December 2011 - the one where we do the Twist and Shout

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New thread.

these babies are nearly two and a half

Seven - do the icebucketchallenge, that might help things along a bit?!
Ha ha!
I knew it wouldn't be long before I got nominated! The bank holiday REALLY worked for these charities. Anyway, my original idea was "stolen" by Patrick Stewart, so I actually really did it. Bonkers! But really funny.
I suppose it's very bad taste to laugh at your own jokes, or your own video, but I've watched it loads now.

If you want to see it and aren't on Facebook. :)

Sorry! Can't remember how you make links! (On phone) doh!

Hah, brilliant Oi! I love your nails by the way, very nice- looks like a dark blue, and beautifully done.

I know exactly how you feel mopsy, I actually spent the first two days in the new house feeling glum, and guilty that we'd left our old place. First house bought together, first baby, and we'd made it ours. It passed; however, DS's nursery is on the same road, and I have refused to go past the old house in the car, somehow can't do it....

Fun has been had here, DS went to a birthday party on Saturday, in a church hall, with about 100-150 guests at least (and most of the black/Afro-Caribbean population of North Kent- family and friends of the birthday boy- who catered for the adults by bringing along buckets of homemade plantain and various meat curries ). It was on a vast scale, and the party bags at the end were like kids' sports bags filled with sweets, stickers and toys, never seen anything like it .
DS ran around with a balloon, ate nothing but cake and popcorn, squeezed one of the nursery staff's boobs, yelling 'balls' (most of the nursery staff had been invited too) and then was bodily carried out by me and DP. Had a whale of a time, but God knows how this bodes for when he's a teen!

Had fun with friends at the food and drink festival, and today just hidden from the rain.....

Really hope she starts shifting soon seven, and that you're not getting too down. All the pom poms are still ready and waiting for her arrival.

How've you gotten on with getting the family and house sorted post holiday aethel, you on top of it all now?

My last house was like that mopsy. Permanent job, threee kids, good friends.... Have been in new house over a year and still miss my last place...
I know in my head we'd totally outgrown it, but it was a nice period of life (notwithstanding the old rose-tinted-spex effect)...

Any baby news, bumpy chaps?

Ooh, missed some posts above! Thanks Northern, it's getting bacl to normal though we have bonus cousins staying over for a few days. House is pretty tidy but with six kids here it won't last!....

Oh yeah and my PhD! That was a big part of my life. Only one more night. We will be gone this time tomorrow.

Vendors still being completely flaky... STILL haven't exchanged. Can't understand it... do they not want to sell their house? Is very frustrating.

I'll probably have rose-tinted specs too aethel. And Northern. Although it is soooo small that I know we have to leave. No room for this wriggler in my tummy!

checking back in for duty - have been awol with house stress but just got our two boys christened and managed to cater for 70 guests in our house on Sunday sucessfully so I feel like I can get my life back...

so... how do we all decide whether we want to have another baby....?

DH and I are on the fence for number 3. if either of us were really keen on it then the other would definitely go for it but neither of us are brave enough to say let's do it.

so how do we decide whether to go for it or not? all thought processes gratefully received.

checking back in for duty - have been awol with house stress but just got our two boys christened and managed to cater for 70 guests in our house on Sunday sucessfully so I feel like I can get my life back...

so... how do we all decide whether we want to have another baby....?

DH and I are on the fence for number 3. if either of us were really keen on it then the other would definitely go for it but neither of us are brave enough to say let's do it.

so how do we decide whether to go for it or not? all thought processes gratefully received.

oh argh what is going on with the site these days - sorry for double post

Goodness hinky, I'm afraid I can't help. I know there's no way I'm going through pregnancy again! Always thought I wanted three but just couldn't do it a third time I don't think. And I really don't see how I could keep up my career either. So I guess things like can you deal with another pregnancy, sleepless nights etc in the short term and will it affect your career adversely, is this an issue for you longer term. Also would you mind the expense? If yes, fine to the first, no/I'm not bothered anyway if it does to the second, and no to the third then I'd say, why not!

hinky I think mopsy pretty much summed it up tbh. As well as the effect on your career what about the practicalities, would another baby mean needing a bigger house/car etc? Also remember years from now you're a lot more likely to regret not having another child than having one.

Well I'm 37 weeks tomorrow, how did that happen?! Operation get this baby out of me has commenced...

Six kids aethel, wibble! Hope you're surviving OK and are not posting from under a pile of kiddie-crap...

I'd say consider all the practicalities above, and if none of them rule it out, then I'd go for it hinky. The only extra bit I'd throw in is what did the last two pregnancies/baby do to yours and DH's relationship; would a third go put a strain on it, and would looking after three kids thereinafter also have a negative impact?

It's all fiiiiine. Three kids is a walk in the park. Our preferred tactic was have two kids, get knackered, then go for number three once we'd regained a few sleep points but before we'd had time to get out of baby mode completely. There's 4.3 years from DD2 to DS, and I had 2 years without nappies and 6 months sans buggy, they were both at school by the time DS appeared....
If you're both on the fence then set yourself a mental review date...and ask if you feel there's space for one more in the bed?
(Oh and we went from a Skoda Fabia to a Ford Galaxy....)

I'm barely convinced about 2 hinky it's such a tough decision isn't it have told myself if don't crack on by next March it's not happening we will move on and live our lives the 3 of us.

Six kids ages within six years of each other was my mum's normal! In the summer hols there were always 15 of us minimum (3 families of cousins)... we had to have two sittings at dinner. They were always so calm (my mum and two aunts ... my dad/the uncles used lose their cool on occasion). I have so much belated respect for them! I'd go mad with six!

Oh and of course we had a normal sized car ... three across and three on laps. No seatbelts ... imagine!

Removers here. They seem surprised by all our stuff! I didn't think it was crazy loads. It is not like we are hoarders. I guess is all the books...

Hoorah for books!

we do have space in the house and the car for three children.

career is pretty much stuffed anyway given two lots of mat leave and working part time so i'm not sure it would be that much different. F will be getting some free hours in december so that would help if we did have a third. We have mentally set dates to think about it - we said we wouldn't for the whole of 2013 but we've been humming and haring about it this year.

sleeplessness has turned into a way of life now so not sure that will make too much difference. i guess on of hte things is the risk of another pregnancy going wrong and looking long term if we have two we would be able to provide more support for them if htey wanted university etc and the schools are brilliant here so we could stretch to two private schools but not three i don't think. but then who knows what would happen to the state schools in that time.

hmm its not a no and its not a yes

i think dh and i would be ok - we've been through a tough last five years and it has brought us together so i think we can get through anything if we've survived what we have.

so the conclusion we've come to is that we could if we want to and we still can't make the decision....

I'd say go for it hinky!

House cleared. Just hoovering now and Mr. Mopsy is cancelling/transferring services phone etc.

And, more importantly, we have exchanged on new property and completion date the Monday we get back from hols. Yaaaayyy! Can relax and enjoy our holidays now!

That's brilliant news mopsy!