November 2012 - The last few first birthdays then we're on to Christmas

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1906769-November-2012-Isnt-age-one-a-lot-of-fun

Purple the woolly hugs stuff looks really nice
Yes, I use cloth diapers. Mine are all the chinese pocket diapers from Alvababy. I love using cloth!

Nighty night to you all.

BP yes, the "unaffected" half of the partnership definitely gets neglected - I'm only just coming to terms with the fact that my needs mean jack shit next to those of R and dp. Sorry, bit of a selfish turn to the conversation but hopefully reinforces your point?

Erm... I really wouldn't do pets as surprise presents unless you're totally sure you're prepared to take on the commitment. I have an 8yo cat and she wouldn't take kindly to a new animal, i was gearing myself up to try and rehome her if R bothered her, luckily she's really tolerant - far more than i expect her to be!

Lydie we had nb sized Alva which were fab but R spent so long between sizes on the btp ones i gave up sold them for a profit and moved to velcro (got a Dudeybaba, a Miosolo, and a tonne of Easyfits and Kushies) recently with teething I've moved him to Disana organic cotton fitteds with wool longies for daytime - we use bamboo fitteds (got a couple of different types) with wool longies over night - especially as a lovely friend knitted him some custom ones :o between that and the slings I'm getting back to my teenage hippy years!

Speaking of which, i was in my Docs again today, I've had them since i was 13! Forest walks need flat waterproof footwear, my wellies leak and my normal knee high boots are a bit smart for dodging horse, donkey, pig and cow poo

Wwyd: i took up kickboxing to lose weight. I love it but i keep getting paired with a really annoying woman who is complete shit - needs every move explained every time we do it even after multiple repetitions, and natters away instead of concentrating. I've repeatedly asked not to be paired with her but i got lumbered again tonight. It completely wrecks any enjoyment i get, and I'm too busy telling her where to hold pads to actually get working properly. I have birthday money i could spend to continue (£25 a month) but I'm not sure i can face her again, I'm getting nothing from the class but frustration. Do i a) persevere (which I've been doing for 2 months) b) give up and go swimming (which isn't as much fun, i like all the other people) or c) skip December and hope she's left by January?

Or d) take up a non paired but group activity like yoga or the dreaded zumba?

Or aqua aerobics?

I like the high intensity, i like the sport, i like the instructor, i like the other people and it's at the right time on the right night (youth work definitely Thursday and possibly Monday and Wednesday). I like kickboxing. I dislike the stupid woman. Actually she's a nice woman, she just rabbits on and can't remember a simple set of moves like cross hook cross round kick round kick, let alone the more complex stuff, after several months of classes 3 demonstrations and 10 minutes practicing

Pidj could you see the instructor after class and point blank refuse to be partnered with her on pain of leaving the class and the instructor thus losing money? It might make the instructor take it seriously? I'd be cross too. Or failing that just kick her in the mouth next time she's got the pad in the wrong place that'll learn her (joke)

J I'd up screaming. I feel useless as I cannot hold him or help take the pressure of DH. This is harder than I thought.

I'm being an absolutely useless quiche member as the mix of painkillers, pain and not brilliant sleep Is meaning I don't have time to comment properly on much here. Too many words etc to rememeber what I've read. Sorry.

Hello Flouncy. J woke when I went up to bed at around 9 and he is still fucking awake. At least he has finally stopped screaming. His neck is bright red and he has been sick so I am guessing he has eaten something he shouldn't. His breath stinks too.

I have not caught up btw.

I have just had a horrible thought. J had lunch and dinner at nursery. I provide both meals, but a strange pot came home with him, instead of the pot I sent. I bet they gave him someone else's meal. I bet it contained dairy.

He has just fallen asleep. I amaze myself sometimes. How the fuck am I managing this and two other kids and full time work? I am awesome! And a tad delirious clearly.

Flouncy give yourself chance to heal lovely. It must be so frustrating but getting over the op' and healing well is the best thing you can do for your lot. Take care hon xx

VQ I would be absolutely raging! At Jonas' nursery his food is labeled by his key worker when I bring it in every morning - he isn't allowed any nursery food (it's just easier that way) and all staff members who come into contact with him know he has ishoos with dairy and needs to be careful with soy. Give them hell tiger! I hope he recovers quickly.

We seem to be alternating one good night with one bad night with these molars. He's up for the second time since I've been to bed yawn.....

Oh flounce that is rotten. Big hugs. Hope he gets better soon.

Vq - that is awful too. I hope you are wrong about the wrong lunch. I hate the worry of someone giving dairy by mistake.

Dd is burning up so I had to inflict the double assault of taking her temperature and calpol, both of which upset her horribly. Pr - what is that wave near head thermometer you have? I've searched and can find nothing like it.

Ps zamboni - that mattress idea made me laugh. I feel like that too sometimes (except they would wake each other up and start playing).

And Vq - you are very very awesome. In fact there is a lot of awesomeness in this quiche. Perhaps we should all wear our pants on the outside for a day... (erm - superhero reference for the confused).

Night all (again).

Can I wear a mask instead? No one wants to see my pants.

Fair play luis. A mask might be better

O was awake till 1. She wanted to play, I wanted to sleep. She was talking to me in the dark lying next to me, something about balls and swings. She went to her own bed after draining another bottle. Strange child.

Hugs all around, you are all awesome.

VQ very cross on your & J's behalf if that is indeed the case. Feel v frustrated for you and fmcf that you are having to deal with all these extras on top of the everyday difficulties. You are definitely pantsworthy heroes.

vq that's dreadful. Hope he's ok and you too.

pig I have two dogs. Love them both but they are hard work. I don't think taking one home as a present is the best idea. Better to research properly then get one at a later date. They are hard work. And messy.

pp the thing with new forests straight off the forests is the amount of work needed to get them up a ridden state. And you don't know their personality straight off the hills. I love natives, and new forests are fab, but not what I'm looking for ATM. Though I did say whatever I buy will probably be the last horse for me if ds wants to ride. I'll buy and break for him in the future!

YW I've done so. Several times. Not the kicking, whenever she holds pads she looks all scared and says I'm intimidating her. It's like punching a frightened rabbit. Not really a good attitude for a martial art

might be worth reporting that post though for using dp's real name Flouncy?

Ugh. Cats woke me at 5. Little cat had diarread in the litter tray and vommed all over a car seat which was inside, fortunately one which I no longer use but keep for emergencies. I have finally got up the nerve to get a vet appointment for her. And if the vet won't put her to sleep then he can have her. I can no longer cope with cat vom. It's too cold to put them out overnight now.

The other cat's accident was just that, and my fault for shutting him in. He can stay.

Looks like a lot of bad nights were had. I suggest [redbull]

Girls are at nursery. It's minus 3 outside but a gorgeous day, really beautiful with all the frost. Am sat shivering with all the windows open as febreze is just not strong enough for the smell.

Pmsl at the idea of wearing my baggy granny knickers on the outside of my clothes. I got bollocked at nursery this morning as LO wasn't wearing her coat. It is five steps from the car to nursery door. Her coat is too bulky for the car seat. They can fuck off if they think I am going to stand there getting her into her coat for the sake of five steps. Ten seconds in the cold my way, ages faffing in the cold their way. My response was not particularly pleasant.

Took dd1 to the supermarket yesterday, here's a translation of the conversation at the check out with the checkout bloke, whose hand was in a bandage:

• mummy he's got a sore hand
• yes but I'm sure it's not too sore
• mummy, kiss it better
• i don't think he needs me to kiss it better
• MUMMY KISS IT BETTER
• i'm sure he has his own mummy to kiss it better
• MUMMY KISS IT BETTER

(Him) - it's ok my mummy kissed it better, your mummy doesn't need to kiss it better

She shut up then. It was getting awkward.

Oh dear. DH has just headed off to Brussels for a night in a hotel, networking with all the European bods and an all day meeting with said European bods ( reps form all the European Electricty System Operators) I am fine on my own but has made me miss my job. I used to do that regularly.

I love where I am, but it has been a major adjustment and this is the first time I have been tearful. I am not lonely but I do wish for one friend. I am loving spending all this time with the kids and I make the effort to go out to get fresh air and to groups. But I did just have a major "want my smart dress and my high heels and my glasses back" ( I should still wear my glasses for the I pad but I always forget.)

sophia what are your skills? Could you do something freelancy from home? Just to have a toe in the professional world? I certainly dn't miss business travel. I used my back accident as an excuse not to fly for over a year then got pregnant and refused all travel point blank. Then my boss joined and put a stop to all the important parts of my job so travelling was done by her. Makes her feel important and was a huge relief for me. My main issue with it was having to get up early to go to the airport :o

I loved the early morning airport runs, I had a little routine of huge coffee and pret a manger porridge. I would work o. The way and always read a novel coming home.

I need to work out what my skills are. My job was about making sure that certain operations were in line with what is being developed in Europe and when they develop stuff in my area we can mange it and if we can't what do we need to do. Sort of. In a nutshell. But I need to wean from that what my actual skills were. I think mainly all about bringing people together to establish solutions, representing the company, communicating in different way, motivating people and organisation. In the spring when my childcare break is over I aim to with ask my company if I can do a couple of days a week from home and if not I need to look at some recruitment agencies.

How do I go about finding a decent home working role?