December 2011 - the one where we do the Twist and Shout

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

New thread.

these babies are nearly two and a half

mopsy, can I heartily recommend a very strong real coffee? That really works, as strong as she can stomach it. Or, (and again not on any Doctor's recommendation list) some strong cider. But seriously, the coffee is the answer! And on the spots, I suffered with them too, and it certainly made me feel grotty- I'd only had about three as a teenager, pregnancy was far worse.

Sorry you and DH are having that conversation again Oi- and do not worry about being a 'stuck record' or anything like that, we're here to be vented at!

Currently having a random, blissful day off with DS, as it's his check up this afternoon. So we've been to the shops, played in the garden, watching a bit of Mr Men, will go into down, do check and go to the park to feed the ducks.....

I've had to buy ds new shoes he's an 8!!!!! An 8???? No wonder his 6.5s weren't going on

wow figgy! Minimopsy still 5.5!

We had a similar experience. He was in 6.5 's. No problem. Wanted holiday shoes so got him measured again, and we're told he was now 7.5! That was last month. He's probably a size 22 now.
(Still avoiding conversation. Football tonight though, so definitely not tonight. ...in no rush. But not sleeping well. Clenching teeth all the time. Argh!!! Horrible horrible situation.)

DS is also in 8s, and according to today's check somewhere around the 98th for weight...it does indeed wreck when he treads on your toe

Been a good day, but I've ended up walking at least 8 miles, and at least half of them up steep hills pushing chunky DS, change bag and shopping. My bum muscles ache like they haven't done in a while...

Ds has gone to bed in disgrace he punched me in the face because he didn't want to get changed took all my resolve not to lash out, he was put in bed and left crying and shouting I'm not even sure he's got trousers on was so mad!!

Dh and I have had a massive row tonight over house work I've done so much stuff since we been back from Scotland including 5 loads of washing, floor washing, cleaned the paddling pool out and yet I'm being told I'm slovenly and we live in a sty. I hate him right now I wish he would piss off some times I really do then he can live by himself in his perfect house, I can move to Scotland and be much happier Prick!!

to Figgy and Oi.

DS was foul tonight, hot day in the sun for him plus my hayfever means giant shouting match and him whinging himselfto sleep after dicking around for nearly an hour. Then I went downstairs and DH had ordered pizza. My diet is not going well. Will run tomorrow.

Oh dear figgy. Thread sounds like a few haddocks might be in order...

Hop - exact same here. Boi would not settle. After ages, and much pausing of football match, I left him with his light on - calm - to read books until he fell asleep. - it didn't work. I had to go back later and turn the light out and lie him down until he cried himself to sleep. And somewhere in between all that DH had secretly ordered Demonoes.
We went to bed at about 11:15, then DH started the conversation. I stopped him. I said that our marriage was not going well, and we needed to discuss it, - but not at 11:15, after a bad night with Ali, a lost match and 1.5 bottles of red wine!
Cue silence.
Tonight's going to be fun, isn't it?!
I think it's time to split.

Oi

Good luck today

Oh dear Oi. You've tried really hard, sometimes you have to prioritize your happiness. X

DS woke up cheerful, got forest playgroup this morning.Maximum doses of piriton here today!

The bit that's tough, is that we work for the same company. He sits 4 m from my office.
I can feel tension (we travel in separate cars on Friday as I finish early).
I think we could be better friends when separated. It shouldn't be a problem. But I don't think DH will feel the same. I think he'll be too hurt. His pride won't handle being in the same office. (Stupid male ego thing.)

Oh dear oi, you've been trying to make it work for ages though so we know it won't be a decision you've taken lightly. You do have to prioritise your happiness though, and BOi deserves two happy parents, even if that means you not being together.

figgy sorry about your DH being an arse, and well done on coping with being punched in the face, I'm not sure how well I'd manage staying calm! How much housework does DH do out of curiosity? Are you bring accused of not doing your share or does he just expect you to keep the house clean?

Oh yes Oi that sounds awkward not sure how that could be resolved he might leave male pride being what it is.

Hop dh is good at housework he's the cleaner one in our house think when he was working at home he could do bits and bobs in the day which he now cant do so it's harder to fit in on weekends. He's a exaggerator though you'd think we lived in squalor way he acts.

Our town centre has an artificial beach over summer which is really a huge sand pit with toys sitting here with ds until swimming it's good free entertainment

Oh no.... on supply for those who need them.
oi, I totally applaud the not-having-conversation-after-a-match thing. Too many conversations occur when both parties are knackered and it doesn't make for a coherent calm conversation!! Good luck for later

We went to a forest school play group today, it was great but I stink of smoke now and DS was a leeeetle bit too keen on starting a fire.

Bad parenting alert we had friends round for dinner options were fighting ds to bed between courses or leave him on the sofa watching monsters inc..........he went to bed quietly within 5 minutes at 9.15 god I hope he sleeps in late In morning I've had too much (all) of a bottle of wine

That's not bad parenting.
And well done to figgy boy for going to sleep quickly!
We did not have the conversation. We were both really tired last night. I don't think we slept very well the previous night, and the tension in work was horrid. We were falling asleep on the sofa before 9pm.
Another day!

That's not bad parenting figgy, that's letting them be sociable and flexible with their routine, and no argument at bed time means he was fine. Hope he slept in for you.

Sending DH and DS to the pool while I tidy paint my toe nails and then we're going to see Oi. DS is ridiculously keen to see bOi.

Back on steroids as of yesterday . DS had a monumental meltdown at my parents earlier, I lost it and shouted at him. Feeling like the worst mum in the world now :(

I'm also furious on my sisters behalf. Mum told me she had an early miscarriage last week after she'd had a glass of wine. Her 'D'P told her it was her fault, he'll never forgive her and apparantly hasn't spoken to her since, as if having a mc isn't bad enough . I always knew he could be a nasty arse but I can't believe anyone could be so cruel to their miscarrying partner.

Oh no Seven that's awful
As if a glass of wine could cause you to miscarry ffs. Your poor sister. She needs support not an I'll informed guilt trip. I'm horrified for her

ill-informed

Seven that's just

Been at a 5yo party today, go karts scooters, bouncy castle, badminton in local leisure centre was very good actually, then we saw a spitfire and hurricane bomber fly past for local carnival b4 footie in the garden at PIL and then back home to paddling pool. The back of ds legs pink from sun feel bad

Ds2.5 tomorrow am so sodas about it they growing up too fast.

seven that's awful I hope your sisters DP gets a grip and gives her the support that she needs.

Oi and Figgy, sorry to hear things are rough with DH again. I'm like a broken record too! But here I am still with someone who is tolerable to me 90% of the time, makes me feel great 5% and is obnoxious the other 5. Today I'm actually embarrassed that I'm still with him, I'm sure at some point I used to have some self respect.

DS has been lovely today, think I might just go out with DS for the day tomorrow and forget that DP exists for a little while.