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JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

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justhayley · 12/06/2014 22:20

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies ThanksWine xxx

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GrouchyKiwi · 22/10/2014 09:07

I get most chores done by wearing the baby. The only things I can't do with her in the wrap are cleaning the bathroom and tidying the floor. So that might work for you, ickle?

icklekid · 22/10/2014 09:16

That is what I was doing kiwi but my back is hurting too much to wear him at the moment Sad

GrouchyKiwi · 22/10/2014 09:23

That's a shame. :( Hope it feels better asap.

AuntieMaggie · 22/10/2014 10:11

ds hates his car seat - screams from the moment he's in there til the moment he's out and I mean screams unless I manage to put him in asleep or something amuses him which is very rare. HV looked at me like it was odd when I told her so glad he's not the only one!

VIPmarya212 · 22/10/2014 10:38

Lol Auntie I think my DS doesn't like his car seat very much either (he doesn't scream though. And he doesn't like his swing either (instead of his cot we are currently using a traditional indian baby swing to put him to sleep). He cries but after a while he's ok. I guess we have to be firm lol. And he hates bath time for some reason. Who else's DDs or DSs hate bath time?

VIPmarya212 · 22/10/2014 10:41

Auntie you could try giving him a dummy/soother/pacifier though when putting him in his seat (if you believe in giving children dummies). It works for me at times when i need to calm my DS down. I put a little bit of honey on it and give it to him

Casmama · 22/10/2014 10:49

VIPmarya hope I don't seem interfering but please don't use honey in a baby under one as it can be dangerous. See here

GrouchyKiwi · 22/10/2014 10:56

DD hated her car seat for a while and screamed every time I put her in it. I then worked out that she felt squished because of the head support so I removed it and she's been fine since then. I just tuck a muslin or blanket around for a little more protection, but she doesn't really need it as her head doesn't move much in the chair anyway.

And she hated her bath at first too, so I made it a little hotter than recommended and she's happy with that too now.

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AuntieMaggie · 22/10/2014 13:03

dummy doesn't help unfortunately - the only thing that does is sitting in the back and entertaining him.

snow I seem to go through cycles - sometimes it seems things are getting easier then I have a few bad days and it feels shit again. ds has been wriggling/itching to get off my lap for weeks so am looking forward to him sitting alone as he gets bored on his back. I thought I'd have a baby who would be content to be cuddled for a bit longer than he has! Tbh he doesn't cry all the time but not being able to do anything during the day because he's so demanding is really getting me down and feel like a failure when other mums seem to get on so much better. I don't think he's hungry but thanks for mentioning that - he will only feed if he's hungry and i cant get him to feed when he's not like some babies do. He goes through phases of suffering from wind and has been fine til the past couple of days and I think maybe his gums are playing him up.

I just don't feel like myself and I don't look like myself and I don't know how to make it better

ZingOfSeven · 22/10/2014 13:12

the burping - Auntie I agree it's difficult with a baby that's not still.
BabyZing likes to sit on my legs so he can push himself up as if standing upConfused

I dislike sick on my hair, neck or down my bra (so peculiar, aren't IGrin ) so I prefer to burp him like this:
I sit down, sit him on left leg, him facing out, towards left side, my left arm is in front of & across his chest, left hand holding under his right arm, my right hand tapping his back.
(so only my left arm is in the splash zone)
this way he has plenty of chance to wriggle about and not restricted by being held against my body but I still hold him securily with my hand/arm.
He is very strong so I don't have to hold his neck/head anymore, he can wobble it about and nod like the Churchill dog as he likes.
I can "move" with him if he leans forward/backwards/sideways, yet still be in control IYSWIM.
if I sit on floor he can try and stand up, but it doesn't stop me from burping him.

I hope I described it well, if not pls say and I'll try again.

hth Smile

ZingOfSeven · 22/10/2014 13:16

I'm right handed, but obviously you can do everything the opposite way, or swap if your hand gets tired.

I'd say 15-20 mins burping is what you should aim for, but if you can't you can't.

If you have to stop after a few minutes then stop, lie him down, do your thing, then if he cries pick him up and carry on. he might burp as soon as you lift him anyway.

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AuntieMaggie · 22/10/2014 15:15

zing he burps really well by just sitting him up after a feed but I struggle to get any further wind out of him so thank you for those instructions I'll try that. He hates being on my shoulder now.

snow you have just described my ds - at baby massage he will let me do one leg or something and then wants to stand/climb all over me which he obviously can't do on his own yet so it's exhausting as he always wants to do what he's not doing. He's also very affectionate though :)

AuntieMaggie · 22/10/2014 16:12

We're finally getting round to decorating ds's room but I'm struggling to find any bedding I like - were thinking a teal/turquoise colour - what have other people done?

I'm also thinking an ikea wardrobe instead of those nursery ones so I can have all the organisational bits in it

VIPmarya212 · 22/10/2014 16:22

Lime green looks cool for a nursery Auntie. We did white+cream+brown-ish though to keep the room neutral incase baby number 2 isn't a boy again lol. Also there seems to be a trend these days to paint a tree silhoutte on the wall. I really liked that idea. You could google baby nursery ideas if you haven't done that already. And Ikea wardrobe sounds great too! It can last a long time

Casmama no don't worry, not at all! I know you're just being concerned. I read the article. I have read the pros & cons of giving a baby honey before I gave him honey but this is the first time I've read about this kind of thing! Sounds a bit scary lol

icklekid · 23/10/2014 07:53

snow I am so great full for your honesty. Ds is just like you described doesn't like lying down much so baby massage was interesting- we now do 10mins on changing table or do arms with him sat on me. His favourite session was back massage and he laid on my tummy on his tummy. Had to put my knees down as he kept pushing up my body. Think he's just like your ds and wants to know what's going on likes sitting/standing. His legs are so strong! Hopefully he will be less frustrated when he can move.

Right ladies sleep advice needed. Ds slept 6.45-11 then woke every hour. We normally put to bed later but he was very tired. The waking every hour from midnight is becoming a bit of a habit we need to break. He doesn't seem hungry - putting dummy in and white noise on he goes back to sleep fairly quickly. He is teething- really knawing on hand/sophie the giraffe, gel stops him crying. Could this be part of the problem? What should I do? Also by 5 he is wide awake, feeds then after 2h goes back to sleep for 2-3h but only on me. If I put him down sleeps for 20mins! Sorry for long post just need help as am shattered Sad

AuntieMaggie · 23/10/2014 09:29

Sorry ickle no sleep advice here... but sounds like teeth could be an issue in which case could calpol help or he's just like my ds... past few nights ds has been sleeping 3.5/4 hours then awake every 1.5/2 hours up at around 5.30am and his morning is similar to yours - back to sleep after 1.5/2 hours but only for 20/30 mins if not on me. This morning we've had 2 x 30 mins - one on me and one in crib cos I am so tired. We had previously got into a routine of 5/6 hours before his first waking so I'm exhausted. I'm not expecting 12 hours or even 8 but 6 was good cos we were both better moods during the day but I don't know how to get it back!

icklekid · 23/10/2014 11:31

auntie sounds very similar which in a way is reassuring but I have so much sympathy because I'm shattered. ..x

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ismarah · 23/10/2014 12:39

Nice to see an active thread again :-)

My parents arrive (again) tomorrow, although this time they'll be in a nearby hotel as it's dad's 60th. I've never been so unprepared for their visit before and I'm bricking it.

Also think it's kind of sad that I want them to see an idealised version of everything, like you might do when feeling insecure or inferior with a bitchy yummy mummy group.

Never mind. They're only here for a few days. I can go back to being normal afterwards. DH can cope with irrational ismarah for a few days.

Becky2208 · 23/10/2014 12:48

Had more car seat issues yesterday - I had to go out and got stuck in traffic, so I couldn't pull over, and DS screamed until I got home. He got all hot and sweaty, then as soon as I picked him up he was fine. It's starting to put me off going anywhere in the car now! I've tried removing and putting back the head support and support cushion, but it makes no difference. Have no idea what to do to help him be more comfortable in it. It makes me feel better to know that he's not the only one who hates the car though. I just feel so guilty when he's so upset and I can't do anything to stop it.

Auntie we didn't know what to do with the nursery stuff either, so we left it really neutral, and we have the mamas and papas jamboree bedding, lampshade and bunting. We're going to change it then when he can choose what he wants.

Sorry some of you are having a hard time with sleep deprivation - at the moment DS is sleeping fairly well - usually from around 8 til about 10, then until around 5, then up at 7:30. Having said that, while he's asleep his constant wriggling keeps me awake, so I'm shattered too, especially as his day time naps are usually on me.

ZingOfSeven · 23/10/2014 13:46

yes 8Auntie8

mine burps straightaway, but still able to start crying out of nowhere 30 mins+ after a feed - tap tap tap and he burps again and all happy!

maybe after the initial big burp just do 5 or 10 mins more. if he's happy, he's happy. if he cries you'll know to burp him again.

you are doing well btw. you all do (my spies are everywhere! Grin ) so keep repeating what works and stop what doesn't, but remember babies grow and change so what is no good right now might be the perfect solution later!
(and vica versa)

icklekid · 23/10/2014 16:15

snow I'm starting to think should but I'm not breastfeeding really much so is it safe? I often am tempted to during his first 3h nap/sleep! Would be in king size bed just me would make sure no pillows/covers on ds can he just sleep on me?

zing thanks for positivity very much needed!

becky would he drop off if nap time? When ds was really awful would only put in car seat when due a nap as knew he would drift off. He is better now if it helps but was once stuck in rush hour with him screaming for over an hour! You can imagine how sweaty he was Sad

ismarah I've always been the same with my parents visiting- they are like it when family visit so I guess that's why. To be honest both dh and I are quite house proud and like things to be nice (just don't look at the pile of washing waiting to be ironed and put away in the spare room)

Think I'm going to look into a new sling to see if would be better for my back as miss wearing ds- have him in it now! Love my cuddles!

AuntieMaggie · 23/10/2014 16:35

becky has he fallen asleep in the car seat? ds has and has been ok in the seat in the house and doesn't always scream though does most of the time so I'm inclined to think he's not uncomfortable so much as unhappy about being in it. I've tried pretty much everything - dummy, music, window own, air conditioning on loud, singing, mirror so he can see me, toys etc - the only thing that works every time is someone sitting in the back and talking to him. If he's screaming I sing to him because I read it lowers your heart rate and even though he's still unhappy I hope it reassures him I'm there. I also sing/Talk rubbish to him as I'm putting him in the seat and do it really slowly and sometimes this works until about halfway through the journey. I know what you mean about it putting you off going anywhere.