JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

[justhayley]

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies xxx

[NancyinCali]

This thread is nearly full so I made us a shiny new one

[icklekid]

Absolutely zonked been up since 4am with poorly ds ans dh!! Bed time. ..

[icklekid]

Oh auntie huge hugs how horrible. I'm awful for telling myself these lies about how I am compared to other mums and how ds is compared to other babies. I've found a Facebook page called the fussy baby which has a blog www.thefussybabysite.com I find reassuring on hard days. My friends got 2 dd's she regularly tells me she has been exactly the same with both dd1 was like our ds's dd2 is so chilled. It's not her its the baby!

[GrouchyKiwi]

There are definitely up and down days with babies. They like to keep us on our toes. I think on days like those all you can do is get through it the best you can, cut yourself slack, not worry about other things and just cuddle your baby, remembering the bad days will pass.

[AuntieMaggie]

Thank you - I know you're all probably right. I just worry cos he's so clingy and stuff. I think he's approaching the 19 week on the wonder week thing.

[NancyinCali]

Totally agree! Nothing you have done at all. Have you looked at the wonder weeks? Is he in a developmental leap? DD2 just went through the 3rd leap and was super grouchy with it.

[ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday]

^ what ismarah said. I reckon babies have good/bad days like the rest of us! Nothing you have done! X

[ismarah]

Oh Auntie! Your gorgeous boy is probably just being a baby -> random - and there's nothing wrong with him that won't sort itself with age. Your mum can sit and spin and your DH needs to learn healthier ways of expressing irritation OR learn to be more patient. I feel for you.

[AuntieMaggie]

struggling today :( is ds supposed to be this unhappy at this age? because I feel like I've made him like this. dp has been short tempered all day because ds has been crying and made several digs at me about various things and I just feel like I'm failing. I've done everything I thought was right to try and give him the best start so where have I gone wrong? yesterday my mother asked me why I thought he was "like he is" and I wanted to knock her out for talking about my gorgeous boy like that.

[icklekid]

Thanks its we got some of those powders and he hates them someone else recommended this for cold riddled babies (and adults) so probably going to give it a try www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay0_10751_-1_294417_10001?$ja=tsid:50292&cm_mmc=googlemerchantcenter--googleshopping--NULL--NULL&gclid=Cj0KEQjwlK2iBRDk0Jnjso6AgM0BEiQAdX-iY_A-eF9kGbtpHz8Q-jvgyo7-8qzHfYK27J3eScQy4NAaAlqv8P8HAQ

Right off to supermarket for my hour of freedom!!!

[ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday]

Third attempt at posting!

Relieved (although it's horrible to say) at some of you also having problems napping - I thought we'd cracked it but last couple of days have been rubbish.

ickle friend swears by Nelson's teething powder?

[AuntieMaggie]

Thanks snow

ds likes to practice rolling and slamming his feet down as hard as he can but the sleeping bag has put an end to that

[icklekid]

Oh dear becky we are the same- I'm just great full ds likes his pushchair more these days I used to have to take the sling everywhere and once I'd had enough of his screaming end up pushing it with him in sling. I had a lot of 'your spoiling him' comments but I preferred that to screaming!

Anyone got any teething suggestions? We have gel that has short term effect, sophie and cold dummies so far!

[Becky2208]

Ickle his nap times are really unpredictable at the moment, and to be honest, when he's tired the screaming is even worse - he tends to fight sleep a lot of the time.

Auntie like you I've tried everything, and only me or occasionally DH or my mum being in the back with him can calm him down, which is obviously impossible when I'm on my own. I think until he's a bit happier in the car seat I'll try to limit journeys and walk as much as I can - at least it'll help me lose the baby weight and get a bit healthier!

[AuntieMaggie]

becky has he fallen asleep in the car seat? ds has and has been ok in the seat in the house and doesn't always scream though does most of the time so I'm inclined to think he's not uncomfortable so much as unhappy about being in it. I've tried pretty much everything - dummy, music, window own, air conditioning on loud, singing, mirror so he can see me, toys etc - the only thing that works every time is someone sitting in the back and talking to him. If he's screaming I sing to him because I read it lowers your heart rate and even though he's still unhappy I hope it reassures him I'm there. I also sing/Talk rubbish to him as I'm putting him in the seat and do it really slowly and sometimes this works until about halfway through the journey. I know what you mean about it putting you off going anywhere.

[icklekid]

snow I'm starting to think should but I'm not breastfeeding really much so is it safe? I often am tempted to during his first 3h nap/sleep! Would be in king size bed just me would make sure no pillows/covers on ds can he just sleep on me?

zing thanks for positivity very much needed!

becky would he drop off if nap time? When ds was really awful would only put in car seat when due a nap as knew he would drift off. He is better now if it helps but was once stuck in rush hour with him screaming for over an hour! You can imagine how sweaty he was

ismarah I've always been the same with my parents visiting- they are like it when family visit so I guess that's why. To be honest both dh and I are quite house proud and like things to be nice (just don't look at the pile of washing waiting to be ironed and put away in the spare room)

Think I'm going to look into a new sling to see if would be better for my back as miss wearing ds- have him in it now! Love my cuddles!

[ZingOfSeven]

yes 8Auntie8

mine burps straightaway, but still able to start crying out of nowhere 30 mins+ after a feed - tap tap tap and he burps again and all happy!

maybe after the initial big burp just do 5 or 10 mins more. if he's happy, he's happy. if he cries you'll know to burp him again.

you are doing well btw. you all do (my spies are everywhere! ) so keep repeating what works and stop what doesn't, but remember babies grow and change so what is no good right now might be the perfect solution later!
(and vica versa)

[Becky2208]

Had more car seat issues yesterday - I had to go out and got stuck in traffic, so I couldn't pull over, and DS screamed until I got home. He got all hot and sweaty, then as soon as I picked him up he was fine. It's starting to put me off going anywhere in the car now! I've tried removing and putting back the head support and support cushion, but it makes no difference. Have no idea what to do to help him be more comfortable in it. It makes me feel better to know that he's not the only one who hates the car though. I just feel so guilty when he's so upset and I can't do anything to stop it.

Auntie we didn't know what to do with the nursery stuff either, so we left it really neutral, and we have the mamas and papas jamboree bedding, lampshade and bunting. We're going to change it then when he can choose what he wants.

Sorry some of you are having a hard time with sleep deprivation - at the moment DS is sleeping fairly well - usually from around 8 til about 10, then until around 5, then up at 7:30. Having said that, while he's asleep his constant wriggling keeps me awake, so I'm shattered too, especially as his day time naps are usually on me.

[ismarah]

Nice to see an active thread again :-)

My parents arrive (again) tomorrow, although this time they'll be in a nearby hotel as it's dad's 60th. I've never been so unprepared for their visit before and I'm bricking it.

Also think it's kind of sad that I want them to see an idealised version of everything, like you might do when feeling insecure or inferior with a bitchy yummy mummy group.

Never mind. They're only here for a few days. I can go back to being normal afterwards. DH can cope with irrational ismarah for a few days.

[icklekid]

auntie sounds very similar which in a way is reassuring but I have so much sympathy because I'm shattered. ..x

[AuntieMaggie]

Sorry ickle no sleep advice here... but sounds like teeth could be an issue in which case could calpol help or he's just like my ds... past few nights ds has been sleeping 3.5/4 hours then awake every 1.5/2 hours up at around 5.30am and his morning is similar to yours - back to sleep after 1.5/2 hours but only for 20/30 mins if not on me. This morning we've had 2 x 30 mins - one on me and one in crib cos I am so tired. We had previously got into a routine of 5/6 hours before his first waking so I'm exhausted. I'm not expecting 12 hours or even 8 but 6 was good cos we were both better moods during the day but I don't know how to get it back!