Dec 2011: The one where they sit on potatoes. And turn TWO!

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New fred! Roll up roll up, potty adventures and birthdays galore!

Hope your back is better soon oi. I'm afraid nothing numbs the pain like alcohol.

Glad you're having fun ttc boba, and that I'm not the only mad one!

I had my first pregnancy appointment with GP this morning, relieved that he agrees with my decision to refuse consultant-led care. Booking in with MW tomorrow, he also thinks my dates are out by 10 days so I'm already 8 weeks

I let him 'help' with baking yesterday (god that was messy) and he had so much fun mashing the bananas. 'mash mash mash mash' while he pummeled the poor things to death with a potato masher. Love being able to do stuff like this with him, he's so excited and pleased to be involved in whatever I'm doing (even if it is just loading the washing machine). DH gets cross because DS keeps 'getting in the way' and it really winds me up because if he just involved him in what he was doing, he wouldn't whine and strop about and then tantrum. I've definitely decided that the best tactic for avoiding tantrums is simply to avoid the circumstances/not let it get to that point to begin with.

And can I just say, I had such a proud mummy moment last night, I almost cried. We've been having battles over teeth brushing, and it's been so frustrating because he used to have a go himself then let us finish it. Now he wont let us put it anywhere near his mouth. Last night he wanted to do it himself, and with a little guidance from me he actually managed to properly brush all his teeth himself. And he was so chuffed that he did it.

THEY'RE GROWING UP TOO FAST!

Oi ouch for the back! Glad you got some good drugs though! And that is exactly what I have done RE the policy.

Poor you Oi. Back pain sucks.

I have been long listed for permanent job at excellent university. So I have decided to stop TTC until I see if I get short listed. I've sent off work for them to read. I'm guessing it will take a month to get back at least. I don't really want to stop TTC but the job wd start in September. So I'd be crazy to bugger up whatever (tiny) chance I have. If I don't get shortlisted it will be straight back on it though! And if I managed to get shortlisted for interview, it is being held mid-March so if I DO get an interview but don't get the job, two months won't make much difference in the grand scheme of things. If I got the job it would be a different story but I'd just put it off for 6 months. Ugh so much thinking and planning for something so horribly uncertain!

Ooh mopsy how exciting good luck with the job opportunity I know it's a hard decision to make.

Dh worked out he earned 10k less last year than year before before no bloody wonder we are struggling. Fingers crossed for his interview next week.

Well, it's all go over here. Have a mountain of un-put-away clean washing, but played with DS before school pickup instead of making things tidy. You're right, they grow up fast!

Glad your doc was supportive seven. And hope the back sorts out soon oi, that sounds grim! I can't be doing with codeine myself, had it when I had appendicitis and it just made me feel sick and spaced out. I know it can work really well for some people but I'd much rather have a nice ibuprofen! If you get a chance, tai chi is very good for backs, I keep meaning to get to source a class near us (xiao found one but not looked into it yet)

Right, early night. Hope everyone is coping with the grim weather and dearth of proper sunlight. Roll on Spring!

And Ooh mopsy that sounds v exciting! Good luck and let us know how it goes (and pm where you end up!) ! My look around went ok, now just will wait and see if it translates into work. Somewhere out there is the right job for me...

I remember in hospital after/before (?) BOi arrived they gave me 60mg of codeine and it really spaced me out, very unpleasant, so after that they gave me 30mg, and that seemed to be OK.
THis time the doc has given me 15mg tablets, so so far, so good.
I'm still really uncomfortable. I'm carefully juggling ibuprofen, paracetamol and codeine - noting the times etc. What's also bad is that the pain makes you tense up more - and not just in your back, so then you're just uncomfortable everywhere. gah! Relax, straighten back, focus core, drop shoulders, pelvic floor, head and eyes straight... DROP the shoulders...FOCUS CORE! Too much to remember!
We are a busy lot, aren't we? (I mean, not me, I am broken, but you lot) All these new job opportunities, house moves, renovations, etc. Good luck Aethel and Mopsy.
BOi has his 2 yr check next week. If she doesn't give him a certificate with "genius" written in big letters all over it, she will have one very disgruntled mummy on her hands. PFB? Que?
(Lordy, I must be awful. I am one of THOSE mums. I'm sorry. I mean, he is just amazi....)

Grumble grumble back grumble grumble rain grumble grumble conference calls grumble grumble #100happydays
Day 2 of 100... I need something pleasant to happen!

TMI.

I have food poisoning.

I think I've just lost 10lbs.

Kill. Me.

Ugh. Oh dear.
Still, the silver lining is the potential weight loss.
It doesn't always work though... Sorry to say. I went through the 10 hour flight of hell coming back from India once. Needless to say (tmi) that most of my innards did not make it back to the uk with me.
Did it make any difference to my weight? Not an ounce.
Gutted. Literally.

Ewww oi, now THAT's TMI!

My DC are totally into helping with cooking. As I type we're just finishing off Spag Bol. DD2 is adding spices and learning how to check if the spaghetti is "done".
DS is snarfing the grated cheese and flinging it all over the floor. Sigh.

(Sorry!)

Did I kill Fred?
Sorry. Again.
Terribly bad back rubbishness. I am becoming a complete bore. I can't play with Boi, or pick him up, I am useless, I have lost my sense of humour because all I can think about is the pain. It's bearable, but unbearable, IYSWIM? I always thought I'd make a pretty competent single mum if I had to, but it's times like this you're really glad there's a DH around. (Although my parents are always on hand to help out too, if they were needed.)
Sorry. Boring! Me me me, pain, moan moan moan.
I don't like me at all at the minute. I'm pathetic and pretty useless. Harrumph.

Hi everyone have been AWOL from the thread as I've been busy, but a good busy :)

I'm still being good and keeping up with the gym 3 times a week and I'm really enjoying it. I still have a wobbly tummy but the rest of me has toned up and slimmed down, so I'm treating it as a work in progress!

Still working 3 days a week, and also been doing an online course for work that they have paid for. The course has been really good so far and I've scored 100% in the first three modules - now to keep it up!

DS is struggling with his last tooth, it took an hour and a half to get him to sleep last night (he usually self settles to sleep within around 10 minutes), and he woke up at 4am. I can't wait until the tooth comes through and I can have my happy toddler back!

Oi I hope your back improves soon! Once you're feeling up to it I'd really recommend pilates to strengthen your core which will help avoid any future back problems.

Hop That sounds grim, hope it's just a 24 hour thing!

Hi all. Migraine came back to bite me. Ugh. Last few days have not been fun. Nearly time to think of a new thread name!

How about: December 2011 - if you know the words to the Thomas theme, you're in. ? Because I think we all probably do.

I've avoided it so far. Bloody peppa though...

Got home at 7.15 from a bloody good conference DS been hysterical again at bed time am now sat on his floor waiting for him to sleep, the minute we leave he's wailing poor thing. Could be teething could be he's scared if something ........Gah!! Any suggestions? I don't want to be one of the martyr mums who sit striking their child for hours until they go to sleep!!

Poor oi hope the drugs do work!!

It's my weekend now woo might have a glass of wine to celebrate if I ever get off the floor

Dec 2011....Can We Share It?....No, We Can't!!!!

Fight, DH is still sat upstairs with DS. There's something in the water. Again.

I went home early today after being unable to keep water down. Been ok since but now tentatively eating some soup. Fingers crossed!

Ah there are benefits of him refusing bed til 8.30 and that's him sleeping in until 8.45!!!! Unfortunately the first thing he said this morning was his ear was sore .......keeping an eye on that today

I have had a complete and utter meltdown

DS been horrid today he cried all round the shops even though was just getting stuff for him as usual, screaming and hitting while getting ready for swimming, a joy in the pool and then again screaming crying hitting opening the changing room door and more hitting. He wouldn't get in his pushchair as wanted to walk it took 15 minutes to get him about 50ft to the car. I AM that mother, you know the one, shouting at her kid, dont do that, dont hit etc.

I hate it got home to dh and basically broke down hysterically crying and sobbing I cant cope today I just want to shake him.

How on earth am I supposed to have another baby when I can't cope with the one I've got?? I don't think I even want another just feel I should because isn't that what everyone wants??? Didn't help that a lot of the other mums went off for coffee together while I was wrangling him they obviously judge me too. One of the others mums had a baby last week so she has brought him along to show off and the only other mum in the group who I really talk to mentioned she's having another dc.

I dreading the rest of the day until he goes to bed. Can't bare to take him out again so he will just demand tv for the next 6 hours.

figgy take a deep breath and make yourself a cup of tea. I think we're all that mum sometimes, I know I certainly am. I love them to bits but some days they drive me crazy, especially DD1 who is at times uncontrollable. Could you take him to the park or shove him in the garden with a football to burn off some energy?

Sorry to hear about continuing back pain, returning migraines and food poisoning.

Figgy I stormed out of the living room and slammed the door behind me earlier because DS was over forest and giglling and hitting me rather than sleeping. I am also That Mum. Take a deep breath. It's fucking hard. They know exactly how to push your buttons.

Can I recommend Toddler Calm. I've just downloaded it and it comes highly recommended from various friends.

figster hope he's asleep and you all survived the afternoon. Can I let you in on a secret? You know those mums who always seem calm and never need to shout because their angelic toddlers are always impeccably well behaved? Well it has f**k all to do with parenting. I was one of those mums with DS, I was smug at how well behaved he was when everyone else seemed to be struggling, I thought I must be a really excellent parent. DD1 showed me how wrong I was, it was all DS and nothing to do with my 'excellent' parenting. I've raised her exactly the same as DS, she hits him when she wants what he's playing with, she screams when she's not allowed a biscuit and some days I'm that mother constantly shouting put it back/don't do that and getting frustrated when she thinks it's funny. I'm rambling but just remember it's not your fault and we all only have a certain level of patience!