November 2012 - Babies going trick or treating

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And poor you izzy. That sounds horrendous

VQ I had spaghetti in a pan, just started cooking and somehow the flames from the job caught the dry spaghetti sticking out the top. I didn't notice until I saw the flames reflected in the window.

Wow Chasing. Glad you are both ok.

Yes please Pass. I would love to see it if it is not too much trouble.

i have nothing more useful to offer

Thanks to a trip to the ILs for DNiece's birthday swimming party, R napped at corrected times and went down nicely at 6 gmt. He woke at 5:15gmt this morning, but 5:30-6 is pretty normal in this house. As he'd slept since 7 the night before I'm definitely not complaining!!

For Christmas i would like underwear that fits and some decent clothes - everything i own is either old and saggy or bf-accessible. I've been hankering for a pair of Converse for years but can't justify the expense and also love books. I have little hope of any of it. My mum's got us a dishwasher and my ILs willgrab something vaguely suitable off a supermarket shelf. Dp might buy me a book :)

What shoe size are you Pidj? I have some pale grey converse which are meant to be a 7 but they are too big for me and rub. They are in excellent condition apart from two tiny holes at the side of the laces. If they are any good to you I would happily post them x

P has come home, and seemed distracted. I tried to make a conversation and he told me some awful things. That if I don't do as he says then he will take nick off me, and he has ALOT more money to do it with.

I'm scared

chasing I have done that before, when I put the pan on too large a ring so the flames went up the side of the pan rather than always hitting the bottom of the pan. Glad you are ok xx

VQ def worth seeing a dr I think. Poor J. And poor you.

GT do you have to keep with tradition? Sorry if stupid question. If you can't find something you like can you compromise on the first name and choose a middle name you love which doesn't start with A and use that?

All quiet here in Devon. Bit if rain, bit cold, bit of wind. Garden tidy though, and chocolate stocked up.

evil he is trying to intimidate you. Worth starting a thread in Relationships or Legal for the knowledgeable folk to help out? Did you sort a free half hour? If not, want me to help find one for you? X

Evil, all the money in the world would not allow your P to take Nick from you. You do need to leave ASAP xx

I don't really have any advice evil but just wanted to let you know that I admire you for having put plans into place! the sooner you can act on them the better. Sending big hugs xx

Sounds really scary chasing. Hope you have calmed down a bit now.

evil I hope that this just further reinforces how right you are. He does not sound like a good person at all. You must be very scared though.

Blister pics online for perusal! Worth noting that I think it looks alright actually but my parents were really shocked by it.

Evil the evidence of his unsuitability to be a ft parent is plain, and easily proven in court. Can you keep a diary of his behaviour (the bath thing, the pouches, these weird threats etc) both to remind yourself in the inevitable moments of regret and also as evidence? Make sure your passport, birth certificates, bank details and insurance documents plus any sentimental objects are safe preferably at a friend or family member's house.

Thank you, Madam, but the point is that i want to go to a shop and buy myself Frivolous New Shoes iyswim. I also need sports gear for kickboxing - my mum was telling me it's cheap in Sainsburys atm but, actually, i want to go to a sports shop and buy the correct, comfortable, specialist clothing. I've spent my entire adult life scrimping, I'm completely fucking sick of it sorry, rant PS we went past the A303 turning off the M3 today and Salisbury is a lovely place to visit if you fancy a meet next time you're passing

evil is there any way he could be reading what you write online?

Evening all.

Evil - I think he deserves twat of the week century award. I hope you can find the strength to pull of your plan, a la chasing. It sounds as though he has been stifling you and N for far too long.

Izzy - get better soon my lovely.

Chasing so glad you are both ok - that must have been horrid. I too have singed the ends of spaghetti before now, easily done. Well done you for keeping your head and knowing what to do, and saving the panicking for afterwards.

We got Fs feet measured today. She is the only baby at nursery not to wear shoes, which I don't mind at all, but she does need something for her toes when they go outside (in all weathers) - seems daft to wrap her up in coat/hat etc but just have thin cotton socks or tights on her feet. Anyway. She Hated with a capital H, shoes. Unimpressed. The lady in the shop was v nice, but said there was no point at the mo as she won't let us put them on so can't guarantee a good fit etc. Have settled for some moccasin sock type things, and some deep purple pram shoe boot things.

Oh and chasing - 11 months ago, F was 4 hours old

I don't understand where the past 11 months has gone?!

Horsey big get well hugs to E.

Also big get wells to Valium prince and izzy.

Evil I have no advice but lots of support for what is right for you.

Chasing glad you are all ok.

I bloody hope this sore throat is not the tonsillitis back again :(

Chasing I've done that with spaghetti before. It's surprisingly flammable. Not as spectacular as my hot oil pan inferno when I was a student living in a flat over the historic Magdalen college cricket pavilion and nearly torched said pavilion by running the flaming pan out to the balcony rather than just using a fire blanket . I'm surprised I passed my degree.

Evil sod money, the guy just seems to be spouting old wives tale nonsense and calling it parenting. He doesn't know what he's doing and doesn't sound the sharpest tool in the box - Nick won't go to him. But as PR says keep a record. Keep him away from your MN, email and FB accounts and get out. Oh and delete any internet browser history that might hint that you're planning to leave.

I'm feeding Jonas down for the night. His room is up in the eaves and the storm sounds gorgeous from in here, beating against the velux windows. I can smell the roast pork DH is cooking for tea (mmmm crackling!) and am ready for a glass of . My invoicing has been done for the month, I've had a choc bar with no horrific reaction - so all is right with the world at Chez Wellies .

YW I love hearing about your life. It sounds idyllic

Quiche advice needed please.

At my parents the other week, dsd was elbowing my db in the head. He asked her to stop, she didn't so he pushed her off his lap (they were on the sofa). She landed on her bottom on the floor, but unfortunately lost her balance and toppled over, and hit her head. She was a bit upset, but no injury/lasting damage. My db felt awful so got up and left. DH saw none of this, but presumed/imagined something much much worse than the reality. Me and dh had a huge argument about it, because I said that, at 6, dsd should know to stop if someone asks her, but yes, my db shouldn't have pushed her off. I thought it should all be forgotten about, db had said sorry before he left, dsd was fine. DH and I had this huge row, about how I wouldn't take his side (in his mind, db had maliciously shoved I-can-do-no-wrong dsd into the wall).

Anyway. DB phoned tonight to apologise. DH said afterwards "he's not welcome in this house" and is completely unable to forgive/forget/behave like an adult - and has made me seriously . And apparently I have now ruined today because I won't take dhs side .

I could honestly slap him tonight with something harder than the quiche fish

Oh. So the advice is, AIBU or is he?

Hi all, I don't think he is reading my Mn stuff or face book, it was all about the flu jab and making him look bad. "I should be ashamed of my self, for making him look bad".
I wish, i wish I could go tonight but I couldn't get my stuff out, and I have work tomorrow, Let alone sorting out nick.

There is a place for rent that I like, ill phone on Monday.

Still feeling horrendous. My backache and prolapse is feeling so painful. Haven't been sick since this morning but also haven't had anything except sips of water!

Want to post more but can't face it. Sorry.

Chasing idyllic? torching listed buildings?

Seriously putting the bear to bed with bf and cuddles is one of my favourite times of the day. He's a good sleeper and can self settle in the night so I love cuddling him to sleep. I'm sure my MIL would see it as a rod for my own back but meh it takes 20 minutes and is a cosy happy time for all involved.

BP YANBU.

I cuddle Oscar to sleep too. He can self settle in the night and sleeps for 12 hours so I'm in no hurry to change things it's the only cuddles I get nowadays anyway.

Happy birthday E and to minijupiter for yesterday.

What a bad birthday though horsey :( Hope he's all better soon. And O too lily

evil we are all here for you. It sounds like you are doing the right thing. I would getting that free half hour of legal advice ASAP so you know where you stand and what you need to do.

chasing You did well!

Congrats on the chocolate bar YW

Girls are asleep, I have a takeaway waiting for me downstairs, and my lunch and clothes for work tomorrow are ready so I can spend the evening on the sofa - yay! There are, of course, a million things I could/should be doing but they'll still be there tomorrow.