Feb 2011. Now they are (nearly) 3 <gulp>

[Reastie]

Just starting a new thread as noticed old on nearly full up.

ledkr I'm glad Dilly had a lovely day

flustered oh I'm glad things are looking brighter with dp.

ponyo I'm actually having a little bit of a snigger to myself at the thought of you being a pushy mum. I don't even "properly" know you, but I think I can say hand on heart you're not a pushy mum . Definitely go for it, if nothing else it'll give A confidence & a great basis for fitness. Sofia did gymnastics from about 4-6 & it's really stood her in good stead.

We've had a shitty few days - my uncle (Anna's godfather) was killed in the early hours of Sat morning while on holiday with a few friends in Barcelona. My aunt obviously is just beyond heartbroken. He was 55 & they'd been married for 15 years but they were really like loves young dream .

It's proving to be an absolute nightmare getting the body back, the Spanish authorities & Irish embassy have been great but there's so much paperwork & his poor friends (theyve all been friends since primary school) had to fly home without him.

Usually a funeral is done within 48 hours here, so it's so difficult to get through each day.

But enough sadness for now, I wasn't going to post anything, but you're my friends

Wiggles I'm so sorry. I hope you manage to get everything sorted. Many hugs from here.

Ponyo he has a bicuspid aortic valve that has lead to an ascending thoracic aneurysm. The mri scans are to measure the aneurysm and give an acurate measurement. This baby might have the wonky valve so will mean extra checks for it. The can fix the aneurysm with an op but he doesn't want the op ( yet, I'm working on him) its scary to think I could loose him at anytime if the pressure gets too much.

oh wiggles I'm so sorry. What happened to him? You say he was killed, as in murdered? . Thoughts to you and your family and hope you can get him home and have the funeral soon. xx

ponyo Alice has been doing ballet since September and really enjoys it. Sadly she's on of those children who won't do anything without me joining it, so I'm very good now at good toes naughty toes

Flustered hope the results for your dp are fine when they come through. When's your 12 week scan? Must be soon??

Ledkr dillys bday sounds lovely and love she got to go on stage at the panto for it. She sounds like such a character!

Alice has her settling in session at nursery next week. Any advice/things to ask/do/look out for? I'm staying with her for it. She's very clingy in new situations (it's taken 4 months of ballet classes with me there for her to even venture into the middle of the circle to dance without me). Hopefully once she's adjusted and gain confidence she'll love it. i'm a little heartbroken my baby is growing up though

Just wanted to come and say sorry to hear such sad news Wiggles. Huge hugs from all of us. I hope your ok xx

Reastie, Noah has just started preschool on a Friday morning. We had a few settling in sessions and I told him each time we went that today I would stay with him but soon he would stay withh his new friends and I would go do boring things like shopping, but that I would bring him back a treat. His first morning he cried (so did I) but I just gave him a quick hug and walked out. I dud my best to hide my anxiety and kept saying how fun it was going to be at preschool etc. he's been there 3 Friday mornings now and can still get upset but I know he's fine. I hope Aluce settles in quickly as there is nothing worse than the guilt you feel leaving your child behind when their not completely happy.

Ledkr, it's good to hear your recovering well and how well Dilly is doing. I can't believe our babies are turning 3 already!!

Hi to everyone else

Wiggles I'm so sorry, and for him to die abroad just makes it practically so much harder at such a difficult time already. 55 is so young :( Your poor aunt. Hope you're ok as you can be

Flustered yikes I didn't understand most of that description ;) but hope he comes round to having the op soon. Enjoy fri with him :)

Reastie the only advice I have is if you do leave her, go and don't go back in until it's time to! She will most likely cry but will be fine after a little while, there'll be loads going on. However she might cry when you return to pick her up when she realises you left her! There's a little girl in A's nursery room who hasn't been there long, her mum works in the nursery in the office, and whenever I go in she is being held and rocked by a member of staff bcos she just wants her mum :( erm... The point of that story wasn't to make you worry it was that if A does get really upset the staff will look after her, and... that at least you don't have to sit nearby in an office all day hearing her crying?!

Oh and A has been at nursery since she was 9 months old and STILL gets super clingy when I drop her off sometimes!

Hi Emski! :)

A has had a poorly bum again, crying when she did a wee earlier, if I take her to the docs when it doesn't hurt anymore can they still check her urine for anything?

wiggs I'm so sorry to hear that.
How did he get killed?
Do you remember me taking you about ds mate who died when they were all on holiday? It was a struggle getting him home too, made it all so much harder.
Thinking of your family.

Yes ponyo they can check for bugs after although they might not show up straight away.

Thanks Sorry I worded the post badly. He was hit by a bus, which believe it or not has raised a wry smile over the past few days. It was hard to tell the girls but they're doing alright. Olivia has taken it badly, Sofia wanted to know if she would be getting a new dress for the funeral

Anna is getting dressing up clothes for her birthday. She is obsessed with Minnie Mouse, so is getting a Minnie Mouse outfit, complete with ears! I get reminded about the ears every 5 mins. My parents are getting her a bike & she's getting a Drs kit (start them early).

Thanks again, it felt better just to type it out x

Oh wiggles, I'm so sorry life really is shite sometimes. But did have a wee smile at Sophia's need for a new dress, any excuse for a bit of fashion!

Reastie I echo everyone else with regards to nursery. Defo don't hang around asking for more hugs/kisses as that will result in A screaming (my personal bugbear with parents). I have wee ones who still cry at drop off but they always stop before Mummy has even got into the car! They are little monkeys, mummy goes to work feeling so guilty and they are playing away quite the thing! If she doesn't settle, dont worry, it can take time!
I am having my fourth settling session in Friday with a set of twins (eek). They are fine,must the mum who is having issues!

Ledkr, I'm glad D had a fab birthday.

Ponyo I know you have a bit of soccer mom hidden in you .

Nothing new with me, just plodding along.

wiggles - I'm so sorry, sounds like a nightmare. I guess Sofia can see the silver lining, eh?

reastie - We have a very strict routine when leaving L at nursery (enforced by him). He can also be very shy and clingy in new situations and around new people, but the key is to get him distracted with something like playing with a toy. Then I tell him I'm going to leave and give him a hug and he's usually fine. Sometimes you do just need to leave while they're crying (even though it's heartbreaking).

I went to wake L this morning and he said, "Excuse me, I'm trying to sleep." I guess he's turned in to a threenager a little early.

Thanks so much for the nursery help. Got the nursery 'handbook' today, it's heavy reading! The uniform list is longer than initially thought, she has to have a separate summer and winter uniform, school coat scarf and hat, school PE kit when they do PE, school specific messy play apron and, next year she'll need the school official swimming costume and hat. Oh, and black shoes (not patent or with any characters or animals on them oh no perish the thought). Black shoes are just so boring and school like and she's only tiddly . Lots of things to try there in your advice. Just crossing fingers the settling in session goes well on Monday. So, would it be normal to have one settling in session with me and then straight into normal sessions 3 x week without me or would the setting in period be usually longer?

american love the 'excuse me I'm trying to sleep'!

wiggles have you got a funeral date yet?

ponyo how is A and her wee?

Just a quick post as saw wiggles news, so sorry to hear about your uncle, tons of love to you and your family. Let's hope things run smoothly as possible so the funeral can go ahead. How horrid for you all.

Oh and a belated happy birthday to the gorgeous dilly too! Xxx

PS started a thread in chat which should explain why I never get round to MNing any more. Bloody terrible twos!

Hi everyone,

flustered my God you are going through some stuff at the moment. Love and light and most of all be kind to yourself

wiggs how desperately sad about your uncle :( why do shitty things happen to good people?

ledkr happy birthday Dilly

Am feeling a bit neglectful at all this talk of settling in sessions at pre school. Sabine started going just before Imy finished back in the summer- just for one morning a week. Just chucked her in and left her to get on with it . Now she goes 2 full days and rules the roost it seems and cries when it's NOT her day to go to school!

Big news this week- I got accepted into uni, starting in April!!! Had an interview last week which was an entire day affair which I was sickeningly, incoherently nervous for, but turns out I must have done ok. I am so so excited. It'll be a massive change for us as a family but I can't wait.

Other news is poor Imogen has succumbed to the pox at last. She is incredibly spotty and very itchy but seemed fine in herself until about 10 minutes ago when I heard her crying in bed that her noonoo hurt. Spots in your noonoo, not good. Preparing for the next few days in not-so-splendid isolation now!

It's my little Bean's birthday a week Saturday, I think I'll get her a princess costume. She loves all things pink, sparkly, princess, fairy .

Hi to everyone else :)

DEB! Can't believe you casually strolled in ASIC you'd not been AWOL for months!
You doing adult nursing? Good luck you and well done.

Hey led thought I might get away with it! Yes, adult nursing

You'll love it. I started adult and swapped to mental health cos I loved it.

MizK - I'm a bit at some of the responses on your thread, clearly they've never had strong-willed children. L can be a pain to put to bed. He wants to have his hand held while he falls asleep and always wants me to do it. I've started trying to limit it though, sometimes it works and sometimes not. We cuddle for a bit in the rocking chair then I tuck him into bed and tell him I'm leaving but I'll be back to check on him in X minutes. He stays in bed about half the time but I just keep putting him back. Last night I tucked him in and he asked me to leave.

deb - well done on uni! When L started nursery here, I asked about settling in sessions and they were like they'd never heard of it. We went the day before, he spent about 10 minutes in the room with the other children and that was that.

reastie - ooo, that uniform list sounds expensive. I'm thankful they don't do uniforms around here (though ask me how happy I am when L is a teenager and wants expensive trainers).

Hello everyone! Hope it's okay to pop on to say hi to everyone (it's NeedToSleep, ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath).

wiggles I am so so sorry, what a shocking and tragic thing to happen.

MizK I saw your thread and agree with expat, the responses on there were not on. FWIW, Ben is a bloody handful almost all of the time and runs me ragged. He still doesn't sleep through the night 70% of the time ANyway, no advice but you're not alone.

Ben is 3 today, how did that happen? He requested lunch at BHS and , at least he's cheap to please.

Happy Birthday to all our babies

hello all, v quiet here so thought I'd sneak in and see what you're all up to.

Cunk can I admit that I have no idea what your new nn is all about , can you fill me in? Happy bday to Ben and to lunch at BHS. I used to go there for a special treat with DMum when we went shopping in town. Baked potato with beans was my meal of choice.

Alice's settling in session at nursery on Monday and went really well (although no reason for it not to as I was there with her). It's such a lovely nursery I'm really glad we chose it. Hope she settles OK though.

Deb well done you on the uni front, that's fab, you'll be a great nurse.

Reastie glad settling in went ok, when is Alice in again?

Funeral was yesterday, so its all done now, longest 2 weeks of all our lives. Very sad but I think there was a lot of relief that my mums family who would rival the Sopranos for petty vendettas didn't kick off all went well. The Kennedys were my my nanas idols so I think that sort of sums it up

The kids were brilliant. Anna managed to refrain from informing everyone that her Uncle Joe had "been died" like her dog! We were a bit concerned about Olivia but she seems to be vocalising everything a bit more. Sofia got over the fact that she had to wear her school uniform!

Anna is in full birthday countdown atm. It's my nieces birthday today so am just keeping my fingers crossed that Anna doesn't do a quick raid on her pressies.

wiggles - glad the funeral went well - well, you know what I mean.

reastie - do you have another session today? Hopefully she'll be fine when you leave and keep busy.

Cunk - love that Ben wanted lunch at BHS for his birthday.

L has been poorly with a cough the last few weeks, took him to the GP Friday who diagnosed a sinus infection. He seems to be feeling a bit better after a few days of antibiotics.

Hey all

Wiggles glad the funeral is done now. Hope you're ok. I remember is was a 2 week wait between my dad dying and the funeral and it was like I was just waiting for ages for something I was dreading. At your girls!

Happy birthday to Ben needto (I'm on my phone and forgotten your new username ) LOVE that he wanted to go to bhs how cute.

Reastie has A had anymore settling in days?

Hi everyone else. We are also on birthday countdown for A, she's in nursery on her actual birthday as I'm on a training course, but to be honest I think she'll like it as she gets to take a cake in. Then my mum is coming up that evening and we'll do presents, and at 10am sat morning we've got soft play party fun then a day with more family and presents which I'm sure at some point will get to much and A will become an emotional wreck

I wanted to have a little rant about Facebook but think I might be a bit unreasonable, however I'm sure you will all be honest and tell me...? An old work colleague of mine has died, he was quite young and it's sudden so bit of a shock. However people who I know who also worked with him have been taking to Facebook to write him messages on their status's, post photos of him, put songs up for him. It's annoying me and I'm not sure why, I think it's a bit tacky I'm a bitch aren't i

ponyo I'm so sorry to hear about your old colleague. Tbh I think whatever helps your other old colleagues deal with it then fine, but, I'm a bit dubious for feeling the need to do something like that with someone you're not proper friends with IYKWIM. But I think it's one of the odd things about facebook that these things seem to happen when they don't in RL in the same way. I sort of don't think they ABU if it helps them and they were actual friends (although can't think I'd do it personally) but I do think they ABU if they are doing it to get attention/out do other people/look like they care when they don't/didn't really know him that well etc etc. So, it depends on the methods really. That doesn't really help does it . FWIW someone I went to school with died about a year ago after a csection. It was in the paper and everyone was shocked about it as it looked like it may have been down to hospital neglect. Lots of old school friends were putting up comments and pictures of her which I have to say I wasn't bothered by, but they were actual friends with her and were grieving IYWKIM. There were no poems or songs either

Wiggles so glad the funeral has happened now and the girls were OK.

American hope Leo is now all better.

things good here. No more settling in days until after half term when she goes proper styley 3 times a week. But we're going to start with staying with her until she settles and collecting early until she's happy.

I had the genius idea of painting Alice's bedroom pink over the week end. So, on Sunday afternoon I went to homebase and got 'one coat' paint. Turns out they lie. It most definitely isn't one coat paint. Guess what I will be finishing next week end?! It does look fab though, her room finally all coordinates. just need some lovely pinky bedding.