you very soon.

Cori, I?ll echo Claire?s good advice re: changing boys. DS2 would?ve already gotten us twice, otherwise.

Congrats 2B0B!! Still taking Dr.?s advice, but doesn?t mean I can't dream about it ...

Pol ? LOL! (?dog in heat?; red bull ?) Sorry to hear about DH. If he doesn?t leave the house until 7:45 am he could definitely do the 10:00/10:30 pm feed, couldn?t he? I still suggest an untimely (for him) all-day excursion ?

Pol, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all re. DH. Sorry, but I'd give him a good kick up the arse if I were you...! It is definitely not too much to ask him to put powder in bottles. How long would that take?! at his reaction to the bowls needing washing...

Feeling good today, as DH did the middle of the night feed with bottle of EBM, so I slept all night - first time in MONTHS!! Now there's a suggestion for your DH Pol...

pol - agree with clairemow!

tips for boys peeing - jacob loves to do that so we have got the cotton wool pleats from boots, one section wrapped in tissue absorbs it all and it can be thrown away in the nappy sack with the dirties at the same time.

Marls we too are cheating and formula feeding at night although it doesn't seem to be making muich difference at the moment.

we are also trying coleif drops for colic - it's a bit more of a hassle with bf as you need to put a few drops in a bit of expressed milk and give it to them before you bf, but it does seem to be helping. also jacob is getting rid of wind better the further over our shoulder we put him, or on our knees.

can someone tell me how to do the yahoo thing as i have a yahoo account already set up?????

have a great rest of the weekend ladies and hope your (and our!) nights get better!

xxx

Hi everyone How does the formula feeding thing work at night? Is it possible to breast feed in the day and do formula at night or do your breats become really painful? Dd went 6 hours in between one feed and another last night and both my breasts were leaking and felt sore so I didn't get as much sleep as I should have!! Does giving formula at night help them to sleep through quicker? I'm getting desperate for a routine

I'm not sure that giving formula during the night will make them go through quicker... I'm not sure what the secret is although DD went through at seven weeks... fingers crossed this time! Although DS seems to be quiet good at realising it's night except he has been wide awake the past four nights between 7-10pm which isn't great.

Had a go at DP for doing nothing, took DD to kids kingdom today- like a soft play area... and he expected to sit down and drink tea. Told him theat was my job, seens as DS was due a feed and he didn't want to do that he had to go off with DD, not sure who was more tired when we left - DP or DD
Resigned to the fact he's yet again going to do nothing with this baby either (much the same as DD although he was only there at weekends when she was little) as he has sat reading the paper, talking to his brother in the phone and watching football while I have been making lunch, sterilising bottles, settling DS and putting DD to bed. But there is one thing, at least I know that things are done properly when I do them.

Lysettes- I think it was Marls that started the yahoo group thing, not sure how you can join now... I think the link was somewhere on the antenatal thread?

Lysettes - here is the yahoo group - request to join and one of us will approve you

Pol - at your DH! You've made me feel quite guilty for having a go at mine for comparitively nothing this morning, I'm afraid I agree with clairemow and others, a good kick up the arse sounds appropriate. My DH is insisting I express enough for him to do one night feed and does the night time nappies too!

Speaking of expressing, my nipples started bleeding last night so I'm almost fully doing EBM - so much less painful! I'm trying to keep up the odd 'proper' BF so he stays used to having to work for it. My question though is once I've chilled it and then heated it up - how long can I keep it for before having to throw it away, is it up to around an hour?

Marls - really hope you're feeling ok and prescription's helping.

I'm sure that breast milk has the same thing as formula and is an hour once out of fridge... but where as formula made up in the fridge only has a 24hr life breast milk expressed has a 48 hr life. I'm sure that is what i've read.

Get this, DP is actually feeding DS!!! Except DS is screaming and DP looks hopelessly panicked by it all not knowing whether he has wind or wants more milk etc... Oughta go and sort it out.

Hey,

According to the RCM EBM can be left in the fridge for 48 hours now (this has only just changed from 24..in most EU countries it's still only 24) & in the freezer for up to 3 months. Once out no more than an hour really. Sorry to hear you've had bleeding Liquid, makes me curl my toes for you!

I'm so so so so tired! It's 7.30 & Jack isn't settled & I want to sleep & obviously can't yet. Have sent up DH to try & calm him who has just talked to me through the monitor telling me that he's hungry even though I've just fed him....why is it that most men automatically assume it's hunger when they cry?????