December 2012: 1st birthdays and 1st/2nd Christmasses

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Ha I did a full on baby crying fit earlier, foetal position, and I now know where DS gets the breath holding from .

Either way I'll be fine, there'll be tears and tantrums along the way but Ill always have DS and that's all I need. When the going gets tough, the tough don't go back to mummy I'm afraid.

My god willyou. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you're feeling but I'm glad you've got some support. It sounds to me like there's something worth working at but of course that takes commitment on both sides, and feel free to tell me I know nothing!

Bless you and little J.

Just read your last post. You are totally worth more than that. It's either the whole you or none of you. Hope you manage some sleep. Xx

I feel really ill I think I might have to see a dr.

WillYou I hope you're feeling ok today and managed to get some sleep

Horrendous night. He slept from 7-9.30 and then woke up and screamed until 3am. I eventually got him to sleep in our bed. I have had about 4 hours which isn't enough for me to function on.

He has chicken pox so I suspect that he is actually in pain. Poor little thing :(

WillYou I hope you're all better today and good luck with your talk and whatever you decide.

Spotty hope you feel better soon

And all the other sick mummies and babies.

Willyou, i hope your ok today. How are things going with DP? Maybe the wedding plans scared him so he reacted like a child and ran off rather than facing it. I hope you manage to sort it out.

FoD, I hope the little mister is ok and also that you manage to get some rest.

Spotty i hope your feeling better today.

I have finally broke and sleep training has commenced! She is sleeping in her own cot from now on!

Good luck hales!

Just a virus pulse was 119bpm(!)

Good luck with that Hales. We're persevering with A, but it's a slow process.

Take it easy Spotty

I think A is really suffering with his teeth. Some truly horrific nappies, and it doesn't help that he wants to mostly breastfeed if I'm around.

Poor baby fod. Can you sit him in the bath and douse him with calamine lotion? Warm it up first though!
willyou thinking of you.
hales stick to your guns and it'll be over soon. And it will be worth it. Maybe think of a nice family treat for you all to do together when it's all over?
beasty I've had to start saying no to a few bf feeds as it was getting ridiculous.

Oh he is dose up with Ibuprofen, Calpol and Piriton poor little sausage.

I've got a hospital appt during working hours and my manager wants a copy of the letter...is that normal protocol? I'm not that bothered as it's only physio but it could be something private!

spotty I think managers can ask for proof of appointments, I've just rarely hear of it. Hope you feel better soon

spotty they do have a right to see proof of appointments etc that are in work time. Some organisations are happy with manager/employee trust and discretion, others are cross the Ts and dot the i's. Try not to take it personally.

Good luck with the sleep training hales, with any luck it might he much easier than you expect. I hope it doesn't cause too many tears.

spotty what the others have said. Yes they can request it, although you would think most wouldn't ask since hospital appointments tend to be a fairly private thing.

I have a questions. Those of you dropping LOs off at a childminder, how many settling in sessions did you have and how long did you leave them there?
DS has a childminder and it is supposed to be for 08:30-14:30. Today was our fourth day there (only mon-wed) and it was the first time we were asked to be there for 8:30. But the longest we have been there is about two and a half hours. The longest DS has spent on his own there is about 45 minutes. I know they do it super slow here (they are a nation of worriers - this extends to every aspect of raising a child) but it is starting to get a bit irritating . Or AIBU?

Hope mums and babies are feeling better today? DS just has a little cold, but it was kind of cute/disgusting this morning that there was so much snot he was licking it off his lips :/

Hello everyone, just a quick check in as I'm at work. DP's back, sure he wants us, but I'm still worried he'll change his mind again so being very cautious.

The stupid thing is he had some good points, we need to spend more time together and make more effort during the little time we have, but he completely overreacted and behaved like a stroppy teenager.

J has the bug back so I've spent yet another night cleaning up vomit, not slept since Wednesday and I am still unable to eat. I'm definitely starting to flag.

Look after yourself WillYou

I'm not bothered about the appt at all I just thought if it was gynae or epu I wouldn't want them to know

Willyou, i think it may take a while to feel like you can trust him completely again. I'm not sure if this helps or not but my mum and dad split up when i was in my early 20's as they didn't do things as a couple. I think this is a decision they both regret but their has been too much heartache to do anything about it. So i think its a good thing that you and DP have had this discussion now even though the manner he went about it was completely wrong. Me and DP try to do something alone every month even if its only go out for a pub lunch. In that time all talk of Heidi is banned and we concentrate on each other. It's hard sometimes to find the time but we know in the long run it will be worth it.

Spotty, i have had this in the past and i had to show them a copy of my letters. When i had a miscarriage the sick note they gave me in the hospital was very vague and did not give the actual reason why i needed a week off.

I think for DH this year for valentines day I'm going to "give" him 12 dates. One evening a month we do something together. It might not always be going out, but with baby 2 on the way I think we need to take the time to spend some time together. We've been out once in the last year - dinner for our anniversary - we went out at 7 and were back by 11...

WillYou - I'd like to think things would have worked out between my sister and her boyfriend. They got back together, did a lot of serious talking, and planned (and booked) a wedding abroad and a second baby together. Unfortunately he passed away suddenly before they managed to do any of it. My sister did also make sure she'd never be in the situation where he could kick her out again though, he moved into her new flat, and they kept money separate. Even when all was good between them, she needed that security and didn't quite trust him I guess.
Would you or DP consider some kind of couples counselling? Might be good for you both, give you some tools for how to talk to each other (or him to talk to you at least) and hopefully stop anything like this happening again.

Sorry to hear that stacks

I am ill (sorry just need a moan ) I know I'm ill because I've lost half a stone and I'm fed up of it now

willyou sounds sensible to be cautious but glad to hear that things seem a bit better than yesterday. Couple's counselling a good idea- your gp can give you some good local places. It's relate here.
We also find it difficult to find time to do couple stuff and sometimes it does feel as though you are friends and parents and know that's something we need to work on too.
Sorry to hear of all the poorly babies & mummies. We've also got the lurgy. I've got tonsilitis on antibiotics, dd fever and ds fever and a few spots which I suspect may reveal themselves to be chickenpox tomorrow and dd's will then appear!

stacks sorry to hear about your sister. Sounds all very tough. Losing dh is one of my biggest fears.

Stacks i bet thats hard for your poor sister.

Spotty, how are you feeling today?

Ddas oh on it sounds like your house should have a red cross on the front door. Seriously though i hope your ok and that your tonsils get better soon and also that your Dc are ok.

Terrible night here, last night i just want to curl up in a ball and sleep now, but madam has got it on her, she is currently picking out objects in the living room and throwing grapes at them from her highchair. I'm just going to wait till shes finished then clean up.

stacks that's so sad. A stark reminder of how quickly life goes sometimes.
willyou I hope things aren't too weird. Time together doing nice stuff is so hard. We recently started a fortnightly pizza and DVD night - we often don't have the energy or money to go out but at least we're having a shared experience! We also bought tickets for stuff for our Xmas pressies, and sometime over the next couple of months will have a night away together. Totally impressed that you've been managing twice weekly sex - we struggle for twice monthly! It was a ny resolution to have more!
spotty hope you're feeling better. I never lose weight when I'm ill - harumph!

T has started to get majorly upset when told 'no'. Even in a nice voice!