January 2014 - hoping for more sleep

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I am soooooo tired today. Archie has been really unsettled the last few nights from about 4am onwards. Sometimes he's hungry, sometimes he wants to play, sometimes he wants his dummy. The last two nights he's ended up in with us as it's easier to replug the dummy, pat etc.
YAWN.

pidgy Henry is like Lara and can hold his head up but not really sit up properly yet (fine on my lap with me holding him) so too early for high chair, very jealous toby

Henry slept the whole night in the cot last night! Well not so much slept as I was in there at least 10 times between 11-6 yawn but at least he stayed there! Also when I went in this morning he was on his front (put him on his back) can I class that as a roll?? not that he'd wedged himself against the side which made him roll since his rolling a few weeks ago his done nothing more

Not sure if I told you all but got Henry's hair cut a couple of days ago. Bloody awful. The cat could have done a better job!

Well done for sleeping well, Henry!

The highchair thing is probably a bit misleading. The blow-up cushion makes the fit a lot more snug than a normal highchair. She's basically wedged in :o

We've been looking at high chairs. What one have you gone for toby?

Seems like London is the place to be as we came down here last night. Got my grandads internment this afternoon then up to Birmingham for a wedding this evening, visiting dh nan sunday and then heading back up north. Going to be knackered by the end!

O has definitely mastered the rolling! Very tricky getting her dressed this morning!

We got the IKEA Antilop. £31 with tray, cushion and delivery. A bargain, I'd say!

That's the one we've got too. Think I'll try wedging Alex in today.

Today I am counting and valuing everything in our loft ahead of our move to Ireland. It is a condition of the packing service that Dh's work use that we inventory everything. Starting to think it would be easier to pack ourselves.

Felix are you feeling better? Having the coil fitted was one of the most painful experiences if my life and I ended up having it taken out after a day. Really hope it's improved for you!

Tarka good luck with the move!

Managed to settle C last night when she woke and got her to go for a 5 hour stretch. Not having the same luck tonight and am already on the fourth feed since I put her to bed at 730.

Morning

spg that sounds rubbish. Is she taking a lot when she wakes? Is she due a growth spurt?

tarka how did it go yesterday with the inventory?

Yesterday we played in the garden most of the day, ds1 kept wanting to play football with Henry, which was sweet. Today I'm not going to church as once again I've got gut rot. Wondering if I've turned lactose intolerant, as it appears to be linked. Will do some more investigating.

DH went out with friends straight after work last night. He arrived home at 9.30 (I already knew the time he would be home) so I had from 8-9.30 all alone, it was a long day. Bedtime was a bit difficult as although H settled, ds1 was determined to stay awake to see daddy. He dropped off when dh went in to say goodnight at 10. He was still up at 6.30! Crazy boy

Spged I'm feeling loads better thanks. I felt very ill afterwards but been ok since yesterday! Sorry you had so much trouble with it I think certain contraception doesn't work for a lot of people and you have to go through a lot to find out what works for you! Hopefully the coil will be fine for me now fingers crossed!

I'm really struggling today. Just shouted at h for no reason. His dad won't come and get him. Parents are away. I don't know what to do. He's just sat there being good but I can't even be in the same room as him

getting first off, everyone shouts sometimes. It wont do him any harm.

if he's ok and happy, do something for you. Get a cup of tea, read a book, do not do any housework. When did you last have a break? Why wont his dad get him?

Thank you million were having a cuddle now. Just feel very overwhelmed with everything and if I didn't have h I would lie on sofa drinking wine and eating shit and not speak to anyone for days. Felt resentment towards h that I can't do that. But I know it's not his fault.

It isn't, but doesn't mean you cant feel that way. Heaven knows i feel that way about my kids too. I want to just sit and read, maybe have a bath, then read again. All day. It never feels like I'm off duty.

We all feel like that sometimes, honestly. When he gets older it will get better. Ds1 is 2.7 and will entertain himself for a couple of hours so i can just dick about, both our H's will be at that point soon enough. I wish we lived closer then we could drink wine together while watching crap tv

:) I've calmed down a lot now. Wow that was scary. Honestly could have just put him out the front and left him. Poor h. I think that's it million it's always being on duty and knowing I have to be there 24/7

For what it's worth,getting and million I feel like that too sometimes. DH works away from home, and when he goes I just feel a sense of desperation creeping up. I feel like I can't cope with H (who is usually good as gold), nor the loneliness of the long days and evenings. It's that sense of being completely overwhelmed and not being able to get away from it. At all.

My DM has been fantastic and has come over to help out, but they were away recently and I had a bit of a meltdown. I'm ashamed to say that DM delayed the start of her trip to help me out .

I've nothing very helpful to say, really, except that you're not alone in feeling like that, getting.

I just want dh to come back. I don't want to be alone. I don't want to be a single mum. I miss him

I would have given ds1 to the tramp on the street if i could have, so been there!

You really are better without him, you have to trust that until you receive the confirmation.

Getting you really are better off without him, after what he's done to you and H. Today was just a wobble, and you are doing great. We are all here if you need to vent!

getting I feel like that and my DH works from home! So you're doing way better than me! It's shit, eh? Just a thought, but has a HV talked to you about PND? With all that's going on for you, it might be a factor. If so, have a hand to hold, I'm going through that so I get it. Absolutely. So, so hard.

I don't think it's pnd. I'm not normally sad/ cross with Henry which is why today was so scary. I'm sad that dh has left . I'm sad with the situation. I'm sad that Henry won't have a sibling (we'd always planned 2 close together). I'm sad that he's moving on. The whole thing is awful

getting you will get through this. Totally normal to have days when the relentlessness of parenting makes you wonder how you will cope. You know he's not the man you want him to be or he wouldn't be putting you and H through this. You're going through a really shitty situation, be kind to yourself.

On a practical note, do you have family who can give you a break so you have some quiet time to process what's going on? If not, do you gave homestart in your area? Things won't be how you imagined them but they won't always be this hard.

getting, the alternative is that he comes back and you spend the rest of your life feeling on edge and insecure, never able to trust him, not sure whether to believe him when he says he's going our with friends/has to work late, always wondering who he's texting...

That's no life at all for you. You and H have got this. Just you two. And you will be ok. You deserve massive kudos for being able to get up and function every day, on your own with a small baby. I think you're amazing. We all have days like yesterday. Nothing bad happened.

As ever, toby sums things up in a tidier way then I do! You are doing brilliantly. You have us, admittedly strangers on the internet, but ones who care for you.

getting you are doing amazingly well so don't be hard on yourself.

Bought a playpen today (to keep the dog out rather than O in). Why oh why did I not get one sooner. I can now leave the dog and baby in the room together without any worries. So much easier.

I can't do this.

Trying to pack and plan and tidy and clean and get ready for relatives visiting this weekend and sort out the broken washing machine and cook and look after N and DD and I can't do it.

I am just listening to N crying thinking I don't have time to look after you properly because I have to get the bags packed and the place cleared up before picking up DD from school.

Still haven't found new tenants so more people coming to view the flat tomorrow morning at 8:30. I hate trying to keep the place tidy while packing up.

Still need to get rid of the furniture, wash down and repaint the walls and deep clean the house before the weekend. DD has two parties this week and DH's friend is staying nearby until Thursday, visiting from the Middle East.

Sorry for the pity party, but my mind is just too full for any more planning or thinking or calculating. I am done.

I'm sorry, altered. It's awful when it all gets in top of you. Can the visiting relatives pitch in and help? Can your DH pull his weight a bit more?

I feel your pain. And yours, getting, although both to a lesser extent, of course.
I have really struggled this afternoon. I was actually furious with M for a while for screaming constantly. She was doing it whatever I did, so in the end I had to leave her to it lying on the floor, because it didn't make it much worse and I had loads to do.
And tonight she's screamed for another hour before going to sleep. She finally fell asleep about 10 minutes ago and I am sitting on my bed next to her because I know she's going to wake up again soon and it'll be easier to settle her back down if she hasn't had time to work herself up.