November 2012 - The last few first birthdays then we're on to Christmas

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1906769-November-2012-Isnt-age-one-a-lot-of-fun

Pr I drizzel steaks with olive oil and season with salt and pepper before frying. I usually cheat and cook them in garlic butter too.

Stunt what a relief everything is okay. FC for a smooth start from now on.

I'm quite upset about the whole thing. I feel awful for SIL being in a maternity ward with no baby. And my mum said DB sounded like he was only just holding it together. So different from how they must have imagined it would be. I think it resonates strongly with me because it's my darling big bro and because of the traumatic deliveries I had, although nowhere near as bad. I want to get on a plane and go over to help out but I'd have to take J so I probably wouldn't be that much use to them.

stunt big relief nothing lt or life threatening but yes it is awful to be a long way from family at times like this. i understand.

stunt if you can, go. Believe me, they will appreciate it. Even with J. Sending you hugs, how worrying. And poor poor SIl and your brother. Whereabouts are they?

Stunt it sounds awful. I think often, as relatives looking in on a situation, we are keen to dive in and offer help, but sometimes it is enough for the person in need to know that they are being thought of. DH struggled a lot when F and I got readmitted at 5 days old, although clearly not as bad as for your BIL, but the thing he found hardest was that nobody thought to ask him how he was doing. And if they had thought to ask they would have found that he was breaking his heart silently with worry. What I am trying to say is, don't worry too much about not being able to offer practical help - someone needs to be the emotional crutch for your DB too.

PR nightmare. I once shut the cat in our bedroom for 36 hours whilst we were at a wedding. I was horrified to see him at our window on our return as I knew I had shut the door. I was more horrified to see the torrential puddle of cat piss in the middle of the bed.

So, omeprazole. It is early days buuuut..... she managed 7-4!! Having had hourly wakings for a while now this is a miracle. We shall see if it is duplicated today. She is teething still too, the drool was so bad today that nursery had to change her outfit. A v tired little girl though - I think it is all catching up on her.

I have a canine dilemma peeps. A patient on the ward brought one of her 9 week old puppies in. Chihuahua-yorkie cross. OMG! Like a teeny tiny fluffy bear. I fell in love. She still has 4 of the litter to house. Now, dh wants a dog. I want a dog. We have agreed now probs isn't the right time. He also wants a big dog - think wolf husky or more likely a lab one day. Basically we had said, no dog til the cat is no more, we have a bigger house etc etc. But I am in love with the wee pooch. V tempted to get it and surprise him. What to do?!

Like this!

Hugs Stunt. So glad the prognosis is positive, they will all be together soon despite a rocky start.

BP OMG cuteness overload! I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation but the temptation must be so high!

So O is sleeping with a pillow tonight in the hope that she goes for more than half an hour without waking clutching at straws

Watch this space...

BP puppies are hard work but soooo worth it. I would not be without my boy unless I absolitely had to be now.

28 mins. So another shitty night begins.

I wouldn't pig tbh. V cute but both breeds in the cross are not that reliable with kids. But of course that depends on upbringing as much as breed. Chihuahas have a nasty bite. But... I'm a fan of dogs what have proper woofs :o If they are asking for money I also wouldn't pay for a cross breed non working dog but that's just me

And for my second piece of unwanted advice of the evening:

stunt I would not go to them. You will feel useless if you can't actually do something. I would wait a while and then go, if you can, and make yourself useful stocking up their freezer, giving them a break by looking after LO for an hour or two. Newborns, maybe pig will correct me, recover remarkably quickly from even major things. Be an ear for now and go when you can do something. Shite situation though.

PR they have 4 boys aged between 4 and 9 chaos! so the puppies are well used to kids/being handled, as are the parent dogs (both theirs too), they don't bite and are already house trained. Gah.

And yes, babies/kids fall off their perches quick, but get better even quicker. They are resilient wee souls.

Well done, Lily

Happy birthday, BabyBry

Sending all good wishes to your family Stunt. Glad to hear there is a good prognosis but how hard for your SIL to be separated from the baby amidst all the worry. Maybe send a nice thoughtful package of things that might be needed. If they don't have a sling you could suggest that too so they can hold him close and have lots of skin to skin from now on.

BP I wouldn't be without Betsy but I'm home most days - given your hours will there be anyone home for a pup? They need a lot of time when young. Apologies for parade pissing. Awesome news on the omeprazole.

Stunt my sister flew to help us postnatally with her 12 month adjusted DD it was awesome and I appreciated her help so so much. Also it was nice to 'see' what mischief J would be up to in a year's time . Was it the bowel on the outside of the torso thingy? (medical term there eh?). Poor SIL hopefully they'll be reunited soon and (if she wants to BF) that the MW have got her pumping xx

Sorry stunt when I said a while I meant once they are home ie when you can be a help.

pig good arguement re the kids but I would check with dh first. Puppies can be bad surprises. Wouldn't be without my dog now and the girls love him. If you have the time and dh's approval go for it. If you can cope with the yapping :o

Agree with PR go as soon as they're home. BP ok pup might be cool with kids (or might be being tormented and turn snappy) but that's not a good mix of breeds to live with a cat. Think snappy and bred to break the necks of small creatures. Seriously cute though!

Evening lovely wimmins and man.

Had a virus so been off work for two days! Not sure I feel 100% yet but my days under duvet are over so will be back to the coal face tomorrow.

There has been so much going on over the last few days I am not sure where to start as I am always fearful of missing someone out.

Quick to the ever sleep deprived flouncing.

You sound very on top of DD's needs bry. She is a very lucky wee girl to have you so informed and involved.

Congratulations on passing your exam lily. You are very impressive managing your academic workload with wee O. I would think that if you have got into yur stride with it then adding a course will probably not feel like too much more. If you want a job done then ask the busiest person!

I am pleased that you have news stunt and I don't envy your dilemma at all. You have been given some excellent advice so I suppose you have to go with what you know about your family. Good intentions will rarely go wrong.

Hmm. Doggies. Doggies doggies doggies.

Ok. As a preferrer of kitties and probably unlikely to ever own a dog my likely biased advice is this. . . Get a dog but do it in a planned and well-considered way. Research the breed and go with that. That might well mean that you get the cute powder puff of awesome but it also might not. I would also look further than this particular batch for evidence of child friendliness. If you do get said doggy then I expect daily pics!

I have never cooked steak. Weirdly as a proper carnivore I never fancy steak. I bought it once for DH but he cooked it. . .

H fell down the stairs. Not the top. Just a few steps. And 5min later he is trying to get up them again.

Need to look at stair gates. Ones we have seen before wouldn't fit out stairs as bottom step has nowhere to attach it to. But guess higher up would be better then nothing.

GT I saw a good stair gate the other day which sort of unrolls across, like a roller blind turned on its side, and more robust, which can fit across funny spaces. Shall try to link later.

GT don't worry my sister has a staircase that curves at the foot so you can't fit a stair gate on the last three steps - her two kids and J have all used the bottom few steps as practice slopes for their mountaineering exploits - all have come a cropper at some stage and banged their noggins but its much less serious than if they'd fallen down the full flight. And they look v smug at having some stairs to conquer

hello all long time no post (or even lurking sorry!) exhausted by v active Labrador puppy-esque son and life in general

hope you're all well and enjoying your lovely one year olds!!

sentimental post; this time last year was my due date and you were all.keeping me going through a horrendous vomiting bug which I blame for the very late arrival of lo! we were the last to pop on 10th Dec

I especially remember Detective's determination to avoid induction and pop O out! (involved a lot of swearing if I remember rightly!)

love to you all xxxxx

Hi clarella don't be a stranger x

Wooooooo hiyaaaaaa Clarella!!!!! fab to see you Mrs! Crumbs 10th of December what a spread in dates we had. We had babies from end August on didn't we?

Hi clarella nice to see you.

stunt glad you have some news. You know best what to do for your bro.

BPLP cant really add anything to pet chat. Due to allergies and working FT x2, I imagine we're going to be the mean parents who don't allow a pet.

lily fab news on passing. or for you!

< waves to everyone else and hands out as needed. >

I have recovered from my bug and had the day from hell to compensate for a day in bed on Monday. Lots of politics and a very demanding new job where someone wants me to pull a miracle out of my arse at warp speed but cant give me the most basic, fundamental information so I can do what they want me to do. Left the house before 7am and DC were long abed before I got home. Grrrrr.

Oh, and S is coughing STILL. So despite my lack of time with him today, I expect to see a lot of him overnight . So glad we spend £££ on a decent cot and mattress! DD was and is just the same. Sometimes I think I should just empty the furniture out of one room, get a wall to wall mattress, and all sleep higgledy-piggeldy on the floor. Whoever gets there first gets the best spot.

Wishing good nights of sleep to you all!

I don't think it was anything as dramatic as bowel outside the body YW, I don't know all the details but I infer some kind of obstruction. My DH is away in Japan this week and China next week so it will be a couple of weeks at the earliest before I can head over. My DBIL lives near enough that I might be able to stay with him and get the train over to DB's house so I won't have to impose on them.