November 2012 - What is going on with these babies?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1968333-November-2012-Diet-plans-and-love-bubbles

Stunt that is such an odd place to break twice without remembering. Poor fella.

J fell last night and whacked his head so hard, right on the back, on a ledge of the expedit. I did not sleep much for checking him, but he slept pretty well, waking only once. Not a pre-bed routines wish to replicate though.

I have decided to 'not give a fuck' at work this week, just to do my best and not worry if it is good enough or not. It has helped. I am trying to see missing out on the promotion as being a good thing. It would not have meant any more money anyway as we would have lost CTCs. I am actively seeking employment elsewhere though.

Lily I got a cleaner when I restarted freelancing using the same logic as Mr Pikz. I love her.

I really want a cleaner.

Can't justify the cost though :(

DP just has to do a lot of it. His time is worth less than a cleaner think he needs a new job!!!!.

I want a cleaner to go over all the shit he misses .

O had a fall down the stairs this morning :( It's my fault. I was on the toilet with the squits - thanks O for that bug.... and he escaped the bathroom. I didn't think anything of it, as he has a pile of toys on the landing. I was talking to him, and the next thing he was screaming. Luckily, our stairs have 3 steps on an angle, before a turn. So he just fell the top 3, and landed on the large step.

We had a stairgate - but due to the stupid fucking skirting, we can't put it up, without a massive gap at the bottom, which in some ways would be worse.

I am tempted to get a pressure gate one as although I know this isn't the safest, it has to be safer than nothing. A pressure gate would most likely work okay.

We have a pressure gate at the top det for much the same reason. We have it in the hall before the landing if that makes sense. So any trip over the bottom bit would have you tripping into the landing rather than straight down the stairs.

Poor old your dad stunt

So sad kyz like everyone else has said feel free to share how you are feeling here.

pr I hope you have some great quality time with your DH and the girls. It will be lovely he seems to work so hard will be nice to have some time just the 4 of you.

We moved into our tiny rental in Sept 2012 when I was lots pregnant. We had packers, but I unpacked while DH swanned off on a trip to
Berlin for work! Was a tight squeeze amongst those boxes.

We moved here by ourselves . It was crazy. The week before we moved DH hired a dodgy old car transporter loaded on his first love ( a Porsche which is currently off the road as it needs a bit of work) and drove over on his own, Yellow Peril precariously teetering on the back. We had a man with a van for the rest.

I did all the packing with a baby and a toddler hanging off me.

I will never be moving again. Ever.

I have some thing else to share but I need to read something up first........

Det pop a pic of your landing on FB, a few angles, and let the quiche advise you. We also have one across the landing as opposed to across the stairs.

We've had to put a pressure gate at the top of a double height staircase as the other gates just kept unscrewing and coming loose from the thin plasterboard walls in the attic conversion. Not ideal but better than a nosedive from Captain Fearless! Who learned to turn the bath taps on this morning - thankfully he can only reach the cold one.

Will do VQ! Will pop them on fb shortly!

The one good thing about this house, other the the cooker and fireplace, is the lack of stairs.

Just put pics of ours up det.

Pics done!

DD1 learned to turn the shower on on her first day here. We had no hot water fortunately. She drenched herself and kind of froze on the spot. I heard her shouting and she was just stood there wailing, the shower on full power. It was so funny. It was hot that day so I changed her clothes and she warmed up in the garden. I felt guilty for not being able to stop laughing. I did choose not to take a picture though.

I get this thing everyday, encouragement for the day, if you like, and yesterday it was about marriage, the elusive secret for a happy marriage. It hit a few chords with me. About me, the way I am, and some things have have cropped up on here regarding relationships.

It talked about always assuming the worst, about how many of us go into self destruct almost. If our husband or partner says something wrong our default is to assume they do not care about us enough. When actually the opposite is true and that person loves us and cares about us and has just said something before thinking or been a bit clumsy in their choice of words.

Our automatic response is to always search for the worst and not search for good. Most of the time hurt is not intended.

I know I am guilty of that and I also think my happiest times are those times when I assume DH adores me the more I start to think he is being thoughtless or selfish then that is all I see! when I look at it from another angle he is mainly doing what he thinks is good and right.

I've probably have articulated this haphazardly but I thought it was good anyway.

So I am practising searching for the best today.

Cleaner is still here. I love her. She came last time just before Xmas. I can manage most of the time but no energy for deep clean. So I justify the cost once a month or twice. Besides it's cheap here.

Am glad we have no stairs here. No need for stairgate. Actually no need to baby proof either as everything is hidden.

Got my assignment back.78%. Very happy with that.

O is napping, hellooooo Dexter

Oh I didn't see this new thread. How awful Kyz, it just makes you feel sick. The thought of losing our precious children is unimaginable. I give L an extra hug when I hear anything bad but to have it happen to a friend is even closer to the bone.

I got so angry last night at a news story about a baby, you probably read it. How can anyone be so cruel. There seem to be so many awful stories at the moment.

We have a stair gate issue too. I can't post pics as you will all be revolted at the yellow flowery carpet and badly painted skirting board. I think we could get one across the 2nd stair but it would have to be a 'floating' one as I'd be too scared of tripping over the bottom frame. But then there would be a gap so I don't know. I guess I need to go to a Kiddicare or something - do they sell gates and drawer catches and stuff? I feel so clueless.

I thought the C-Max would have good visibility Det, maybe it's just a case of getting used to the new perspective.

(((kyz)))

I've never had a spa day, it doesn't appeal tbh. Think I'd get bored! 2 hours in a hairdresser is enough for me been cutting my own hair for 2 years to save money anyway

Det you've lost a stroppy baby and I've lost a sleep dodging one. 5:45-5:45 then brief wake up for rain at 6:45 and he slept til 8:15 this is becoming regular too and he's 50 minutes into a nap in his cot

Ginger cake in oven and chicken ready to be jerked. I have plantain and sweet potato to roast, rice and peas to make and ackee to cook wtf do you do with ackee? Must google then just await arrival of friends with wine :o

pidj no spa day? Omg, I'd kill for a spa day. Massage, manicure, pedicure, do nothing.

O says no. Too cute.

Never had a mani or pedicure either

Or a leg wax. Or my eyebrows done

I love spa days. I love the tranquillity and being pampered. Going to have one for my birthday later in the year I think.

Been to a birthday party this morning, next stop it's DD1 swimming then off to a friends to watch the six nations. Busy but fun.

Thankyou Sophia for sharing xx

We have pressure fit gates top and bottom due to skirting boards and angles. I think as long as you get the widest possible gate for the space they are not too bad. We took one back as there was just too much wobble.

Well done on assignment Lily.

Am so sick of sleep deprivation. Dh and I are bickering all the time. Please let there be an end to this soon.

No leg wax here, that's not enjoyable. But a pedicure? I'd kill for one right now, my heels are in a bad state.

Good job on the assignment *lily

I don't want to entice anyone into doing anything dangerous but our pressure fit gates are on their second child now (we lived in a bungalow when DS1 was small) and have been up for years without anyone falling down the stairs. Also ours come with 'cups' you can screw to the wall to locate the pressure pads which makes them a bit more secure as they can't move around too much. I would tell you what type they were but we bought them in 2007 so they're probably a bit different these days.

When I was car shopping I read a lot of reviews, quite a few criticised the visibility in the c-max. I think because it's quite tall but the rear windscreen isn't big in comparison to the depth. Also the front corner pillars. I haven't test driven one yet but the front pillars are similar to the Focus we have now so that should be ok, just the rear which is why I want parking sensors. Especially for the awkward car park at work.

Sophia Was it you that said you had coccyx problems after a previous birth? Can I ask a few Qs. I keep thinking about posting about my coccyx pain but then never bother.

Det I've a spare pressure fitted gate if you want to try it? Although might be an effort to get it to you.

Our landing and stairs are v awkward, we've finally got one at the bottom but can't fit one at the top. I might post some pics on FB too.

VQ Awesome shopping skills! And I like the "don't give a fuck attitude with work"