JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

[justhayley]

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies xxx

ismarah DD also had her 8 wk jabs last week. she is ok but not her usual cheery self when we had to do large gatherings - which unfortunately was yesterday and she had her first official meltdown, real tears and everything!

Back to her smiling self at home though. Is anyone else giving themselves a headache with the constant talking and singing to the baby?? getting fed up of the sound of my voice now.

I haven't been on here much as I don't have a fancy phone and DD only wakes once briefly during the night so by the time the thread has loaded I don't have time to read much or reply. Also the new layout does not work well on my blackberry as the ads are too prominent... Could be why we are so quiet.

AuntieMaggie I went through a very bad phase with DH 18 months ago. Don't give up just yet. We went to marriage counselling and it got us back on track as we could talk things through.

I found the baby language link interesting zing. I do hope you are doing fine and are getting the support you need.

Auntie I forgot to say that with sleep deprivation, stress and grief, it's not surprising that you and your DH are a bit frayed and not so together at the moment. However, most of these issues will diminish with time, so if in a year you're still struggling with each other, then you might be in actual trouble. At this point neither of is at your best, I suspect, so be patient and communicate and ask for help if needed.

But then you know all this..

Seriously new format is really getting on my tits. Previously if I accidentally pressed the back button on my phone I could get back what I'd typed by pressing the forward button but no more!

Take two... Thank you ladies :)

We had counselling when things were shit between us a few years ago but with things the way they are at the moment I don't think I have the strength to work hard on our relationship again.

Everything I say has apparently got an implication behind it that he's doing something wrong (the house needs cleaning =he's not doing enough) and when I do dare to say that something he's doing isn't helping then I'm out of order/being dramatic... His alarm went off at 5 am this morning. I've had no sleep since then. I tried to have an hour earlier whilst he had ds but he started crying and he didn't know what was wrong so brought him to me. Just tried again after getting ds to sleep and now he's talking loudly on the phone and banging around in the kitchen and I'm a drama queen for mentioning it.

There is zero affection at the moment, he can't say anything nice about me just criticises or 'jokes' about me and I'm not allowed to be upset about anything because I haven't lost my mum. I dared to try and explain how hard things were the first few weeks when he was off out with his dad all the time and he twists it into me being angry about him sorting out his mum's finances (no but I could've done without the trips you made shopping for non essential stuff that could've waited whilst I sat here really ill and crying and barely able to stand whilst dealing with a colicky baby).

I know he's not normally like this which is the only reason I'm still here but seriously I don't know how much more I can take feeling like I don't matter.

Sorry to be so miserable.

ismarah ds is 5.5 kg but long - some of the 0-3 stuff is baggy around the waist but short in length on him.

I also like this thread rather than fb.

In brighter news I went out for lunch with some girl friends and ds was very happy to be passed around Which is an improvement :)

auntie I hope things get better for you and you can get through this difficult time.

I like the Facebook page and here equally, I'm just lazy.

Having issues with oversupply. Baby is fussing through almost every feed and I'm finding it hard to cope with her crying. LLL has some good advice so I'm going to try that for a week. Have 6 week check next week so week be able to talk about it there.

auntie I have no idea how I would fit in expressing unless ds was crying which I'm guessing wouldn't produce much milk! He refused to breastfeed yesterday other than a few minutes at a time so had to express and give him bottles managed to get him to feed this morning- however had to rock him to get him on. Going to breastfeeding support at hospital this morning. Glad you managed to get some time with your friends! Think time and patience is needed with dh

liquid I think as a teacher I am too used to the sound of my own voice

kiwi I'm the same on both thread and Facebook will make an effort on here...

Hey auntie I know DH and I are finding it hard to not snipe at each other - it's the bloody sleep deprivation! That on top of the baby wrangling (and the grief and stress in your situation) doesn't make affection easy. Hope things improve soon. I'm trying to remind myself every day to tell DH I love him and give him a hug when DS gives us a bit of time to do so.

Sorry for neglecting the thread! Zing hope you're on the mend?

By last Friday I had totally had enough of DS being sooo grizzly and ended up in floods of tears as DH was leaving for work - so much so that DH ended up taking the day off to help me out. Feel guilty as he has a lot on at work, but it was definitely the right thing for us and DS seems (seems) to have turned a corner over the weekend - still quite grizzly in evenings and when he's overdue a nap, but much more content when awake during the day - looking around and playing, not just crying inbetween sleep and feeds! And he seems to be letting us put him down for naps! And he did an 8 hour stretch of sleep over the weekend (although woke up at 1.30 and 6 last night)! Fingers crossed this lasts...

ickle cross posts there! Hope breastfeeding support helps.

Auntie sending big hugs your way. Stay strong. Is there anyone who can come and stay to lend a hand? My mum is coming today for a few days as DH has started a new job with different hours and is too tired to help much at the moment. Despite easy DD the house is a tip...

DD also too tall for 0-3 month clothes with feet in but they are all loose around tummy. She is now all grown up in proper jim jams at night. Although rebel me bought cool space ones from the boys section as the fluffy bunnies and pink 'cute like mummy' ones were not doing it for me. .

Good work liquid on space pjs they sound amazing

Thanks its they were brilliant- ds typically fed without a problem. Have since fed him straight after a nap all day without problems which helps my confidence and means I can breast feed again. I also know he is getting what he needs as some feeds are long (hungry) and some shorter (snacking). He's been pretty calm all day which is lovely!

I'm trying not to neglect this thread because it is great to have in addition to FB.

On tram going home after post-natal consultation at hospital. DD just got woken up by tram doing emergency stop. Will post more later when not on phone.

Sorry you're going through a hard time with DP auntie. Adding a baby to the family is so hard without everything else you've been through. Hugs!

We'd been doing great with some long stretches of sleep (7 hours the record) and only one waking at night but last night was 2am and 5am and has been like that for a few nights. I have to remind myself of a quote I read somewhere: "babies be babies". I know it'll change again before long!

I survived being on my own with both DDs when DH was away on business trips. He's not away again until November hopefully and the PIL will be visiting then. Which may be even more work.

Unfortunately there's no room for anyone to stay (dp Was supposed to sort spare room out before ds was born... long story)

Can't believe how big ds is getting. I've got loads of photos of him smiling and pulling cute faces with my nipple in the corner as he mostly does them after/during a feed. I'm sure he's tried to pull my top down a few times when he's hungry to get at my boob!

Am I the only person who is still suffering with spd? it got better initially but my hip is killing me today.

Auntie I had to have words with DH the other morning when his alarm woke up DD just after I had put her down!

She has been really clingy today with no proper sleep lasting at least 1 hour. Just snoozing.

And tomorrow is my least favourite day of the week because DS only has a half day at school.

Hope that DD stays asleep now when I put her down. Can't think straight to say everything I was going to say.

foxtrot no matter what time I seem to start ds's bedtime he ends up going back to sleep after a feed about an hour or less before DPs alarm is due!

yesterday daytime we had lots of short feeds and short naps - no idea what that was about but I can confirm that formula does not make ds sleep longer after getting him to have it last night!

And my day has now started.
It is most unlikely that DD and DS will nap at the same time letting me get some much needed sleep. I get an unbroken 5.5 / 6 hours a night but i need more sleep than that.

Formula made absolutely no difference to DS's sleeping patterns when we switched!

I hope we both get a day where our children have some proper sleeps!

He's done it again - slept for 2 hours 40 mins so that he's ready to go back after feed, change etc half hour before DPs alarm!

Tonight he's slept for a total of 7 hours and 15 mins so I've probably had about 6 hours over 2 stretches - some nights it's over 3 or 4... how I wish for one unbroken stretch!

I'm an 8/9 hours a night girl so really struggle - def the hardest thing. that and not being able to do anything! oh and the screaming in the car!

foxtrot a lot of my nct friends babies only sleeping short stretches- Theo does a long up to 2h morning nap- why he can't do that at 5/5,30 when he wakes I don't know

auntie hope you feel a bit more rested. These babies can be very inconsiderate! Also sorry to hear about spd- have you been back to the physio? (No pun intended!)

DD sleeps well for another couple of hours after the 5:30 feed (put her down 6 / 6:30) but I have to get up at 6:30 / 7 to get DS ready for school and then I wake up DD when I take DS to school. DH kindly did DS's breakfast this morning giving me an extra 1/2 hour in bed.

I find though if I have the energy the 6:30-8:15 stretch very good for getting some household jobs done and it gives me a positive lift and start to the day feeling like I've achieved something.

icklekid it's nice to know that I'm not the only one with a baby who doesn't sleep for long stretches during the day. DH tells me to take her out in the pushchair to get her to sleep, but if she doesn't want to sleep it doesn't work! Anyway DD isn't difficult when she's not asleep, it's just I don't get time to do larger jobs or sleep myself.

Yep wouldn't worry as long as they are content- my ds is a pain when awake after about 1 1/2-2h as gets grumpy so I'm great full he sleeps well in day. One of the babies only 6 weeks old hadn't slept at all for more than 10mins at a time and it was 4pm!!! She was perfectly happy though (and sleeping through the night) so I was a bit jealous!

ickle yes saw physio a few weeks ago but she wanted to wait before doing too much for everything to settle down so seeing her in a couple of weeks. She was talking about vaginal trigger points so I may end up with more than a few exercises to take away. Mind you when I saw her it was just my pubic bone but now my hip hurts to walk/lie down.

foxtrot the reason I get so grumpy about DPs alarm is because the morning is when he is most demanding and awake so if it wakes him up that's it til lunch!

TMI post alert.

My first period after birth started yesterday and it's weird. No lumps or clumps, none of my usual mucousy bits, just a lot of bright red blood. It looks more (and feels more) like clean fresh blood from a cut or something. It's kind of thin IYKWIM and I can feel it flowing! For the first time ever I have a pad and a tampon!

Slightly freaked by this. I know it's normal for it to be different after birth - duration and flow both - but I was expecting it to be like a period bleed, not how this is.

Anyone have any advice / experience?

No idea ismarah. I'm tempted to say don't worry for now and see if it changes over the next couple of days. But like I said, I have no idea so don't take that as being advice!

Why won't DS go to sleep? He's currently making silly noises and crying. Will I ever have both kids asleep during the afternoon at the same time?! I was juggling trying to get DS into his room and BFing DD and she threw up on the stairs. Fortunately they are tiled, but still...

I hate Wednesdays!

Auntie is your period due? I learnt today that the SPD will get worse during this time post birth, same hormone release apparently. It does ease with time though.

DD still only waking around 2.30am and 5.30am after going down at 10pm. Night feeds are short (about 20 mins) so not feeling as tired as most of you. The recent grizzly afternoons are a killer though.

ismarah my period was fairly normal although a bit mucussy at the end.

Super fussy pants baby today which isn't like her. I'm blaming growth spurt.
Luckily DD1 being pretty good (so far!)