November 2012 - Babies going trick or treating

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1870430-November-2012-Babies-are-getting-busy-busy-busy

Sorry izzy - cross posted. Sorry you are still feeling so awful :( How long til the op?

And evil how did the flu jab thing make him look bad? In his eyes I mean? Obviously it made him look bad to us because of his treatment of you - is that what he means? If so, are you sure he's not reading this?

BP YANBU. It is your home. He is your DB. Your DH needs to grow up.

Evil, trust your instinct. If you feel at risk just grab Nick and go. Everything else can be replaced. And I think it is worth bunking off work and spending the day looking into things. Also worth having a quiet word with Nursery so they know not to let his dad collect him without prior arrangement with you. Do take care x

It's because I started to cry, in the shop and I asked him to leave. Also he asked if I'd talked to anyone about how silly I was with the jab. I told him no, as if I told him the truth I'm not sure what would happen. I'm keeping my self to my usual routine and not saying or doing anything that might give him an edge. I'm deleting my history and using the private section on my browser. I'm also creating a false history after that.

Evil

You are doing incredibly well Evil x

Happy birthday LittlestPig yanbu, it will be far worse for dsd in the long run to be blindly defended no matter what the opposite POV. It'll turn her into a brat. Accidents happen, he needs to get over it or he'll spend his life up at school making a nuisance of himself with the teachers

Evil go when you're ready, but be aware that you're at your most vulnerable now, as he may well sense that you're different and escalate his behaviour

R is bf to drowsy/sleep depending on whether i judge it right. It's a lovely feeling, all snuggled up knowing i can relax and eat without sharing imminently

Pidj 11 months ago lol, not 12. But shall retain the birthday wishes for 4 weeks from now

F now self settles to sleep but sometimes in the night when she wakes, she needs a cuddle, and I reluctantly oblige bite her arm off. Daytime naps, she falls alseep on one of us, with a bit of rocking, perhaps 50% of the time. We had to crack nighttime falling asleep as she will not fall asleep easily for dh, wee mare, and with my shifts that was tricky...

Oops

I wish I could keep up with the fred more :(

I have read. I wish I was Kyz right now

Lots of :( in the quiche.

Evil P is an utter tool. You are ready for a new chapter in your life, you and N. You seem to be very organised about things. You will be just fine. Please make sure you write down all the things he has done. He is not the 'better' parent. You are N's main carer, his mum, and you are the one able to make rational, sensible decisions about his care. That is clear for anyone to see.

Chasing as I text you, from a fellow firestarter, . It happens to the best of us, right?!

VQ I agree, does not sound like diabetes, but it doesn't sound normal for him to be so ill, for so long.

Regards to weight, I weighed O today for a comparison for you. At 8 months he was 19lb 11, that was his last weigh in. To me he seems pretty heavy, I had thought he would be around 24lb. He was 21lb 7 (9.8kg), and is following in between 50-75th centile. It seems that weight slows right down now, looking at the charts anyway.

Happy birthdays to both LittleJJ and Horseyboy . It's crazy that this year has gone so fast. Just crazy.

IsIzzy's J the next birthday? I find it hard remembering all the birthdays!

Very glad my nights are over. I don't have any this next month - for which I am very grateful for! However, I am back on the early shift tomorrow, which I think should be fecking illegal . No wonder I'm getting headaches and nausea!

That's it for now. I will think of something else 30 seconds after I post. I'm sure.

Ah yes. Of course.

Evening routines here!

We've switched up the bedtime routine. He knows bed means sleep now, so I don't feel I need to be as strict with the routine.

We now do it downstairs, unless I feel he is a bit highly strung, then we do a calm one in dim lights upstairs.

Generally we watch in the night garden together, cuddled up in the couch. He's already in PJ's and sleeping bag. He has his milk. We have cuddles. Then we go upstairs, teeth, quick story which he isn't interested in and in to cot, and off he goes.

I don't know what DP does when I am not here. I think he sticks to the old routine.

He can't cope with a change in routine. He forgets things as it is without changing things. He only had to remember to put the cream on his rash this last week. He failed every single morning and evening he had to do it. GRRR.

F is still on the manic growth bit of the chart - but only because she's 10 months corrected. Can you tell by the frequency of posting that dh and I are sat in a somewhat frosty silence?

kirrin op date is just over two weeks away. I'm terrified.

det I'm not sure if Js birthday is next. Should be memorable tho as it's Halloween!!

I'm still feeling awful. Have just had toast about thirty mins ago...the way my stomach is gurgling I'm not sure if that was a good move :(

Izzy and VQ I really admire the both of you. I would have crumbled a long time ago if I had to cope with what you both cope with daily, what with lack of sleep and poorly babies. I really hope that you both get a break from it all soon x

Oh and YW, I forgot to say how lovely it is that your DH bought you a one year since giving birth pressie

It's Sunday night and as usual I'm totes emosh. Can you tell?!

And why is he asking whether you've talked about it to anyone Evil ? because he knows he wouldn't come out of it too well, that's why! He's worried. Love his choice of words too - how silly you were! Not upset, or worried. Silly. There's some good advice ^^ upthread! and you sounds like you've got it covered. Take care of yourself xx

izzy not toooo long to wait then. Natural to be nervous, but it'll be fine and you'll be feeling much better before you know it.

I'm like det I have read but not sure how much my brain has retained and wish I was kyz and able to do an epic post but instead I'm knackered and need to go to bed. So briefly....

apple so sorry. Hope the wine helped to at least numb the pain.

belated happy birthday wishes to L jj. Love the fb photos. He is such a handsome fella.

horsey sounds horrible poor mite. And on his birthday too. Bless him.

Sorry to read of more illness and woes for vq and izzy.

chasing Glad the first date went well. Here's to more happy ones.

lily I can only imagine how hard it is but keep focused on your end goal. Hope little O gets better very quickly.

evil The things your p says to you astounds me. I'm so glad you are gearing up to get yourself and n out. You are both much better off without him.

Clock change was successful here and boy did I need that extra hour. Got in from the hen party at just gone 2am which made it a much more respectable 1am and I was up bright hazily early for church and despite early misgivings I had a lovely day becoming god mother to my friends 2 georgous girls. One of them is 8 weeks older than DD1 and the other is 3 days younger than E. Lovely friends for life.

Right, must take myself off to bed. It's started to rain here so think the storm is approaching.

sophia Will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope your girls make it to you.

Getting annoyed at how many posts I loose.

From what I remember

Izzy hugs.

Chasing i did share a anecdote from when this happened to me on previous post. But cba. Am I the only one who brakes spaghetti in half before cooking? Easier to eat too.

Evil lots of good advice. Hope you have done RL support.

Pleased to announce we have had no formula for 1 week colic has got better which makes me think ff was causing it. Which makes me as feel like I've lost my back up.
Today I fell asleep on sofa. When it came to feeding A sis gave expressed milk. It wasn't enough and there was only about 2oz in fridge n I just kept thinking I can't get up I can't feed him I'm to tiered. Luckily the 2oz was enough.

But I'm finding it hard to express mostly in terms of time. Any tips? Thinking I should build up a freezer supply?

Eliza I think you retained alot!

I have no bf advice GT as I was shit at it but you are doing so well! Remember how much you were struggling in the early days - you have come so far.

gt if you'd like to express then first thing in the morning after feeding A is your best bet. Even if you don't get a large volume then do the same the next day. Your breasts being stimulated will encourage increased milk production.

There are so many October birthdays. I didn't think there were. Happy birthday minipig and minijupiter and minihorse hope I haven't left anyone out. Didn't we have a list somewhere of birthdays. Might be on the antenatal thread. I think there might have been a link to it on one of the first postnatal threads if I remember correctly. I can't sleep. It's happening more and more frequently. Not good. Gt do you have a manual or electric pump?

Another early morning here. 0350 and S is awake and ready to play. I don't know how to fix this. Bringing him in with me doesn't work. I can't let him shout because DD always wakes and wants to get up too. I spent 45 mins rocking and bouncing him but while it quieted him, he started wailing and bouncing around the second I sat down. Plus he is too heavy to do that for long anyway.

He and DD are the same in that once they are awake, it is v difficult to nigh on impossible to get them back to sleep - just like DH.

I need to fix this but don't know what to do. Adjusting bedtime doesn't appear to change anything. He sleeps for 1.5 - 2.5 hours during the day and is exhausted by 6.30pm bedtime. I'd be happy with an a.m. Waking of anything after 0530. Help quiche!!

Been up since 3.30 with J. DD1 got up at 4.30 feeling sick, and woke J just as I got him to settle. I empathise Madame. How are we meant to work when we have not slept? I was also up with J at 11,12 and 1 but he settled quickly each time. Grr.

Thanks chasing.
Penny I agree. fh alluded to the same other night when pissed after head wetting. I'm going for slowly slowly approach now. Make him think its his idea type thing.

I have an electric medela pump. Think ill start bringing it up at night n do it straight after feed. As ATM I try, but by the time I go down get distracted and mk it back up i pump but then it's close to nxt feed n I feel like I'm empty.

If I move to ff during day can I still bf at night? As bottles at night are so annoying. Lol