January 2014 - hoping for more sleep

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I am soooooo tired today. Archie has been really unsettled the last few nights from about 4am onwards. Sometimes he's hungry, sometimes he wants to play, sometimes he wants his dummy. The last two nights he's ended up in with us as it's easier to replug the dummy, pat etc.
YAWN.

puggle I agree get rid if you can. We have a lot from sil, most us amazing and very greatful but they are different to us so had a huge highchair and travel cot. DH won't let me buy one as we have them but they are huge!

Poor A is still unwell. Pooing all the time, drinking, sneezing and doesn't want to sleep more than 30 mins. Even that is often while still attached. I'm a human dummy!

million that is rubbish. I hope that they can sort out some treatment soon.

puggle absolutely get rid. I have a second hand everything, but rust would be a no no for me. If it is really old, you could probably say it doesn't meet new safety legislation too, especially if there is any foam or fabric in it.

fly poorly babies are really hard! N had his vaccinations on Monday including the second dose of rotarix which has made him very unsettled. He is a complete velcro baby and grunts himself to sleep. No other signs of intussusception but it still gets me worried. Today I have discovered that Kate Rusby will get him to sleep, especially her song about Davy Steele. Doesn't stop him waking up screaming ten minutes later though.

Finally ordered cloth nappies! Went old school and got terry squares and bumbles because I suspect they are the only nappies that will withstand egyptian washing powder. I also got some LL one size pockets in the rare event that N actually has to wear clothes. I haven't ordered any medium wraps though because the large popolini ones fit well round the legs and are only a tiny bit loose round the tummy over disposables. I am hoping the bulk of the cloth nappies will make them fit and have some M/L airflow wraps coming too which I hope will be ok. Anyone here using terries? I suspect they will end up at the bottom of the drawer and I'll just use the bumbles.

Preparations for moving continuing apace here. Are you moving today sunshine or is it next week? In either case good luck!

Part of a set (non English speaking) MIL gave us...

Rage alert. I am in the middle of sorting out all our possessions, which are liberally scattered around the house. DH has just called to ask "if it would be ok" for someone to come round to see the flat in an hour. I am struggling to control my temper because he asked so casually and seems to be genuinely surprised that I am not keen. The bathroom smells of pee and bleach, dirty dishes in the sink, piles of washing to go into the machine.

DH thinks it is fine because it is a friend of a friend. I might actually kill him.

Altered - I feel your moving pain! We move next week but the packers come on Friday. Having emptied the contents of the loft into our spare room and requested my dad come to finish the painting (so we can rent the house) DH has decided he is having leaving drinks Thursday night. I have made him take thurs morning off to finish everything and am leaving Emily with him and my dad tonight to go to a pub quiz with my old colleagues as punishment

Love the bib btw.

Getting - you asked about visas I think? I cat remember the number of it (189 or 190 I think) but we have an independent visa based on the fact DH is an accountant. Apparently there are a shortage of internal auditors in Australia. We hired a migration agent who did most of it for us but it took a year and probably cost £2.5k. I hope we like it now! Whereabouts in Sydney did you live? All my friends live Eastern Suburbs but don't think we can afford it unless I go back to work. Have been offered a contract Oct - July but it's not a job I want. Is a backward step an would like to stay at home with Emily for a bit longer. I worked as a consultant before having Emily and basically worked 2 contracts for a year (one in London, one in Lebanon!) and hopefully have enough saved for a break. We were thinking of looking around Inner West (Balmain, Rozelle etc) but don't really know the area.

Am on train on phone so can't remember everything else going on today but hope all is well in the world and good luck for tonight to those with babies going through the regression. I'll probably have jinxed it now but Emily seems to be coming out the other side (took about 2 weeks). She had gone 8 - 11 (dream feed) - 2 - 6 for the last few nights. So hopefully we've cracked it. Just in time to fly to New York and deal with jet lag and a different bed every 2 days. That totally self inflicted though so can't complain.

Thanks for the well wishes. Apparently they usually leave it, but if I'm still bleeding they will take it out. I'll learn more tomorrow.

high chairs - we have a wooden one like they have in cafés at the moment. It's fine for ds1, but Henry would need more support. He's being fed in his bumbo at the moment.

moving - good luck to the movers! V jealous of moving to Aus, but being fair, it's throwing it down and I'd like to be somewhere warm.

terry nappies - we used them, tried, with ds1. We weren't very good at them so they were rubbish. Sorry. Hopefully you'll get someone who finds them awesome.

Henry has been waking in the night for the last week, it's tough, so he's been coming into our bed which is ok. He struggles to sleep during the day

Hisunshine - we spent a year in the southern suburbs (Kogarah)- it was right by my work and DH could get the train to town easily. Other colleagues were very about us not living in the Eastern suburbs too! I remember Balmain as being lovely but don't think I was ever really in Rozelle. Admittedly them were the days I rated places on the character & quality of the pubs not playparks

sunshine we lived in eastern suburbs, randwick so near coogee beach but work paid for the (lovely) flat as was out there on secondment which is how I got the visa. Balmain is nice but haven't heard of the other one I'm afraid. I'm very jealous

Well, that's me up for the day. F has had an unsettled night - I think it's bad wind - and we're now on the sofa not sure what to do with ourselves! It's going to be a long day...

Ouch! I co-slept from 11-3, then put him in his own room with white noise playing, then dh got up to put on white noise, then ds1 woke. Fun

I got up as the baby was grumbling, got washed and dressed ready for work and went to get him to bring him downstairs only to find he had gone back to sleep! Alright for some!

Good luck to everyone with long days, it's tricky to know what to do all day when they are this little, isn't it.

Long days all round, then?

Meredith had her last jabs yesterday and she's woken up a bit warm this morning. I've given her some Calpol and she's happy enough, but our planned trip to a new baby group this afternoon might be off. We'll see.

Good luck keeping your eyes open all day, million and angel!

We had lots of wake ups last night too. She was hungry every time!

DP is going to the lakes this weekend with his dad's church group so I'm going to stay with my parents from tonight until Sunday or Monday. Feel like I've got to pack so much stuff to take with us!

There's so much, isn't there, felix?
We went away for the weekend a couple of weeks ago for a wedding. It was me, DH, DD1 and Meredith for 2 nights in a Premier Inn. It was unbelievable how much stuff we had to take! It must be even more of a giant faff if you're FFing. At least we didn't have to take a steriliser, bottles, formula etc.

There's only the three of us and we have a fairly big mazda 6, but we're considering buying a roofbox for so the things we need to take when visiting family! We don't even need a travel cot as both my dad and MIL have bought one for thir spare rooms for when we go and visit.

Bit of a rant: dh has had to work really long hours this week (36 hour shift Mon-tues, 6am-8pm yesterday) and leah's been really difficult during the days. We had 2 months of reflux, colic and an overtired baby who refused naps and things had just started getting better the last month or so, but now seem to be going backwards. The last few weeks her sleep has been gradually improving, we had 3 nights in a row of her sleeping 5 hour sessions! Then last night, when I was completely exhausted after her being difficult for a few days and having had to take dh to work at 6 yesterday, she slept really badly again. Didn't stay asleep for more than 20 minutes until 2, and then only slept for 2 hours. And I got really upset and annoyed at myself as I'd started to think we might have reached a turning point with sleep.
I know some of you have it much worse, I'm just feeling very sorry for myself! And annoyed with the world, friends of ours, who are both unemployed and live 5 minutes from both their families, have a baby of a similar age who slept through at 6 weeks. We're 150 miles from any family and dh often works long hours, and our baby at 15 weeks has never slept longer than 5 hours, and has only done that 5 times! I know it's silly to compare but still:

I've had an epiphany! Before I was pregnant, I suffered for about three years with very bad anxiety to the point where it made me weird and twitchy and I never wanted to leave the house much. It made me a total reject when it came to social activities and I missed out on so much. It disappeared once I was pregnant which I put down to some sort of hormonal balance thing. The past week or so the twitchyness and anxiety has returned with a vengeance. I feel so sick today and just want to cry. I've just realised that during those three years I was taking the cerazette pill, and two weeks ago I got the contraceptive implant. I googled it and it seems like quite a common occurrence! I even saw my GP during that time when I was at my worst and was referred to CBT and he never made the link between my symptoms and taking the pill. I've called the doctors and they are calling me tomorrow morning as I have to speak to someone before getting it removed. I can't believe it. I've wasted so much time and missed out on so much in my life because of it, and it turns out I'm actually quite normal and not totally nuts like I thought I was. Ahhhhhh! Sorry just had to get that out there. I literally cannot believe it

Awww god Felix, how awful. Sooner you get the implant out the better. My friend was the same it completely changed her personality. She knew certain pills did that to her so luckily recognised that it was the implant and got it removed.

I'm swaying back and forth on the implant. I have been ok with the pill but the thought of having to wait to get it out if it doesn't agree with me is putting me off.

H is currently lying ass out on her changing mat, it's mental how happy it makes her. She's not turning over yet but has started to roll onto her side. Only one way though. So far the sleep regression hasn't hit, just waiting on it.

To you guys making big moves...good luck. Way braver than I could ever be. I haven't moved outside Glasgow never mind a whole new country.

Band, I wish I'd realised before I had it put in! It wasn't too bad going in but my arm was really sore for a few days and now I'll have to do it again I even had to drop out of university because of the anxiety attacks and I feel like my whole life would be totally different right now if I'd realised what was causing it!

That's rubbish Felix. Don't know if the hormones are similar but I've had two friends have their Mirenas taken out as they felt they'd gone crazy -all back to normal shortly after.

Just when I think I can hear no more madness about my PIL, DH comes out with this classic. We were talking about weaning, and baby-led weaning. I said "after all would you want your dinner to be fed to you? Its nicer to feed yourself at your pace." DH said "oh well just hold their nose and when they open their mouth just shove the food in that's what to do if they refuse" Not joking, seemed very surprised I was shocked. This was his parents standard approach it seems. I have made him promise he will never never do this. I'm starting to get very about their approach to children!

I'm pretty sure I've got pnd. This is the first time I've said it.

I'm so fucking apathetic about some things, and crazy anxious about others. Henry has cried a lot the past few days and all I've wanted to do is tell him to fuck off.

I don't want to pick him up, I want to just sit and read/watch shit tv. I love him so much, i just kinda wish we had a nanny so someone else could do the looking after and I can see him for an hour a day. Maybe that's why i cant wait to work full time, i wont have to do a lot with them.

I'm just done with this whole mum thing. Poor ds1 and Henry deserve a mum who wants to do this, who wants to cuddle them and comfort them all the time. I just want to be left alone

million it's good to say these things out loud. Are you able to speak to your hv or gp? Have you spoken to your dp at all?

Oh and you are the best mum for your boys.

Felix that's rubbish about the contraceptive. I'm surprised your gp didn't pick up on the link. Hopefully you can get things sorted.

I've had an odd day. O is sleeping well but I'm still exhausted. I find it so tiring entertaining her all day. Nearly missed her first swimming lesson today as we fell asleep at 12 and didn't wake up till 3.30 and her lesson was at 4.15!! Bit of a mad rush but made it there on time thankfully.

We've got O christening in two weeks. Decided to host it here afterwards and now I'm stressing about how much we have to get done. We've only got this weekend as next weekend we are at a wedding all weekend. Trying to tell dh how much we have to do but he is just so laid back about everything. I'm not even sure we can fit everyone in the house! We've got two large reception rooms and a large kitchen dining room. Does it sound feasible to fit 50-60 people in???!!!! Hopefully the weather will be nice and we can use the garden as well.

I just told DH, he's agreed that I should see the gp tomorrow. I'm so tired all the time, even while taking iron tablets so it could all be related to that.

I had pnd fairly bad with ds1 so I know the signs.

Meanwhile the boys are in bed asleep, dh is making tea, and we're going to watch Castle and play on the xBox. I'm very lucky to have him, he's kinda awesome. I had a long shower (10 mins) which is the longest I've had in three years and shaved my disgustingly long leg hair so feeling more human too.

I meant to ask if all little ones should be having the bcg jab as we haven't been given an appointment for one.