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November 2012 - Roll call!

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StuntNun · 05/07/2014 07:56

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Elizadoesdolittle · 08/07/2014 22:17

pass re the shopping thing, if I didn't have girls I would definitely be buying my niece more clothes than I do, I'm a sucker for girls clothes (she has all DD1 and E's hand me downs so doesn't need loads). I would just accept graciously and if you do ever see a book or something he would like then you can reciprocate but don't go out of your way.

vq hope the vom has stayed away.

GTbaby · 08/07/2014 23:26

Eliz I know what you mean. But this kid was calling her mummy. No other nursery work. Not in a general way. She told me he calls me mummy.
H shouting mum and a worker stepping in and helping him didn't bother me but the way this kid called her mum was different. She was answering him "yes darling/what would you like"

Obviously I'm alone with thinking this is weird. Hey ho everyone is different.

ValiumQueen · 09/07/2014 04:05

2am start to the day. In fact yesterday didn't really end, just continued. I have had about 2 hours of broken sleep. I kept waking up and jumping out of bed thinking one of them had vommed. The girls are sleeping peacefully but J has been restless all night and coughing a reflux cough. His teeth I think. He is also making the Geiger counter noise that usually precipitates vom. He has a snotty nose too. So we are watching Peppa Pig on the iPad and he is eating cereal. We have gone through the entire playlist of Patti Shulka which is very long. She is fab Smile

ValiumQueen · 09/07/2014 04:29

A tad pissed off with DH. I was up all last night, looked after them all whilst ill yesterday, and have had a bad night tonight also. I have just gone to wake him as he is off today. He will have the girls so could squeeze a nap in so long as the TV is on. I think he may have rolled over again.

Zamboni · 09/07/2014 06:05

Oh VQ so much sympathy I had a couple of nights like that when S had the pox. Rubbish. Hope everyone in the Valium household is better v soon ThanksBrew

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 06:20

Boo to shitty night vq :(

How is S today zamboni ?

Last bit of freelancing today then the rest of the week will be spent going through old clothes and sorting for sale/donation/bin, ditto with toys, general pre holiday decluttering.

Pikz · 09/07/2014 06:51

Pass I agree with Eliza, the odd book or something but no need to go overboard

VQ I am sorry I wish I could come up there and help.

Love. A good sort out PR

Hope the hair has stayed fairy

Ermmmm memory gone... Back shortly

Pikz · 09/07/2014 06:52

GT I would find it strange if L called anyone else mummy

Zamboni · 09/07/2014 07:04

Much better thanks PR. Still spotty but all scabby spots which I am having to fight the urge to pick and much much happier.

Decluttering makes me Smile.

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 07:59

Oh that's great news zamboni

Eek my internet is playing silly buggers I need it to finish my fascinating spreadsheet.

Rowingdowntheriver · 09/07/2014 08:47

vq sorry to hear you are having such a tough time illness wise. I find these things all sem to happen at the same time - it's never just one child ill at a time is it?!

gt I think I would feel the same as you about the nursery worker being called mummy. I'd be fine if the nursery nurse said with a smile to the child 'I'm rowing' and then carried on without making a big deal about it or, if the child called her mummy only occassionally and it was clearly a mistake but it sounds like this child now uses mummy as the default name for the nursery worker.

I'm off to meet a new client this morning. Not what I expected to be doing with a 4 week old baby but that is the joy of being self-employed!! Luckily I have someone else doing the work for me and all I need to so is introduce myself, impress him with my brilliance and get him to sign up to loads of my services! That should be easy on 3 hours sleep and with baby vom in my hair! Actually yw he works in the climate change industry too which is a new area to me.

ValiumQueen · 09/07/2014 12:31

I have come to work for a rest Grin I did have a couple of hours from 5 to 7 when poor DH, looking like death, shuffled downstairs. Bless him.

GTbaby · 09/07/2014 15:55

Argh. Mil is annoyed with me because I was rude with her before I went out. So fucking sick of this crap. If I was constantly off with her when she is rude I'd be pisses off 100% of the time.
Fh and I are constantly snipping at each other. Last night I poured his drink and remainder content of bottle down drain cos he wound me up Blush

Any tips for anger management for me? I snap too quickly. I need coping techniques for ignoring him&/her when they are being stupid.

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 17:09

Quiet thread today. Thinking of yw in particular on her first day at the office.

GT how did he react when you chucked his drink out?

I'm not sure you do need anger management techniques. Feeling angry is a healthy response to being treated like shit, which, quite frankly, is happening to you. I am concerned that if you suppress a natural anger you will be in danger of losing your fighting spirit.

However, being angry and not feeling able to act on it must be very frustrating. But I stand by what I said above. You need to get angry.

GTbaby · 09/07/2014 17:46

He did nothing. He didn't react. I feel like I get angry and can't control it. I shout and start ranting. So nothing I say is taken seriously. I think if I control my emotions and say things calmly I might actually get heard?

GTbaby · 09/07/2014 17:47

BP hope exam went well. And goes great tomorrow too

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 18:04

You're right, that would be true anger mgt, I often see it being asked for by people who feel they shouldn't get angry so easily. That's what I was worried about. You are right that losing control and ranting puts you in a position of weakness (though I don't blame you for doing it). I am not sure of their respect for you whatever volume you speak at but for a more peaceful household less ranty shouting would be nicer for you and the boys at any rate :)

How would you feel about some meditation techniques for a calmer 'whole' you?

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 18:04

Also sending best wishes to pig xx

YellowWellies · 09/07/2014 18:33

Hello all! First day was great. It just feels so right and a really happy workplace. Rowing happy to chat if you're doing stuff in the climate change sector, just pm me hon xx

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2014 18:48

That's wonderful yw I am really happy for you :)

Elizadoesdolittle · 09/07/2014 19:25

Yay yw

gt I really don't know what to suggest but somehow your DH needs to understand the effect his behaviour is having on you. I think a calm adult to adult conversation is needed. Can you find an evening when the two of you can go somewhere quiet to talk? Easier said than done I know!

DD1 has been awful since she got home from nursery so has been sent to bed early without any stories. I'd given her so many warnings I just couldn't take anymore. I hate sending her to bed with bad feelings so will pop in for a cuddle in a bit but god she was pushing my buttons!

That aside we had actually had a nice day. Think its the fall out of the weekend.

ValiumQueen · 09/07/2014 20:02

Well done YW.

Fingers and toes crossed for you BP.

GT download the Mindfulness app. It is a couple of quid well spent. It is a graduated blue icon with a white seated figure. It will help you find a safe place to go to when you feel the anger welling. Obviously the underlying cause needs to be addressed, but that is easier said than done, and is best done with a cool head Thanks

I am tired. I am going to bed zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2014 21:02

Good advice for you gt. I will admit that I saw your post earlier and I could only think of unhelpful things to say which was why I didn't. You are quite right that losing your cool (understandably) will lesson your argument - you know what it's like at school when the kids get the giggles at the ranty teacher. The mindfulness app sounds great.

Glad you are getting off to bed early vq. Fingers crossed you stay that way.

Fantastic news yw! Sounds like it has been a great decision.

The weather here has been absolutely beautiful so we had another trip to the safari park after our trip yesterday was washed out. P is another fan of ninos and was transfixed by the guinea pigs of all things. The afternoon was a combination of p watching baby jake on the upstairs telly while I hoovered and lots and lots of dancing and singing and running around.

Thank you all for your thoughts previously on p dropping milk. She has had no milk at all now for several days and seems perfectly happy. I offered her it in a normal cup which she tried then screwed her face up and handed it back. She eats plenty of cheese and yogurt and other calcium type things so it is fine - just very sudden. Bedtime has been unaffected other than requiring a rendition of twinkle twinkle which she made me blub by singing along to last night.

What I have noticed with the lack of milk is that her food intake has gone through the roof! Post nap she ate two pots of strawberries, two satsumas and an Ella's kitchen smoothie. While waiting for me to cook dinner she ate several raw mushrooms and a packet of raisins. For her dinner she had a grown up portion of oven chips (we had to sacrifice some of ours!) and a sizeable chunk of omelette with salad followed by another satsuma, half a banana and a small fromage frais. Of course now I am worried I am over feeding her!

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2014 21:08

Maybe I should give you the full day of noms to give a better picture. . .

Brekkie was a bowl of shredded wheat minis - maybe 6 or 7 with whole fat milk.
At the safari park I treated her to an ice lolly.
Lunch was cheese and oatcakes with grapes, tomato and cucumber sticks.

Our days have started slowly since he holidays started so she isn't getting breakfast until 8:30-9. Lunch is then 12-12:30 and dinner is about 5:30-6pm.

What d'ya reckon? Too much grub?

Elizadoesdolittle · 09/07/2014 21:24

pass No, I don't think it's too much. She's just adjusting to dropping her milk intake, I doubt she will eat that much every day. And it's all healthy stuff. The amount of energy she uses running here there and everywhere she will soon burn it off.