July 2006 the epic continues.....

[janenevie]

Hi all,

thought I'd take the initative (sp)from kbaby and start the talked about new thread!!
Hope you're all OK!!
Jane

hi ladies hope you're all well and have managed to catch some of the lovely sunshine today.

nothing like being a bit late but:

1. usandbump Southampton
2. koshka1984 Harrogate
3. prettymum London
4. kayzed North London
5. agalch Scotland
6. nixnoo North London
7. Wallace Scottish Highlands
8. JeanieG Liverpool
9. IamBlossom Hampshire, not far from Guildford.
10. donna3 Guildford
11. maewest Bristol
12. HumphreysCorner Grimsby
13. kbaby Cardiff
14. FirstatForty Bath
15. jom east london

i'm also interested in the mn xmas meet up

its been great seeing all your photos. will try and have a go myself, maybe tonight if i get a chance. must go as ds is calling - really should get him some food on. bad mummy!

doubt i will ever sort things out. i dont know how i will cope/live but i will have to. just want to cry all the time which doesnt help, cos he doesnt know that i know (if you follow).
Never mind, dont want to ruin the happiness of this thread. sorry x

1. usandbump Southampton

2. koshka1984 Harrogate 3. prettymum London 4. kayzed North London 5. agalch Scotland 6. nixnoo North London 7. Wallace Scottish Highlands 8. JeanieG Liverpool 9. IamBlossom Hampshire, not far from Guildford. 10. donna3 Guildford 11. maewest Bristol 12. HumphreysCorner Grimsby 13. kbaby Cardiff 14. FirstatForty Bath 15. jom east london 16. Superblue Blackburn

Koshka - another northener at last!

Hi everyone - I have just been catching up on all your threads but haven't had a chance to look at any photos yet.

I have had the worst week ever - turns out there was areason why Ds vomited so much - he had pyloric stinosis (not sure that is spelt correct ) therefore we have been in hospital with him since 4am Tuesday morning when we rushed to A&E as he had just vomited dark brown vomit which I figured wasn't right! So glad I insisted we took him as DH is not keen on hospitals and told me I was overreacting (he is feeling a bit guilty for his reaction now)! Anyway, spent 2 days in local hospital where they diagnosed it and then transferred to a hospital in Manchester for his operation. He had it on Friday afternoon which was awful - you just don't expect it at 8 weeks and it was awful seeing him with drips and nasal tubes and he looked so tiny being taken off to the theatre that me and DH cried whilst he was in there(Whitestar - I so sympathise with you!)

He seems ok now and is managing to keep his food down (they can still vomit for a couple of days after the op) but he is on reduced rations whilst his stomach gets used to digesting food again.

Me and DH have had hardly any sleep for 5 days and are knackered - but so glad to be home! Poor DS is all skin and bones now as he is a long baby but only weighs about 9 and a half pounds now as he lost over a pound in the 6 days before we took him to hospital.

Anyway, fingers crossed that he can start eating properly again and we can fatten him up. By the way, how much are your lo's eating? Before he got ill, DS was eating 4-5oz every 3-4 hours but the nurse at the hospital told us this morning that this was far too much for an 8-week old baby and he should be having 3-4 oz every few hours maximum which would starve my Ds when he is eating properly.

anyway, just off to bath DS as he has not had a bath since Monday - just a couple of tops and tails in hospital and he stinks!!

Will catch up properaly and try and post some photos soon - have also got bucketloads of washing to do as have just been gathering vomit-stained clothes at the hospital by the day.

X

Superblue, how awful, well done you for trusting your instincts, turns out you were right and he got the treatment he needed. So glad he is now on the mend.

Finkley Down Farm was as great as expected and DS1 had a ball. Have had a great day today too out for lunch with friends and thier twins the same age as DS1 so chaotic but fun.

Gotta go as Toby is refusing to sleep so far this evening.

xx

evening everyone,

superblue- hope ds gets better soon, see a mothers instinct is always right!!

koshka- i think you should really speak to your partner about how you feel because its not good for you to bottle things up!!

if you have it wrong, that your dp is cheating than you will only be making life difficult for yourself, but if he is cheating, you dont deserve that sort of treatment and your ds needs you to be strong, you have to do something about it.

it may be difficult, but you have to think, do you want to continue being in a relationship where you're going to question your dp every movements?

after i had my dd, i used to think of the possibilities of my dp cheating after his ex claimed that they had slept together at the beginning of our relationship.

i used to give him the cold shoulder whenever he came home late, but once i opened up to him, i knew that his family is the most important thing to him and he could never hurt me or our children.

to date he has denied it and i chose to believe him because his ex was very bitter about us getting together as they had only broken upfew weeks before.

you have to find yourself and be your own person, or it will effect your ds. xxx

have to go and give my ds a bath and out him to sleep, he thinks he is a big boy and can stay up with mummy and daddy to watch telly!!

superblue - glad your DS is on the mend, must have been really frightening for you, sending positive vibes to you and your family

Just off to my post-natal check with my little bottle (hopefully the last time I'll have to do that for a while). Have a good day ladies with babies xx

Morning girlies

superblue-don't know what ???? stinosis is but it sounds horrendously frightening. Hope he is feeling better soon.

koshka-how are things today hun?

maewest-didn't take a sample to my 6 week checkup. Dr was more concerned in preventing another pregnancy. 'Take this pill immediately'-lol!

Had a really successful batch of Ebay sales so off to wrap them up and try out the new postage rates.

Have a good day all-will be back later.

xxx

HumphreysCorner - i do have dark hair which has highlights but im afraid its long and straight. im trying to get some pics for you all so youll see me then.
kayzed- what the bf consellor said was if they dont get the right balance of milk due to poor latch it causes the poo to be dark yellow/runny/green etc. she knows her stuff as shes the bf consellor for south wales. im seeing her again today as i can feel hes not on right but dont know why. his poos are mustard and always absorbed straight into the nappy they are that runny. btw kayzed you look younger than i pictured you.
prettymum- what lovely pictures, you all look so happy.

dh went out sat night and came home at 4am!!! then stayed in bed until 10 and went back to bed at 3pm grghhh..
ds was drizzly all day yest and wouldnt settle at all but he did sleep from 8pm until 3am 7hrs i even had to wake him at 8.30am he stirred loads in the night and i kept checking but as he didnt cry just left him. i think he may hav dd's cold starting though.

koshka1984- big hugs for you. im sure you will cope because you have jake to look after and you will be strong. take care xx

superblue - omg that sounds auwful. im glad the op went well though and you can now look forward to a happier baby, how many times was he vomiting because its meant to be after every feed and more common in boys. the bf consellor told me to keep an eye on ds because of this.
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Truly multi tasking here as I type and bounce Toby in his chair with my foot!

Jeanie, was 9 13 on scales this morning, slow but sure. Just been out for an hour and 15 power walk with Toby, to Tescos and back via DS1's nursery to drop off some cakes for him and his mates to have for lunch. Picking him up at 1 to go to Grandma's house where he will get loads of pressies, then it's home to open the huge pile of pressies we have here for him from various people. It's obscene isn't it the amount of stuff they get? I dread to think the piles of gifts he would have got if we had held a party for him this year, we nearly had to move house to accomodate it all last year.

Koshka, sending lots of love to you, it is horrible feeling so unsure of things when you have a newborn to contend with too. Hope you feel a bit better about things soon.

Toby is now going three hours at night between feeds, but Wallace I am going to have to do what you did and go up a nappy size as I had to change him twice completely as he had soaked through two outfits!

have good days all.

Bloss

xxx

Hi all,

It is a GROGEOUS day in London today, so lovely in fact that I convinced DH to call in sick - he he heh! We are going to go on a long walk in a bit, to enjoy the weather.

Koshka, sorry you are feeling insecure. I think most of us have been there, I certainly have been through something similare a few years back. It is tough, I hope you can work it through, but most importantly you are enjoying your time with your baby...

Superblue: sounds so stressful! Glad he is on the mend...

Sefton has a touch of excema - we have to slather him in this greasy cream. We are hoping it will settle itself, the doctor thinks it could just be his skin adjusting. Although I use non-bio detergent I am going to try switching to Ecover and see if that helps.

Jom, whereabouts in East London are you? I am in Stoke Newington, so quite East. I am looking for moms to meet with as I never got into a NCT class, and gaze on with jealousy at all the mom's groups in the park. Feel a bit like a child on the playground, wanting to join the cool kids!

Have good weeks, ladies
x

Hi all

Fascinating to see the pics, everyone and their LO?s look gorgeous! I?ll try and get some posted soon as well.

I?m also trying to shed the pounds, am about 12 stone, was about 11 stone 4 at beginning of pregnancy. Don?t dare get my jeans out of the wardrobe either , but am wearing (stretchy) pre-pregnancy skirts and t-shirts now.

I have a friend who went on what we ended up calling her ?breastfeeding diet? as her two children (born quite close together) were both breastfeeding and seemed to literally suck all the fat out of her! She was v slim and glam by the end of it, no sign of the BF diet working here though

Prettymum ? What a lovely family you have and wow? the gym! Am v impressed, I get knackered still just shuffling my lardy arse round Sainsburys. (Though the trolley IS heavy these days with Emma and the car seat balanced on top of it, and the wine bottles at the front probably don?t help either!)

Have done the deed twice ? very strange the first time but a bit better the second. Also slightly offputting having DD gurgling away in her crib ? hopefully she can?t possibly remember anything !!

The swing sounds good kbaby ? I?m always keen to explore anything that promotes the chances of Emma dropping off peacefully (hence the vibrating bouncer). Am also agog at the available variations and frequency of baby poo ? who knew!! Emma?s poo is a mustardy colour, quite wet but a strange curdy consistency. I guess it could possibly be described as (very runny) scrambled-eggy, but not like any I?d fancy eating !

Wallace ? hope DS1 is better now, what a nightmare having to check every 2 hours. Really lovely pics btw, love the kilts ? hope the wedding was good.

Kayzed ? Emma seems to feed differently during the day too, is definitely much more fussy, lots of tugging (ouch) towards the end and harder to settle afterwards. At night she just feeds for a while and gently dozes off. And I think if I?d had to guess you probably look about how I?d imagined you would! Beautiful DS and DD too.

Koshka ? must be very stressful dealing with that uncertainty, especially at the moment. {{hugs}}

UsandBump ? hope the HV had some good advice re the bottles. And January sounds much better than November for going back to work. I?m going back in January too ? should have been December but I have enough accrued leave to take December off so am doing that. BTW was curious, what does AF stand for?

HC ? you must be very organised to be Ebaying! It?s something I said I?d do when I?m on maternity leave but haven?t got around to at all, it?s difficult enough posting out the thank-you cards (still three left to do?) I love Ebay though, it?s scarily addictive.

Have a good afternoon all xxx

Afternoon everyone

Having a niceish day so far.Waved my ds2 off on his school trip this morning.He will be 11 in December and in his last year of primary school but he still looked too young to be going away for a week without meWill really miss him.

Ds1 spends an awful lot of time at his girl friends house these days and it feels too quiet when hes not here.So it'll be me and the girls all week(till 7 and dp is home).

Eilidh doing well and feeding still fine.The poo thing? All 3 of my bf babies have had mustardy coloured runny poos and nobody has ever mentioned positioning to me.Will mention to my hv when i see her for Eilidhs 6 week check up.

I'm still exclusivly bf,but have startrd using breast shells(can't express for some reason) to collect leaking milk while feeding her and i have a fair bit already so will get dp /my mum to try her soon.Not sure about a bottle or trying a cup tho.Not keen on giving her a bottle but will think about it.

have a good day all xx

ps,my postnatal check went like this
Doc "how are you?"
me "fine thanks"
doc "what are you doing for contraception?"
me "dp will be getting a vasectomy"
doc"ok heres the mini pill for now goodbye?"

Will take up t 1 year to be seen at hosp,hope i'm not pg again by then lol

Think it's prob best not to get too hung up on the 'perfect poo' if the babe is gaining weight. Getting bf 'right' is one more thing to beat yourself up about sometimes, it's great to get help from a bf counsellor etc, just as long as it doesn't make you feel more worried

Have just posted a pic of Dom on member profiles if you want to have a squizz...

hopefully this is a link

Kbaby - DS was vomiting pretty much after every feed - sometimes it was immediate, others it was 1-2 hours afterwards - I suppose the main thing was the volume of the puke as even after a couple of hours, loads came out which makes sense now as the stomach was not getting rid of any of it the normal way. The main characteristic of it is that it is projectile vomiting - which me and Dh thought was like the exorcist so didn't think that DS's vomiting was projectile - as it turns out, they use the term 'forceful' aswell and his vomiting was that - it wouldn't shoot across the room but it did come out with force. It seems to come on quite quickly aswell as he was fine until bank holiday monday (although he was sick every 1-2 days but you expect that with babies) and then it just came every feed. I am surprised your bf counsellor warned you about it as we had not heard anything of it at all but if someone had told us about it, we probably would have recognised the symptoms and done something much quicker.

Anyway, DS seems so much better and is feeding well now - and both me and dh are more relaxed as we not permanently on 'vomit-watch' as we were before.

My 6-week checkup was pretty much as all yours were - very brief, didn't check by scar and prescribed me the pill. A bit pointless really.

Koshka - thinking about you and hope it is not true - I have doubts about my DH every once in a while as he has a much higher sex drive then me (TMI maybe??) and I know he is finding it hard at the moment as I have lost interest.

We have done the deed a couple of times (for his sake) but are using condoms which I hate and find v uncomfortable - like 1st@40, I find it a bit disconcerting doing it with DS in the room!

Anyway, just been to Toys R Us to buy DS a swinging chair as a reward for being so brave - can't wait to try it out. one of the little boys in the hospital had one and the staff put him in it for hours - and it kept him quiet so fingers crossed!!

X

superblue-your DH can join mine in the desperation bit as I lost interest 3 years ago when I had DD1. Did gain interest to have DD2 DH thought his luck was well and truly in-lol! Keeps threatening to go and 'pay for it'.

agalch-crikey, how have you persuaded DP to have a vasectomy??? DH would never go down that route. He did say there was no point as we never do it anyway! Ha ha!

maewest-Dom is gorgeous

Will get my finger out and put a picture up of Sophie at 11 weeks (tomorrow).

Byee as off to the P.O. to post my parcels. Took a while to wrap in between feeding.

xxx

HC,we have 4 dc now so we both don't want anymore(well i would but can't afford anymore)so i told him to get chopped or no nookie.I havn't even attempted yet tbh.I am the only one doing the feeding/general baby care so i am sooo not in the mood.We had loads of sex in the last 2/3 months of my pg so he'll just have to wait.lol

I do see him leering at my boobs when i'm about to feed or just after a feed and i shoot him a disgusted look and he blushes and apologises.

Eilidh awake and looking for food so see yous all later

xx

hey everyone, just been back from toddler group, its such a beautiful day!!!!

ds is cooing so much, its really funny 2 yr old dd talks to him in baby language and ds lies there and coos back, its so lovely!! is everyone elses baby trying to communicate with you?

oh did the deed two nights ago, i get more frustrated than dp! wasnt the greatest but it helped!!

hi everyone.

superblue- that must have been a horrid shock for you both! At least we've always known Logan would need operations. Very glad to here your lo is doing ok now. Lots of hugs work wonders at healing.
Algalch- My dh also getting the snip waiting for hospital appointment to come through. I'm hoping that it will take until I return to work in feb, I'm a theatre nurse and scrub for most of the vasectomy lists doing dh would be the ultimate pay back
Koshka- do you want me to chop off you dh's nads too!! Hope you get some answers soon and try not to let it spoil your time with ds they'are not tiny for long.

We've got Logans pre op tommorow think I'll take a picnic it'll probably mean alot of hanging around after his cast change. And I thought that maternity leave would keep me away from hospitals!