March 2013 - we're gonna need a bigger wine rack

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Ta da!

Lunch turned out to be a home made banana milkshake here. Not convinced it will keep me going until teatime, but it was bloody lovely.

Has anyones dc come up in a couple of blisters? Im waiting for doctor to call back as im not sure if it is a reaction to the antibiotics.

Can you post a pic yummy? Might it be chicken pox? Little fluid filled bumps with a bit of red around them? I hope for your sake it's not, you've got enough on your plate. Although maybe there's something to be said for getting everything out of the way at once tries desperately to look on the bright side

eco calling eco how you doing lovely one? Come and have a good old rant in time for overfamiliar Friday, you know you need plonk to call you a sexy beast and if you ask nicely she might not make you wait for tomorrow

Ah. It seems DS has a tummy bug. That explains some things.

It could be a long night...

Yes Eco please come on, I can be miserable with you.

This wedding can fuck the fuck off to the far side of fuck. Ds will not sleep past 5 most mornings. My IBS has flared up and today I actually woke up in tears with a nosebleed.

We have a guest staying tonight and they're lovely but I really don't want them to come. Dp is away tomorrow night under the guise of finalising some wedding stuff but really drinking beer and watching the match.

I can be misery company if you need it, Plonk. You know when you find out someone really hates you and thinks you're a terrible mother and a bad influence, and also that your baby is evil and a bad influence? Sucks a lot.

I can be miserable with you plonky. We too are in the 5am club but yesterday ds decided he wanted to sleep in past 7.30 but I had to wake him because I needed to get to work. Aghh!

Me and dh are bickering over stupid things. Sleep deprivation is a killer.

Don't worry about the wedding. It will all come together in the end and you will have a fabulous day. I think you need to arrange some fun all in the name of the wedding

Well ds has 2 blisters. One on his ear which has popped and another on his back. Doctor doesn't seem to think it is related to the antibiotics. Maybe i am being pfb. He seems otherwise ok.

I can't remember who said their dc cried when going to childcare but ds still whinges and clings on to me when I leave him with my dm who he knows since he was born. Just think all this clingy behaviour is a good sign dd/ds has a good attachment to you. It could be worse.

wotta how is ds? Was it a bad night for you all?

Stormy how on earth has someone levelled such accusations at you? Although I'm also harbouring an evil baby. I can see no other reason for his dawn wakefulness.

Yummy did you see a dr? I thought I was being too pfb about ds's rash to take him to a dr. It turned out to be scarlet fever. Take him if you already haven't.

A good breakfast of bumscopan, eggs, spinach and bockwurst, and cuddles with ds has cheered me up a bit. Now I get to inflict myself on my mum. I think we're sorting the flowers today which might be somewhat enjoyable. Except dp has decided he doesn't need a real button hole because he already got a FREE fake one when he bought his suit idiot.

gerry i hope it isn't chicken pox. He would have more blisters if it's chicken pox. Wouldn't he. I can't deal with another bout of illness.

plonky your dp made me laugh. He has no clue about wedding decoration/themes does he.

stormy sorry i missed your post. Who is being so horrible. Just ignore them.

Yummy the toddlesomething had like 7 blisters and was not ill at all, and on the babysaurus it looked much worse than it was because of his eczema. He had one or two days of mild grumpiness and was soothed completely by calpol.

I know some kids really suffer with cp but for us the worst part was having to stay at him until he was completely crusty.

Good proteiny breakfast there, Plonk. Let me know how long it takes you to get hungry after that.

Accusations of my terrible motherhood are from DBro's STBX. I have no idea what to think. Only found out yesterday she hates me and he's been defending me for months. The woman's completely lost the plot. Reluctant to say more on here just in case. If I post on the fb page, does a thumbnail of what I've posted show up on other people's mini-feed when they're on a computer? Or is it totally hidden because it's a closed group?

Stormy if I were you I'd think she's got her own issues and you should just ignore her. Easier said than done though. I guess the thing to focus on is DBro is defending you, so the person who actually matters in your life thinks she is out of line.

Yummy I hope it's not chicken pox too.

An feeling a bit today, as yesterday when I collected the toddle from nursery at lunchtime they had her outside in the blazing heat, and they hadn't followed my instructions that she has to be encouraged to drink, so she was very dehydrated. She was also a little sunburnt. She is back there this morning, and I'm so worried. I asked again that she be given water regularly, and they actually check she is drinking it, I've told them I don't want her outside in the heat, I've done everything I can, as nicely as I can, because I know rightly that is I become 'that mother', as in the stroppy one, dd might be marked out. If it happens again I'm taking her out. End of. I thought they were a good nursery too, so now I've lost faith.

Definitely got her own issues, agreed. Longstanding mh problems exacerbated by coming off meds when pregnant, plus a hefty dose of PND, which I would have sympathy except a) it results in her emotionally abusing DBro, and b) she's in complete denial about her mental state. Shitty situation all round.

stormy I was going to say maybe its pnd. Don't take it to heart. Sounds like she has issues but still no excuse to take it out on you.

doli sorry to hear that. A good nursery shouldn't single a child out. If that happens then you know it's not as good as you thought. Perhaps they had new staff or misjudged the heat. Were they apologetic? Best thing to do is to see how she is today. If it's the same then have a word with a manager. I don't know much about nurseries so someone with more experience may give you better advice.

Speaking of nurseries I have had to look for a nursery asap as dm told me she's going on a long holiday next month. Im a little miffed but I suppose she has her own life I guess. I viewed a nursery and ds loved it he didn't want to leave. He even made a couple of friends in the space of half hour. Nursery is good but not wow to justify the £54 per day. Im viewing a montessori on monday to see how that is. I am also thinking why do they have spaces. Loads of other places are fully booked.

Hard not to take it to heart, really. I'm reviewing everything me and DD have ever done to see if maybe she's right and I am a shit mother with an evil baby. She stormed out in a huff yesterday, without a word but with an overnight bag and her passport. The row that led to it? Was because he'd picked up a strimmer for me while he was in the shop. WTF??

doli if our nanny let DD get sunburnt and dehydrated it would be grounds for a disciplinary at least - it's such a dangerous combination for a little person. I think every parent has to be "that" complaining parent at one time or other and I wouldn't hesitate to complain to ensure it doesn't happen again to any child.

yummy our local montessori nursery is amazing - definitely worth checking out. Mind you we are very montessori at home so it suits our style of following the child and encouraging independence as soon as possible but I guess it might not be what everyone looks for.

stormy that sounds like a tricky situation. Not much useful advice apart from lots of deep breaths and trying to engage a heap of empathy and sympathy. Tense family relationships are always the hardest because they have to be resolved ultimately not matter what!

Fortunately, I suspect this may be resolved pretty quickly, as she's talking about leaving!

yummy I'd second checking out the Montessori place. I know Rainbow and I don't usually agree that much, but in this case she's got a good point - that type of school is very much about turning out well rounded individuals with diverse skills. If there were one locally I'd be happy for Fartypants to go.

Speaking of DD, she now has thirteen teeth. Don't think she's happy about these canines giving her gyp.

Well ds doesn't have chicken pox. Even gp is baffled but we have been told to stop the penicillin just in case it is an adverse reaction.

Doli I'd be really about that.letting her get sunburnt is negligent really. How did it go today?

yummy hope DS ok?
stormy hope things sorted soon.

Had a lovely day today saw lots of friends, weather was good, DS was on good form- all good really. I've just let myself in for a bad night haven't I?!

eco where are you?!

hello. I'm sat, with dd in bed asleep, on sofa alone and crying. yesterday I felt like it was all just too much and I couldn't see how I'd cope through to our proposed completion date of June 27th without dh being around. I was so overdue in bringing the family together again. I couldn't hack the solo parenting plus other shit any longer. I just found out, at half six, that our mortgage has been declined. this means we lose our buyers, we can't buy the hovel but most importantly that we're going to be having to deal with living apart long past June 27th. Dh was in a meeting when I found out and still is so we've not spoken. there is nowhere to go with the mortgage. won't happen. we have now got to let so many people down. I don't have a job as I handed my notice in. and we can't afford to keep paying rent and mortgage. Luton isn't commutable from Norwich. no one has died. but I feel so so low. I really really really want to chat this through with my mum and have her say it'll work out and that I can handle it. I'm sat here with her photo on my lap getting wet with tears. sorry for pity party when so many of you are having tough times too. I'm embarrassed to say I hate life at present.

Oh, eco, you poor thing. I wish I was there to give you a hug, and some practical help, and a great big cheque to buy the hovel outright. However, there is one upside: at least you haven't just been walked in on in the bath, by someone who hates you, who wouldn't immediately leave when politely but very firmly told to, and who then texted you to complain at how rude you'd been. It's not much of a silver lining, eco, but it's all I can offer right now besides [tea] and .

eco . and sympathy. Sorry I can't do anything to help but really thinking of you.

eco can I give you a big hug too. Don't worry it will all get sorted but it may take just a little longer than expected. Solo parenting as well as being apart from a loved one is really tough. Have a good cry then pick yourself up ready to fight the world. Always remember things happen for a reason. You will look back at this and think wow how did i get through that.

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